You deserve to feel seen and heard. I would talk to him about why getting something for a hobby outside of housekeeping and mothering is important to you. You are not selfish or ungrateful.
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You have every right to be upset!
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Yes you have the right to be upset
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Cricuts aren’t a one and done purchase, you have to buy vinyl, blanks, blades, etc. maybe there was a reason he didn’t buy it for you for Christmas. I must be in a different place in my age and marriage though because I would love a new toaster and blender 
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Maybe he waited, until the last minute to get it and he could not find it.
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You have every right to be upset or at least bothersome by this. Because he didn’t get nothing just for you he got a household appliance. Like really that’s not a gift for you it’s for the house. Tell him how you feel. Tell your husband you could earn some money making things if he gets you a cricket. That you would very much appreciate it.
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I would be upset too
First of all it’s the general rule that unless someone, a stay at home mom/wife especially, asks specifically for kitchen/household items it is NOT an appropriate gift for Christmas or birthday because it sends the message that cooking/cleaning is her identity…makes her feel like her only worth is found in her household duties
Secondly, she stated that he has asked for expensive things as well AND she has made sure to get him the specific things he asked for and he should’ve done the same for her…him completely disregarding her wish while telling her the things he wanted shows that he does not seem to be considerate of her as a person and the things she likes and her wants…her efforts to fulfill his Christmas list is not reciprocated…and that’s wrong…and if it’s about money and he asks for expensive things but won’t for her then he has double standards…
So yeah I believe that situation is really messed up…being a stay at home mom is a full time job and then some…she works hard every day to care for their children and home and she deserves the things she’s asked for just as much as he does
It’s a principal issue here…yes Christmas shouldn’t be about gifts…however IF gifts are going to be given at all what is the point if you’re not going to put thought into what you’re giving to whom? If you always get what you ask for and then deliberately ignore what they ask for it really speaks volumes about how little you value them as a person and their needs/wants/things they like…her efforts are never reciprocated…he’s made it clear that what she wants doesn’t matter and her only value lies in her occupation and household duties as a homemaker…I hope her had her wish wrapped and hidden somewhere and those were just decoys 
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Buy your own Cricuit
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The actual gifts are just the straw that broke the camels back! She feels neglected, unsupported, unloved and not appreciated. Just tired of putting everyone else’s wants and needs before her own and never getting it returned, even when she’s asked. That’s clearly what the real issue is … and you all calling her greedy and ungrateful 
sounds like all this woman does is give!! Let her at least rant it out ffs!
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No. I feel your pain. I stay home now as well. I now have three crock pots. And my birthday is in December as well. Whole other story. I’ve been married almost 14 years, with my husband 19. This is the first Christmas I got thoughtfulness things. I think it’s because he went really overboard before Christmas and got himself an E bike. I started doing less for his birthday and Christmas the last few years so he knows how it feels
Wait a minute!
You said you don’t have money left after buying the kids their gifts? Are you responsible for paying for what the kids need or does he contribute?
Also you have every right to be annoyed.
I am also a housewife but I’d never have had kids with a man like that. We have had joint accounts since we got married and call me old fashioned but that’s the way it should be if you are having the kids and staying home. You gave up your life to be a mom and housewife!
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No your not wrong. At least tell him what you feel.
Buy yourself something next time. I do when we go shopping because my guy isn’t a shop for someone else type
Never gave me a gift since the first year we got together.
Try to be a little happy he did take time to gift you something. Not to invalidate how you feel. Some of us women don’t get nothing.
I’m happy to have my guy in my life and I got him what he needed and he buys what he needs. I buy what I want so weighs out
I did not get one thing
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Chuck him in the bin hun or sell his organs for money and go get that machine
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He’s a man… He probably thought that what he got you was really nice … I’m pretty sure it wasn’t that deep…like all she does is cook and clean so lemme get her some supplies… If you want something from a man you have to let them know …like “hey … I’d love it if you put more thought into my gifts because I feel like…” I’m a sahm too but I also just really appreciate that my husband too the time out to get me something he thought I’d like… I got a blender and an air fryer… I guess he could be upset with me bc I got him some of the tool sets that go with the DeWalt kits he’s collecting and a jacket … So he could say the same thing you are " all she got me was household stuff and a necessary clothes item… But I really thought about it… he loves tools and uses them often and he didn’t need a jacket but I thought it looked like him when I scrolled past it. Just saying maybe he put more thought into it than you realize …maybe he thought he did good.
Take his card and go buy one… on him!
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Next Christmas get him household shit
A f’ing toaster??? Um, no! Just, no! Yes you can be upset!! My hubby never gets what I want. No clue why but he also never gets me household crap that involves more service to my family. He buys very nice things. Jewelry, perfume etc…
Just… no…
Prove a point, next birthday or holiday buy him a f’ing toaster or tire iron.
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Idk. I kind of understand the situation. For the longest time, I would make sure that I put in the effort or saving to get my husband something that he really wanted, or I know that he would really like. Only to literally get a pair of soft, fuzzy socks, and a pair of pajama shorts. Although I loved them, it still hurt me to see the lack of trying there. I think he saw it as, uh oh, last minute, I didn’t get her anything, let me run up to the dollar store. Lack of preparing. Like hey, would it really hurt, to put a little more effort into something. I was always so excited to get him the things he wanted, because it made me so happy, seeing the look on his face. We had a talk. He didn’t see anything wrong with it, but he did try harder, and now tries putting extra thought into gift giving. I also contemplated buying him some cheap ol stuff. Instead of going all out like I was. So I don’t think that you are actually upset, because you got a toaster, but maybe the lack of trying to really get you something that you would like and enjoy!
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I’m a single mom and bought myself gifts.
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I get where your coming from but they aren’t cheap and you’ll be asking for more and more with a Cricut. Unless you make a business out of it. Guys don’t think like that… I don’t expect much because every now and then he surprises me with something awesome. I would get a part time job and buy things for your self. I wanted a Columbia jacket, the other piece to my ring & super cute boots … I bought that sh*t wrapped it and opened it Xmas morning 
I put my self on a pedestal.
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Okay! Ungrateful, I don’t think so. People forgot what Christmas is all about! IT IS NOT about presents, is about Family. How your husband treats you after Xmas? You feel unappreciated, but how about his behavior as a husband and why y’all still together.
I haven’t read anything about how much y’all two love each other, you just mad because material wise, you put more value to a machine than your relationship as a whole. I don’t see it as being selfish, more like childish and poor financial management.
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Talk to him - he’s probably oblivious, too often the case unfortunately.
Okay I do t know how this works but I will put my interest first as a mother,the money I have I will buy that machine and will present novgift to him,I will just cook him good food as the gift for Christmas,the money he gives you for food keep asking for more and save for the machine
You have a right to be mad. You’re not being heard.
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What kind of husband buys their wife a toaster for Christmas 
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You have every right to feel how you feel.
You’re husband put no effort in to what was brought for you and when you open it you need to kindly remind him that this is household consumables not a personal gift that you had hoped for however you are grateful for what you’ve received just disappointed and you have every right to be. You need to be openly honest with your partner and the fact that you showed him what you wanted and brought him something personal that his interested in just hurts you more because you already voiced your opinion on what you wished for.
I hope he realises what it means to you and how you feel.
Big love mumma.
You know your worth.
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Girl my ol man has never bought me nothing 6 years and no birthday no Christmas nothing
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Return the gifts and his, and get yourself the cricut
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Be grateful he got you anything…
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You all got gifts? Anyway, were you clear about what you wanted on his level of understanding, and was it in his budget or available at the time? He could still be planning on getting it for you at a later date or occasion. If it’s an issue buy your gift next year or buy it for yourself when you can. I mean there’s a lot of factors to consider before you assume the worst but I don’t know him.
It won’t matter one day. It’s all just stuff that won’t have meaning later. I would try viewing it as at least he tried and your family was fortunate to be together to celebrate another year. It can all be taken away in a heartbeat. It may feel important to you now but will be insufficient in the end.
Also, communication and comprehension are key.
I write down what feels heavy and upsetting to me at the moment then leave it alone for a week or two. I’ll go back read how I felt in that moment and re-evaluate the situation. If it’s something that doesn’t matter to me anymore or won’t matter to me weeks later I toss it because it’s insufficient to hold onto but if it’s something that continues to upset me I’ll address it accordingly. I’ve learned a lot by doing this such as maybe there was a deeper reason for being unhappy over something small. Is it something you’ll still be thinking about a year from now? If not then I would just let it go.
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Your so lucky to get anything…my husband went years without getting anything…till my kids got older and told him he better get me something!!!
I never understand why adults tell one another exactly what they each want instead of buying it themselves. I like surprise gifts…not here’s the link get me this. My husband will send me links like that & I’ll brush it off & still surprise him with it. It’s annoying though:woman_facepalming:t4: But I still think that whole buy me this exact gift thing is weird. However, I might also slip a hint to my mother in law & she makes sure to guide him in the right direction for my gifts. My comment is completely unhelpful. 
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If the funds were available, I would have bought it and put it under the tree for me lol. My hubs is a good man, but sometimes needs help. Since I do 90% of the Christmas shopping, and sometimes buy my own gifts lol I would have just gotten it for me.
‘Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars’
A book that explains how different we truly are. We just don’t think alike.
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I feel like this could be easily solved. “Hey, baby. I love the gifts you got me and I’m going to use them, but could we possibly get a Cricut, too? I know you work hard for our family and sometimes money is short, but this is something I really want. I think we can budget it in and it’ll give me a nice hobby to do when I’m not taking care of the kids and the house.” Simple. Sweet. Problems solved.
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Return the 2 gifts and use the money towards what you want.
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I’m sorry but a toaster is not a gift unless it’s for a housewarming party. Try using apps where you can earn gift cards and then save enough doing that to get one, but it does suck he didn’t get it for you. I use ibotta and use what I get from that to buy things I want. Also, I’d make it known at this point that I peeped because I’d be livid to get a toaster as a gift.
Honestly some families don’t even have money for gifts my daughters best friends mom only bought her socks for Christmas and that’s a child. Christmas ain’t about adults first off it’s about the kids. Just let your husband know in a few weeks u will be purchasing what you asked for from your joint account. But to be honest I look forward to Christmas to see my kids happy. I could careless about what I get. I feel like people really forget the meaning of Christmas we are really such a materialistic society.
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I’d be pissed too. I wouldn’t do anything now but get something for yourself on the next gift giving time like Valentine’s day, get him something he didn’t ask for and that you would use since he got you a gift he’d be using that you didn’t want for Christmas. Just play karma until he learns how it feels and changes.
Hon when you go shopping you sh by the toaster and the blender those are household items not gifts number two if he really maybe didn’t understand or get it or know it just get it for yourself or on a Saturday take him to the store walk him through pick out five or six things that you like and that you would like to have this personal and go sit in the car and tell him you expect at least one or two of those gifts my husband and I didn’t get each other anything zip our birthdays are both in January and we’re not getting anything we have everything we need but we have priorities and we got for others as far as not getting a haircut in a year that’s on you if you need a haircut you go get it I’m 11 years older than my husband and I’m retired and there’s one thing that I have maintained is my hair and my nails I go to the thrift store I do keep wanting I shot myself etc but that’s one thing that I promised myself when I retired that I would keep up with we live in Ohio and we drove 4 hours to go to my sister-in-laws and have Christmas with them and then on Sunday we drove 2 hours from her house to the other part of Michigan where they grew up at to have a fellowship with family my brother-in-law rented a senior hall for us to do a carrion then we drove 4 hours home had a wonderful time a fellowship dinner laughing and talking it’s really not about the gifts it’s about being with each other and loving on each other my husband will say if you want it get it or I’ll say I really want something he’ll say well show it to me or just go ahead and pick it up of course he’s a truck driver and he’s going a lot I know your feelings are hurt but look at the bigger picture at least he was home with you for Christmas men sometimes just don’t get it like us women I hope things get better but as far as the tester and the blender that’s household items that’s not personal gifts and I get that part
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I would be angry and disappointed too. Really, a Blender and toaster,
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Lol I wanted one too, but no luck finding one
I get it. Its frustrating. My hubby and I decided to just do stockings for each other this year. On Christmas eve, he actually asked me if I bought the stuff for my own stocking lol. Tbh, I was crushed.
It sucks putting in a ton of effort and thought into someone else and then basically being forgotten about.
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Being disappointed is one thing but being angry is something different.
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I’m sorry but you sound like a child. You got some gifts, while they might not be what you wanted, you still got gifts. How would you react to yoir children if they behaved this way after they opened their gifts? Get over it.
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I’d be going out and getting me that cricut and in future be buying him things for the house, so then you’d get more use outta it… See how he likes it…
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Be grateful love.
I got nothing. I went out of my way to buy my partner gifts and he told me I should "Quote~ return them, because he doesn’t want them.
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It’s Christmas, kind of got to take what ya get. It’s ok to ask but you shouldn’t be pissed if you don’t get it.
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Get a job while the kids are in school and make some money to buy one. So many delivery services out there, you literally make your own hours.
My job isn’t a high paying job so I deliver food and groceries on the weekends and take my kid with me. It’s easy money. You could have your cricut in no time.
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I have learned that if I want something I straight out tell my husband cause he doesn’t get clues at all and its like they think cause we are women that we do all the shopping. Lol my husband can’t even order online without asking me how
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You sound childish. If it’s that big of a deal, talk to him about it… Or figure out a way to make some of your own money and buy one 
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I’d buy it myself - Happy New Year’s to YOU
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Be grateful. It’s Christmas. It’s a holiday of giving not getting.
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Ask him it might not have came due to delivery service AMAZON having a hard time getting presents before Christmas, might ask him .
I got nothing haha
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If I read correctly you’re a stay at home mom with no income- does that not indirectly mean HE brought his own gifts?
A Cricut with everything you need to get started is around $450 dollars +!
So also, unless my kids had $450 worth of stuff each I wouldn’t dream of asking for one- Christmas is about them
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,Just go buy one. I mean. If cost is a concern use after pay or affirm to make payments. Did you need a toaster and a blender?
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1st off Christmas is about your presence not your presents and 2nd my husband didn’t know what to get me. He hates shopping. I needed a new bookcase so l went and got it and that was my gift. Plus we get what we want/ need during the year.
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Communication is everything in a marriage. I’d start with telling him. If it’s really important to you, he deserves to know. In all honestly, unless I REALLY wanted a new blender and toaster, I would be pretty bummed too lol! I also feel like those are more like household expenses, rather than Christmas gifts.
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Wow. Y’all are really bashing her.
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If I want to get what I want for Christmas or my birthday I consult him on the finances but I buy it myself. For my birthday I ordered a $300 purse “from him” He bought me a puppy for Christmas but I asked him for the $1000, made the arrangements and went and got the puppy to make sure I got the one I wanted, when its something expensive and I have my heart set on it i dont leave it to him to probably get it wrong. Some guys just aren’t good at gift giving, mine wasn’t raised celebrating holidays, maybe he has a reason.
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Those are expensive. JS
I mean being disappointed is one thing, being angry over it is another. I get the frustration for sure. I have been a stay at home mom for 7 years. There were years where we got a couple of things for each other and there were years that we both got absolutely nothing because it meant more for the kids to have something rather than ourselves.
If it’s that big of a deal then tell him. Communication would help tremendously.
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You should have a discussion with your husband. Maybe he did get it and is hiding it. Maybe it didn’t arrive in time. Being angry is a little childish and if you can’t even communicate about something this simple, there’s something wrong.
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Return the blender and toaster and put the money towards the cricut. Also men never get you what you want.
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Return the blender and toaster and get what you really want.
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Just ask him for the receipt and take the 2 gifts back and get what you wanted… I mean I would… saves me from being unhappy… and you and everyone in your house gets what yous wanted…
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Next year .you each buy your own gifts
He’d be wearing that toaster. I seriously got a vacuum one year
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All the gaslighting from women in these comments is truly disappointing. She told him what she wanted, period. He got what he wanted and she got a toaster. I was a stay at home mom and one year my ex bought me a vacuum when I bought him what he wanted. Ask for the receipts and put it towards what you want. He’ll get it hopefully.
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Those aren’t gifts those are household items. I would return them if he has the receipts and put that money towards what you want. He needs to learn. What he did is pathetic . If he doesn’t i would find work outside of the home and make some decisions
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Go out and get a job so you have money…put your kid in daycare…
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You’re perfectly fine to feel how you feel!! Wait to see if there was a delivery hiccup or if he has your Maker stored away waiting to surprise you. If not, he is your husband talk to him and let him know how you feel. Basically, everything you told us plus more. I would be PISSED if I got a toaster or blender! Your feelings are VERY valid!! Don’t let these disappointing/rude women/mamas make you feel bad!!
Be grateful for what YOU did get I never get anything for Christmas or my birthday from my significant other even though I get lots for him it sucks but not going to be a baby about it as long as my children are happy that’s all that matters
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I’d be upset also but it’s the thought that counts I guess I got cheated on and left to take care of 3 kids alone while he plays daddy to 4 kids that ain’t his… but really just save up and get it yourself
My husband and I decided on only doing a couple gifts for each other this year because we had some unexpected issues that needed our attention over Christmas gifts. He was going to buy me an Xbox. I’ve been asking for one for years. Due to our decision about gifts he didn’t get it. Our finances are back on track and I asked him if I could buy myself one. We had a conversation about the finances and all the items he bought for himself throughout the year and he said yes of course you can. I wasn’t mad at him for not getting it. I would have been mad if he told me no after buying himself a $4,000 tonal work out machine on top of a bunch of other stuff throughout the year, even though we discussed those items and I gave him the okay at the time. It’s all about compromise and communication. Talk to him or he won’t know that you are upset or why.
Say something to HIM! Tell him everything you told us! Communication. Men need to be told over and over. I can’t tell you how many times I told my husband what I wanted and what he was getting me. I sent him a photo twice. I knew he hadn’t gotten it yet so the week of Christmas I kept asking when he was doing his shopping and told him what I wanted again. Sent a picture again. I’m a SAHM too. I also get my hair cut when I want. Speak up! His income is your income
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If you want it so bad just go out and purchase it for yourself.
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Normalize validating womens feelings even if they’re SAHMs who do not work!! These comments do not pass the vibe check. Wow. Household items are not individual gifts unless THATS WHAT THEY ASKED FOR. which she did not. If he wanted a new toaster he should’ve gotten himself one. Its not a gift for a mom cause she stays home. Ridiculous to think so. Men should do better and we should expect better.
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Get a job. Be independent. Having kids isn’t an excuse to stay home and depend on a man.
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Return his presents & get your cricut!
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All these comments 
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I understand your feelings. I can remember my EX never getting me ANYTHING. N O T H I N G
I’m like you a home mom and so I end up buying everything for everyone incidently I have to buy what I want for myself too even if its told to husband many times. Personally I feel it all boils down to the kind of relationship you have with him if this was done intentionally or unintentionally, after being married for 15 years I accepted it didn’t matter if he did it intentionally or untentionally if I want something that bad I will just go buy it with a grain of salt (if you know what mean) it’s extremely important for your mental health that you are happy content and satisfied in your union or your partnership with your partner, otherwise these things will just draw you apart in the long run. So the idea that other home based moms gave you and some other moms suggested to take up a job or something, these are all valid depending on what your partnership is about. I buy the stuff because I have the authority in my house to buy what I want, I do discuss with my husband and inform him and work around my budget, he on the other hand tells me if I’m upset that ‘you have the card buy what you want’, but expecting him to get it right all the time, well that’s up to you, how far you’ll go with it or what your partnerships about. I’d go buy my on Cricut and if I’m feeling dramatic I’d even have it wrapped too just for the theatrics and decide my Christmas is on 29th December😊
He gave you household items I would be upset too…But men are usually not well prepared thinkers when it comes to gifts…
I have been married for 30 years. I asked my husband to weigh in on this. He said men are basically programmed to do as little as possible or as much as you let them get away with. Return that toaster. Get the cricut.
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Perhaps he likes that you have to depend on him for money for everything therefore doesn’t want to buy something for you that you could possibly make some money off of. Return some of the stuff you got him and use that money on yourself.
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Tell him if you don’t he’ll think its fine and do similar next year
I never got anything from my ex either. For any occasion. He did once give me roses 4 my birthday on the rare occasion he was being a decent husband but he knew I hated roses. It was just an easy out 4 him cuz he remembered at the last minute. No thought put into it.
I got a toaster, a microwave, a blanket, and a pair of pajamas which he randomly grabbed while we were at the store cuz I said I liked them. I’ve given up on getting more personable gifts from him. I buy him whatever he asks for or wants and then some. Anymore I just go buy what I want if I want something. My kids bought me candles, wax melts, a fluffy pillow and a movie I like. I appreciate the gifts from him but sometimes I wish he would get me more personal things that are actually for ME. I’m sorry you didn’t what you wanted 
I understand your feelings and they are valid. I hope you can find a way to get what you want.
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Yes you’re wrong because Christmas isn’t even about gifts 
you’re a grown adult also how do you know it didn’t arrive yet like seriously grow up
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I always send pics to my hubby before Xmas and he’ll ask me to write a list which I never do as I don’t want anything. If I see something I like or Iv had but there’s a different brand And I want to try it I’ll then say oh I saw this today you could always get me that to try. He got me a bunny this year which is deffo WHAT I WANTED and I love him so much. Always speak up. Don’t hold back never feel like you don’t matter make him see
I tell my husband what I want he gives me the money if I don’t have it. Thats pretty selfish he got the nice smoker he wanted but you get a toaster. I’d be pissed off too household items are not gifts. That’s something everyone uses.
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Can you return the toaster and blender and put the money towards a cricut?
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Sock a little money away whenever you can, and buy it for yourself.
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Just because you want/ ask for it doesn’t mean you are entitled to get it.
Same thing I tell my kids. Start saving up to buy it to yourself 
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My SO always gets what I’ve been asking for most usually a new vaccum or rug cleaner those are my obsessions lol I agree I’d return both or sell them and get what you want
No your not selfish it’s once a year he never had to guess what you wanted you told him what you would like think it’s the least he could have done really
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All of these women in here commenting “get a job” should be ashamed of themselves. She probably just wanted to feel a little appreciation. Being a sahm IS a full time job. And a cricut is not $500+ for everything. My husband bought me the air and then some supplies for $300.
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