Bring a few gifts just in case to have on standby should this happen. Can’t control her, but you can lessen the blow?
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Does dorys biological dads mom get anything for Nemo? No child deserves less however they need an explanation as to why she doesn’t get as much. His mom has no obligation to go out of her way for a grandchild that isnt hers. She is doing it to be nice. She can give dory nothing, just like dorys grandma doesnt need to give anything to Nemo. Step grandparents are not whatsoever obligated. Be truthful be honest. In the end she should appreciate what she does get from his mother.
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Please carry spare gifts 
and spare kiddo heartbreak 
only mums feel these things,very often other family members argue and complicate …
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Make sure you take presents for them just incase.
Package deal!!
We have a dory who is not bio of my hubby and 3 nemos that are his.
His parents are absolutely fair with EVERYTHING and have NEVER treated dory as anything other than their grandchild from day one of meeting dory, when hubby and I were first dating.
My hubby immediately took dory as his own when dory was 1.5 years old.
Accept NOTHING LESS!! your child deserves NOTHING LESS PERIOD!! put your foot down and make your voice heard. Kids see and understand being left out and it is UNACCEPTABLE!!
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He should have said something to her long before you felt it necessary to make this post. He probably won’t, though. I wouldn’t subject the kid to that experience for even one year.
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You are not in the wrong! That’s crap! Take spare gifts for your Dory!!
His Mom is being petty!
It isn’t fair, you are not in the wrong. I have 2 dorys and 1 Nemo. None of which are biologically my boyfriends kids, but we have been together 9 years and as far as he is concerned, they ARE his kids. The children are innocent in these types of situations and shouldn’t be treated this way. Especially when the adult in question accepted and agreed to take on a parental role.
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Shouldn’t even have to tell him. 
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I am a first time grandmother of a 2 month old and have a son who has accepted a now 10 ( they’ve are not married but he has been “Dad” for the last 5 years) , as for me being fair that was nothing that ever had to be discussed between my son and I , since day one I have done for the older child and I continue to do for her now. It has to do with lovingly giving to a child. I will tell you I would not go back and I would not expect the Mil to ever change.
Protect your children
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My partner and i have been together for almost 6 years, my son was 2 when we got together… and i told him right from the get go that if he wants to be with me that he needs to accept my child and that if we were ever to have kids that he needs to treat all the kids the same, or id leave him… fast foward my son is almost 8 and our twin girls just turned 3. Him and his family treat all the kids the same. My son calls him dad and he also calls my partners father pop… i would never accept nor tolerate anything less! Being a child from a broken family and then the way my mothers husband treated me when my mother had kids to him made me see exactly how nasty and horrible people can be! My own mother kicked me out when i was 15 because he said it was either him or me… i would never ever treat my children like that, or let them be treated like that from others! And fyi i now dont speak to or have anything to do with my mother after years of constant abuse.
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Both my mother-in-laws treat my boys equally. I’m like you, my husband is not biologically my oldest son’s dad. Both sets of my in-laws never play favoritism. I have 2 sets of in-laws, because my husband has his biological family and his “adoptive” family. I say “adoptive” Because they fostered my husband, but never technically adopted my husband
The fact you’re even writing this saids it’s upsetting u. That’s all that u need to know… and you’re 
justified. She is not a nice woman. Make sure u never buy her a gift. Never call her for bdays, Mother’s Day etc. Let her son play happy families on his own. With out his child too. But never ever settle for being treated as a package or tell them to get lost. Ppl don’t change so don’t hold your breath. 
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Yeah sorry she’s an evil cow! My eldest isn’t my partners but the baby is. We spent the morning with my family with my daughter and she went with her dad in the afternoon. My partners mum send my daughters present to us so she could have it christmas morning as we were heading to them in the afternoon without my eldest daughter so they wanted her to have it on christmas day. When we arrived here yesterday even tho my eldest wasn’t with us they even did her a stocking that father christmas left which we will take home for her 
that is just pure nastiness to treat a child differently 
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Buy your older son a present . These step families can be so cruel.
I treat my grandkids all the same they get everything same
You are totally within your rights to own your feelings and perspective. Your job and your husband’s job as parents is to protect your children. YOUR children! When you married, your first child became his child no less than if he fathered your child and your second child. Had you adopted both children, would his mother still be treating them differently? Probably.
She is essentially saying to you and your first born that he is less valued by her. That is abuse. If it hurts your child, makes him feel less valued and uncomfortable, then your mother in law must own her behavior and be told directly before arriving that it will not be acceptable.
As hard as it is, and since your husband is not man enough to acknowledge the inadequacies and discrepancies in his mother’s treatment of your first and second born, I believe I would let him know that he either calls his mother about it or you will.
Now, I know Christmas is over, but if it happened the way you thought it would, I pray you took extra toys for the oldest child, but the conversation is still needed. By refusing to speak to his mother, your husband is devaluing your’s and your son’s feelings and importance. It is important his mom be told, even at the risk of acknowledging your truth, but know it may cause some issues with her. Your sons’ relationship with one another will ultimately be affected by her continuing down this path, and their happiness and self esteem are more important than your mother in law’s.
One last thing; by not speaking with his mom, you will resent him and respect him a great deal less as your partner and their father. He needs to know this…the sooner the better!
I think the husband in the Mother-in-law being very selfish unkind to a child I just don’t get it people that can be so cruel I’m the kind of person that has a backbone and I would stand up to her and just tell her if you’re going to do that just don’t even send any gifts
You’re definitely not in the wrong, the grandma is a jerk and your husband should stick up for Dory, so he’s in the wrong too
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I feel for you. My MIL favored her grandsons - granddaughters - no. I finally told my husband he should tell his mother she needed to treat the granddaughters (we had one and his brother had one; both had boys too) or not at all. One year she gave my son a watch for his 7th birthday, spent $2.00 on a gift for my daughter - that was it. So they started giving all the grands a $5 bill for their birthdays.
His mom is in the wrong, hrs being stupid, I would bring extra gifts for Dory !! If my inlaws did that I wouldn’t take that shit, but they are toxic anyways. What ended up happening ?
My ex and I were together for five years. My boys were almost 1 and 2 at the time. From day one he was dad to them. We’ve been separated 7 years and he’s still dad. His parents treat my boys and our daughter together equally because he made it abundantly clear from the get go to everyone that he was daddy. And always will be. What your mother in law is doing is ridiculous and I’m so sorry you have to go through this
Your are absolutely right he needs to explain that if she cannot treat both children equally the she should not be in their lives in had five kids when I met and married my husband they are all adults now he treated them all as his own and would not allow anyone including his family treat them differently which they didn’t we were a complete package deal from the get go so yes you must protect this child from being treated differently
Kids should both be treated the same way "
sounds to me your husband hasn’t FULLY accepted dory as his if he’s still defending his moms bad behavior. i don’t think you’re in the wrong at all and certainly not ridiculous
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You’re not wrong. When he married you he decided to make her just as much family as you.
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After 13 years, if all he’s done is talk about adoption, there might be a problem there too. Maybe his feelings have limitations as well. You are absolutely not in the wrong here.
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ur not in the wrong and ur mother in law is wicked and ur husband is a mama’s boy who feels his mother raw behavior is right id tell her to phuck off and tell him to grow some coz it means he feels nothing for that poor child irrespective from accepting the child his still wrong and i know what that feels like it’s all bullshit really stand up for ur child always protect him, it’s not easy but it’s ur job mama
Run from that family your husband should have your back and be pissed at his mom it worries me more that he’s not I’m sorry she’s petty like that
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Yes im sure it hurts but the reality here is she doesnt HAVE to do anything at all…i get where you are coming from from a moms view point though.
If i were you i would go out and buy a few more things for Dory…and have them off to the side just incase this situation you are worried about comes up.
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Only xmas? Maye id be serving him divorce papers for xmas if that was me. Thats disgusting to treat one child over the other. Your husband should be standing up for you and your son. The fact that hes not or doesn’t says alot. Says he also doesn’t care your son goes without.
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I agree to it being fair to all kids.
#1 she’s not obligated to do anything at all for a grandchild that’s not hers #2 while I see your point making your husband choose isn’t the way to keep him! #3 you didn’t mention age of the kids maybe if old enough explain it to them
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Ummm your husband is the problem. He shouldn’t be tolerating that shit from his mother.
So I have 2 kids from a previous relationship and currently expecting a 3rd from my bf, and this is one of my biggest worries. He’s told me time and time again that he will treat my kids like his own, and he does, just like his bio kid that’s coming. But I’m worried it would change, because of posts like these. We told his family Christmas Eve, and his dad was excited and told us he was in the lead and was gonna brag about it to his gf (playfully) that now he has 3 grandkids instead of 2. My bfs sister also has 2 kids, and then ours making up the 3, not counting my 2 previous kids making it 5. Now they’ve only met my kids maybe twice because me and my ex do week on week off, but I’m hoping his family will accept my 2 as their family as well as me and the new baby brewing
Do not let your husband adopt your eldest if he doesn’t think this is inappropriate and unfair! That’s not him thinking the kids are ‘equal’!
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Wouldn’t even go with dory tbh… fuck it have your own fun and just keep swimming
If she could get past the “right to spoil my only grandchild” thing, she’d see she actually has 2 beautiful grandchildren to spoil. Both the same or not at all
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I have step grandkid’s and I wouldn’t dream of short changing on their Xmas gifts, it was an issue as they were getting older, only because they didn’t understand that what we bought for them in one present was the same amount of money spent on the two or three presents the younger ones got, but they understand now of course, I find Birthdays to be more special and important as it’s their day, not everyone else, so I tend to spend more on their birthday than Xmas, it’s quite expensive buying for all the grandys, but all are treated fairly
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go to her urself if he wont
How was christmas?? Hope everything went well and kiddies were all treated fairly. I have a rule in my house every one is equal amd if any person buys any of the kids extra or just 4 one tbh i send it bk. Every child id equal in my eyes and im proud of u 4 speaking up
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It might be just me but If I was in your situation, I wouldn’t leave it up to others to make the type of decisions I would make. I can’t really control how other people feel or their actions. I would have taken some extra gifts myself for Dory. Or let dad take Nemo to his mom’s and had a little mother daughter time. In other words “Just keep swimming”
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Confront her, when your sitting there just ask kindly “why do you leave my oldest out so often?” Make sure to buy dory extra presents. I just wanna say for all the blended families out there’s behalf. Screw your guys bogus realities that people shouldn’t have to bond with step children. My family has NEVER left out my bonus baby and I made it clear in the beginning. Either both kids get the same amount of gifts and spoiling as the other. They never crossed that line cause I wouldn’t go to those events anymore if they did do that to my bonus child. I don’t care what any of you say, biological or not. Children deserve to be loved and wanted. They deserve to see that. This idea that blood is thicker than water is b.s because most of you hate your own blood but pretend to be fake with your in-laws 
. Blood don’t mean crap when you have step kids, those babies trump your old family any day. The family you MAKE is more important than the family you CAME from. Just some food for thought 
She has zero obligation to do anything for your oldest. If you are worried, bring something extra. Anything she does for the oldest is extra.
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If you’re husband don’t see the problem, he may be part of it… obviously he DOESN’T view your son as one of his family if he thinks it’s ok to treat him differently even SOMETIMES! and personally I wouldn’t let either child except a gift at all if it happened this year.
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I have 5 kids from previous relationships and twins from my husband that didn’t do kids when I met him, he soon changed his mind and took the 5 on before twins came along and his mum has never once treated anyone one of them different to the other., I told them all from day one we came as a package or not at all.i would have to say something to them and even give unopened gifts back if I even began to think one had more than the other spent in them. My mum 8n law is very fair with all my kids and that’s how it should be x
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He’s not her grandchild. She isn’t obligated to do anything
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After 13 years if dory still isn’t considered family I’d leave. The fact your husband allows this is a giant red flag. You have allowed this for 13 years why ? Why would you let her be treated less than? Seriously you have let them treat her like trash for years. You weren’t a package deal. Stop caring more about your husband then your child.
I don’t think he plans on adopting your child. Even if he wanted to, I wouldn’t let. Because with your own words here, you said he thinks she shouldn’t have to be fair to both kids because only one is her actual grandchild…A piece of paper & a name change won’t change dna.
As a mother, I wouldn’t want my child left out. I don’t think any mother would want that. Y’all have been married for 13 years, and you’re still having this issue?
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Ur a great mom
.keep on protecting ur child in every way u can
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This is why adoption should be outlawed this is just a small example of how humans treat children who are not biologically related to them, but people don’t listen when foster and adopted kids say they are or have been mistreated, abused or murdered. Genetics matter heavily to a lot of people everyone else is treated like an option
I 100% agree with you! If Grandma was planning on spending $100 on her bio grandchild, she should spend $50 on each of them instead. It’s also okay if she spends $0 on each of them, but $100 on her bio grandchild, and $10 on her non bio grandchild is not okay. I’ve been a step kid and it was heartbreaking when it happened to me. The whole time you are there, you feel less than. That’s a horrible feeling. I’ve also been the Mom of children that have been treated different by step family. You’re not telling her the amount she needs to spend, you are just asking that it is even. I also think that the way the step Dad or Mom feels toward their step kid definitely plays a part in how step grandparents treat the step grandchildren.
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I hate those comments “she’s not obligated too” yes she is. They been married 13 years, the grandmother has known this and about the other child for years. I’m guessing the eldest is maybe 13,14 years old(doesn’t matter). And it’s still not right. It’s bad enough the husband married this women knowing she has a child already and knowing it’s a package deal and not defending it. The child calls him dad, he’s technically been a father figure to this child. Even if it’s not official or on paper it doesn’t matter. The husband isn’t showing any signs of I see this child as mine which is sad. His mom is required too gift both kids. Idk why y’all arent asking the question “why can’t she just be happy with both grandkids wether it’s bio or not” or “why can’t she at least be nice enough to respect the other child” cuz regardless if it’s biological or not it’s sooo disrespectful. The husband plays a big part in this too enabling his own mother. It makes me so mad for you. Regardless of age or biologicality the grandmother should respect the child even if she feels it isn’t her grand baby. She’s just bitter, and obviously self centered. All I’m saying is if you step into a relationship where the other person has a child you better be a parent to that child because they will always be apart of the relationship. They are there no matter what. You know what you sign up for. This is really sad tbh. But do not let him adopt that child. He’s already a red flag from what you’ve been saying.
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Thanks for sticking up for your daughter. I was the kid in this situation with my mother’s husband. And it was one of the things that really worried be able having a baby with my boyfriend and about introducing her to his family. I will never allow her to be treated as less than fully belonging. Either she belongs or we’re not going.
I really don’t understand these kind of posts. The grandmother is still buying her daughter gifts, just not toys, so bring your daughter toy gifts to open. As for the grandmother treating them equal, you can’t force that. I’d make it very clear not to participate in his mother’s birthday either nor go out of my way to get her a grand gift in solidarity with my daughter. Now if she mistreats your daughter as far as ignoring her when she’s there or scolding her more than your son then I would absolutely not have either children around her. But if she does not I would think long and hard before allowing her to divide your family. It is once a year and it sounds like she lives far away. Your husband must be amazing if you are considering him adopting her. Choose your battles wisely.
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She should treat them equally, or I wouldn’t go again, it can damage a child for life having that feeling of not worthy, or loved x
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My brother married a woman with 2 children from a previous marriage.
My parents and I treated them as our family. When 3 more children came from their union, they were still treated the same.
Love has no conditions. They will always be part of our family.
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My situation is the same however they treat my daughter the same as their grandson even equal amount of gifts
Bf n mil would both be gone if it be me
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Sorry not sorry sounds like your husband and his mother have both not fully accepted your child, or he just bows and acquiesces whenever mom says, either way you have a problem, that needs a pretty quick solution before your child suffers emotional harm by being treated so unfairly by his mother.
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Has daughter received gifts before and not thanked the grandmother? When a gift is given (cash/present) and no thank you = 
Your husband should make it clear both kids should be treated the same! This very unfair! And grandma is not very nice and I agree with youon not going to her house again
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This used to happen to me as a child, even as a 7 year old I took note and never said anything but it hurt. Step family made it very clear later as an adult that I was not part of thier family.
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My husband and I have no children together. My mil has 2 biological grandchildren and she treats my 2 children as if they are her biological grandchildren. As far as she’s concerned she has 4 grandchildren.
You’ve been married 13 years! Your mother in law should treat your daughter the same as your son since they are basically the same as far as grandchildren go.
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The grandma is wrong!!!She is hurting a child,not with punches but the scars will last this child a life time. Don’t let her give to either child and solve the problem if hubby doesn’t step up.
It sounds like your fighting a dying battle. I would buy gifts yourself and put them under the tree for them to match your bio child’s presents.
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I’m with you. Take a few extra presents with you to put under the tree for Dory.
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I just wouldn’t go there if my child was going to outed and not treated fairly
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Grandma isn’t fair! I was a step… but was never treated as such. That word was taboo growing up. She should treat both the same. My son married a girl that had a son. He asked my son what if I didn’t like him. That broke my heart!! I love them the same
Nothing you can do. People going to do what they want. Seems your husband is a mamas boy. He made the choice to get involved with a single mom. I would be done. I hope you’re working because if this continues you will be unhappy in this relationship. Sadly split holidays etc but it can be done, many families do this and been through this before. Is he an adult man with his own mind or follow his mamas orders and what she wants? This is why people freak me out when they share memes of " I’m going to defend my child no matter what age, or if his wife or her husband does this I’m backing my kid up no matter age." Um no …reality check your kid has own life and family.
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Honestly. I wouldn’t be with a man that acted that way.
Its equal or nothing.
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I ended my marriage because my oldest daughter wasn’t being treated the same as my other children. I’m now divorced.
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They should be treated equally. My mother in law has always been amazing with our son, even though biologically my son isn’t related. If I was in your position I would be livid. You have every right to be upset, and if you don’t speak up, who will?..
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I have two grandsons that were inherited but they have always been treated the same way as our 4 others when my son and my daughter in law got together they always had gifts at our plus dinner because they never had on at their dads girlfriends parents which was wrong and disgusting way to treat kids
Should all be treated the same
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I have 2 children from my first marriage non with hubby now ( not gonna happen) but I’m extremely grateful my now husbands whole family took my 2 kids in like their own. I couldn’t be with someone who acted as if my child or children didn’t matter. I agree on the whole package deal! I do the same for my step child as I do for my own and i expect the same. I’m so sorry your going through this.
Omg I wouldn’t be married at this poiny
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As a grandma of several, I would never do this, but I see my Son-in-law’s parents do this to one of my children (she is actually my stepdaughter and has a son from a previousrelationship). Treat all of your grandchildren and children the same regardless of who birthed or parentes who, in the scheme of things, treating the kids with love and kindness will only teach them love and kindness. I usually have multiple simple wrapped unnamed presents under my tree for surprise guests or emergency tear sessions. Take care of each other and the world would be a much better place.
I could never imagine giving one child a present and then sitting back as staring at the heartbreak of another child. The absolute deplorable thought process that would even have to go into that is pathetic. Let’s just sit here and ignore a child because their own narcissistic tendencies are too strong to accommodate simple respect and understanding.
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It is what it is. She only has 1 grandchild. If you feel this way they should wake up with you not her.
What makes you think she’ll be any different just because it’s Xmas ? If anything you’ll be on her home ground and Xmas is just the reason she’ll cling to to go ott with her " one and only grandchild " . Your husband needs to take a step back and look at the whole picture . 13 yrs of marriage and he’s still talking about adopting your son ??? His mother has maybe taken her cue from him . You seriously need to sit down with both of them and tell them where it’s at . Personally i would not take the chance of exposing my son to her callousness . She is calculated in what she does . If you feel you can’t get out of going then take along a few presents as back up so if she does leave him hanging , he has something to detract him . Your eldest was there before your husband and his mother and he deserves the same love and consideration that your youngest gets . X
If this happened to my daughter, I would put my foot my foot down and not go at all. The grandmother is in the wrong. Dory is as much as her family as her bio grandchild, your husband chose you and your daughter, she needs to accept that, she needs to treat the kids fairly or not treat any. She is going to cause a lot of mental health issues for Dory in the long run if she continues, and quite rightly your husband should be standing by you with this. If I was in your shoes, I wouldn’t go, especially if I knew there were going to be presents under the tree for one child and not the other, it’s easy for people to say go and buy other things so that Dory has the same, but at the same time, why should you be putting your hand in your pocket to compensate for the harsh act the grandmother has done and still continues to do. Stay home and have an extra Christmas, make it extra special both kids. If you go, it’s going to be absolutely heartbreaking for Dory and for yourself. You need to have a proper discussion with your husband and get him to stand by your side. It sounds like he is siding with his mum on this and don’t seem to care about the effect it will have on little Dory. If the mention of adoption has come up in the past then he has accepted Dory meaning he needs to treat both kids the same. Your in a place at the moment that no parent should be ever put in. People are playing favoritism over the kids and it sounds like Dory is being left out each time, which is going to effect Dory in the long run. You know what is right to do, but at the same time, given what time of year it is your not going to want to upset anyone, but the truth is, which ever way you do it, you will hurt someone. You sound like an amazing mum and want the best for her 2 children, I just don’t feel going where one child will receive and the other won’t is going to be the right move. If I was you I would rather hurt and upset the grandmother and husband for not going then I would to upset and hurt child to put them in a position where they will have to sit there send watch other child.
Your husband has not accepted the child as his own when you say he said " he understands why when only one child is her grandchild" he wouldn’t see the difference if he truly accepted the child and would know his mother is in the wrong.
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Shes in the wrong, maybe one is bio and the other not but if he took you on as a package he should be telling her they both need to be treated the same! My father in all has one step grandchild through his step son, he has one biochikd which is my partner but when me and my partner got together I had 4 children from my previous marriage, he has no children. Yet my father in law treats all mine exactly the same as the step grandchild. They all get the same amount for birthdays and Christmas! That’s how it should be, he sees all of mine as his grandchildren and I think if we were to have one of our own it would be exactly the same but this one would be his only bio grandchild. I’d take some of your own gifts just incase because your mother in law sounds like a snake and your husband needs to grow a pair and tell his mum that it’s not on!
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I’d dump him and his whole ass family. Exactly what I would do. But I’m also super super petty when it comes to my son I’ll throw hands for that boy.
I am so sorry you’re dealing with this.
Wow husband sounds like a drag as well. Please don’t go, kids can see and feel the differences made. You and your daughter are a packaged deal period. If he wasn’t going to love protect and treat your daughter the same & require the same from his family then he should’ve never married you period! hugs buy her your own gifts let her know she’s loved special and that mommy’s got her back:heart:
No matter what… Children should be treated equally. KARMA will serve all who don’t
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I had a stepfather growing up and there were four of us kids and we were all treated the same as the other grandkids. You are not wrong and shame on anyone who would treat a child like that! When you marry someone with children you accept those children as your own and so does your family.
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I went thru that as well. Although it only happened to my youngest daughter not my other 3. It hurts I would consider how ignorant his mother is it will never change
I’ve seen this happen to my own daughter and then her children. Keep speaking up. You’re not wrong in trying to protect your child. Some adults are selfish and only think of themselves and not of the young ones.
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I would let the husband go on his own and keep the kids home. That’s ridiculous to play favorites and I wouldn’t even put either one of my children in that situation.
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My first grand child came into my life when she was 6 months old that’s when her dad and my daughter started dating. I have considered her my grand daughter the day I met her that was 10 years ago. I now have 3 grand kids I love and spoil them all the same. My granddaughter may not be biologically mine but she is by heart. Your mother in law should be ashamed of herself.
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Your husband doesn’t really accept dory as his child. If he did he wouldn’t allow that kind of treatment. He doesn’t care about her feelings or yours.
This is never going to get better. Don’t kid yourself and think it will. It won’t.
It may be time to seriously reconsider your relationship and if you want your child to be treated like this forever.
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I went through this myself except we never had a biological child together we came together blended. My family accepted his children as equals , his family treated my daughter as if she was a burden. So far as to last Christmas his aunt telling my 5 year old “I forgot about you but here’s $5.” While on either side of her his two bio kids had gifts & his previous step children from his ex wife were given gifts as well… after two years my daughter was forgotten…… I put my foot down & unfortunately we didn’t see eye to eye and eventually split up. The way I see it, is like you said, if you choose to be with me I’m a package deal and my child deserves all the love and respect a biological would receive from the spouse/grandparents alike. If they can’t offer that then it ain’t worth it imo. I’m my daughters voice and advocate for her feelings when adults are shitty. Best of luck hun
No, you are absolutely right. I have 3 kids, 1 oldest from a previous marriage, and 2 from my hubby. 1) My husband and his family treat all 3 equally always. 2) but not only, that same thing extends to my ex husband and his family, who also treat my younger two like family, cause they are my oldest’s brother and sister. My step mom used to always say “There ain’t steps in this house” you are a family, all together or none. Don’t let anyone divide your children like that. Their bond is more important than any toy.
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He is in the wrong and his mother is in the wrong. I wouldn’t take the kids at all.
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Stand up for your child. Your MIL & husband are wrong.
Your husband sounds like a wimp who can’t stand up to his mother.
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It will never happen we were adopted and never treated fair by my mom’s sister and all the other cousins got tons there were 5 sisters and we knew it hurt my mom tried to bring stuff but we knew
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Stand up for your child. If I went……I would look at the presents as soon as I get there and if they are equal amounts then I would go out and buy my daughter some presents and put under the tree AFTER I showed my husband the difference.
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He doesn’t believe because he doesn’t see it. Make it that he sees it. Its been same to my kids and i understand. Now he sees it and doesn’t name my kids have to be around them. Its sad because the grandparent(s) did it to themselves but its always the child and significant others fault but not in reality. After 17 years one grandparent and 11 one grandparent wanted something to do with my kids and my oldest ask me do I have to go over there? Am I suppose to want to go over there. Its not that they don’t love the grandparents its just seen how others are the favorites. My granny did the sane to me and my siblings.
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