Tell him NO & do not feel guilty…if you have 4 of your own NO NO NO
I tell my clients. My house my rules. I will treat your kids like my kids. Your kid breaks something or won’t listen I give them same discipline I would mine . Sorry but I don’t let kids walk over me. If you cannot or will not parent your kid, don’t get made at someone who does v
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Nope. Bye bye. Absolutely not keeping that child.
Pack up all your children and drop them off at your brothers house one Saturday. Let him know what it feels like to have all the little ones at the same time. I think his tune may change after that.
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First of all you are NOT OBLIGATED to keep any children that aren’t yours.
Next, since your brother feels entitled to free babysitting services because y’all are family maybe you should start feeling entitled too. Start taking your kids their uncle so you can get a break. 
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Yeah your brother needs to pay you. I use to watch my siblings kids for free before but I had to put my foot down because food isn’t cheap and neither is personal belongings, especially when there is a lot of mouths to feed and kids within the home already. Tell your brother to pay you or find a day care. You are not obligated to look after other ppls kids, just your own. Never let ppl use you and not appreciate what you do for them. Put your foot down.
How often does he watch your kids ? I mean hes family, hes the uncle right?
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Just because your family doesn’t give you a free pass. If someone else was watching the child they would have to pay period. No your not wrong in my opinion.
Nope hes guilt trippin you and thats not ok
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You’re it obligated to babysit. However I wouldn’t expect my sister to pay me to look after my niece, if she asks me to babysit then she provides everything that I’ll need. You have the choice of setting boundaries. Say you can babysit on set days and strictly between which hours you choose. Tell him that if there’s illnesses then straight up no babysitting to stop your kids from getting it. Also if he asks you to babysit then he needs to provide you with everything, like nappies, a packed lunch and snacks etc x
He is absolutely taking g advantage of you. You do not have to watch anyone’s child if you don’t want to period. He needs to start paying you and if he can’t then you shouldn’t be watching him
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He is not your responsibility you have enough on your plate be firm tell him you are unable to watch him starting next week give him at least 2 days to find a solution and do not watch his kid he will either start paying you or find his own child care
Ask him if he could give you a break with the kiddos since he’s the uncle…. Definitely a situation where you need a break if your feeling overwhelmed. Family or not
You only want $15?
That don’t even cover food…
Your a blessing
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You’re not wrong. Let your brother know you are dealing with a lot and your hands are full. Period!!!
Young one- my Mother was a daycare provider- all my paid for daycare - the only time my mother didn’t ask to be paid was when the parent was in between jobs - but out looking for work , when they had classes, or if they had a legal or medical appointment. Stick to your guns - it’s not that love has anything to do with it - it’s about respect and responsibility on his side. This is the way you make a living ( respect)and it’s his kid ( responsibility)
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You can watch the kids you want to. Daycare accepts or approves the children they take.
I would tell him not to bring his boy unless he pays up front, or he can find someone else!!
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He taking a advantage of you you need to stand your ground and tell him 50.00 a day maybe he stopped asking Im sorry but you got to say no
15 shame on him he wants pay that
He taking from your other kids
You’re not
Obligated to watch his kid FOR
FREE. Oh fuck that. I have kids of my
Own. I babysit my brother/sister in law kids. I charge them $50 a day $65 for
Overnights. I sometimes watch my other brothers kids and charge $40 a day and $55 overnights. Yeah aunt or not I don’t work
For Free 
No! If you charge for others, you should change for all.
You are not wrong, you have the right to say no.
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COMPLETELY UNREASONABLE!!! He brought up “blood” to manipulate you, as he totally disrespects that idea.
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Sweetie, just because you are related is NO reason for you to babysit for free. If your brother had to drop off his child someplace else he would have to pay a hell of a lot more than 15 dollars a day. He is trying to use you and you need to get a backbone and tell him NO, Hell NO. You are not being unreasonable, he is, stick to your guns
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He’s definitely taking advantage of you
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No you are not wrong you need to set boundaries with your brother and don’t let him guilt trip you.
I don’t charge to watch my niece and nephew and they don’t charge us. However, for the length of period you have your nephew, and it sounds like it’s multiple time a week, I can understand asking for a little compensation. My sister in law watches my son 2 days a week from 1030 to 5 while I’m in school and my mother in law watches him 1 day a week for the same time. But I provide food, diapers, wipes etc. I think given your circumstances your not wrong. You have a huge plate full so adding another child for that length of time doesn’t seem to unreasonable.
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He is going to be mad at you but it is not your responsibility to basically raise his child. That is a very long day for him to be in your care without being paid. And honestly $15 a day is way to little for how long he is with you and I assume it is your food, snacks and juice that you pay for that he will be eating. but if you are ok with $15 a day then your brother should be thanking his lucky stars!! He will never find child care for that low of a price. And honestly paying child care is all apart of having children. I’m sure he doesn’t work for free and neither should you.
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You are under no obligation to take care of your nephew under any circumstances. Your brother is using you. You have four kids, and you take on some more to bring income into your home. Your kids and family that you created comes first. He needs to take care of his own, find a nanny or another babysitter. It is okay to say no to your siblings, as that is what they are. YOu are not there to cater to grown ass people who need to take care of the responsibilities in this world. That is between him and his baby mama, NOT YOU! If he is treating you now, how is he going to be when you tell him NO. You do not deserve that disrespect or negativity. AGAIN, NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY, blood or not. He can be pissed and try to give you guilt trips. Keep your foot down, otherwise he will continue pulling this crap on you. Take care of yourself and your family. Happy Early Mother’s day…
I don’t charge to baby sit my niece and nephews. When I baby sat then 5 days a week for my SIL she threw in 80 a week towards groceries since I was feeding them breakfast and dinner (she worked third) and would even get groceries for the house on top of it. But i mean if he’s not even willing to pay $15 a day tell him to find a daycare
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My mom watches my kids (7yo and 9yo) 2-8pm (school pick up and then usually only till 6pm) and I pay her 1500 a month. Their dad has always been furious that she doesn’t do it for free. It’s not any family members job to care for another (except possibly child to parent.)
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no you should be paid same as anther person He is using you . Put you foot down and stay strong.
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You’re not wrong. Your brother is. And he’s a prick for trying to make you feel obligated. I wouldn’t watch nephew at all, even for pay. Only see him for strictly quality time. When dad/brother is present. He’s an ungrateful, entitled prick and is definitely taking advantage of you.
You’re brother is not only taking huge advantage, but he’s also being incredibly insensitive to you and your situation! He needs to step up in more ways than one! You need help, financially, emotionally, personally, and a dozen other ways. You’ve a full and overflowing plate. The least he could do is help out and support you and at least pay for his kid!
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He is using you and do not let him!!
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My daughter paid $900. A month for her son
You are not wrong, you have 4 of your own children. So that’s got to be hard enough for you 
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Have him take care of all the kids occasionally so you can have a break.
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Theres a difference between helping out and getting taken for a mug. Youre basically bringing up his child along with your own . If you’re supplying everything the boy needs every day then he should be paying you the same as the other children you sit for…or $15 a day plus he supplies the nappies, wipes, snacks etc.
Id give him a choice…
He pays the same rate as the rest or
He pays $15 a day and gives you supplies for his child or
He finds another sitter.
Obviously he shouldn’t be bringing a sick child to your home just as he wouldnt be allowed to take him to nursery /school if he was sick. Family is not there to be taken advantage of
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You have nothing to feel guilty about. His child is his responsibility. Your family and mental health comes first. He has been taking advantage of you.
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Go to his house one Saturday, drop off at least the older 3 kids, and when he complains be like “what, you’re their uncle? What kind of uncle doesn’t want to watch his own family?”
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No means No .besides Where’s the momma and what is she doing 
6:30-9 that’s outrageous!!! Tell him he needs to find someone you can only do half days. Your kids are priority!! What he do for a living with hours like that? Where is the moms family. He basically just puts him to bed and not deal with him much. Sad!!
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Set your boundaries and stand your ground. He is bullying you by trying to make you feel guilty. Remember love isn’t about what you have to do for somebody else and if your brother is holding that over you that’s on him.:muscle:
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You can say no, no matter who he is.
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Nope don’t watch him.
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Say no!!! The stress is not healthy for you.
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I think you have too much on your plate. Also a kind of disconnect from them for this or that reason. Just tell him, you can’t. He should understand that. 
Nope……absolutely nothing wrong with saying NO!!
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Don’t be bullied or guilted into taking care of your nephew, take care of your own and he needs to take care of his. It’s not your responsibility, you have enough of your own.
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He’s definitely taking advantage!
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You need to put a stop to him , you are not obligated to babysit your nephew not matter if he pay you or not, he can’t force you to do it .
Simply say NO , do not open the door when he is there to drop him and if he has the audacity  of leaving him at the door or something just call the police
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no… you’re not wrong & I despise people that think just because you’re family you should watch each others kids for free…
Tell him your demands and give him choice by what you demand or find someone else
Say you have too much going on right now so you can’t watch him
Ask him if he will tend your kids,see what he says, then jump in and use his excuse that he gave you against him.
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If it’s just a money thing, tell him you need your electricity paid, or partial rent every couple weeks tell him about a bill that is overdue and going to be interrupted. If it’s too much just say you can’t do it at all anymore, don’t send mixed signals. Don’t make it a money thing, just say you can’t.
You are the aunt not the mother. He needs to either pay you or you stop watching him period. Set some boundaries. He’s using you.
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no you are not wrong.
He must pay what is due to you. Treat urself as a business. Its ur income.
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You have enough on your hands. He shouldn’t expect you to watch him for free unless it’s only once in a blue moon as an emergency.
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Say no. Tell him in 30 days he has to find a sitter. If he doesn’t its on him.
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Nope, babysitters get paid!
Your brothers a dick
It’s to much! Tell your brother that you can’t do it for free. Family or not. He is taking advantage of you sweetheart. YOUR family and YOUR well being must come first. Sending you hugs!
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I’d be putting him on notice. He has a week to find other child care.
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Look after your nephew and stop complaining! Your probably the most solidest person he has right now and besides it’s good for him and your kids to build that cousin bond.
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I think your brother is really taking advantage of the brother/sister relationship. He sounds very self -centered and selfish. I would say “NO” to the situation. If it causes a rift, your brother is responsible for that. Good luck and keep strong!
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You have enough on your plate with your children. It’s time for someone else to watch your nephew.
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You’re not being unreasonable. He’s taking advantage of you. Ask him what kind of uncle is he got not babysitting your kids every day for free. If he dares says “well I work”. Go mama bear on his @ss. You’re taking care of 3 kids he can return the favor by taking your kids in the evenings or on weekends.
behavior is a choice I’d handcuff both of them for free
No.
It’s a complete sentence.
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No. Your brother is taking advantage of you. Ask him what kind of brother he is that he wants you to work (childcare) for free for excessive hours plus accept a sick child. Daycare is max 10 hours a day and if child is sick they’re expected to stay home. Tell your brother he doesn’t work for free so why should you?
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“NO!”, is a complete sentence. Don’t let him guilt trip you and take advantage of your kindness. You’ve already been cutting him a break and doing him a favor by even keeping his child for so cheap and for so long. That’s absolutely ridiculous, and it’s time he learns that’s all part of being a parent snd adult and e doesn’t get to dictate how much you nor anyone else charges, which is exactly why he’s taking advantage of you and your kindness. Tell him you’ll be happy to keep his child for $10 per hour. Tell him that’s the weekday babysitting rates and the weekends it’s $15 per hour or at least $50/day during weekdays and $75/on weekends per day or $250-350/week. If he has a problem with that tell him good luck on his hunt for a babysitter or daycare. You’re the aunt, which means you’re not obligated to raise or keep his child for free or even cheap, and he should respect you as his family and sister and stop trying to guilt trip you and take advantage of you. I’d tell him flat out “no” for the simple reason he’s taking advantage of you and your kindness and trying to run a guilt trip on you. Ask yourself this question… would he do the same for you and your kids if the roles were reversed? If not, there’s your answer on how to handle this situation with him. Bet he wouldn’t keep anyone’s kids for that cheap and that long, family or not. In fact, I’d probably drop all 4 kids off with him and give him a few dollars and stay gone for several hours and I bet he’d understand the reason why it’s not doable. Maybe then he’d understand how much he’s asking of you and find out just how hard it is with your own, never mind trying to keep up with his own child. Lol! Seriously, tell him no.
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Tell him to kick rocks. He is most definitely taking advantage of you! I’m so sorry. 
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I was a single mam i looked after our people kids for free.I love kids so it did not bother me.When he breaks things ,.tell him its naughty.He is only a kid they only learn things from us.why do you look after other people kids .
No. Your brother should be compensating you. You have his kid practically full time as if your the parent to your nephew. The child’s mother needs to help pay you along with your brother. Or the child’s mother can watch her own child. That is a ridiculous amount of time to have a child that isn’t yours. Tell your brother he either pays you or finds a new sitter bc it’s not a one to three that’s a week thing it’s an everyday thing and at that point you deserve to be paid for your time. Especially when you feed, bathe, fully care for the child the entire time you have him.
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Where’s the mom??? He’s taking advantage of your good nature, just tell him your not going to sit everyday, you need a break!
NOPE 
You have enough to handle 
For free Now that’s just funny
Just start saying no. You’ve got your own sh*t to deal with and kids.
Sorry you’re going thru this. But this is emotional abuse. Don’t let him manipulate you into doing it. You have your own family and it seems he doesn’t really care to much about his if that’s how he feels.
Set boundaries. U don’t need to comply
Brotheris a using jerk…say NO.
Is he working from 6:30 am to 9 pm? It sounds like he just doesn’t want to take care of his own child or spend any time with him, that’s sad. You however, are under no obligation to do so, whether being paid or not. Unless he is going to watch your children as often, I’d only take the nephew when I felt like having him over for a visit as an aunt. If that’s only a few hours a week or whatever you decide, the rest of the time he would have to make other arrangements. That would eliminate the money issue while still being an aunt and giving the cousins some playtime together.
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Someday you might need him to watch one of you’re children,
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Girl where is the kids mom sounds toxic and like he’s trying to manipulate you if you don’t want to watch him you’re going threw a separation just say that be like I’m sorry he’s not good and it’s to much to watch 5 kids when I’m not going threw enough in my own life sorry hope you understand but you need to find him a daycare and every now and again I can watch him but definitely not multiple times a week! Cause girl ni I’d never
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Good thing he is the dad… No, you are definitely not in the wrong! If he drops him off at 6:30 am and doesn’t pick him up until 9pm he is absolutely taking advantage of you! Stand your ground and tell your brother to kick rock’s!
Oh wow, sounds like you already have your hands full. I’d tell him that you can only do certain days(maybe 2). But asking for $15 dollars a day and it’s over 10+ hrs, he should be thankful. Daycares these days are expensive!
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He’s 100% taking advantage of you. I would tell him unless you’re paying X amount daily then you can no longer afford to watch him. He is there eating your food/your children’s food ect. Family or not I’ve never not paid someone to babysit, even grandparents.
He is taking advantage of you , you have your own family to take care of let him pay someone else to watch them and see how quickly things change
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Might as well file for custody of your nephew and go for child support. Your brothers an a**.
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he is just taking advantage of your kindness, tell him no and if he tries to make you feel guilty then let him know how you feel. if he needs to get a babysitter it will cost him alot more so learn to say no . if you continue it will only make you ill over this. let him get a sitter in his own home. if he was my brother i would tell him and if he gets mad to bad ,he will get over it.
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Been through this with my niece. She would be dropped off early and not picked up until way late. She would break things constantly, bully my kids, and food or nothing was dripped off with her and i was told i shouldnt be paid bc im family. She would be dropped off all week if i didnt say no every now and then…and on the weeks i said no she would drop her off all weekend. Finally…i said $100 a week or no dropping her off,unless want to pick her up at the DHR office. It got to where the kid wqs left days at a time and couldn’t get her mom on the phone,plus i was tired of the kid being mean to my kids all the time. Remember…YOU did not give birth to this kid! It is Not your job to raise this kid for FREE! Too many people these days take advantage of relatives to try to abandon their kids on them to raise and expect it for free just bc related. Such BS! Stick up and say something or it will never end!
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Stop babysitting him
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If he paid you then I get it because it’s extra money in your pocket while you go through this hard time. But even if he was paying you $20, $30, $40 a day, you have to take into consideration that your mental health and your babies are priority during this tough time. If you don’t want to do it then you’re not obligated. My mom will ask to take my son for overnights, and I straight hand her some money for his dinner needs etc. Just because I need to make sure in my mind, my child is good. The audacity your brother has is astonishing.
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You are absolutely not wrong! Your brother sounds like a jerk!!
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Take your kids to him on the weekends and tell him he’s the Uncle what kind of Uncle is he if he doesn’t want to watch his own nieces and nephews!
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Where is the child’s mother?? ,& yes he should pay you & if no pay no baby sit “” ask him would he work for no pay ’
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