Family and business do not mix well . If you are keeping child more than 10 hours ( standard daycare time ) anything over that 10 hours costs more . Write up a contract and stuck to it . Have him prepay for scheduled time and then if keep past the 10 hours has to pay difference on each day . And yes you are taking way too little … charge 25-30$ per 10 hour day . Keep in mind … you are not supposed to watch more than 6 kids in your home at a time , including yours .
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What is he doing til 9pm?
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He is fully taking advantage of you and trying to manipulate you using the “family” excuse.
I would tell him that he has two options.
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He finds other child care, period.
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He starts paying you, maybe a discounted rate since he is family. Tell him $10 per day and that covers his work time. If he works 7-3, you have the child 6:30-3:30. Period. He also provides what his child needs when in your care.
If you were an actual licensed child care provider, there are certain hours that you’re open, parents provide diapers, wipes, medication etc for their own child and they do NOT bring a sick child. What if he has something contagious and not only gets your kids sick, but the other kids you watch?
This situation is not a family situation. This is a business arrangement. If he calls up on Friday and says “hey, can he spend the night tomorrow night, I wanted to go out with some friends” then that’s you as an aunt. Him leaving his kid with you for 15 hours a day, 5 days a week is full blown taking advantage.
I’m gonna assume that he’s not working from 6:30am-9:00pm every day, so if he isn’t, then he should be picking his child up when he gets off and HE should be the parent. If he is working that many hours, he sure as shit can afford to pay you.
Sounds to me like this is your kid and he’s the weekend warrior dad.
Cut him off and stop letting him take advantage of you!
Your plate is full. He doesn’t get it
He is definitely taking advantage of you! Simply say NO! If he can’t take a hint, just don’t answer the door! But you already have your hands full with your own kids, you don’t have time to be a mom to his too!!
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I wouldn’t charge my brother to babysit especially if it’s not inconvenient to me. I would set boundaries like help pay for food, keep him home when sick, have a backup plan for when I can’t, and don’t just expect it because I am your sister. I have paid aunts to babysit. I believe you have to do what’s best for you and set your boundaries
You’re not in the wrong at all! He’s definitely taking advantage of you. Just because a child is your blood doesn’t mean you should have to watch him, especially for free! AND with all of your own kids too… nah, I’d tell him where to get off! Your sibling’s kids are NOT your responsibility! Ask him how he would feel if you just dropped your kids off at his house and then stayed gone all day? They definitely wouldn’t like that. Stand your ground mama!
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Is the job he is currently doing pay minimum wage? Can he not afford to pay you? AND, where in the world is the mother? Lots of questions…and you need answers to them.
Tell him to respect you and your time by paying you or find another childcare option!
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All of you need HELP in different ways!! May GOD bless you!!
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If it becomes a permanent care, you need to have permanent rules, you’re pretty much raising him, your rules are priority in manners, cost, food & clothing 
He is taking advantage of you love. It is ok to tell others no, even if they are family. You do not need the stress.
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Don’t worry about what your brother thinks about how you feel. Your children come first and that means you need to be healthy and rested mentally and physically in order to properly tend to them. Your plate is full enough as it is…
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Tell him no,he’s using you.
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Nope tell brother you love your nephew but babysitting is your job n expect to get paid for it unless it’s a emergency
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Sounds like your brother needs to grow up!! You are not responsible for his offspring.
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Learn to say NO! You will feel a lot better 
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Unfortunately it’s a sad truth that family is the one who usually takes advantage of you worse than other people in life just because he is your nephew it does not make it your responsibility to do the babysitting for your brother he is the responsible parent for that child and if he doesn’t want to show you the respect you deserve and pay you the little amount that he’s asking whether he gets minimum wage or not than I would stop watching the child especially since he’s causing you undue stress that you don’t need in your life. Just because it’s family and it’s blood it doesn’t mean that you owe him anything especially if he wont do the same thing for you don’t do it for him that’s my motto. It’s really easy to get burnt out giving to people and doing the right thing constantly when it wouldn’t be give back to you at some point you have to stop and do what’s best for you and your children and it sounds like right now it’s best that you no longer watch his son and make him face the harsh reality of life would be without you and maybe then he will finally grow a up and pay you what you deserve and show you some respect
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Stop don’t feel bad just because he’s family he’s taking advantage off you …your gonna burn yourself out
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I have been through this… people (especially family) will take advantage of you. They don’t seem to understand we have our own life, our own families. He is just trying to make you feel bad and manipulate you into things going his way… put your foot down mama, he will get over it eventually.
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I would never expect my brother to babysit my kids unless it’s an emergency and I’m in the hospital. He loves his niece and nephew (5+8) but those are MY kids and I’m not gonna pawn them off on family, unless again it’s a medical emergency for me.
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At that point you’re raising that child if he’s that irresponsible with him. I see how you feel and I would feel the same
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Hey hun, I hope this message finds you in good spirits. I have learned in my 34 years that family will be your biggest let down. If he can’t support your business, why do you have to help him support his child? You are just the Aunt. Not the mother or father. If you didn’t watch him, where would he go? He would have to figure it out right? Like he wants you to figure things out with his kid? Yea, no. Set your boundaries, and let no one cross them, not even family. Have a blessed Day hun😇
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I didn’t expect any of my " family" to babysit my children for free or otherwise.
He is taking advantage of you and the guilt tripping you into taking care of your nephew is not okay.
Stand your ground and tell him no, if he wants to be mad about it he may, but he can find someone else to watch his child. Maybe once he sees what other people charge and how good he has it could help. (Unlikely but there’s a chance)
You, your mental health and your children are important too and he needs to understand that, if he cannot then you need to tell him you can no longer watch his child.
I never expect my family to watch my child for free, I always offer money, or something in exchange.
I hope for the best for you. 
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You can literally say, “No”
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Your brother sounds like a user tbh…his kid his responsibility…tel him a firm no !
Absolutely not. It doesn’t matter if it’s family or not, Don’t let him take advantage of your kindness. You simply tell him that you are NOT going to be watching him for free if at all. He can take him to the daycare and fork out triple the money for one week alone. Let him get a good dose of reality and he’ll be begging to pay you that very little amount. However you need to quit under charging yourself for anyone and everyone. These kids use your electricity, your water, your food etc etc so you need to be able to cover that child with their pay!
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I don’t babysit other people’s kids period. I don’t care if it’s family or not I have my hands full with my own plus i work. Some people think that makes me a b**** but oh well. So no don’t feel bad especially because he’s trying to guilt trip you and invalidate your feelings.
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U need to charge him, some family members take advantage of u. U have enough on ur shoulders.
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Girl I would stop doing what you’re doing he is taking advantage of you do not enable his disgusting behavior you have your own life your own stressors and you have to take care of your own kids and life has its ups and downs and he should be more sensitive to what you are going through obviously he’s all about himself I would put a stop to it completely and you just need to focus on you and yours
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Tell him you love your nephew but you need to have help with cost of food etc !!
You need to set boundaries! If it’s overwhelming you then your brother needs to find his own daycare for your nephew. My sitter charges for her daughters children to be watched… tell him to take his “your the auntie” guilt trips somewhere else! If he wants his son to be cared for by you and you want to do it there are rules and you will expect them to be followed (payment expected weekly, pick up by 5pm etc). I pay 185$ a week so let him try to find it cheaper! It’s time for you to stand up for yourself and your kids and say No!
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you bet tell him noway
I don’t pay my brother for watching mine here and there (not very often) but if and when I got back to work and it will become daily for my one daughter I will be paying them, I wouldn’t want to take advantage of them. So to me it depends is it once a month or daily makes a difference for sure, I definitely agree with you a little bit isn’t a lot to ask for for a daily thing, and way cheaper then daycare costs for a toddler. Here it’s 35 to 45 dollars a day atm.
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Please dont feel bad about this. It sounds like you are stretched too thin and the lack of consideration and appreciation from your brother is adding too much stress to your load. When I was younger a similar situation happened to me. Just tell your brother he needs to make time to talk and communicate all these things to him. If he still won’t acknowledge how this is affecting you and pay/accept that you can no longer help, then really, what kind of uncle and brother is he? Honestly though, I hate that he pulled that card on you, its incredibly manipulative. Good luck and dont feel bad!!
Irregardless of whether or not that child is an angel you don’t have to watch other people’s children for FREE! Especially when they take advantage.
You are being taken advantage of big time! You are not obligated to keep anybody kud just because you are it’s aunt. The last time I checked people are responsible fir their own children. The answer is no. Flat out no. If they get mad let them. How about telling them you are going to work and you need them to step up and keep all of your children for free just because they are uncle and aunt and they owe it to you. Let’s see how far you get with that. It’s the same thing.
You have your hands full with your own children. Just bluntly say no. If he says your a bad aunt well then say so be it… Does he take all 4 of your children to give you a break ever??? I doubt he does. It’s a 2 way street.
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Nope he’s taking advantage of you… don’t feel guilty.
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I would charge him , and tell him he’s gonna be disciplined, because your gonna treat him like your own ,
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Stand your ground and say no
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No. You raise yours and let your brother take care of or pay someone else. You have enough on your plate
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Yeah I would tell him no. Tell him to find somebody else to watch his kid. It sounds like you’ve got enough on your plate right now without adding another kid into the mix. Tell him your not going to keep him anymore, lock your doors and when he comes knocking to try to drop the kid off after you’ve told him no, don’t answer the door. Gotta set hard boundaries mama
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I would suggest u read the book like 5 times By dr. Henry Cloud called “Boundaries”. He us Manupulating u n if you dint set up string boundaries his manupulation grow. My siblings used to manipulate me strongly n said i “Had TO BABYSIT THEIR K8DS BECUASE WE ARE FAMIOY AND WR SUPOSE TO HELP.” At the age of 12 i was left with like 10 kids to abysit then full days n they woyld only paid me like $2 for 12 hours . Ince i was in high school i told then i cant babysit anymorr becuase u had join the school band n had to practice , they flip out so strongly on me. Then when i was in college my brother in law was illegaly crossing over the border people n was in jail n they needed thousands of dollars to take him out if jail, so they told me (didnt even ask me) that they wherr going to used my credit cards to paid for a lawyer. I tokd thme since i was studying ti be a homicide detective that i needed ti have no debt, n they back up. it got so bad that as an adult once we discovet ny brother in law molested another litle girl n i whent ti testufy agaunst him for what he had dine ti me when i was litle, ny entire family blame me n it got so bad that nyvhusband b u where about to divirce. after becoming a Christian Gidbled me to just cut iut my family. Please cut it of now before any of your kids end up like me. I was so traykatized that I had ptsd fro some years n in si much mental pain i could not even get out of bed. Manipulations grows and you must sry up a boundary.
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He’s completely taking advantage of you! Sorry, but I would not take care of a 2 year old for that many hours for free. You have your own babies to worry about.
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You’re being taken advantage of absolutely but I feel it’s also wrong to charge ur own brother. Just say no. You have your own children. Whether I had 1 or 7 kids I would never charge my siblings to watch my nieces or nephews. But that’s just me.
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He is taking advantage of you then gaslighting you into feeling guilty. Shame on him. I am sorry he is doing that to you.
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Your brother is taking advantage of you and not taking your feelings into consideration yes you love your nephew but it’s not your job to watch him
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Just because it’s family doesn’t mean you are obligated to babysit their children. Stick to your boundaries if it’s too much for you.
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hes taking advantage of you, and gaslighting you in the process to make you feel bad about saying no.
I would ask him to find other child care as your hands are full.
I watch my neice and nephew for free when I am asked, but if it was nannying, my sister and I would come up with a solution to offset costs of being there regularly,
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He’s NOT your child! Tell your brother unless he’s paying you AND providing his food you can’t watch him anymore!
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Time for tough love…tell brother your terms, and stick to it !
Don’t let him use you, he’s being a jerk !
Where is the mother in this picture? 7am to 9pm is a long time. Is it a financial burden for him or does he just not want to pay because you are his sister? Doesn’t sound fair to you in my opinion.
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tell the self absorbed load of crap you aint doing it any longer.
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Let him babysit your four kids and I bet you he’ll change his tune
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Just say sorry I have my hands full I can’t watch him properly with a 3 month to breastfeed and take care of others things I love my nephew but u need to find another source now in a direct emergency I will do what I can but sorry not daily your brother should realize that don’t let him make u feel guilty good luck 
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My sister n law and I would watch each other’s kids for date night, for free, but when we used each other for babysitting while at work, we paid each other.
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Assistance financially would be help since you watch him so much, that’s taking your time, food is consumed, mental health, clearly possessions. Put a stop to it.
Just because it’s blood does not mean you are obligated. An occasional day here and there I can see otherwise start charging or tell him to look elsewhere.
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If he can’t afford to pay you weekly or monthly then he should give you money when his taxes come in. If he can’t do that then he needs to see how it is out side of your home.
I didn’t want to babysit my niece when she was a baby. Her parents where working over nights and I worked mornings it made things very hard I did not like watching her because she cried a lot. So I get it
Your brother is completely taking advantage and you’re not wrong.
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I use to babysit my brother & sister inlaw 4 kids I refused money but a free dinner
Yeah he’s taking advantage. And why is it that the mother can’t have him for all those hours?? Have u talked to her vs your brother about pay and certain days u can/can’t watch him?
No you are not wrong
Just say No! You don’t owe him anything! Babysitting for an hour sometimes is family, full time is a job that must be paid for!
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Family has nothing to do with it… what is wrong is that family is taking advantage of family here. He obviously knows those lines guilt you. I would say sorry I am trying to make this a legitimate income and I need to save the space for paying clients.
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I agree with every one if his wife not working let her look after her own children
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Stand your ground… say No,
He works from 6am-9pm and can’t pay you? I’d tell him try his luck somewhere else lol
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He’s totally taking advantage of you and trying to manipulate you with guilt trips. It’s not fair to you.
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Nope… you’re not responsible for any childcare unless you want to give your Brother ( I’m assuming he’s a single parent ?) an occasional night out once A MONTH.
i’d say no - because right now u have so much on your plate - when things settle down -than i would babysit but not all the time - u have 4 kids of your own and u r very busy with them as it is! honestly u need time for yourself - it should be u gettine a baby sitter for at least 4- hours so u can get some relax time in -or think about the future things
Uhh if the wife isnt working then she can care for their child. Being a aunt does not mean he or anyone gets to take advantage of you or for free babysitting. I use to baby sit my nephew an i would get 20 a day. Thats been like 10 12 years since then. So you asking for 15 a day in my eyes is cheap as hell. You really shohld charge 20 0r 30. He is in the wrong an u fully have the right to say what u have an feel the way u do. I hate when family trys to use the family card on people. Well were family so why wouldn’t u? Nooooo just because were family doesnt mean u get to use me to your advantage.
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You have every right to tell your brother money or you wont babysit. It is perfectly acceptable to just not babysit your nephew at all. Your kids and life come first.
Tell him to hire a nanny if he’s working those hours !
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He is definitely taking advantage of you, that’s really, really unfair. Don’t wear yourself out, your own children need you. You already have your hands full.
Needs to be paying u ur low fee
Send the child to me , ill babysit for free … i will never get to be a grandma . U got ur hands full momma
Do You. If you wear yourself out even doing miniscule things you miss out in your own life. The hard part is being strong. Your kids don’t understand, your brother doesn’t understand but worn out mothers do.
XXXOOO and best of luck 
I paid my parents for watching my children. Being family doesn’t mean you are a doormat, your time is valued and if others pay for your services, he should too! This isn’t a hobby for you…it’s a means of income! Stand up for yourself!
No you are completely in the right! He’s taking advantage of you put your foot down now or it will only get worse!
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You have too much on your plate. Save your mental sanity; put yourself and those babies first. Everyone else’s problems are NOT yours - family or not. So as “bad” as it may sound, everything & everyone else is irrelevant babe. 
Praying your strength and Happy Mother’s Day mama. 
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He is taking advantage and making you feel bad because you don’t want to cater to him. You need to say NO. Put up some boundaries!!
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As hard as it is to say no, you need to say no. If you were occasionally babysitting a few hours here and there that would be different.
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You have every right to tell him no, he is taking advantage of you and being very inconsiderate of his own family!!
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Girl, you need boundaries! He is 100% taking advantage of you. Tell him no you have enough going on and point out that you are a mother first ask him what kinda mama would you be if you let your baby around sick kids all the time.
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Tell him u need a babysitter since ur a newly single mother, cause ur going back to work and he needs to take care of all 4 of ur kids for free. 
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Omg. He is completely taking advantage of you.
I have 3children. 13yr, 4yr &3yr. And I pay my niece 50$. And it’s not even a whole day ! It’s usually just to give my husband and I a night out (Saturday night) to get a break and breath.
You have to put your foot down. Even if he starts acting immature. Which sounds like he will.
Just say it’s too much for you, so this is your last week. Suggest he post on Facebook babysitting groups to hire 1-2 sitters.
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You are not wrong. I paid my sister to watch my daughter, and she wasn’t much to handle and my hours were 545-2 or 11-5. You have a lot on your plate already.
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Nope. He needs to pay you 100/week or he finds someone else. You need the money and he’s taking advantage of you
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Me and my sister used to take turns watching each others kids. My sister passed away and I’d give anything to do favors for her again. That’s what family is for. That being said, he should definitely be returning the favor.
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If he’s not paying, he needs to offer you something in return like a night out yourself or a gratitude gift.
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That jerk is taking advantage of your good will, tell him he’s just like everyone else and pay up weekly like everyone else or hit the road!!!
You got my attention when I read “constantly breaking things and no discipline”. All the $$ in the world couldn’t get me to watch a kid like that. His parents obviously failed him. No, you are not wrong for not wanting to sit with him. First of all, You have your kids to think of and then risking having bad behavior “rub off” on your kids is a possibility you wouldn’t want to risk. If, by chance, the child has a behavioral issue, I don’t have experience in that field, so this is the only advice/suggestion I have.
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Nope, I wouldn’t watch him if he is destroying your things and unruly. Most definitely wouldn’t do it for free. I paid my sister and my parents. Even paid the older siblings to watch when I was busy doing things.
15 a day and he won’t even pay that? That’s a steal and he is definitely taking advantage of you.
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I don’t think you’re wrong at all. You have your own children to care for. Set boundaries. Give an inch, they’ll take a mile. I’ve had to do thst with a neighbor years ago that would ask me to sit at the last minute and even waking me up at 5:30 in the morning on my day off. So I had to put my foot down.
He needs to pay you for all that time. I know my parents didn’t pay my aunt but it was picking me up from school twice a week
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