You should definitely leave.
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You teach others how to treat you by what you will and will not tolerate and you are tolerating this behavior. Leave, know your worth and leave.
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I’d be out, something is up.
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- Never sell urs to move into his and pay the bills
- He has no respect for YOU
- Get ur kids and RUN like hell
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You have two kids honestly does not need that drama. You are mother who stay this disrespectful relationship too long. If continue to stay you are showing your kids is good to be this type of relationship that normal. You have two kids ,yourself and third on the way all you need to move forward.
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He leaves and stays all night and day and will not tell you anything. You really don’t have him to begin with. Get someone you know or check resources where you live and move on.
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Time to pack up & move on. He’s obviously showing major signs of not wanting to be “tied down”. He wants his cake & eat it too - do what he wants, when he wants, how he wants & with who he wants… but have you right there at home waiting on him when he decides to show back up. He knows ur stuck at home which is exactly why he won’t fix ur car… then you’d have a way to go, which includes checking up on him. And he doesn’t want that. If he was a MAN, he’d be at hone with you, helping you & getting ur car fixed. He shouldn’t be leaving u stranded at home w/2 kids + 1 on the way (living in the middle of nowhere) & no way to go‼️ He’s not worth ur time!
Just my honest opinion, but id have ALL my 
& be gone… YESTERDAY:bangbang:
Prayers & best of luck to u & ur babies!
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Oh for God’s sake, you have been with him for only 10 months, are 8 months pregnant and he is just out doing whatever!!! Where the hell is your brain? Get out now!!!
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He sounds like a giant immature child.
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if a guy wants to be with and around you, he WILL do what it takes… you guys moved too fast… you said you’ve been together 10 months(so not even a year) and you’re already 8 months pregnant… you were only together 2 months before you got pregnant… you guys don’t know each other that well… regardless what anyone thinks 2 months is not enough time to know someone… and yall are living together already… that’s overwhelming… think of it like this: this is his first child and your 3rd, he went from being single to you plus 2, now theres another little one coming… I’m not saying you are or aren’t over reacting… I’m just saying this is not new to you so put yourself in his shoes… things that happen fast end fast usually
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Gone for days and you can’t get a hold of him? And it happens a lot? That’s NOT a man who wants a family. That’s a child - complete BS. Read what you wrote. Then pack.
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I’d bounce…tbh I wouldn’t have let him get me pregnant to begin with because look at the situation your in now. I’m not judging but damn girl. Stop picking these losers
You’re tolerating stuff already that is not acceptable who wants a boyfriend that’s bare minimum hell no
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People don’t change so don’t expect that. We as women expect that shit to much and want to change the guy. He won’t change cause we want them to. Being that you got pregnant so soon after you guys started dating you had no time to really know each other. You never see the true person right away. Its always a fake persona during that honey moon stage. Did you think he would just become that prince because you got pregnant? You want to go just go.
You said you made it clear what you will/won’t tolerate. Seems like you have your answer.
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It will probably never change! He sounds pretty self centered ! I wish you the best! If you can make it on your own you should go now!
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Obviously…you’ll feel annoyed. Seems like the novelty is over and his twisted behaviour is highlighted…
Get support from a counsellor and/or your lawyer and decide your next move, wisely, asap .
Some time away is healthy. Be capable of living without him being there all the time & get a babysitter so you can do your thing. Learn how to really love being with yourself. A partner is not there to fill an empty space. An effective solution for being lonely is find your sister circle!! Be with your girlfriends. Practice your passions. Take walks. PLAY with your children as much as possible. Get wild in nature! Go camping. Get in water. Listen to calming meditation music and quiet the worries. The children are young—if this guy isn’t interested in you, then figure out how to co-parent and stop dating. Date yourself instead. Love yourself so much, you don’t need anyone else in your life. At eight months pregnant, you are gonna feel all the feels. Be patient with the process and don’t worry—cortisol is bad for baby. If you can figure out how to quiet your mind, the rest of your life and the lives of your children will be better for it.
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You need to go and get your own place and leave him with it . Responsibility is definitely not the top of his to do list . Secrecy will kill any relationship . If everything was above board he’d be telling you what he’s doing . The writing is clearly on the wall .
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You need to grow up first. Then handle your own life.
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He wants to have his fun while you takea care of everything call someone to come see what’s wrong with your car get it fixed and maybe think about booting him out. Your doing it all by yourself why do you really need someone around who doesn’t have time for you or your kids? He’s there for place to sleep,eat and have his laundry done.Ooppps it’s his place. Stop work on new house and find an apartment or house of your own.
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sounds like you’re in a relationship with a man child.
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This is a no no no post.
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Start planning your exit now
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You need to pack your bags & kids and move on
If he’s treating you like this now , it’s probably just going to get worse
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I commented then scrolled on down my page and this popped up a lot of truth
A bottle of water in the supermarket is worth around 50 cents. The same bottle at a gas station or in a bar costs $2.00, In a good restaurant or hotel it can be worth up to $3.00, at an airport or on the plane, up to $5.00 can be charged.
The bottle & the brand are the same, the only thing that changes is the place. Each place gives a different value to the same product. When you feel null, that you are worth nothing, when everyone around you belittles you, “Change Places”. Do not stay there! Have the courage to change the scene and go to a place where you are given the value you deserve and are considered what you are. Surround yourself with people who really appreciate you & your worth. This goes for work & your home life. Don’t settle for less!
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Don’t tolerate anymore
Don’t tolerate it. Know your worth:pray:
some ppl never change and we have to accept that
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So stop worrying and do you and your kids.
I wouldn’t tolerate that
Nothing is going to change once the baby is born except he’ll be gone more. Think about yourself and your babies.
Wtf why would u sell u and ur kids home to move in with a BOYFRIEND?! That ain’t nobody to you smfh!
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Looks like you got your self into a pickle! Look a your Future w him! Does not look good!
When you buy the cow you get the milk for free. In other words you gave yourself to freely . You never made him respect you. Think about it stop shaking up
Pack up and leave just like he does. No call nothing! Move on with your life. He does not respect you or your “relationship”. He got what he wanted and that’s about it. You are not over reacting at all. He is running all over you. Someone who loves and cares about you and wants a family with you would not do any of this. I wish you the best.
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Red flag when you said your vehicle needed to be fixed - dang girl you got babies at home and what if something happened to them and you needed to jet to the hospital bc there was no time to wait - this dude is a piece of work and don’t give two shots about you or the kids and evidentally not the baby you are carrying either - get your car fixed and get out before you can’t and to be 8mths. pregnant and you’ve only been with him 10mths. you really never knew him at all girl…good luck in whatever decision you make but think about those babies when you make it.
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Leave. My ex was exactly like that to the T. He was out cheating. I left.
Why did you sell the house?
Im going to make this short and not pretty! You’ve been with him 10 months and you’re 8 months pregnant??? That was mistake #1!!! Mistake #2 was selling your other two kids home!!! Mistake #3 is you thinking he’s going to change when the baby comes.
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It’s not going to change once the baby comes. He’ll get pissed when you ask for any help or diapers or wipes or something the baby needs. You’re better off leaving. You don’t need to be stressed about where he is when you’re trying to take care of kids.