The short answer is… yes.
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Jealous as her wedding is first she must love you son to want him in her special day
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This is just ridiculous. You just sound selfish and immature… why can’t your son be in both your sister and your wedding 
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Yes you are 
being selfish and stupid .
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Lol wtf. I get it. If you want YOUR baby to be in your wedding first then just say no. Who freaking cares what anyone else thinks. He’s 18 months old. It’s more for everyone else than it is for him.
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Why are you even questioning?? Your child, your decision!!
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Jealousy gets you NO where !
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My husband and I got engaged 3 months after meeting
Pregnant not long after. Married within 12 months at a court house.
More stable then most other marriages I know. We will of been married 10 years next year…
I think you should be happy for her. Let your son do it. And think of it as practice for him for when it comes to your wedding.
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My sister just got married in sept.
I’m not married or even engaged😂
I have an 11yr old son and I’m pregnant. I was MORE THEN HAPPY she and her now husband wanted my son to be the ring bearer ment SO MUCH to my son and myself.
I am beyond happy for my sister and just that day was filled with so much love.
I don’t know why you’d feel any other way. Definitely sounds like jealousy and seems like that’s a a YOU problem.
I wouldn’t take that away from the kids and over all experience for your sister.
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Think of it this way. Let him do it. It will be a dry run for your wedding. You will see how he is going to act walking down the isle and try and correct anything you didn’t like before your wedding. Also he will already have the suit he is suppose to wear. It’s not a contest to who gets him first. You should be honoured. I love little kids in a wedding and if I couldn’t have had the one I wanted in my wedding I would be really disappointed. Especially in the pics.
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Why can’t you just be happy that she loves your child so much that she wants him to be apart of her wedding?
What if you never get married?
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No you arent wrong. Thata your child. You want his first experience in something like this to be at your wedding. It would be wrong of your wedding was years out, but since its close, thwy need to respect your wishes.
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This is one thing I hate pressure from family. If you don’t want him to do it then say no, don’t let people pressure you into it
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My parents knew each other 3 months before getting engaged. Going on 27 years now
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Selfish. Stop being a baby
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That’s weird. Why wouldn’t you let him the the ring bearer? This shouldn’t even be a question. Of course you should let him be the ring bearer.
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Just say no if you don’t want him to and don’t explain your reasons or even give a reason. You’re the mom you make the rules. Period.
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At first you sounded excited and then its like “she only knew the guy 4 months before getting engaged” so what. Some of the longest marriages i know are from people who just knew they found the one and got married quickly. If you dont want him in their wedding just tell them
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It’s your boy, it’s your choice. You make the decision that’s right for you.
Yeah you sound like a Petty Betty because your sister snagged a husband first. It’s only normal the bride to pick the youngest and closest related boy to her to be the ring bearer. Usually brides dont have their own Kids filling in those positions J/S.
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Why are you even coming on here asking for opinions when you’re just going to make one up anyways? You’re his mom, you’re going to do, what you’re going to do. But in all honesty here you just sound like a baby. Because your wedding isn’t before hers. And you sound bitter because they weren’t together for as long.
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My daughter was a flower girl for my sister before she was a flower girl for her dad and I and it didn’t matter to me, but it’s totally your choice do what feels right
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Why can’t people just be happy for others in this world anymore? Especially family?! I’m not saying only you this post just pushed me to notice how much I see this type of stuff. I’ve seen others where they say “a family member” did this and wants to involve my child or they want a child and stealing one of the six names I can’t decide on for my possible next child etc.
And many more. It’s family and maybe she didn’t stick to the ways you would getting married or even seemed as something she would do but family or not you still learn something new of them daily. Let alone yourself. You can’t tell me you’ve never had moments in life you even shocked yourself as something you “normally” wouldn’t do.
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At least he would get some practice before your wedding 
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It’s sounds like you don’t want him to because of her choices, if that’s the reason just say so. I don’t see any need to make up excuses.
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Sounds like the real reason you don’t want your son to be her ring bearer is because you’re jealous that she’s getting married before you… lol just my opinion
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Good grief! Why wouldn’t you be excited and honored he was asked?
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That’s your sister, such pettiness 
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Why cant he be in both? My mom let me be in my uncles wedding, I was also in her 6 mths later… if you’re really that upset about it dont let him…
You are going to create hard feelings in your family. I would be honored if my family members included my children. There are so many kids in the world that are left out within their own families. You should be grateful. I would do anything to have a close knit family. There are so many people with family problems don’t create problems. There is no reason he can’t be in both. 
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Yes. You’re being selfish. But you’re gonna do what you want anyway.
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Reverse rolls… and your sister told you no. How would you feel?
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Plus, 2 weeks after your wedding, is it really going to matter at all?
This is a joke right?
What does it matter if she’s only known the guy for four months? You obviously haven’t been with your fiance very long yourself considering your 18 month old is from a previous relationship. Why can’t he be the ring bearer for both weddings? Seems a little childish to me.
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Yes slop being selfish that’s your sister you are looking for trouble it’s not just about you stop thinking it is
It sounds like you have more of a problem with her choices than your son being in the wedding
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And watch, her court house marriage after 4 months is going to last longer than yours.
His your baby if you dont want to… you dont have to.
I don’t advise this, but I only went on like three dates with my husband before we eloped. 🤷 he’s my soulmate, and when you know, you know. 5.5 years of marriage and I don’t regret it at all.
I think your not bothered at all about him walking or not it’s more about the “Whole” wedding taking place.
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Sounds like you are jealous. Js.
at only 18 months old, it will be a little bit scary for him. I think I would let him do it as well, simply for the practice, don’t expect to much out of him though.By the time you get married it will be more familiar to him and to see you at the end of the walk will be a treat for him and he won’t be as nervous or scared. you will be there so you will still see his first. I understand the wanting him to wait so that you can have it first. but to allow him to do it will be a blessing to him. Don’t Not let him do things just because you want to see him do it first or be there for it first… to have a well rounded boy turn into a well rounded Man you must let some things happen because it will be good for him. Be happy for him that he gets to experience things with and without you, that is whats most important, That he feel important and special at times.
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Sharing your Son is a gift to the whole Family and when you see him all dressed in his Tuxedo you will be Proud of him and when your wedding comes he won;t remember he did it before and neither will you . Enjoy every special Occasion you can while he is little because they grow so fast.
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I don’t understand why you are so upset. I’d be more upset if he Wasn’t asked to be honest. 
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He’s your son. You do what you think is right. You’re not selfish at all. Besides he’s your baby. Not your sister’s
She is your sister your family.don’t upset her by not letting kid be apart of her special day.she trying to make wonderful memories here.Don’t be selfish.You have your special day also.what’s wrong with making lots of special memories.Life is hard and people die.enjoy any day you get together big or small.Family memories maybe all you have one day.most mine in heaven now.Be Thankful and do this one thing for her.
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He is only 18 months. He may or may not cooperate. Look at this as a practice and you can decide if you really want to do this at your wedding. He may cry during the entire service for you to pick him up.
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I dont always try to be my childs first in everything. I mean come on this is the childs memories and good times not about lil ol me. Who cares how long he knowed her who cares. Jelousy will get you no where
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Sounds like a little jealousy to me, that has nothing to do with your son.
Look at it as practice… you cant be the first in everything your children does… i dnt see a big deal for him to be the bearer at both weddings. You should feel honored that they are so excited to have him be a big part of the wedding
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Let him be in her wedding and try not to be jealous. Be proud of your son! I’m sure it won’t ruin how special your wedding day will be with your son!
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Hey, it’s practice for him! If he cries, runs off, lays down in the isle, loses the ring, or whatever, just smile and say “you wanted him for your ring bearer!” LOL
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I would let him do it, I know myself my nephew was so important to me and him and I had such a great relationship from his birth and so enjoyed doing things with him as he was growing up and I would give anything to have him here since his life was taken to soon in car accident a hit and run he wasn’t even 21 yet. So I think it is a good idea to let him the more great memories you and your family has with him is wonderful and he is lucky he gets to have the honor of being in a wedding twice just my opinion. Congratulations to you and your future husband and also to your sister and her husband, good luck
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At 18 months he probably isn’t ready for something like that. My son was almost 3 and he acted up wouldn’t walk down the aisle.
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Honestly that’s petty. Grow up. Let him be in it. My sister died and I can’t stand sibling drama like this. I was in hers but she won’t be here for mine.
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I think it’s a sweet sentiment your sister wanting your kid to be her ring barer. I don’t think she is asked you to take anything away from you. She obviously thinks highly of her nephew to ask you to let him be her ring barer . Honestly, it sounds like your a little jealous of her getting married prior to you getting married. Your kid is young enough that he will not remember it anyhow, except through pictures. I think you should let him do it, it’s her nephew after all and she loves him.
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Why can’t he be in both? She is honored to have him as he lil man too. You should be honored she asked. If it was the other way around and she asked some random family member on his side I’m sure this post would be am I wrong for being mad at my sister for not asking my son to be in her wedding?
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This might be the only time in his life to be ask to do this. Give them your blessing . It’s a honor.
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Well at least he will know what’s going on at your wedding. Just be sure to tape it so he will remember what to do and what not to do.
It’s not that big a deal just let him do it .
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He might also become known as the family member in the most weddings! Awesome!
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Let him the be the ring bearer and be happy they are wanting your child involved . It’s an honor .
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Why would you not? In a few years no one cares who went first. Make the memories. Why have folks upset on such a beautiful day? Make the memories.
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I’d let him be the ring bearer in your sisters wedding, that way he’ll be more comfortable doing it for yours.
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Maybe have him be your sister’s ring bearer and if your fiancé is ok with it, what if he’s the “best (little) man” at your wedding???
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I would think it would be a honor for my sister to ask so yes let him. Her wedding or wedding are to different weddings
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I understand you want him in yours first, but there’s no harm being in both. Besides he’s only 18 months old so he’s not going to be a perfect ring bearer, but will be better at it when he gets to your wedding
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I would let him do it…dont look at it as him doing hers first and u coming second…think of it as he will be a.pro at yours…
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Share your son. It’s a blessing. This way he will know what to do at yours
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I only knew my husband for 3 months engaged them married at month 7. Been married 7 years. Time means nothing.
In some situations I don’t think the amount of time should matter on how long they knew each other. My husband and I only knew each other for 2 weeks before we got engaged… And got married 2 and a half months after we met. We have been married for 2 yrs now and still going strong. I have the most amazing kind hearted and loving husband. I couldn’t have asked for anyone better. It’s your choice but I think it would be very sweet to let him be apart of your sister’s wedding party. My 2 and a half yr old walked me down the isle… So there is always something extra special that you can do at your own wedding to make it unique and different.
I agree. Let him be in the wedding.
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I think it will he great practice for your wedding if he does it
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If you don’t want your son in the wedding say NO it done
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Let him be in the wedding
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Just consider it practice.
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You may be overthinking it or you may not. It is your choice regardless.
What makes the difference,people get married everyday
Ask him what he wants to do??
O.k…so when are you getting married?
Don’t. Dont let anyone pressure you into it either
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I do think its selfish if its just because you want to be first. But sounds like the problem is youre not okay with the WEDDING in general. Not him being a ring bearer. It sounds like you have high standards for your sister, you should hash this out with her. I underatand its her day and not all relationships are the same, but she needs to understand how you feel. Y’all will be seeing the couple for a while, no point in penting it up if its going to come out later once theyre already married.
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Were you married to your son’s father? If not it’s awfully judgemental of her to be upset that she got married at the courthouse before having a church wedding… some might judge your morals…
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You have to do what you feel is right. I understand where you are coming from. If you would spend the entire wedding angry and upset, then don’t let him be the ring bearer. If you would spend it feeling bad and regretting it, let him. You do what is right for YOU!
Have you sat down and talked to your sister about how you feel?
Let him be in it! He’ll probably steal the show!
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Yes ur selfish let him do it
Think of it this way, by allowing him to be a part of ypur sister’s wrdding you are creating a special connection between you and your sister that will be reinforced at your wedding.
Why …are you jealous?..you should be proud your son was chosen…why don’t you let your son walk you down the isle and give you to his new father
Yea you are