So the kids don’t need a home to sleep in? Or lights while they shower? Or heat in the middle of the winter?
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Sis yes you are wrong.
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Umm yeah he should be claiming all of you. Without everything he pays you wouldn’t be able to afford everything else. This is an insane question imo there’s no doubt about the answer here.
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Claim one each easy fix
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why even be in a relationship if you’re keeping up with who pays what. Seriously, this is a partnership. Hopefully he will see how selfish and petty you are and he will wise up and move on.
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Wow… Honey teamwork is what makes the dream work. Y’all sound like roommates more than a couple. 
Why not each claim one? Your man definitely provides for the kids too. This is petty.
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Why does it matter who claims if you’re ina relationship? The money is both of yours. Use it for things you need, not just want. If you are not together, both of you claim one child and move tf on. Sounds like y’all shouldn’t be together if you are. My boyfriend and I share our money and work as a team. What’s his is ours, what’s mine is ours. There’s no “you pay this and I pay this”… we both work, we both take care of the kids, we both couldn’t make it or do what we do without the other and to pretend like we could would be wrong.
You claim one he claims the other.
If y’all live together, and they are both of y’all’s kids, it’s going to be whoever claims them first lol honestly, he should be claiming head of household and claiming you and the kids though and then the money being for your household not “his money, my money”
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Wrong everything he pays is part of their expenses why not split them
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You’re being selfish all you stated he pays for Costs more than what you stated and if it’s his house he could very easily as you and your children to leave
Your kids wouldn’t have a house, or electric, water, etc. If he wasn’t paying it right? Jeez dude selfish AF. I don’t understand how some relationships aren’t a team.
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You thinks kids don’t use electric,water or need a roof over their head aka mortgage??
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He pays for the house and all utilities?? Baby that is for your kids! Without him then wouldn’t have a roof to sleep under, lights to see by, water to bathe with or a place to keep all the food you buy. He been there since they were born??? If so then yall either need to file together or you let him at least claim one. It’s really selfish to say he doesn’t provide for them the way you do…
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He should be claiming all of you it sounds like
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He is supporting all of you 
without everything he is stuck paying you and your kids would be homeless. I have so many things to say right now but everyone of them would get me banned.
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If you think a roof over you and your children’s head is not support…you need to reevaluate your living situation. Would you be able to pay all the things that you pay for relating to your children if you had to pay all those living expenses…sounds to me like you are living rent free. Maybe he should claim one and you claim one.
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He is paying for a roof over their heads… everything for a house to run plus some… he should claim them
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There’s two kids he claims one and you claim one. I don’t understand why people fight so bad over money that should be shared.
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Do you live with him and claim welfare as a roommate? I’m curious because that’s kind of what it sounds like…
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Sit down, add up what you pay out per month each. Whoever dishes out more should be getting the taxes really
You’re kidding right?!
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So, do the kids not live in the house? They don’t use the internet? Do you pay for the insurance on your car or is that included in the insurance he pays? 
You really need the people of social media to answer this because you honestly don’t see how ridiculous this is, do you? 
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Whew Chile, bless your heart. 
It appears that he pays the ALL of the household expenses which would make him head of the household according to the IRS. NEWSFLASH the bills that he pays are for the kids too. Y’all have 2 kids, why can’t you claim one and he claim one. You’re sounding real selfish and he’s better than me because I wouldn’t ask permission to claim kids that I help support financially. 
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Don’t you guys just split what you get evenly?
So if it weren’t for him your kids wouldn’t have a home, food, lights, water or internet!! Got it!! Stop being selfish and each claim one child!! Legally he would probably be able to claim them cause it’s really whoever pays the majority for expenses and all his bills are much bigger than gas money to get to the doctors and groceries
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Sounds like you’re spoiled rotten! He basically pays everything 
! Not understanding why you’re complaining
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Yeh because if he was single and alone he’d have to pay out the same for a 1 bedroom apartment and lights and crap when he’s hardly ever there. Petty af
Yes, you are wrong lol. Also, you have been together ten year’s m, why does it matter, you should both be getting some money, but mostly him.
My PARTNER and I, from the moment we started living together, decided one who claims who - if I’m working or he’s pulling the weight and we discuss with our tax prep person on what the best plan of action should be as far as filing and getting the most money back - and then we SHARE that money for bills home repair little big things we’ve been looking at for ourselves or for the kids.
Its a joke right!!!
No, just no. If he pays bills that benefit your children you let that man claim those kids.
Ridiculous!
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Yeah you’re the ass here.
Wow tax season really brings out the worst in women like what 
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Mortgage- Housing for the kids.
Car- To transport the kids.
Phone- Make calls to make appointments and everything else for kids.
Lights- So the kids can see and do their homework.
Internet- Kids are probably on playing games more than you or him.
Water- to bathe the kids.
Electric- Lights, for the kids, oven and stove to cook for the kids.
All of those bills have to do with the kids.
I’m sure the mortgage, car & car insurance, phone, internet, lights, water, and electric costs way more than daycare (as someone who works in a daycare), medical, clothing, and food. Whoever pays more (him) should absolutely claim the kids. Or here’s an idea that may have been too difficult for your brain, since there are two children, why don’t you each claim one. 
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I have so many things to day but I’ll probably get banned so I’ll keep it short and sweet. Bless your poor little heart.
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Sounds like he would put that money to good use. Lord knows what you need it for… not sorry. Be thankful you got a man that pays ALL the bills and doesn’t blow his checks on everything BUT you and the kids. Yall can both claim one. Grow up. And you said Mortgage? This man bought you a HOUSE?! MAM?!
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Girl…are you for real??! this man pays the majority of the bills, like, the most important ones, besides food, and you won’t let him claim his own kids on his taxes?? Wow:rofl: YES, you are 100% in the wrong. It doesn’t matter what we say tho, you’re still not going to let him claim his kids:woman_shrugging:t4:
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What a B let him claim one damn
Whattttt did I just read
Can’t u each claim one an call it a day 
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He pays ALL of the bills. HE is head of the household. Let him claim his kids and stop being petty.
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Split the kids. You claim one and he claims one. Or alternate years. It really shouldn’t be an argument. This is ridiculous.
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I don’t think any of those things matter. As long as y’all both caring for the kids. Y’all don’t take care of each other? I think the only factor I would use to determine who claims them would be who’d get the most money back by claiming them. Now if one parent isn’t involved at all it makes sense not to allow them to claim the child(ren) but if y’all are together then act like a team. The relationship seems unbalanced to me…
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Realistically you should each claim one but honestly from everything you’ve said he could practically claim YOU as a dependant soooo…
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He can claim them and yall split it…he is your bf so I assume yall reside in the same home.
So your kids don’t live in the house? Take baths? Use electricity? Use the internet? Everything he pays for is FOR the kids!!! You ARE wrong!!
There is no reason that he can’t claim the kids, you are just being selfish and greedy.
Maybe you guys should start claiming 1 child each. But if you honestly think that doesn’t do anything for the kids then maybe you shouldn’t be with him.
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I think I understand why he wants to claim the children, you seem to be one of those “his money is our money but my money is mine” types so I’m wondering if he wants to claim them because in the past when you’ve claimed them yhe money stayed in your pocket and not his. yall have been together 10 years and share 2 kids, if you’re finances aren’t joint thats very weird in my opinion
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You could you know, file together🤷 which is what you’d have to do if they’re not biologically his anyways, but you’ll get more back
They’re both y’all’s kids. Not just yours. No matter what he pays or doesn’t pay for (and I still believe he pays for more than you do). So the child credit should be divided between both of you. If I was the dad I’d take you to court because you can’t just decide not to give him anything of what’s also his.
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Woooow how do you feel okay with not allowing him to claim when they’re HIS KIDS TOO!? Its pretty selfish honestly. Yalls bills are for both of you. Yea you guys have them divided up in a way you both agreed but is that only bc you want to returns so you do the kid stuff??
Maybe you guys should swap yearly and see how you like paying all the major bills. And let him take care of the kid stuff.
This honestly shouldn’t even be an argument. You guys should swap, figure out who’d get more back or both claim one.
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Seems to me like he pays more for those kids then you do…
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You claim one and he claims one. It’s even that way
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He pays for children related expenses too. He pays for the house they live in. He pays the electricity to keep the lights on in the house and the children warm/cold. He pays for the water to bath them. A car to drive them around in. Car insurance to pay in case there is an accident. Sounds like you are the problem here not him. If they are both of your children, then you claim one and he claims the other.
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You are wrong. It’s the same mentality some non-custodial parents use with child support and it’s wrong.
I’m assuming that you have been claiming the kid(s) for the last 8 years if it’s only a question now. If you’re still filling separate returns, there are a few ways to make it “fair”. You can alternate years, you can each claim one…
Personally, I would look at every filing option to see what is most beneficial combined for your family and go with that. If it’s a situation where you each keep your own refunds, maybe work out a way to combine the total and “split” it or maybe find something to use it for that would benefit your family. But no matter how you look at it, he IS supporting the kids just like you and that is the bottom line
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He needs to run. Lol
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So the kids don’t live in the house, or take baths, or use lights…you claim one and he claims one and I kind of hope he finds someone else that appreciates what he does more then you do…
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If y’all all live together can y’all not file jointly and just split it. Or one child each.
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Boyfriend not father ppl
Is he the father of the kids or just your boyfriend and he is helping you raise them?
Everything he pays benefits the children so you both should claim a child.
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Why don’t you each claim one of them? That’s what me and my ex did for years
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He’s probably looking for a tax break so that he can get more money back. I don’t understand how your house works but being in a relationship for 10 years and having kids together why are you guys not filing together?
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Wow you would like those people who think child support shouldn’t be spend on bills like the kids don’t need all those things the dad pays for do y’all not live together and split money? If you aren’t married or living like you’re married after 10 years there’s a way bigger issue.
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So the mortgage he pays for where the kids sleep aint a child expense. You said you use your car whenever with the children. But also said he pays for the car and the car insurance that is used on the car you are driving with the kids. Also obviously the kids use electric water and whatever other utility he pays. So honestly by your reasons for why somobody should claim the children. He should 100% be claiming them
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He has been your bf for 10 years and your children are 8 and 5 is He the father?
Yea he may already have all those things but in turn those things would have to be provided for those kids by you if u guys ever split up…be thankful & allow him to file or at bare minimum half it with him…which from the sounds of it even that wouldn’t be fair to him at all but something is better than nothing…don’t be so shallow over monetary gain…it’s sad & got ya looking petty & pathetic
How do people like this, make it THIS far in life…?
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Poor sap. He needs to run as fast as he can away from you
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So mortgage, lights, water aren’t for the kids? Figure out who would get a bigger refund when claiming your kids, then split it. Or open a joint account and everything goes there. Or put the money into a savings for the kids. Lots of options.
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Why are you two not filing jointly to begin with? 10 years together and two kids later, y’all should have this figured out by now. Would you be able to support yourself and the two kids without him? All the things you pay for, could you take on all of the expenses he pays and still make it work? If that answer is no, then yes he sure is supporting you and the kids. Taking that away from him come tax time is really shytty of you.
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If he’s not the dad then no, if he is then split them.
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From what you wrote. You sound like a red flag. Selfish and self centered. Girl. Bye
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You both pay for things that are for the kiddos. I would say a split is a pretty fair thing. My money is my partners money. We are a unit whether a marriage license says so or not. I’m sure if you sit down and talk it will all work it’s self out. Or talk with someone who does taxes and see what they suggest.
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You sound like a very ungrateful female!!
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Each six months the other parent six months
Why does it matter if its going to the same household 
this is just silly
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Why don’t you claim one and let him claim one? Either way you both will spend the return together no matter who claims them…
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Do you and the kids live in the house use the water the lights
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You mean the father of your children provides for the kids all year, every year, and you refuse to allow him to claim them on his taxes? He should claim them one year, and you the next, and so on and so forth. If I were him I’d demand 4 years of income tax return from you too.
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I’m so weirded out about how some COUPLES and families handle finances. You live together and have 2 kids together and have been together for 10 years. You share the paying of the bills. Why are you splitting money like that calling those “his expenses” and your expenses? And why wouldn’t you share your tax return? You certainly are wrong. You have no more right to claim them than he does. You’re fooling yourself if you think mortgage and all those bills don’t have anything to do with the kids. How ignorant is that? Wow. This seems so ridiculous really. You’re a family. Whoever will get back tbe biggest return should be the one to claim the kids and then you use that money for your home and family needs. Hello. So weird. You think you need to claim the kids and what? keep all that money for yourself and say F him? How outrageous.
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We split I claim one he claims one
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Actually you’re wrong, paying utilities is part of taking care of the children 
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So have him not pay for the necessities and you are left with what? I’m certain he pays more than you do a month for the kids.
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Girl, did you really just say “mortgage, car & insurance, phone, internet, lights, water and electric. None of these are because of kids”!!! Do your kids use none of these things??? That is the most ignorant statement ever. If I were your man, I would run for the hills.
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Who ever pays the childcare should file them only because you get a deductible for the childcare expenses. But If you got the CTC advanced payments then you have to file them anyway. 
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Money hungry is what she is
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I am court ordered to only claim mine every other year. The years I claim them it’s a big return. The others it sucks. I get peanuts for child support and pay for everything. That’s the crazy court system. I agree with figuring out who would get the biggest return. At least you have a choice. Never let the courts have a say if can help it.
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Can you each claim one?
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Tell me you’re the toxic one without saying you’re the toxic one
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My parents switched every year on who claimed us in their taxes - I don’t see why that can’t happen
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How y’all been together a decade and this is still an issue. You’re a unit. Y’all should work together, not against each other.
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you’ve been together for 10 years have two kids and don’t just share the money?? i mean it’s cool i know everyone is different but my fiancé and i have two kids and been together 7 years and money is just “our” money at this point…
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Split the return he’s paying more than his share…me and my husband use to split it we don’t get much back as our kids are now grown
If its your boyfriend I am not understanding the question?
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Wow. Just wow. I’m SO curious how you guys have been together 10 years
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You get to claim one child each year and he claims one child each year.
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The kids don’t benefit from living in the house?
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This feels really petty 
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My bf & I each claim one kid each. I’m sorry but mortgage, electric etc are for the family (kids inculded) to have a warm safe place to sleep at night.
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