I treat my sons two boys from previous exactly as my grandsons no difference from the two of my daughters
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I’m sure they weren’t trying to be mean but I would mention it hurts your feelings.
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Technically your child isn’t their first grandchild. They could just no realizing they are saying that in front of you and that it would hurt your feelings. But you can’t get mad at them.
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I have this with my partners family and now they do have a real grandchild we’ve been pushed aside its awful, causing so many problems 
Most of these comments are so disappointing. If he raised your child it is not their first grandchild. I would be upset as well. My so has raised my oldest daughter since she was 7 months old, she’s 3 now. We have a 1 year old daughter together and neither sides of the family (my so’s and my oldest daughter’s family) has ever said anything like this and has always treated both of our girls 100% the same. My oldest daughters grandparents and aunts even came to gender reveals/ baby showers for my youngest daughter.
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You are NOT Overreacting
This is heartbreaking 
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You’re not overreacting at all. Even mentioning it to them most likely won’t change anything at all either I went through this for 8yrs with my exes family then he banned us from contacting any of them.
Lets them know this will not be tolerated be a mama bear
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I have a child from a previous relationship and I wouldn’t allow my In laws around if they didn’t include my oldest son…. Especially if they’ve been calling themselves grandparents all this time and then now that he’s having a bio child saying they’re finally going to be grandparents…. That wouldn’t work for me!!
When my In Laws talk about the grandchildren my oldest (who also happens to be the oldest grandchild) is ALWAYS included
I would have a serious conversation with your boyfriend and his parents about how it makes you feel and about how it can make the child feel
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Been there. Stayed away. No need to deal with it.
That’s heartbreaking 
Your over reacting. Your child isn’t biologically their grand child. And if you and their son break up. They won’t be treating your kid as if they were
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I wouldn’t like it if they said in front of my child but as long as they treat the child like family and don’t say things in front then don’t worry
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Nope not over reacting my husband and i met when my daughter was 7m and his was 1m. We lived with his mother till last year she watched both of them grown and has always been her grandmother. But now she favorites my bonus daughter and my husband and i new baby boy. I have made it very clear to him and her if she doesn’t wanna play equal she will not be able to have our kids (for days or nights) and we will only be around for family get togethers because I do not trust her to be fair to mine bio child while alone. Blood does not make a family and no child should ever feel less loved by a family member
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My mom is technically not my mom but I’m basically adopted so my 13yo was her only grandson for 6yrs when my sister her bio daughter had her son. She made a comment that he was her first grandchild and I corrected her and told my mom either she let’s her know that my son was her first grandson. We all have matching first Christmas ornaments and saying anything else goes against 6yrs of his life and I won’t stand for that. I make sure to correct my sister every time she tries to say different. Might be a bitch move but I’ll protect my son at all costs.
You are not over reacting. They have a bonus grandchild and shouldn’t make comments. All kids should be accepted and equal.
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Tell them you don’t like those funny comments.
I would just tell them how you feel. They may not understand what they mean. Of course you do. But just talk to them
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Have you tried telling them how you feel? How that could potentially make your child feel?
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No your not over reacting just talk to them and tell them how feel
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These are the type of people who will spend $20 on your child at Christmas and $300 on their grandchild…can the grandchild come over while the other will not be invited… pictures on their walls of their grandchild without the other child in them.
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I’d definitely talk to them about how you feel.
they probably don’t intend for it to sound like that. So once you make them aware of it I’m sure they will put it in check. They’re probably jus super excited & don’t realize how shitty it can sound.
Communication is key.
Not even cool. Definitely NOT overreacting 
Let them know how you feel when they say those things. Real “family” don’t care if blood or not. Period!
Talk to them about it
Maybe they shouldnt say those things outloud. But i can see where they are coming from. The first blood related grandchild, where the family genetics are passed down. They should deffinitly keep those comments to themselves and they should treat all kids the same
It’s the word “real” that people don’t get. What’s the opposite of real? It’s fake. So…as an adoptive parent, I get asked about their “real” mom. Does that make me a fake mom? I would correct them and say “biological” grandchild because they already have a “real” one of those. Your child is a real person.