So I have a problem, and I need advice. About a year ago, we were at a festival my husband’s co-worker comes and gives him a full-body hug. Which to me, is inappropriate, but ok, I let it go. So a couple of months later we are at my husband’s company party. My husband goes to talk to this same girl and a couple that is at her table. I get the kid’s tokens done, and we go up to the table to get my husband. The girl then tells me very rudely, “who are you?” My husband says nothing and then doesn’t believe me until my daughter tells him about it. Then he chooses to acknowledge it. So fast forward to a year later. He still works with this woman and took a cup order for her. When I first asked him who the cup was for, he simply said someone at work. I feel like he knew it was gonna bother me. Am I overreacting?
I’d definitely be wondering what’s going on…especially when he didn’t introduce you…
He sounds like an arsehole
Hell NO! You aren’t! She should not be hugging your husband, PERIOD! Then to be rude to you!!!
What does your gut tell you? She should know who you are without an introduction but he should have checked that. I would’ve gone off about the first hug I saw.
If my husband acted like that it would not be good for him…
No bc if she knew he was married or had a wife she wouldn’t have asked rudely who you were.
I see both sides, at first, a hug I would say that’s an overeaction x my partner and I hug our flame and make friends and it doesn’t matter but he didn’t stick up for you and this women doesn’t no about you etc, that seems a bit fishy, I would ask more or start digging yourself
If he didn’t introduce you, ask questions!
Yeah you have a tight to feel this way.
I can’t say your overreacting. She definitely sounds like a problem and either he lied because he knows how you feel about her or he’s guilty. No excuse in my opinion. If your spouse tells you that someone is up to no good you leave them be
I had been dating a guy for a few years. I met his work mates, he didn’t introduce me, so I did instead “I’m Claire, his gf” as soon as I said that, the shock on their face told me all. He has clearly been flirting with others and acting single. I suggest you find that wedding ring and put that bloody thing on his finger and personally with her tone of voice, I would of replied “His wife and you are?” Has he bought anything anyone else presents at work? Yeah trust your gut girl.
He’s either cheating or about to cheat. I used to let things like full body hugs go too. That was not the right thing to do. Where it stinks, there are cheating fish. JMO
No you’re not over reacting, if it was nothing he wouldn’t be trying to hide it.
At that moment when she hugged your husband you should’ve have said something, and you should say something
He may be trying to get with or he is. You need to find out more.
Never ignore your intuition.
Trust your gut girl.
Oh yea he either cheated already or really likes this girl and working
Towards it
I would’ve stopped that at him not putting her in her place when she asked who i was…
It’s difficult not to be overly suspicious of everything and also not to be naive at the same time. If something feels off it generally is. Always go with your gut and do a bit of investigation if needed and also… stand up for yourself! Dont take the shit
Definitely not crazy. Look my husband retired as a cop and an Army LTC so there were different females around all the time. I befriended many of them but there was this one b*tch!! First time meeting her was at a formal event. When she saw me with him she kept staring at me with a look of disgust. At the time I was covered in tattoos and had a pink Mohawk. I smelled her shit a mile away so I spent the next few hours being as close to her as possible until I got her alone and leaned in and whispered this and it’s no lie
Unless you want to be found hanging from a noose made of your own bowels find someone else bitch. I wish I could have taken a picture of her face. He waaaaay outranked her and from then on I got ma’am sandwiches when I was around her. One of my husbands superiors was a female that I got along with sooooo well and when she found out she watched the bitch. Pays to have friends pays more to know how to install a healthy dose of fear with just words.
Some people are huggers,but I would be wary of him not saying that’s my wife when she asked who you are
If your spidey sense is talking to you, you should listen.
Next time offer To go for the coffee and put laxatives in there’s 
Nope not at all. Sounds quite suspicious…
Now days people don’t take relationships seriously! No man should ever make another women that comfortable with him if something hasn’t or did go on. If she has any respect she would have talked to you and your husband! Girl do what’s best for you and keep your head up because your worth is so much more than a heart ache!
Nope. You are not. I would be livid.
if he did not tell her who you were when she asked there’s s reason and no you’re not over reacting
Honestly something is up
It’s never nothing
Now full blown affair I don’t know
Casual flirtation maybe ?
You have to ask yourself are you willing to find out ?
And if so what will you do about it
And then go from there to the next step
In my opinion, even if she is after your husband, you should trust him enough to turn her down.
Sounds like they’re having an affair.
Not one bit. Trust your gut instincts.
Fishy…been through the same with my husband…late night and early morning phone calls or texts and certain nicknames…my gut told me he was fooling around and low and behold my gut was right… You’re not over reacting…you need to ask more questions and find out his reactions…like I said trust your gut it’s never wrong
trust your intuition it never lies
That’s his work wife.
What is the significance of a cup order?
The second she full on body hugged… I would have introduced myself to this woman as his wife. Later that evening in the privacy of our home I would explain how uncomfortable it made me. Follow your gut. Not your head. Not your heart. Your gut. Always 
I’d be worried not only about this disgusting woman and her rudeness towards you… I’d be more worried about your husbands reactions and body language it take 2 people to cheat and I’m so sorry to say this but maybe this disgusting woman had no idea he was married who knows what he had told her… that does not excuse her rudeness tho and if your gut feeling is telling you something doesn’t feel right I’d be listening to it as it’s usually right!!! I’d be confronting your husband and tell him you want the truth no bullshit you deserve that and by the sounds of it he sounds like an arsehole for not even pulling her up and saying this is my wife !!! That was the red flag right there !!!
Please don’t let this slide you deserve nothing but happiness and truth Goodluck 
I would have put her in her place at the time she had her hands on my husband. There would have been a CLEAR introduction. If she didn’t get it THEN, when she asked who the fuck you were you should have laid the blame squarely where it should have been- YOUR HUSBAND. Why doesn’t she know who you are when clearly you show up. That’s his fault and he is hiding something.
Not overreacting, something doesn’t sound right. Follow ur gut.
Even if it’s just an emotional affair, emotional affairs are worse sometimes. You must talk to him about it and get it resolved. Or your marriage will probably go down. From someone who knows.
Id be pissed. End that shit
So … No trust and youre married why?
Instinct is one thing but remember right or wrong you must be ready to deal with the response.
No. You need to show up at his work unannounced. Read the signs of a cheater!
No trust your instinct
Red flags , maybe emotional affair but he is hiding some thing . Be ready to deal with what you find out
Nope sounds very sketchy
All very strange to me reading this…something has already happened… is happening… or about to…all very cosy for a work colleague …read your own gut instincts…they are usually right
You need to talk to him about this. Not a casual discussion but an uninterrupted one on one sit down and let it all out discussion.
No you are right to be suspicious but I will honestly tell you this. What can you do? If he decides to have an inappropriate relationship with this woman can you stop it. It could be that he likes the attention she is providing and quit possible that nothing has happen. Next time she asks who you are introduce yourself but do it in a non aggressive matter. You also have to analyze what will you do if you do prove your suspicions are more than that. Do not act without a plan or a solution
Not at all. What might not be a huge deal for me might mean everything to you. This clearly bothers you and it must be for a reason. Follow your gut always
Also curious what response was given when she asked who you were . I would have let her know exactly who I was.
Oh… heeeeellllll no…
first that hug… it wouldn’t even had happened… especially in front of me and especially I don’t know the chick…
second… she wouldn’t even utter anything of who are you because of who am I would have already been established… and if she knew and tried to be petty husband would most definitely said who the hell I am…
and third… as far as husband trying to get something for another female? Not fucking happening … and if so I would know and it would have to get my approval… there’s a thing called respect… and all that was mentioned showed plain as day that there is no respect for you… at all… Betta sit down husband and have a talk and also prepare yourself to may have to move forward in life without him… know your worth… and don’t take anything less…
You need to look into this ASAP, find a reason to turn up at the job and make it very important too, make sure you present yourself as HIS WIFE and watch the reactions received. Also try to become friendly with someone that works there too, 
to also get the gossip.
First Im sure there is more to all this. From what was posted, it seems to be lack of communication and openness between you and your spouse. Both husband and wife are to actively protect their relationship, neither of you seem to be actively doing this.
No wife should be threatened by another female in their husband’s life. The husband should have established clear and strong boundaries.
If you felt uncomfortable, uneasy, you should speak up. If this woman is his work wife as someone said, you should know her well. He would be talking about work, you two would be sharing jokes, etc.
Communication, boundaries, and trust are all in question here. Possibly fidelity too. If you or your partner hides feelings or emotions from each other, you’re not truly partners.
Nope, trust your gut. This isn’t about trust its s total lack of respect from your husband. If it was mine id kick his backside and remind him that if you did that to him how would he feel. I would also pay a visit to the girl in question about personal space boundaries with married men and that if it happens again she must be prepared for the consequences.
Somethings up… trust your gut!!!
Nope. Look into it, but be prepared for what you might find out. Don’t confront until you have proof.
A women’s intuition is hardly ever wrong!!!
Why is this person asking who she is ? Why isnt her husband introducing her hmm somethings very off
I was in a situation once where me and my fiance (we both worked at the same store but different locations he was 5 miles away) was dealing with this one blonde bimbo. She would always come into his store. Well his store didnt have something that we had at mine. So she came to my store and she was like (oh he said it might be here blah blah blah) well we got into this discussion and i mentioned he was my fiance and she was all like “oh ive been going to see him every day he never once mentioned u” oooooooh I was pissed!!! And of course i brought it up to him. Come to find out she was full of shit amd she was just trying to get me goin…it worked lol i almost punched out that day just to end up in jail
Girl that’s his work wife and he cheatin
If you are asking, you already know.
No. Something is fishy.
Gut instinct stayed with us for a reason. If it wasn’t worth taking note of we would of evolved without it.
No your not and your hubby an asshole for not standing up and telling you the truth
For her to ask who are you I surely hope you told her. I’ve heard of work wives but it seems like she is to comfortable.
If I was asked “who are you” and my husband didn’t answer, I would say in a loud voice “I’m his wife, who are YOU?” My ex had emotional affairs and trust me they do as much damage as physical affairs. That’s why he’s my ex.
Your husband is rude for treating you that way in front of his co workers to start with
That should be enough to be completely pissed off it’s bloody rude your his wife
His friend
Is that how he would treat his friends and that’s the example he is setting to your kids
I’m sorry you’re going through this that’s so bloody painful
Ahhh No. thats messed up. Hubby needs a slap on the head for not saying thats my wife & that W itch needs a but kicking. I think u need to tell him how you r feeling. So not cool
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Clearly your not leaving so just let him do him, if you need to question his actions , her actions then you already have your answer
A year ? And your still there …ok
No you are not . I was in a very similar situation and they were having an affair . Go with your intuition . It’s never wrong . This woman is after your husband .
Based on the info given, your reaction is justified.
intuition is usually always right.
No, full body hug was the first wrong!!!
For him not to introduce you as his wife…Big Red Flag! He is likely lying who you are to her. My ex cheated with two women at my sons birthday party. One woman (Martina) brought her son, and was friends with my son in school. The other woman (Jackie) was there with him and came with him. My ex was telling Martina that Jackie was his Sister, and even had my kids calling her Aunt Jackie!! Well his master plan blew up when Martina went over to Jackie and said “So you’re Rob’s Sister?”…and Jackie said “No, I’m his girlfriend!”…well I’m surprised how well these two kept their cool not to ruin my sons birthday party. Guess my ex had to come up with the Aunt Jackie name, since Martina and my ex were couching my sons soccer team at age 7.
Either this woman is blind, or he is telling her one heck of a story who you are.
Nope! That’s your gut intuition telling you!
Sounds to me your husband isn’t telling the other woman the whole truth… I would kindy explain to your husband thats inappropriate and woman better know he is married.
Save some money and hang in there until you have a plan and can afford to leave. Something is going on there.
I have someone at work that everyone jokingly calls my work husband…including my own husband. I’m married, he’s married and we’ve all met each other a handful of times.
With that said…I am ALWAYS very respectful of his wife and he is always very respectful of my husband. We are just good friends, nothing more.
I would never ever want his wife to feel what you are feeling so I speak with her every time I see her. I’ve made things for their kids. I’ve given her things my kid don’t use anymore. There is never any time I don’t acknowledge her…ever.
I feel like this is a suspicious situation. If she knows your husband like that she knew who you were. She was just being catty. And like others have said your husband should have spoken up. I’d look into it if I were you. Sorry. Also…I would never ever “full body hug” another man. Especially when he has a wife.
It says that they are, at the very least, sharing intimacies (not necessarily sexual) that he should reserve for you, his wife. She shouldn’t be taking a wifely role in his life and he shouldn’t be taking the husbandly role with her. They are a “work couple”. They need to both have a “come to Jesus” moment.
He’s absolutely positively up to something. Get to the bottom of it. I don’t sugar code anything. People suck and they’re sneaky! Plus no female is rude like that off the bat for no reason- ever-
You definitely are not overreacting Something is not right I would have put her in her place when she asked who I was
He’s not a very good cheater if you ask me. She knew exactly who you are and has him by the balls. Do you have children together?
You’re not overreacting at all. My husband cheated on me with a girl we worked with that he swore was just a friend. If it feels wrong in your gut, trust yourself!
Your intuition is leading you…I used to be ’ its not her, she doesn’t owe me’ I have changed, some women are predatory and don’t care if he has a wife or kids… Of course he’s the main prick in this, but I’d be telling her to back the fuck off too… Sorry for swearing…this behaviour is tired and cliched, men are stupid…Im so bitter I curdle milk… Lol… x
They’re are some females , that literally thrive on getting the attention of married men! My guess is that she is playing a game on you, but it seems he’s being naive or complicate with her behavior because he enjoys the attention.
Definitely NOT overreacting!
Your husband has more than a normal co-worker relationship going on with this lady.
Sending hugs and strength!
If a woman came up and gave my husband a “full body hug” , I’m confident he would stop her in the midst of it. Of course then he would look at me to see how close I was to killing her. 
Its not ok and I think you feel it.
If she is a constant issue. She’s an issue…
You already know the answer and that cup would have a choice word about her on it
Something is up … when your gut tells you there is something going on there always is … get to the bottom of it. I would’ve left when the women asked who you were abs he didn’t answer .
Red flag alert !!!
If it bothers you then it’s a problem
And you should discuss it with your husband
No you are not over reacting. Follow your intuition.
He needs to be waaaaay more transparent when it comes to the coworker. If he doesn’t give you Clarity where coworkers are concerned. Go over his head, and ask God for Clarity in regards to husband and coworkers.
Don’t ask ur husband … probably won’t get the truth. Go away with a few girls for a weekend and … sneak back 
You are not overreacting at all.