I would rather see 2 little boys in the women’s restroom waiting for their mom than have them be in a men’s restroom with all these pedophiles nowadays.
That’s the problem with today’s society, everything is sexualized:roll_eyes: I’m very sure those boys didn’t even pay attention to you changing your daughter…. Get your mind out the gutter
In my opinion no they should not have been in there. I would have asked them to leave and go to the boys bathroom.
My guess is that the boys were embarrassed having to go with mom into the women’s bathroom. Can’t blame the mom for wanting to keep her children close. The world is not a good place as it should be.
Would you feel comfortable leaving your young boys alone while you used the restroom? I wouldn’t feel comfortable letting young boys go into the men’s restroom either, as one can never know who the creeps are by their looks.
If I were you, I would have just waited until they left the washroom if you felt uncomfortable. My son is 7 and he comes into the womens washroom with me. Boys are vulnerable to creepy predators too and I’m not taking any chances.
My son is 8 and you best believe if it’s just me and him at Walmart hes going in the womens restroom with me. If someone was there with me to watch him while I used the restroom it would be a different story.
My son is 7 and there’s no way in hell I would leave him outside the bathroom alone, I’m not even comfortable with him going into the men’s bathroom alone. Call me over protective if you want but I won’t risk my kids safety because some stranger has an issue with a child.
If there was a parent in there with them, fine. But if they were in there alone, then no. I take my 13 year old in with me, but he’s autistic and I can’t leave him outside the bathroom alone.
As a mom of a daughter with 2 older boys, it wouldn’t have bothered me. My 8 year old goes to the wome s restroom with me. I’m not going to leave him outside or let him go to the men’s by himself. My oldest is now 13 and he goes in the men’s and waits for me outside but the younger ones I just don’t see it as safe you can’t trust anyone nowadays. It’s not a grown man in there. Calm down. Now if they were in there without a mom I’d be a little concerned
In theory, I agree, but as a widowed single mom of two autistic boys, one high functioning, one not so high functioning, as a rule, I gotta send them into where I can follow if they are taking too long just to make sure they are not playing in the toilet, the sink or worse, being cornered and molested by someone else.
I would not be so quick to judge, personally: there could be an actual reason for it that is very legitimate for why they go into the women’s room. And a child perking out over your nine month old daughter, while possible, is extremely rare.
I would have stepped outside to see if there is an adult in charge waiting for them and double checked with them before getting upset and even if one was not there, I would not assume anything: some parents and especially single moms do teach their children that the women’s room is safer if there is no adult to go in with them into the boys room and then there are kids who (supposedly and this is something that is very much debate and I am not taking sides either way and would appreciate not having an argument to start here, so please behave like mature adults) say they are Trans or are Trans and their parents encourage them to use the restroom of their preferred gender.
I understand why you might be weirded out by two upper elementary school aged boys in a ladies room, but as a mom of two similarly aged boys (ten and almost eight) who does not have anyone regularly able to follow and if necessary protect my kids into the boys room until they are old enough and big enough to defend themselves, yes. I do usually take or send my boys into the women’s room.
There are just too many creeps and perverts and malicious people out there for me to feel comfortable with it otherwise for now and then my older son is what in the autism community called an eloper, which means you give him the slightest hair to bolt and he WILL take it as part of his sensory needs with no respect or regard to his own or anyone else’s safety.
So I would implore for mutual understanding, compassion and not passing judgment unless you know the people involved directly.
Don’t judge this mom for wanting to protect her baby people, but at the same time, madam, please do not get angry and judge other people and their still very young sons for doing so. On both sides, there is a valid reason for it.
Of course not, the world has gone mad.
If they haven’t reached puberty, I’m fine with it. I bring my 7 & 9 year old boys in the bathroom with me and my daughter when we’re out. I don’t feel comfortable having them go in a room where there might be adult men with their pants down and I’m not around. I wouldn’t put my daughter at risk like that and I won’t put my sons. They’re still too young to fend for themselvss.
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As a Mom in this day and age I’d have my kids right where I could see them. They are kids so don’t assume they are being weird towards your child they are probably waiting for mom or grandma.
Would you have felt just as uncomfortable if it were a couple of girls the same age instead of boys? If not, you’re definitely part of the problem. Making boys out to be predators and perverts. People who go to management trying to get little boys in trouble over things like this make being a boy mom scary. Next time, just go to your car.
Walmart has a bathroom designated for Family.
I would never allow my 9 yr old son in the men’s room alone unless I knew it was empty. They were probably waiting on their mom.
My son is almost 9 and he doesnt go into the mens restroom alone.
If mom was in there I understand it now a days you can’t leave your kids for a second that’s all it takes for someone to grab a kid
You went to the manager because children of a different gender were in the bathroom seek help.
My son is 10 and i refuse for him to use the men’s bathroom alone. Trust me he hates it but I prefer him to use the ladies room where there are personal and single stalls than him urinating in an opened area with older men. A lot of perverts are loose and I’m not exposing my child to that!
If the mother was with them they may have been autistic I still take my son with me and he is 13 because he will wonder if it you never no what might happen unless there is a family restroom and usually there is not now when he gets older not sure what I will do
My boy’s never went in the mens bathroom @ 9 & 10. If they did i stood @ the door calling their name & them responding yes Mom the whole time in there.
Girl get off your high horse, my boy is 10 and if it’s just me and him in Walmart you best believe he will be in the ladies room waiting by the sinks. Grow the hell up, you making yourself uncomfortable
You should of spoken to the parent not the manager. He/she can’t really do shit about it. Plus grow up. Look at the world today. Pedophiles, kidnappers. No parent want their child gone because of those types of people. Pull up your big girl panties, if it happens again and the boys happen to look ask them not to for nthe privacy of your daughter plus most Walmart has a family bathroom that has a changing table and two toilets. Go to that bathroom next time.
We need more family restrooms as a option! Or a baby changing table room.
We’re they with their parents? Or just alone? I would’ve told them to use the mens bathroom if they were alone. If parent was with them and you felt uncomfortable you should’ve told the parent
you don’t specify in your post, were the boys parent or guardian with them? I think in the case you have described, I would went out to my car to change my daughter. At age 9…Im not so sure boys are safe in the mens room unless they have a guardian. The world we live in today is so far removed from the way it used to be…Im actually concerned for myself sometimes if I have to use the public restrooms. Women are just as evil as men and ya NEVER know who that nice person standing next to you is…do they have a concealed weapon, are they a killer, a molester, sad way we have to live now. You say you spoke to the Manager…I would definitely write Walmart Corporation Headquarters and report THAT Walmart. Continue to protect your children…no one else will.
We live in a terrifying world. I absolutely would not let my 9&10 yr old boys use the men’s restroom without my husband going in with them Now, my 14 yr old? Sure. That would absolutely be cause for alarm. But, there’s a huge maturity and size difference in a 10 yr old boy and a 14 yr old boy.
You went to the manager because another mother had her YOUNG sons in the women’s restroom with her? Sheesh… it’s definitely you.
You are an inconsiderate person. Selfish much? One day maybe your husband will be in that same position. Not only will she have to go to the men’s room, I hear there’s no doors and they stand to urinate with their penises out of the pants!!!
I mean you use the same bathrooms at home right?!? So why does it really matter? You were definitely selfish!
If their mother or whoever was watching them were in there using the bathroom I’d understand otherwise I think that’s a little odd that they’d be in the woman’s bathroom alone but I wouldn’t worry too much about it.
My boys are 7 and I make them come in the women’s restroom with me, my children’s safety comes first. If you feel that uncomfortable maybe you should use the family restroom. Those little boys are not the ones you should be worried about. There’s a reason mom/grandma didn’t feel comfortable letting them stand outside alone.
Yeah… you’re wrong. NO way i would leave my 8 yr old unattended while i use the restroom and i wouldn’t have him use the men’s room solo. Trust me, he isn’t doing anything that would put your attended infant at risk but leaving him alone risks his safety. If you are that uncomfortable changing your child’s diaper in public then do it in the car…
Do you expect us to risk our young boys by sending them into the mens restroom alone or having them wait outside alone where they could be kidnapped because you feel uncomfortable? Absolutely not. My sons will be going into the restroom with me until I feel comfortable with leaving them outside. If you were standing with your daughter where nothing could happen then I don’t see the problem. Do you know how many kids at 9 and 10 have things happen to them when they go in to a bathroom by themselves? Sorry you felt uncomfortable but think about how us boy moms feel having to send our babies in where predators could be alone in a room we can’t enter. Not happening.
Wtf? I will bring my son into the restroom with me until he is around 13yr of age. I don’t trust anyone alone with my son and who knows who is in the mens restroom. These are little boys you are talking about
Yeah my son is autistic so he’s gonna be coming with me. You’re being dramatic.
I have 3 boys ranging in ages 1-6 and I would not let them go into the restroom by themselves. There are so many bad things that happen now a days from kids getting kidnapped to assaulted in restrooms that they will stay where I can see them at all times until they reach maybe 11-12. Just as I do with my step daughters when we go out I will do the same for the boys. They are kids.
Have you ever had boys? Would you leave them with the shopping cart while you used the restroom? Would you leave your child alone where people could plainly see they were waiting alone for their mother who had to use the restroom? Seriously lady, grow up. No one wants their kids to run off or get kidnapped because they had to use the restroom.
I definitely understand your concern but you also don’t understand why they’re there my son is nine years old and due to a medical condition I would not allow him to go in the restroom by himself he always comes with me I would just ask politely to give your daughter some privacy if they can move…
Would you leave your nine year old alone in the store while you went to the bathroom ??? Get over yourself that mom was keeping her kids safe if you don’t like it change your kids in your car or in the stall
No way I’m leaving my kids alone while I go use the bathroom. They coming too. Do you realize how fast they disappear or how fast they get snatched. You could have asked them to please move away from your baby and give you some room. Everybody uses the same bathroom at home don’t they?
Tell the boys to get out. You are a grown up, right?
Perhaps their mother was in there? Maybe she won’t allow them to go their own or is uncomfortable with it.
Why were you so strange about changing a baby’s diaper? Unless they’re gawking, it’s just a baby and children. They’re not trying to sexualize your infant child.
If it’s just me and my two kids yes I have my son come in with me. I’m not gonna send him by him self and possibly risk him getting kidnapped or anything else that could happen.
Next time, you should consider changing your bay in your car. Nobody else should have to risk the safety of their children because you don’t want to do extra walking.
If you’re that bothered, you should definitely seek counseling for whatever trauma has effected you this badly.
My boys r shit heads!! I make them come I to ladies and wait they 7&9
What sort world do we live in really?? What did u assume the boys were up???
Well if they were with a parent or guardian they should be standing by that door. I would be bringing my kids in with me. I don’t trust anyone these days. They should offer more family restroom options. I know our walmarts here have a big family room. I also never brought my children in to change them I took them to the car to do it privately for fear people would stare.
As a woman who have seen many horrors in this world I’m backing you because why do young boys need to be hanging around the changing table anyways, with no supervision… I cannot say whether or not they have had something happen to them but ik someone who became child molestor because she herself was molested…better safe then sorry. It is a sick world out there and I commend you for waiting to change her till you knew it was going to be private…people seem to forget there are women who are sex offenders to.
I’m still nervous when my 13 year old goes to the men’s room by himself. And my 11 year old has to have his dad or big brother with him. He is too trusting.
I understand your concern but I have a 7 year old boy and a 3 year old boy in this world we live in they will not be in a men’s restroom alone period
Your more then wrong.
My kids go where I go… 9 & 10 is very young! Sounds like you’d say something if they were left unattended.
It’s obvious that the boys were probably waiting for their mom or whatever female they were there with. If they were near the changing table, you could’ve politely asked them to move away from the changing table so you could change your baby. Or you could’ve just waited until they left.
My boys are 6 and 7 and if my husband isn’t with us then they have to go in with me. I normally use the bigger stall so we can all fit and just make them face the wall so I can use the bathroom. I can’t just leave them outside of the bathroom because someone could take them. And I don’t trust people enough to let them go to the mens anyways.
Boys should not be in the girls rest rooms ever.
So us boy moms should be making our boys stand outside the women’s bathroom or go inside the men’s restroom alone where an adult or other child could hurt, kidnap or kill them just because you’re uncomfortable? Grow up. The world doesn’t revolve around you. You don’t get to demand that I endanger my child. Then you go management & expect them to force the boys away from their mom? What is wrong with you? No manager is going to make themselves liable if something bad happens to the child you don’t like because of his gender. Do everyone a favor. STAY HOME with your kid.
Your overreacting a little bit. They are still little kids. I wouldn’t make my son’s at that age go into the men’s bathroom alone. Especially not in Walmart.
You’d really shit a brick if I entered with my 15 year old special needs son!!! When there is no family bathroom. I have no choice. And double whammy when my 4 year old son is also with! BAM!!! Everybody run for your life!!! A person of opposite sex has to qait for their mother to take piss in the same bathroom as you. Holy shit!!
Mind your business. They weren’t doing anything to you or your daughter. They weren’t gawking at y’all or staring. Get over yourself and stop sexualizing the situation. Maybe they had a disability and had to go in there with mom for their safety? Maybe she didn’t feel comfortable enough to leave them outside the door or of the restroom. The world is crazy, and it’s foolish to trust it. You NEVER know the circumstances. If you are SO pressed change your child in the car or just ignore them and carry on. I’d hate to see how you’d react to a trans woman in a public restroom
My son is 9 and if it’s just me and him I absolutely take him into the women’s restroom with me. I’m not sending him alone into the men’s bathroom.
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Absolutely stop trying to make children into predators. Those boys aren’t “predators” because they “looked” while you changed your baby. My kids might have…My youngest hasn’t been around a baby before.
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Just because they’re school aged doesn’t mean they were old enough or mature enough to be left alone and unattended in a busy Walmart. Even Walmart employees know this…Their safety is important enough that no of course they didn’t cow-tow to you.
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Get some help because I think you may be dealing with some kind of trauma. Trauma that you absolutely do not want to transfer to your baby.
And two? Get some empathy. When your baby gets school aged you won’t send her to the bathroom alone… you’d be pissed if someone asked you to.
It’s not ok that you would expect other parents to do that and then get mad at them for putting their child’s well being first.
There no way I would leave my boy that age by his self this day and age!
I take my 9yo and 6yo son in with me and my daughter I have them go into a stall together unless they need to go and wait for me though. I don’t trust nobody and kids go missing in the blink of an eye.
You really need to give more context. If they were just in there by themselves playing around, then yea, they don’t need to be in there. But if they were waiting for their mom, I have absolutely no problem with that. There’s no way in hell I’d have let my child wait outside the restroom at that age. I’m lucky I have a daughter. But if I had a son, I absolutely would have brought him in with me still at 9 or 10. I think my daughter was 13 before I felt comfortable to have her out of my sight in a store for more than about 60 seconds lol.
Yea send the innocent children into a bathroom with grown men to do whatever the wood like to do to them. Yes I kno how to spell would.
If it’s just me and my 10 year old he is going with me
Suck it up I take my 11 year old in withme…I don’t trust him in a bathroom with grown men…alot of sick people out there
Honestly my BOYS are 8 and 6 and it’s rare I let them go by together themselves in the men’s restroom. I don’t want some man/or any human body with a pulse to look at, touch or try to touch any of my boys. If I go there definitely coming with me but I have them stand in front of my door.
Unfortunately they might want to be girls on that day
Those are still small kids. No way would I make them stay outside while I used the restroom. And I have 2 girls. If I felt that uncomfortable, I’d go change her in my car. Plus, most Walmarts have more than 1 restroom, even a family restroom.
Wait, which is it? You were changing her and they looked over or you couldn’t change her until they left?
Nobody and let me just be very clear here…NOBODY should leave their children unattended for your comfort.
I have an 8 yr old son and I take him in the rest room with me cause I ain’t about to leave him alone or piss my pants (31 weeks pregnant) for the likes of YOU. Get over yourself. These are CHILDREN.
You don’t know if they are special needs and can’t be left alone or what. Absolutely ridiculous.
God help the individual who says something to me about bringing my son in the bathroom with me. If the big stall isn’t open I have him stand right outside the stall and wait for me. And anyone with a problem with it can friggin Fight me!
You should look at the missing child registery then realize all the sex traffickers 8n the country then re ask yourself the questiin would u leave y our 8 or 9 year old daughter in the store alone
If they are in there waiting on someone I’d just say excuse me can y’all move. If they are just in there fooling around then no it’s not ok. People let their kids run wild in Walmart.
You got the manager because 2 small boys was in the bathroom with their mother If you was so uncomfortable you could have waited a few minutes to change her. I never left my son unattended outside a bathroom, nor did I allow him in the men’s restroom til he was 11. Kidnapping & assault happens everywhere. Let’s not even mention the kids with disabilities. The manager should have put you in your place, you are not the bathroom monitor.
Btw, my SO has had to bring our daughter into the men’s bathroom with him a few times when he couldn’t find a family restroom - he would just check first to make sure no one was at the urinals, then have her go to a stall (regardless of which one of them needed to pee), or sometimes if another guy/dad was around, they’d do him a solid and just stand at the door and if anyone walked up they’d be like “hey, a dad had to bring his daughter in, can you give them just a minute?”
It’s HARD for parents when they are out with a child of the opposite sex and they have to go to the bathroom, but also have to keep their child SAFE. We don’t need to make it any harder by giving them shit.
Single mom of two younger boys, almost 6 and 10. And I definitely still make my almost 10 year old come into the ladies restroom with me. And he gets embarrassed but I don’t fully trust sending him to the guys restroom alone bc I simply do not trust people. Too many creeps in the world today
This is stupid. I’m sorry, but this is just so dumb. How about you don’t change your daughter in a public place, since you are the one that has a problem with it.
My son’s 9 and comes with me into the woman’s restroom. He’s not old enough to just wonder around alone so there’s no way in hell I’m sending him alone into a mans restroom alone where there could be creeps… If all they were doing was standing there it’s a little ridiculous to report it. If they were doing something wrong that’s different but it’s a scary world now and I hold my babies as close as I can as long as I can… If that makes sense.
I would never let my children go into the men’s room alone. I would either be in there with them to make sure they were safe, or I would bring them to women’s bathroom. The boys that were in the bathroom should have had the good sense to mind their business while you were changing the baby, though.
My son is 10 and I have to take him into the bathroom with me because I don’t want him standing outside alone. One of his friends almost got kidnapped at a Walmart last year so I don’t take chances.
My boys are 5 & 9 and if we are anywhere out of the ordinary, they go in the womens restroom with me. Honestly, even at home with a population of like 20,000 people they don’t go unattended. Maybe I watch too much Dateline, but it takes one second for a tragedy to occur. If you’re that weird about changing your kid in a PUBLIC restroom, do it in the car!!!
I don’t let my 9&8 yr old go to the men’s room by themselves at all in any store to many bad people out there these days. So don’t judge why the two boys in there they could have been waiting for their mom.
Wow, if that made you uncomfortable then the problem isnt the boys its you. My kids are 6 and 8, my oldest having disabilities, and also being single mother- i take mine in the restroom with me. I would rather them be with me to prevent them from any event that someone who had ill will towards a child ever tried to do anything. Their safety is of uptmost importance to me, amd my job as a mother. If you couldn’t understand that they were in there with their mother, to keep them safe, then you are part of the problem society has. They werent in there to gawk at your baby, to touch them, to make a move, to do anything, i glance at ppl in bathrooms, doesn’t mean just bc i looked at you or your kid that im a predator. My god they are kids. People often look around in their environments, see where they are, who is around or not…and just like you wanted to keep your baby safe, i assume, their mother wants to also keep them safe. This world is full of disgusting, vile, predators, amd it would only take a split second for anything to happen. It gets worse with each passing year. This isnt about you. Its about the safety of kids, ALL kids, not just ones you have or know of, but all kids deserve to be in a safe environment. Your passing judgements and unbased paranoia are sickening, your no better than ones who actual make moves on kids, with your judgements, and this is why mothers chose to keep their kids close to them. I pray that when your child is of school age and you let them go in unattended that nothing happens, but just no that “boys”, or “men” arent the only abusers…women can also. So i pray you never let yours just run off in there alone, bc kids cannot defend themselves against an adult. Predators come in many forms, man or woman…so dont be niave to think that there arent dangers. I applaud the mama for having her boys close, and i pray you stop putting your sick thoughts about things onto little boys who did nothing wrong. This whole thing just makes me sick and amgry as a boy mama. Kids are kids, ok, and ALL kids deserve to be and feel safe.
Yeah I would make my sons come in with me. Especially since I was almost kidnapped at their age in broad daylight in front of many stores. There are sketchy people out there. I almost had my son taking from me. So yeah I’m going to take my son with me. Maybe next time must ask them to give you some room and stand in another corner. Don’t get mad that there are moms that are cautious.
I’ll just leave this here. THIS is why I would take my son in the women’s bathroom. You can’t trust people anywhere
As a girl mom it doesn’t bother me one bit if a little boy is in the restroom. They’re kids. stop sexualizing little boys. Stop sexualizing little girls. Stop sexualizing kids.
Excuse you! I have a 7 year old boy and if his dad is not with us I absolutely bring him into the women’s restroom! So it’s ok for you to protect your daughter but not ok I protect my son? You went to manager?! Ok Karen
Uhh I’m definitely NOT sending my kid to the men’s restroom ALONE! …why is it acceptable for you to protect your child but not us ours!?
I let my 8 year old male CHILD go with me to the women’s bathroom. I don’t trust grown ass men around him alone. I think they definitely should have been accompanied by an adult though.
If my 9,5 year old boys are with me then they are going in with me.
The problem is not enough family bathrooms. My husband didn’t know what to do when my daughter had to go and they were by themselves. If it was my boys and they were that young, I would have had them stand by the sink and wait too. I’m pretty sure boys that age aren’t in there for a peep show.
My oldest son is 15 then i have a 12 and 9 and 4 yr old. If my husband is not with us, the older boys take the 9 and 4 yr old with them because i also have a 6 and 3yr old daughter so i have them and my older sons have control of the younger boys in the mens. My 15 yr old is literally 6 foot 2 and people mistake him for dad half the time so they are perfectly pretected. But maybe mom doesnt feel comfortable or those kids arent mature enough in behavior to go in alone without acting stupid in the bathroom or being bad. Who knows. Wait or change your daughter in the car. Also, if you dont have any other kids get used to kids being nosey and curious about diaper changes with younger siblings. I have 6 kids.
My 9year old will use the ladys with me lol I think your over thing it also tbh I h8 post like this. What ehould u think off 2 young boys waiting at the door playing around. Xx I get you felt over welmed at older kids being there but no it’s not a problem. Xx
Sorry but when my son is that age, he will be going inside with me! There’s too many things happening to children and I’m not risking that with my son just because you’re uncomfortable.
Would you like if your daughter father left her alone standing in Walmart while he went into the bathroom? My 8 and 9 yr old boys always come in when I have to go, too many freaks out there
As a mom of boys, and I was once a single mom of a boy; I took my oldest into the bathroom with me until he was around 7-8 because I didn’t like leaving him outside the bathroom where he could be kidnapped or it could be construed that I had just left him. Maybe consider there’s more than one situation where they could be in there. And really, why does it matter? They’re kids, they looked over probably because they were nervous or just curious…like all kids are. I don’t really give a shit who else in the bathroom; I’m going in to use the bathroom myself and leave. What other people are doing in there isn’t my concern.
They should be in the restroom. You can ask them to move somewhere else politely. If I had boys, I’d make them go in the women’s restroom with me but not in the stall unless they needed to go as well. Or I’d go in the big restroom. They weren’t using the restroom so they were probably waiting for their parent or person they came to the store with. They are children.
Then wait til they leave. I’m not sending my 9 year old boy or 5 year old boy into the bathroom alone so they go with me in the women’s. Especially me being a single mom you got your shit twisted if you think my SONS don’t deserve to be protected.
Depends on if they have a disability or not.