My boyfriend of 7 years and father of my 5 year old son is making crude comments about me hanging out with my male best friend. My male best friend has been my best friend for 15 years. When my boyfriend and I first got together we all hung out together pretty often and I loved it because they got along so well. Once I got pregnant my boyfriend would make comments about my best friend liking me and how it made him uncomfortable. With pregnancy hormones raging I ended up stopping contact with him. Once my son was born my best friend came to visit me while my boy friend was at work. When I called to tell him who stopped by my boyfriend flipped out on me and disappeared for 2 days. After that whole thing I once again stopped all contact with my best friend. Fast forward 2 years later my family threw a Halloween party. My boyfriend invited his friends so I asked my boyfriend if I could invite my best friend since I haven’t talked to him in so long. He agreed that he was over it with how he acted so I invited him. While me and my best friend were talking my boyfriend got hammered drunk and tried to fight my best friend for “talking to his girl”. It was embarrassing and at this point my best friend stopped talking to me and I didn’t blame him. Fast forward now about 2 more years. I find out my boyfriend is cheating on me, like a whole other relationship cheating and we split up. During this time I apologize to my best friend and we start hanging out more and more just like old times. My boyfriend starts begging for me back and does quite a lot to prove that he is sorry. We end up getting back together and went to couples therapy for 6 weeks. So I let him know that my best friend is a part of my life and he needs to get over it and that I was done cutting off people who are my support system. My boyfriend tells me my best friend likes me and that he is the whole problem of our issues. I told him it wasn’t fair that I have to give up a child hood friend just to make him happy. He is now gone and wants time to think about whether we should stay together or not. I let him go and said just know if you ask me to stop contact with my friend the answer is no. Now I’m sitting here like am I the a**hole?