Your the one who did not want a baby shower, what you expect. You started it by not wanting a baby shower.
That is horrible! Post your registry link please. Also, get I touch with your local welfare office and they can offer assistance until things pick up for your husband. Check the state website for goid Stamps and absolutely get on WIC
So sorry this happened. Not ok that they said they would come and did not. That was rude, unkind and uncalled for.
I think you need a new set of friends and family members
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Those guest are rude, I would tell them to keep their gifts and stay home. They are only thinking of themselves
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Do a FB live shower and open any gifts sent via the live. I had a friend do this and it was successful!!! It was her 3rd baby
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I study the virus professionally. Don’t have any in-person shower right now. Congrats on that baby!
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Wow that’s so wrong that’s supposed to be your family I can’t believe they’d do that to you I’m so sorry hunny send me your registry I’d be happy to get you a gift for your baby I’m a grandma and I can’t wait to have more babies to buy sweet things for 
. Good luck 
for a safe delivery for both of you
You have rude relatives and friends just as well off without them. Remember that when they want to see baby. Good luck enjoy your baby
My friend did this last year when she was pregnant she did well wish you luck
Next time do what works for you…
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I agree with everyone here. You and your husband take care. People are weird. Just do your thing and take care of your immediate family.
Im so sorry for you. Rude family and friends
Well now u know!! Ppl suck! U do what u feel is right for u and ur baby! No one else needs a say so what so ever
G’day I am from Australia and I would love to send you something with a Koala 
on it to make you feel better.
Please pm me your address.
Very sad, I think you shy have stuck to your guns and used the money for what you need.
No. People refuse to understand the gravity of this pandemic, and they are self centered.
That’s terrible. I can’t believe people could be so insensitive.
The people in your life are horrid…I’m sorry you had to go through that
Hope you don’t call these people friends, forget the shower it’s not worth it,
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I am so so sorry that happened to you. That was so cruel. Cut them types of people out of your life.
This is so wrong of your friends and relatives!!
I feel we are not getting all the story.
FB live shower…and do a Amazon list, and everyone can send directly to your house and do a live opening.
I’d be furious 
your priority is you and your child they are awful selfish people.
You could of had a drive by shower
Please add the registry to this post. You a mom and these internet aunties got you
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That’s truly awful. You have every right to be upset. I’m so sorry.
Time to distance yourself from these people.
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Why not be nice? Give folks a chance. Maybe once the baby is born you’ll get what you need. At the end of the day, blasting it on fb is a hard no!
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No especially since you were not comfortable having one and you shouldnt have because anyone who says something like that wasnt going to get you anything anyways. Absolutely okay to be upset with those that had something negative to say and anyone who rsvp’d and especially the ones that made special requests. Next time stick to your guns.
Wow. I feel there could have been a zoom meeting or party in place of in person. But what they did by not showing up is downright rude. You can still send birth announcements when your son arrives but it seems you got a harsh lesson in their integrity levels. So sorry they were jerks.
Id be mad…they pressured you to have it
Then asked for special stuff etc then didnt show…plus its custom to have someone else throw it for you.
Wow what a bunch of bullies. I had a sister in law when my son graduated from high school money was tight, I couldn’t afford senior pictures which I regret. She said if she didn’t get an announcement she wasn’t going to give him anything. My son said his friends get tons of money I got nothing, I don’t get it. I apologized but it didn’t fix anything. To this day I have a grudge so when they send me things like that for there kids I don’t respond. To hell with them, baby comes don’t let them see the baby. Life goes on without them.
Remove your wish list. There are plenty of baby consignment stores that sell a lot of new to very gently used baby items at inexpensive prices! I would not take one diaper from these rude people! Do it yourself. Newborn babies really only need a handful of things for the first several months. Babies live in sleepers and onesies for the first 3-4 months. You can make it work.
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At this point you’re out the money. It isn’t going to matter.
Share your registry here,im sure alot of mommas on here would help you,including me,thats very disrespectful,ive sent gifts to people i casually know if im invited and cant make it
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You were right not to want a party. Sending stuff via Amazon is free. They were all wrong.
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Those people are not your friends and you don’t need relatives like that.
No. It was very rude.
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Dump the whole lot of these horrible people. Find a few good friends to share your joy
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Rude, ignorant and disrespectful inconsiderate beings. They know your circumstances and decided to screw you. Please live your life with your husband and child. Those other beings should not get your time, money or energy. Yes, beings - humans have hearts.
I agree with most of these posts. You should NOT have to throw your own shower…and a$$hats requesting you serve special crap for their kids or them…you need to cross them off your list permanently…if it had been me, I would have signed up on registries, then sent a card saying that due to covid there would not be an in person baby shower, but if you would like to send a gift, the links are included. Thank you for your understanding and consideration.
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Wow so sorry to hear what happened. For me it makes me wonder what these people that supposedly care for you and your baby would do that especially grandparents. I believe you have every right to be upset. A baby shower is not for the guests to have refreshments they want, its to show you care about the new arrival to the family and want to celebrate with you. People are crazy these days.
Honey, they’re crazy! Never heard of ppl demanding items for a baby shower!!
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Wow. People are ignorant. Sorry this happened to you. Stay safe
Gee I agree don’t let them see the baby or even be in your life make new friends you don’t need these stupid people
It’s a blessing no one came. Your intuition is correct and you need to stay safe and healthy above all right now. People who love you will help you. Forgive those who hurt you and release your anger it is not serving you. My heart hurts for you. At this miraculous time you should be showered with love and kindness. Please DM me your registry link. I’d like to send you something.
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It could of been virtual, nice and easy
Wow so sorry that’s messed up
I would be devastated
Nope not wrong at all! You changed it for their UNGRATEFUL ASSES!!
No one sticks to their word anymore…it’s quite pathetic
Dearly Presents PEOPLE CAN THROW ANY KIND OF PARTY THEY WANT TO! It’s just a shame that noone else did it. Its NO different than a wedding! People register for that! What’s the difference? NONE!! I’m sorry that happened to you! I would LOVE to send you a gift for your baby!!! PLEASE PM ME WITH YOUR ADDRESS! EVERY NEW MAMA & BABY DESERVE TO BE CELEBRATED!! & NOT CRITICIZED!
I just ordered clothes from carters on clearance got alot for 70 bucks. You moved from a covid texas to a covid Florida. Good luck
Rude people. Obviously they don’t care about you or your baby. I’d block the jerks and never speak to them again. We did an online shower just like you are thinking to do. Do not put yourself or your baby at risk for idiots.
How rude not even family how extremely rude
You need new friends!
Pls post you registry here. I would love to send your baby a gift 

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Shame on your family.
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Share it here I’m sure some of us can help
Move again new friends.
Could it have been a total misunderstanding?
Wow. I think it was rude for anyone to insist you even have a get together and let’s talk about the rude a$$ people that said no shower no gift. 
. Those kind of people you don’t need in your life. YOU are trying to keep yourself and your baby safe and that is your number one priority. 
for both of you.
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I’ve seen a few zoom meeting baby showers . & it worked out pretty well. Everyone that got a gift, received a post card that had the babies pic w/ a tank you note from the family .
Let admins know the link to you registry! I’ll happily get you something 
IDK if she moved from Texas to Florida that’s a long way to travel for a baby shower.
The point of a baby shower is to help u prepare for baby. U have a lot of selfish people in ur life if all they cared about was the party. I don’t think it’s ur fault but it’s a lesson for sure. Next time do what u want.
So you don’t throw a party because you want to be safe due to covid… but then the thought of no gifts clouds your judgement and you have a party… to get your gifts… and forget the safety of your family/ baby??? Makes no sense to me AT ALL
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Maybe you dodged a bullet with the Covid spike. Sometimes we should follow our first thoughts and don’t let others away us. It was a red flag that they were not thinking of your best interests when knowing you had just incurred the expense of moving, they suggested you be the host and others requested special menu items? Do they have the mistaken idea you are more wealthy than you actually are ?
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I wish you would’ve post your registry as well. Some people here may be able to help.
Baby showers and birthdays is nothing more then a get us a present! Keep your money and but your little angel gifts from you and you.
You only made one mistake, basing decisions on someone else’s action. Also dnt expect things from pple they will disappoint you and end up saying you have entitlement issues. And did you by any chance tell them you need the money or gifts? They could have felt like you are shifting responsibility of ur baby to them. All in all, use it as a lesson. You will make it and better thn expected. God’s got this for you. Its a season and it shall pass. Love and light…
See this is why I haven’t done anything like this for all 3 of my pregnancies !! My third was born during the first lockdown (im in uk) and nobody met her until she was 6 months old, we got a gift of great grandparents and that was it !! I’m past the point of throwing parties ect because nobody ever shows. Covid or not
WOW. . . I’d be pissed.
Nope you’re not wrong! The end!
I would send them a wtf card that’s so rude
Register at target and Amazon. You get free baby boxes! I didn’t have a 3rd or 4th shower so whenever I ordered baby stuff I ordered of my own registry. Lol and you get coupons. If you do Amazon let us know, I’ll order you a shower gift. 
Ps. All those ppl you invited to the shower and made demands of you and didn’t show, are Shitty ass ppl!
Looks like alot of people won’t get to be around the baby. No support. I’m so sorry
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Even though there is no way i could send out a registry and ask anybody for anything ( even when i had a baby shower i didn’t expect anything ) because it’s not anybody else’s responsibility to make sure my child has what they need…it’s so obvious some people here have never lived paycheck to paycheck and it dont matter if you have one month or nine to prepare for something if you are living that way ALL you money is going to bills there is no room for extra so some of these comments are BS 
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Put a little story or tiktok and hopefully it turns up on people fyp and I’m sure there’s so so many people willing to help you out a bit 
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3 kids here and never had a baby shower. I had a few ppl claim theyd throw me one and never did. I didnt hold my breath for it. Just got the stuff myself. I’m cool with hand me downs. My niece handed down all of her sons furniture b4 I had my first (pack n play, crib, bouncer, rocker,etc)
This makes me mad for you. I would have sent them all one hell of a nasty text. And I would have already stopped talking to them.
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Personally when someone posts a registry on Facebook I see it as sense of entitlement. “I’m pregnant, so here’s the list of stuff to buy from.” I understand the need for baby & kids stuff more than anything. But if you really need help you shouldn’t be concerned about specific items. I feel a post for any gently used baby items would’ve gotten a better response. Some may have even offered to buy something then you could give them your registry or list of needed items. Your family demanding you have a party is really no different than your demand for specific new items. They just countered your request. Ask for requesting specific food & such that’s crazy. I would’ve said “I have the menu figured out within my budget. You’re welcome to bring a dish to share.” Or “I’ve budgeted for just cake.” Not showing up after insisting on your party being done their way is awful behavior. I would be angry too.
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Id me livid. Would neve talk to the again
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I’d be pissed when they were requesting a shower and then dont show up! Wow is all I can say! SMH
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No, you’re not wrong for being upset because people kept bugging you about a baby shower and requesting obscene amounts of food, and they don’t even show up when they said they would. I would’ve cut them off from my life because they weren’t there when I needed them
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The last three post of people having trouble with a “boyfriend”, having a child out of marriage, and having trouble with responsibility being shared!
All have a core problem!!
Putting Christ first, commitment to marriage,have children before you marry!
Put your life in order! Jesus forgives and forgets our human mistakes! If we ask Him to:raised_hands:
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why are you giving yourself a baby shower??? Friends and family are supposed to do that! But, I wouldn’t want people around me right now again, with covid running rampant.
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5 kids no shower can’t rely on nobody periodt
You should’ve went with your original plan and not had one that is completely your choise and as for people saying they’re not getting anything cause theres not a party is jus rediculous it’s for the baby not them ,I’d be absolutely upset you’re not in the wrong at all
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Honestly you are not in the wrong ,you have a right to be upset
You used that money for there liking and no one showed ,I’ve had this happened ! And it truly sucks
You deserve better
If it was me I wouldn’t let anyone around the baby when he or she is born ! Or in the near future
But please put your registery on here !
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You’re not in the wrong at all hun I’d be pissed off and cut that string with them if they ask can I see the baby nope where were you when I needed you no where so no until COVID dies down definitely not come see the baby. You choose what you want Your mom !!
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Fuck all of them people! I’d be pissed! I’m pissed now and it didn’t even happen to me
My cousin did a drop off baby shower thing. If people aren’t willing to respect your wishes then, why are they in your life? Do you have an Amazon wish list you can pm me? Or pm me your address and I can send you stuff.
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I would send them all a text. Definitely don’t host anything for any of these people or help them out until you start getting respect from them. That’s completely unacceptable behavior. It wasn’t really any of their business to tell you you have to have a party or you don’t deserve baby shower gifts. If they didn’t want to get you something unless they were given a huge party then that’s their business just dont buy a gift if that’s how they feel but they should have simply kept their mouths shut about what you should and shouldn’t do and what you do and do not deserve and respected you. Especially to make personal requests and rsvp and then not show. I wouldn’t feel any shame in telling them off for their uncalled for behavior and really just ignoring them for a while. Don’t host holidays or parties for them. No invites to see the baby. Ignore them. People are so rude and I am so mad for you to have to deal with that
You should be receving a few items tomorrow. The other is early September. Hope you receive it before that baby arrives. 
I’d be extremely upset as well. It’s one thing to not come but to RSVP and go as far as making special food requests and then not show, that’s a whole new level of low.
You have a right to be very upset and cut those people out of your life until they apologise That was A very low act knowing your finances at the time and to let you waste that money Yes you have every right to be upset with them and true friends don’t do that to each other
We had a baby shower for my cousin by her asking for certain things and everyone was asked to send(or drop off at their home) … they did a live video of her opening gifts etc because it was when covid was bad last year