I’m in Canada but I know if you have kids together and live together, you are considered common law and cannot claim kids on your taxes… it’s only for single parents.
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I let mine claim the kids .
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You are just selfish. 
Me an my husband file together
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You guys don’t share money? Either way, the head of household should claim any dependents. Whoever makes the most money. That’s how it works. And since the ctc is supposed to be for the kids that the two of you share, it shouldn’t be for just one of you to spend. So it doesn’t matter who gets it. You should either split it, or spend it on the kids.
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Kids do have water to drink and bath, they do have a warm place to sleep at night, they do get their clothes washed with water, they do ride in an insured car. quit playing games. He is paying alot to provide for those children and you. If you can’t marry the guy at least let him claim one child and you claim the other… petty… but why is marriage out of the question?
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So, I’m guessing you keep the finances different and not together, which is fine, lots of couples do. They’re your kids so you can claim them but please understand that every thing he pays for is for your children. Without the mortgage, where would they sleep? Without a car note and insurance how would you get from point A to B? Without a phone how would you make doctors appts? Without internet how do your kids watch TV? without lights, how do your children see? without water how do your children bathe? without electricity how do cook for your children?
They’re your kids so claim them, but you need to understand that everything he pays for is not just for himself, but takes care of everyone in that home.
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Why don’t you each take it in turns? Or each claim 1 child?
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Its would make sense for you to claim one and him to claim one.
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Yes u r wrong because he work to take care of u and them kids it doesn’t matter if u have a job or not. What does matter is he is taking care of his responsibility u need to get your head out of your ass and realize that
Girl you are silly as hell. Roof,lights, insurance and odds & ends is taking care of the kids. You do very minimal and yet you should file taxes on the kids,why? You are too much! 
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You’re a couple so it shouldn’t matter who pays more. Whoever is going to get a bigger.return with the kids should.claim.them or both claim.one. we always do whoever is going.to.get.the biggernretirm worh the kids claims them. We use the money to get the kids clothes and stuff anyway so it all goes back to them for the most part anyways.
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I claim our son because it’s more beneficial to both of us if I do. Without more context, it seems to me like you’re both being unreasonable.
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Not only wrong but stupid
Split it. 
“what’s mine is yours” right?
So you have a home, phone, internet, water and heat but your kids use none of it?
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I’d only have this problem with an ex. Even when I was not married yet, I always claimed them because we shared the finances and it didn’t matter because it all went into the same bank account. I’m sorry but in a real relationship, there’s no reason for division. If you have a hard time with 50/50 then how is a relationship a relationship 100%? Fair is fair. He also pays a majority of the finances and while you are paying daycare which can be costly, I agree with the first person who commented, then are you gonna live by yourself and pay all these bills yourself too? Because then that’s what should be happening. Incompatibility is what I smell.
Wow, if he didn’t pay all those bills you’d all be homeless.
You take one child, and he takes one.
Sharing is caring.
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Woooow… um… if I were your man I’d tell you to get the hell out. He’s paying that much out it would be cheaper to pay support
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Greedy much? Why can’t you both claim one child???
Mortgage for home of the children, electric the children use water the children use, car and insurance for the children to ride in… sorry but he does pay bills for what also benefits the children…
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Everything hes paying for is infact for them kids as well I think if your together and are working as a team the one that will get the most back should be the one claiming them? Or if you wanna be weird about it one claim one and the other claim the other…
Why aren’t you filing together?
Um if they live in the house and consume electricity water internet etc then yes its only fair he is compensated. You share responsibility and financial cost so why can’t he claim?
You both should have been filing together the moment you started living together and had a child together. Tax evasion much?
Nope, you are not in the wrong. He used your best friend as an excuse for his own guilt. Don’t lose your friends over a man that has no respect for you.
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You are definitely in the wrong !
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NTA. Your boyfriend is insecure. Your boyfriend has the problem. You had your friend long before your boyfriend. Keep the friend, really consider getting rid of the boyfriend.
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He cheats and blames you, you are 100% in the right and he is just trying to control you, don’t let him dictate your friends, good on your for standing up to him
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He’s the asshole! You were open about your bestie and he did the dirty on you completely. He needs to check himself and honestly you’d be better off without him imo x
Nope. He knew he was your friend from the start. Trying to cut you off from ANY support system proves that he doesn’t have YOUR best interests … I think you need to cut your BF off. He isn’t right for you. You deserve somebody who trusts, respects & loves you!!!
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Nope, the problem with your relationship was his second relationship. My ex cute out my close friends because they would point out his crap and help me see it how he was. That’s what they don’t like.
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Tell your “boy friend” to get lost. You don’t deserve his treatment - he is cheating on you and blaming you or your long time friend. You are NOT THE A–HOLE, your “boyfriend” is.
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NOT at all in the wrong!! That’s your childhood best friend… he wanted a reason to blame you so he could feel better for his “other” life… I’ll be damned if someone I was with told me I couldn’t talk to a childhood friend!!! Sarah Diveley
Who always has your back 
Don’t keep turning your back on them…
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Nope, not wrong. The BF needs to trust you. Without trust, there is no relationship.
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Yall have a toxic relationship. Time to let him go.
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But DOES your friend like you? He very well actually may be what’s causing your problems… You’re not the a for wanting to keep friends and not having to cut ties, but if it’s truly getting between your relationship then you’re going to have to pick one or the other. You’ve spent 7 years proving you guys can not compromise on this
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No, of course not.
Your ‘boyfriend’ is controlling and manipulative. Not to mention while he’s all hung up on your friends possible crush on you, he’s off with someone else.
Why would you keep humoring the fool?
This is your chance to completely get rid of him and live your life.
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Hes been cheating for a long time. « period , get rid of him
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No, you’re not wrong. Your best friend is just that if you say he is, period. Especially being friends for so long. Your boyfriend is just insecure and if he can’t get over that insecurity, he’s gotta go my boyfriend has a girl best friend, and he has known her since before we were together. At first I was a little suspicious about it, but I quickly got over it. They’re just best friends, period. Nothing wrong with it
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Never cut off any of your friends for any man. He’s been your friend for 15 years and through it all he remained your friend. He’s been your best friend long before you knew your boyfriend.
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Girl, you were right the first time. Throw that whole dude away. Keep the friend.
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no you’re not in the wrong at all!!
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You are not wrong! Never give up a true friendship for a relationship! As you have admitted your friend shows up when your boyfriend bails out. Keep your friend, loose the boy
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He’s a hypocritical narcissistic man child. He’s proven over n over He’s controlling, jealous and insecure. Not only that he’s the one who cheated. Time to cut ties with him relationship wise and only coparent… Live your life and be happy 
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Unless there was really reason for your S/O to be suspicious that you’re not including in your comment, it sounds like he was cheating the entire time and you only found out about the one. Guilty conscious is such a tattle tale. Your best friend doesn’t deserve any of it and I feel bad for him. If I were you, I would not give the boyfriend any more time to figure out if y’all should work it out… I would make that decision for him and move on. The whole thing sounds toxic and you shouldn’t be with someone who is so insecure and controlling that you can’t have friends. It is easier to abuse a person when they are alone. When they don’t have people that love them pointing out that they shouldn’t be treated the way their abuser is treating them. There is method to his madness honey. Get out while you can.
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He wants to do what he wants and wants you to do as your told sounds like!!! He’s not worth cutting your whole world out to please him!!!
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You are in the right! He needs to get over himself and let’s not forgot he cheated on you. Even if he does like you, he hadn’t acted on it in all these years and has proven to be trustworthy
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The accuser is the one who is doing the cheating so he might have been the entire time. He sounds like a douche and you sound like you need your friend so I’d pick the friend. Good luck.
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Nope! Clearly your friend is true and loyal…boyfriend is not
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You good. He wants to isolate you
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I’m afraid the social isolation abuse that he has subjected you to is a very serious thing and is the tip of his messed up iceberg, regardless of what you decide about him do not let him subject you to that manipulative abuse
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My ex husband was like this, meanwhile he was cheating. If your friend is still willing to be friends after all that he’s the one worth keeping. You’re boyfriend is projecting because he’s the cheater that doesn’t want to get cheated on. Mark my words he won’t stop cheating either.
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Do not cut your friendship with your best friend!! He was there way before you met your boyfriend so trust me as you know if you wanted to hook up with your best friend you had many years before you met the guy your with now you didn’t need to wait till you were in a relationship to get with your best friend!!! You’re not an asshole but you will be if you cut ties with your friend over someone who had a whole separate relationship behind your back! Don’t let him play you!! He’s trying to make you lose focus of what the real issue is here! It’s HIM and his cheating!!!
Sorry but what he’s doing isn’t ok and your friend deserves better as well as you!
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I agree with ditching him & keeping your best friend for 15 years! Your boyfriend done showed you his true colors by cheating & even though he showed proof at the time he has changed or is gonna change don’t mean it’s gonna stay that way cause evidently he’s just wanting to control you since it’s just over that one best friend. It sounds like to me HES the problem
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Don’t go back to a cheater girl. Best friends are forever and cheating boyfriends aren’t.
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No, you are not the asshole. Your boyfriend is the asshole.
Actually…let me add to my earlier post. Keep the best friend…lose the boyfriend. I forgot you mentioned he cheated on you. Insecure and immature. Move on.
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Drop your boyfriend. He sounds toxic, controlling, manipulative, and insecure
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Your male friend is loyal and your boyfriend is an asshat!
If he had a problem with it, he never should’ve dated a girl in the first place who had a male best friend.
I personally wouldn’t be able to date a guy who had such close girlfriends (probably not the best trait I have, I’ve been cheated on a lot by their “long time best girl friends.”) But I KNOW I’m not okay with it, so I wouldn’t even date someone who had such a close friendship.
In this case, he needs to get over himself. The fact HE cheated on YOU when he kept gaslighting you about your best friend is bullshit. I wouldn’t even take him back.
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Your lucky your friends given you the time of day for how often you cut him off it’s not like you have just met him 15 years to keep cutting him off must be extremely hurtful
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Don’t give up anyone for a man! Period! HE cheated on you! I wouldn’t have let him come back, once a cheater always a cheater! Your best friend may only forgive you so many times!
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His insecure and doesn’t trust you cos his the one cheating and thinks you will do the same
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So he’s blaming you having a male friend for HIS cheating? Tf kinda sense is that supposed to make?
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You are not the asshole x stay strong and don’t get isolated from anyone
He should have gapped long ago. We always feel obligated to ditch our friends! It’s so wrong.
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Boyfriend to the curb…Done!!
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Hell no you’re not!! My best friend is a guy (and my other best friend is his wife) but I was friends with him first and have been friends with him for 15 years. At the very beginning of our relationship my husband thought it was weird but the more he got to know my best friend the more he loved him just as I do. He is more than just a friend to me. He and his wife are my family, I would never allow a man to tell me who I could and couldn’t be friends with to start unless he had a damn good reason for it. Unless your best friend has openly made a move on you or made any romantic feeling known for you I see no reason for his actions
Nope! Sounds like you’re boyfriend has a guilty conscious and protecting on you what he has done. And also like you said cutting out your support system. Be very careful. Today is best friend, tomorrow is the friend that Aaron’s too much, next is the sibling that doesn’t mind their business, then parents because they don’t like him.
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Don’t let him control you like that…
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You are NOT in the wrong. He is insecure and jealous. Leave his butt and keep the best friend.
You’re not the asshole. Keep the best friend
If your best friend has been curbed this many times and still wants to be friends with you, even after the stuff your boyfriend has said and done. Drop the boyfriend. He’s controlling and super manipulative. Plus, HE cheated. Not you. Usually the accuser is the cheater.
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You’re lucky your friend keeps taking you back after you keep letting a toxic bf control you. I honestly wouldn’t have after the second or third time you dropped communication. Either permanently leave your friend alone or grow a pair and stand up to your bf.
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No. It’s not YOUR fault he’s insecure. Cut him loose. He’s manipulating you using your relationship because he’s insecure about your best friend. Next, he’ll be using your child to manipulate you. This is TOXIC AF.
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Bye boyfriend he has to go
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So he made you give up your best friend then had a whole relationship on the side. Did he make you feel crazy? Like it was your fault? He sounds like a complete asshole and (sorry in advance) you are stupid to let him back. He didn’t just get drunk with the guys and have a one night stand cuz you guys were fighting. He had another relationship. Saw the same female over and over. Slept with both of you at the same time. Telling you both what you wanted to hear… so no NTA 
Boyfriend needs to be dumped
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I say you both are TA. Him for cheating. There was 0 excuse for that. But you because he asked you to not be friends with someone he didn’t feel comfortable being around and you did anyways. But that’s me.
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You deserve better. Id never ever give up my best friend for anyone. You have every right to stand your ground. He’s also a cheater so I wouldnt even bother with him unless it’s got to do with your child.
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I’ve been best friends with my friend Cameron since we were 4,5 years old. If my boyfriend EVER tells me to cut him off, I’m cutting my boyfriend off.
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Your best friend isn’t the issue and you are very lucky he still even wants to be friends with, after all the times you pushed him aside. The only problem with your relationship is your boyfriend and zero trust for you when he’s the one that cheated. Get rid of his tail.
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Hmmm.
15 years vs 7 years.
I know which one I’m choosing…
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You’re not the asshole now but you were at first. 
he expressed he was uncomfortable and you kept pushing it. Sounds to me neither of you respect the relationship at all! Idc how sorry he was for cheating he had no right to just try and blame it on you, he clearly insecure and it’s not up to you to have to fix it. Do what you feel is best for YOU.
Bang your best friend
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If your male best friend has never overstepped there is absolutely no reason he should act that way. He needs to be put in his place.
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Some of these comments seriously do not pass the vibe check.
No, you aren’t the asshole. Your boyfriend sounds immature, selfish, and like he has only one place in your life as the father of your child/paying support to your child. He sounds absolutely toxic.
Why should you have to give up your best friend of 15+ years because of him? If you and your friend have done nothing to cause suspicion, I see no reason to end the friendship. Especially if (and I do mean if) this friend liked you, and you liked them back, you wouldn’t waste time with your boyfriend, you’d be with them.
Your best friend sounds great, and you’re lucky he still wants to be in your life after pushing him to the side so much and allowing your boyfriend to get in the way of that relationship. I’d be cutting off the boyfriend if they ever wanted me to cut out a friendship of 15+ years.
Your not an asshole cut him loose. He messed up and has issues from. Big sign a guy is seeing someone behind your back is when they want you to stop being friends with someone you known since you were a kid. Don’t give him that power over you, I did that with my ex and in the end lost friends and ended up with a broken shoulder.
Nah he’s a dick. Also together 7 years with a 5 year old and acting like you might be cheating with your friend? He’s too insecure. He’s manipulative. Find someone who will embrace your whole life, not just what suits them.
Hell no you’re not. People who are cheating ALWAYS project like this because their guilty conscience makes them think everyone is a piece of 
with no morals like them.
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I would end things with your boyfriend once and for all. He is the one that needs to go.
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I have a guy best friend hes like my brother and i have had relationships where the guy has tried to get me to get rid of him i will always pick my best mate over a guy as i know he will always be their for me and if i cant find a guy who can understand my best mate is here to stay then i guess il stay single.
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Your boyfriend is an insecure little boy and it’s a him problem not a you problem. You’re better off without him! Been with my man for 12 years and not one time has he accused me of doing anything inappropriate with any of my male friends.
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You’re not the a hole. The only reason your boyfriend is so insecure about your male friend is because he’s the one cheating.
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Been there, done that… male best friend and I are still friends and ex is, ex… he’s trying to project his issues on you… your best friend is a threat because he is weak and girls are threats… you’re not in the wrong in any form… kudos for the bestie for sticking with you though, feelings or not… once a cheater, always a cheater, and you’re better off with the best friend than with bf
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Oh frig girl, ditch his sorry ass and hang on to your bestie. Never choose a guy over your best friend, they’ll always be there but boyfriends come and go. I’d have kicked his sorry ass to the curb years ago, look at all the years you lost with your best friend because of that loser.