Why cant he take her to the doctors hes the fricken parent aswell
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We have week on/ week off with the SK’s, and my bios full time. We do not exchange sick kids, period.
I would be pissed if someone sent a sick to my house and I had a newborn.
When one of my bios gets sick, she gets isolated, and we try our best not to spread things.
You have ever right to be mad! And if the child has been sick for a month, obviously she’s not being cared for.
Also, what kind of mother sends her child off when the child is sick?
What would you do if she was living with you. Lock her in the room or make her stay at someone elses house. You took the job to be a parent to her, give her medicine to help the cough and sanitize more. Take her to the doctors on yours and s/o time so you know she’s been seen. He doesn’t get to stop being a father because she is sick. That’s his time
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My step son is 4 and my hubby has no spleen and I have a very horrible immune system so if Mr 4 gets sick with something serious birth mum will tell us and we reorganise when everything’s cleared up.
You did know your step daughter has been sick for awhile now and it’s been on and off so that’s the risk you all took and your son is fine, you’re going to have to wrap him in bubble wrap if you don’t want him getting sick.
And May be she has taken the daughter to the doctors etc and there isn’t anything they can do?!
I had a cough and sinus stuff for I shit you not at least over 2 months and there was nothing any doctor could do, just had to ride it out.
Maybe take her to the doctor yourself
Sounds as if her mothers not looking after her properly,the father needs to,look in to her welfare
This post just got me the wrong way. I’d definitely feel some type of way if you were the stepparent to my children. Yall literally went to the doc for baby…
why not have the older one checked too?? I understand wanting to keep sicks kids and newborns separate, but they’re siblings dear.
You should feel ugly about yourself to be honest.
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It’s not always a choice. Is visitations set by the court? If they are, the child goes sick, flu, fever, shits, whatever… They still go.
You don’t to choose when they visit. If she was your daughter i doubt you’d send her over to her grandmas for a month until she was better.
It sounds like a head cold. If her doctor said shes okay, then what else is her mother to do except give her meds to help with the cough? Some things just have to run their course. & its possible the mother doesn’t have the money to keep taking to her doctor for the same thing over & over again.
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Why does it matter if she’s sick? It’s his kid!
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If it was the dad’s weekend why didn’t he take her to the doctor?
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So the health of yours is more important that the health of his first child? What are you going to do if you have another? Kids get sick, and they pass germs off to each other, it comes with the territory.
Get over it cause i understand new mom fears but you’re being selfish.
The little girls home with dad is one of her homes too, she should be able to be taken care of by her dad too.
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She should take her daughter to doctor definitely
Why dont YOU take her to the doctor? You are wrong for shunning a child because shes sick. Smh
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If mom kept kid home then dad couldn’t see his daughter, it’s a cold for crying out loud, take precautions such as disinfecting and hand washing. What will this step mom do when she has 2 kids, banish the sick one? I get she has a baby but that step daughter is hers sickness and in health. 5 week old baby us sleeping mostly all day so tend to step daughter and help her get better instead of acting like shes a disease in your home. I think to say mom should have kept kid home is not fair as why should mom have child everytime shes got a cold? To please step mom? Nope dad is more than capable of handling a child with a cough.
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Maybe dad should take his child take his child to the doctor. If his child has been sick that long chances are their immune system needs some serious help or could it be asthma? After that long it most likely isn’t contagious.
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These types of post make me realize no matter what age the person is, doesn’t mean they are mature enough to have children 
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Holy crap, you wanna be a step mom, that’s what happens. Kids get sick. You need to learn to deal with it.
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Well kids get sick from time to time.Stop blaming the BM and the child because you can walk out your door and catch something. If you are going to be in this child’s life better get used to these sick times together.
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This drives me crazy. She most likely is fine and just has a cold. This happens, especially whith school aged children. Your SO needs to take her regardless if she’s healthy or sick. Its his daughter! You or he cannot pick and choose when he can be a father. What are you gonna do if the two of you have another and your current child gets sick? You said she was fine on friday and woke up with a cough, you deal with it. Thats not on the bm. She can’t predict that she will wake up with a cough. I’m sorry, but i highly disagree with you.
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So the kid shouldn’t see her dad because she’s sick? And why don’t u 2 take her to the doc then? He is her father it’s equally his responsibility… U signed up to help mother this child when u married him, but it seems like u aren’t ready to be a step mother …
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Still your husband’s DAUGHTER cant just not watch her cuz shes sick… if she was your daughter you wouldn’t just send her away because of a cold
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Let the father take him to the dr .when he has him and see if he sick or fine
I’m a single mom, I have my kid 24/7/365 and when she gets sick, I take care of her. There is no where to send her. So, moral of the story, you can’t always have your kids in perfect health. Deal with it.
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Is the mom just supposed to miss out on work and keep the daughter home just cuz she has a runny nose??? Wtf literally so selfish to think the father of the child shouldn’t have to watch her just cuz shes “sick”
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You both could be right. Right now my youngest daughter is not feeling well but she will be ok for a few hours or even a day or two then it will hit her again. Maybe she was fine when she was with her mom so her mom thought everything was good and then she was hit again with it. I wouldn’t be mad. It happens. We have 4 teen girls and a toddler boy. Good luck and just point the fluids and bed rest
The father can take he’s daughter to the doctors. As long as he has he’s license on him to show he’s name and knows her details such as birth date, names and where she was born ect. If it’s concerning both of you your partner should take he’s daughter to the doctors. Also you can’t always win when kids are sick. She still deserves to see her father but, she also deserves to be checked if she has had a cough for over a month (that’s not a normal thing).
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So what will you do if you have another child and one gets sick?? Send then away?? Babies will have at least 5 colds their first year. If they have a court order than you cant request her to miss it because it inconveniences you. Use this time at your house to baby her and care for her like you would your own child. Alot has changed in the household and everyone needs to be comforted when sick.
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You are selfish as either way, she has to see her father! Why doesnt he take her to the doctor himself? The same way he took ur son to the ER!!! She is probably wheezing which sounds like a cold!
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Ummm sorry you are a twit. I cant send my kids away when they are sick.
Taking care if sick kids is part of being a parent. Welcome to parenthood.
And yes, you are wrong to think that the 6 year old should miss out on seeing her dad because of a cough.
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If you give birth to other children are you going to send your son away when he’s sick for the health of the new baby? Kids get sick, the best you can do is disinfect your house and try to limit contact with the other sick children.
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Your fiance should take his daughter the doctor. Why ask the mums permission?
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Why can’t her dad take her to the dr or urgent care?
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She’s coughing from the mucus draining down her throat more than likely. And this time of year, everyone is congested, basically. Most don’t run to a doc or an emergency room for congestion. If she has no other symptoms, then it’s OTC meds and just getting through this nasty season. Welcome to parenting!!! Been doing it for 16 years now. You’ll learn to somewhat know the difference in colds vs congestion vs sinus vs flu and so on.
And no, it’s never ok to deny a child’s visit bc they are not at their healthiest. And as a mom, I’m sure if the child had been extremely sick or bad off, she wouldn’t have let her go bc as her mother, she’d had insisted on taking care of her.
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I have a step daughter and if she’s sick she stays home with her GM. If our other kids are sick she stays home with her GM. That’s just respect. No need in passing germs if they don’t have to be. That’s why we have 3 counties out of school for sickness. People not wanting to keep their kids home when sick and away from others. So no I do not think it is wrong to ask her to keep her or swap weekends.
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The poster sounds bitter as hell!!! Yes I’m judging and I’m #notsorry
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You’re a parent. To two now. This happens. What are you going to do with your son when you have another baby? Kids get sick and a dr isnt going to do anything for a cold.
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So I will say this as politely as I can. I can see right off the bat why BM doesn’t see eye to eye with you.
I’m not sure how or why you have the attitude that parenting time is “optional” and dependant on said child being healthy.
Part of being a parent is caring for them while healthy or sick. I understand you have a baby but that’s also her brother AND the step child you speak of is your husbands daughter.
I’m appalled by your post. I would have nothing nice to say to my exes gf if she was upset about having to care for my sick child. My ex came to her as a package, he didn’t come alone.
You need to give your head a shake.
I’m going to stop typing because the rest of what I want to say isn’t nice, which means I can no longer contribute productivelyz
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It’s totally possible she was fine Friday night, but had picked something up at some point that had to incubate for a period before presenting symptoms. If you yourself admit she was fine on Friday then how do you think the BM would think any different?? It’s not like the BM isn’t taking her daughter to the doctor. She’s doing her part. Dad has responsibilities here too, and you knew he had a kid before you had yours. Kids get sick. It’s still his job to be a Dad 4/30ths of the month. lol Maybe you and the baby should go elsewhere when the daughter comes over if this is how you feel.
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Well one question?? They are siblings so I don’t understand your point so tell me something if you make other baby and this child of yours get sick who you send outside in the dog house the newborn or the big kid ??? No really I want a answer becouse yes the girl is sick so what?? I have 3 kids they all get sick one after the other I don’t send no one to they daddy house till the other is fine and his dad do the same and the stepmom so you are the problem have a nice day
Like wtf really omg 
I just can’t
So if it was your own child sick would you have sent him away until he was better?
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Yeah. You are in the wrong. That kid is about to be yours in sickness and in health. You marry the dad, you give your life and soul to his kids too.
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Well dad should step up take responsibility for his kids if one of them is sick he would go get what it takes to help , dits ok not to see eye to eye , with the bm , your partner deserves both kids ( baggage is baggage no matter what who or where it is) you take someone on they bound to have baggage it’s how it’s felt with. Yip it sucks when someone is sick around the new baby , but in the big realm of things that’s life, work out your cleaning make sure hand washing happens do what you can in the time you and dad have , boost the immune system talk with dad about stepping up - wee one will be ok in fact a cold of you keep him hydrated will help boost his immune system, yip I’ve been there , try having a new baby with an auto immune disorder and one person with scarlet fever - which turned to glandular fever- first time that one had been sick in 8yrs and he hasn’t been sick since , one with whooping cough a was an outbreak at the time , one with concussion -opps, and one post op who needs help multiple times a day - dam timing, a toddler (3) who has special needs and a teen girl , a cat and a dog , and it’s just you left to cover it all and do all the house work cook and clean , it’s about managing what you have been given . As my saying went suck it up buttercup.
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I have a 15 year old step son who does not live with us, who is constantly sick with some kind of cough or cold…yes, he has gotten my other children sick…is it irritating? Yes…but it’s life
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A lot of the comments are mean, insensitive or not understanding…you dont take anyone sick over if possible to a newborn or a baby …it can be dangerous for a newborn…bm should have not and should take her to dr after a few days of being sick or dad…talk to SO about it not being ok so he can talk to bm…also so they take her to dr…both or one…maybe bm because she is likely w her more but of course its not only her responsibility and if she cant or doesnt want to…the dad should or maybe together with you…if not…maybe you but it is hard overall with a newborn even postpartum it can be hard and being in a clinic with other sick ppl is better to avoid…hopefully in future bm just more sensitive to help not get LO sick…theres nothing wrong with trying to prevent…also important to help other child…hope they take her to dr, and gets better soon…and hope less and no issues btwn parents God bless you all 
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I literally don’t care about anybody else’s answer to this. I don’t with this with my new baby and my step-children. We are not a family that likes to be sick. That is pretty much one of the only reasons why a visit would have to be cancelled. Especially when the baby was super young we were extremely careful about that. Sometimes sharing is definitely not caring.
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So when my six year old gets sick we don’t move our new baby to a new home…get over it. And maybe the dad should take HIS CHILD to the doctor if you guys are that concerned.
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I’m going to try to say this in a way that isn’t hateful so that you’ll actually hear what is being said. Sometimes when a response is full of venom, the message won’t be heard. I can’t say I disagree with the majority of the responses you’re getting, though.
You are full of hormones right now and your body is going into protective mother bear mode right now because of it. But think about what you’re saying as though she was biologically yours and not just your step-daughter. It’s not fair to deny your fiancé and his daughter the opportunity to spend time together because she’s sick. Do what any other mother would do, and isolate the baby (he’s too young to care about being in one room) and allow dad to take care of his daughter. As a mom, you should take care of every child and not at any of the other’s expense. By telling her she isn’t allowed to come over because she’s sick, you’re telling her that you care more about the well-being of your own child than about her. You’re also putting conditions on your love for her. “You’re welcome as long as you aren’t sick”. She should feel like she’s always welcome and that you’ll always take care of her ESPECIALLY when she’s sick.
As someone with step-parents of my own. Please know that I’m speaking from a place of personal understanding that she if you continue to make decisions favoring your own child, she will eventually notice it. It will hurt her feelings, cause resentment, and damage the relationships between you, her, and her dad. He will either side with you and this will push her away from her dad too, or he will wife with her and this could damage the relationship between you and him.
You need to think long and hard about whether you’re ready to accept the responsibility that comes with marrying a man with children that aren’t biologically yours and determine whether you can make unbiased decisions regarding them. If you find that you can’t love them each unconditionally, you aren’t ready to be a step-parent.
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If you had more than one kid at home kids get sick.
You are not her step mom and yet you disagree with how she raises HER child.
GTFOH, you dont even pretend to be a step parent! A real step mom would have gotten her treatment and not be here bitching!
Such is life man. My daughter got RSV, a week after she was better by 2 yr old got it…3 days after he was better…I got it. My friends came to visit despite my warning and their 2.5 month old got. It sucks, theres precautions u can take. Like not letting them sit to close, not letting her touch his hands or face, washing everyones hands regularly etc…but u shouldnt want to keep her away.
So… if you have another kid and they get sick at school and are around a new baby are you going to get mad at yourself?!? This is ridiculous 
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I didnt read past the first line. Kids get sick, you take care of them. Yes, your step kid belongs at your home sickness nor health
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And this cold that’s going around lasts up to 8 weeks. That does not include the flu.
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Parents with older children and new borns can’t choose to kick their kids out until they’re better… and I’m sure the sick child wants to be around the baby and bond with him. You’re being cruel. Wash hands and no kissing, but banning her from being around him? Very mean. It’s not her fault she’s sick. Everyone gets sick!
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I’m just wondering why women are always upset with the baby mothers when the fathers are the ones sitting there doing nothing. Why can’t he take her to the hospital or pediatrician? Just get the insurance info. He has an obligation to his daughter’s health the same as the mother. Especially, if he is not happy with the care and results so far.
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Your guy should have just had her checked out while you were already at the hospital with the baby. If I was in that situation then we would have brought my stepson with us and got both kids seen
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this is ridiculous. kids get sick and they can’t help it ! especially a 6 year old ! why doesn’t her dad take her to the doctor ???
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If you had another kid older than the baby with your SO… I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t lock him/her away or send them away if they were sick… Same principle with a step kid.
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Stay in air bnb near your house
If you are that bothered
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What if she was your child and she live with you? What would you do? Kick her out because she is sick and you have a little baby? Just try to tell her to stay away from the baby…
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So what are you doing to do when you have a second child and they get sick around the new baby? Send your older child away? Kids get sick, she is family. It’s inevitable.
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What would you do if she lived with you full time…
Nope your not wrong its fucking RSV season and you have a 5 week old. We never took my ss if he was sick why bc then it goes thru five of us after him. If he had a small cold then he would come over but strep,flu anything like that he didnt and I dont care if that made me selfish
I would never treat my step this way, I also have a small infant… you just need to make sure to take the right precautions such as washing hands… When you married this man you also married his child, would you throw your own kid out for being sick?
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How are you mad that she brought over your SO child? This is so wack. You don’t get to pick and choose when you get your kid.
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As a fellow stop mom: yes you are wrong. You are not engaged to just your “SO” your engaged to everything that is him and that means the kids too. You don’t get to pick and choose.
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Wow you should be ashamed. That child should be there just like the baby. Would you toss the baby out for being sick?
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Yes, you’re overreacting, but there are a few things I want to touch on that I keep on seeing in the comments.
I keep on seeing people say that you should have told her not to touch her brother and people jumping on them for suggesting this. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this suggestion and this is actually something a doctor will tell you to do. I have multiple children and yes when one of the older children are sick af I explain to them that they need to make sure they are covering their mouth when they cough, washing their hands and even though I know they love giving their baby brother/sister kisses that they can’t do this because they will spread their germs to the baby and then they will also be sick. This is also the same exact advice I was given when my second was diagnosed with RSV when my fourth at the time was only TWO weeks old. My newborn never got sick and I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I limited contact between them.
So, yes you’re overreacting and being petty af.
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Omg kids get sick get over it !
All of you are fucking rude and awful. She has a NEWBORN and I’m assuming most of us are parents, it’s common sense that anybody who’s sick stays away from the baby. At that young, they don’t need to build their immune system, getting sick could hospitalize or kill them depending on what it is. When visiting a newborn you’re supposed to wash/sanitize your hands, stay away if sick, and limit germ exposure. With that being said, biological mother either should have kept daughter until she was no longer sick OR since it was dad’s visit time, dad could’ve taken daughter to the doctor and could’ve done more to prevent the spread of germs. Keep daughter confined to a few areas, wash and sanitize hands, Lysol, stay away from the baby, etc. but honestly the easiest solution would’ve been to keep stepdaughter with mom. 
I was in almost the exact same situation, mom would send her daughter even though she was sick and I had a 4 month old at the time. She got super sick, I had to take my daughter to the ER and she had to get blood taken, they said it was viral. Dad and I also got sick. So stepdaughter brought sickness and got ALL of us sick, which would’ve easily been prevented had she stayed at her mother’s while she was sick. I don’t see the big deal of wanting to avoid sickness…
Be thankful that she’s boosting your sons immunity.
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Wait so what if you had an older kid of your own that was sick. Just lock them in the cupboard til they’re better?
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She’s still his sick or not. If everyone had this mentality we would all pawn off our kid’s when they were sick. He can take her to the Dr he doesn’t need her permission.
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I didn’t even finish past the first question.
Yes, you’re wrong and clearly you do not treat this child as your own. Sad.
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If this is your outlook, your point of view when thinking of your soon to be “step-child”, then you need to see a therapist who can help you sort through those feelings. You have a baby with him now too. Those kids are siblings, family, and the “step-child” should be treated as your own “child”. If you’re worried about her being sick for a whole month - the question to you that should be MORE IMPORTANT than ‘should I have the right to be upset that she brought her sick child around my sick child’ is ‘SHOULD I BRING MY CHILD to the doctor and see why she’s been so sick for so long??’.
I’m sure that you would expect him to love your child from a previous relationship just as he would love his own.
If you want this marriage to work before it’s even started, start by realizing that his children are yours. She needs to be seen by another doctor for a second opinion. You should have no problem with her being home with her newborn sibling as long as she washes her hands whenever she touches her face, and avoid hovering over, touching, holding , or kissing the baby until she is feeling well.
You can’t protect your baby from germs forever. It is good for him to come in contact and gain immunities in doing so. You have another child who needs you too. It’s time you realize that.
You asked if she doesn’t care if she makes your son sick. Lady she has according to you allowed her child to be ill for over a month. Saying she hasn’t taken her own daughter to the Dr. Of course neither did you or your man. Maybe none of you care if either of these cjildren are ill. Seems that way to me.
And your trip to the er proves what? No need to be flipping the fuck out.
Fine Friday night and sick Saturday means she got sick with YOU.
What would you be doing if he was the custodial parent? Locking her away or quarantining her? Kids get sick. And it sucks. But dad can take her to the dr (if he’s allowed)., just as you took your son. If you’re going to marry this man then his daughter is your daughter. Keeping them apart because she’s sick is just wrong imo
Are you for real right now? I get it you have a 5 week old baby and you don’t want your son to get sick but if you call yourself a stepmom then you will understand ! So you think her mom should only take care of her when she sick and not her dad? Smh yes they shouldn’t have lied about but maybe she thought was getting better idk sounds like you don’t treat his daughter like your own and if you are going to call yourself a stepmom then you should
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I used to get SO MAD when baby daddy wouldn’t take his kids cos “they’re sick”. Now we both have small babies in the house (mine is 3 months, his is 4 months)
If the boys are sick, I warm him. But the reality is, my baby is home with them and is fine.
His will be fine too.
Trying to keep this poor girl away from your baby…maybe you should take the baby in another room and leave daddy to play with HIS little girl since you have no concern for her health.
And why can’t he take her to a damn doctor? Same thing the judge told my baby daddy. He’s a parent too and capable.
I will say, we recently had the flu. Baby didn’t get it, but I kept the boys away from their fathers cos they weren’t sick 🤷
My SO has this problem too and I tell him this. If they were both your children you wouldn’t send one away until they get better. You can’t decide when you get to be a parent.
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Wow !! You’re so wrong it’s sickening and how you don’t see it , is beyond me. You clearly aren’t ready to be a mom to that little girl.
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His daughter to. Therefore his child’s home. You are overreacting.
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Yea you wrong to be upset, he has 2 kids not just yours, and that means him caring for both, not just when they are healthy, and if that falls on you taking care of them I assume you knew he had a child and you accepted that when you choose to be with him
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So, your right she DOES NOT NOT NOT care about your son. She has no loyalty to you, nor the newborn.
Also, and I mean this in the nicest way possible, you have a child with a man who had a daughter already! If you love your stepdaughter the way any step parent should (which is love them as though they are your flesh and blood) you do NOT just get to send a child away if he is part of your family. Example your newborn? Is 4 and gets sick with a chest cold and stuff ~ you and your SO have just had your second child together who is 5 weeks old and their half sister… Are you thinking that you can just send the sick one away until they are better? I should hope not.
Seriously think about what your asking us.
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You are definitely overreacting. You chose to give that little girl a sibling. So now it’s your job (as the fiancé) to parent BOTH children…even when they’re sick. That’s all a part of parenting. I mean is she not supposed to see her daddy because there’s a new baby?? That can cause major resentment issues in the future. You should really step back and think about it.
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When your second child comes will you send away your first one if they are sick 
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If the stepdaughter was your bio daughter and lived full time in your home, still having your 5w old baby…what would you do then? Ship her off on someone else. Your a mother care for both children the best you can. It maybe hectic for a bit but thats how parents roll. I certainly don’t do away with one of my sick kids in fear of getting the other sick.
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Kids get sick. It builds his immune system. How many kids do you have? Just the 1. Yeah, understand being a first time parent and freakin out. I remember those days. But you dont get to pick and choose when your kids get sick. On that note. Most colds or illnesses have an incubation period with is like 3 to 7 days.
Bitch are you serious. Imma pass on this one.
My stepdaughter came down with a nasty stomach bug when I was 32 weeks pregnant. I definitely didn’t want to catch that, so I offered to stay somewhere else for the weekend if she still wanted to visit with her Dad 🤷 She stayed home by her own choice since she was feeling crappy, but I wasn’t going to demand she stay away. I don’t think that’s fair, really. Also, some of you bitches are completely out of line, there are ways to disagree with someone without being such ignorant, insulting twats.
Your joking right , kids get sick and she could have been fine and caught somthing in the air or at your house or anywhere else she has been same for your baby , your child will be fine and will build an Immune system, I don’t think this is the problem I think your problem is with the baby mama not that your child caught a cold .
First your flipping awesome !!! People don’t give step moms enough credit esp when men are useless. That being said . Tel dad to take her to the doctor himself ,what’s with the asking of permission bulshit ur guna still have the same problem next week unless y’all do something about it . Lastly ur hormones are out of whack and I understand this is ur first baby and daughter might be all over baby unless doctor says it’s fine just let her know to keep her mouth covered when coughing wash hands etc or buy her a face mask 
so mother gets the point . Make it a thing to
Clean door knobs and stuff as you would if she was ur own kid. Ur doing great momma the last thing u want is a sick kid around ur baby , blood or not. Make her have hot(warm/steamy) baths u can help her it will make her sleep better and get dad to take her out the house sometime for quality time and time away from baby .
Everyone in these comments are getting up the mum for rejecting the daughter in some form. She’s a new mum to a newborn and I see her point of view. But I also agree with the fact that if it’s dads time with daughter then that’s that but you also have to remember that she asked the mum if the daughter was sick and she lied to her by saying yes. That’s the problem I’m seeing due to the fact that if she had told her the truth then the mum could have taken precautions. Made sure everything was clean. Have the appropriate medications and be able to keep the baby clear of the daughter, have sanitizer around the house, things like that. But she didn’t tell her which ended up with her baby in the hospital. I’d feel pissed too. I have a 13 week old and a 3yr old and while I was pregnant we went to my husbands fathers house, they have 2 daughters. My daughter had just gotten over a stomach bug virus and we told them about it. Saying we weren’t even sure we were coming because of it but she recovered the prior day and they insisted. What they failed to tell us is there daughters had terrible colds. So we go down there, I’m mid pregnancy with a 2 year old who just got over a virus and funny enough we came home and I was terribly sick. I was furious. We had warned them about my daughter, we only came because she had recovered, I was pregnant but they didn’t mention any of it. So I can see why she would be pissed
Well no I don’t think so. Think about why she’s still sick. Is his ex not taking care of her? There’s no black and white answer here. But my ex’s new wife was a B & he has/had allergies year around. They would think it was a cold and would not take him but he just was allergic to something in their home. They stopped seeing him soon after they married. My son still has horrible allergies nothing’s changed but the weather
First off…I get your frustration with your 5 week old baby being sick and that the BM has possibly been lying to you. But you need to realize that this is a part of life and a huge part of having children. If you don’t ever want your child to get sick, you will have to make sure that you never have any other children nor can you send them to daycare or preschool or even let them leave the house. I don’t say this to be rude but you at all. You just have to accept the fact that kids get sick and as their mother it’s your responsibility to keep the kids way from each other so as not to spread it. This should go in reverse as well. If your baby is sick…protect your soon to be step-child.
Having said ALL that, sometimes there just isn’t anything you can do and everyone in the house ends up getting sick. 
On another note: take your SO’s child in…the mom doesn’t seem to be concerned enough with her own daughters health, so she definitely won’t be concerned with your child’s.
Be a good parent to your new step-child also!
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If mom says she’s brought her to doctor then yes, you’re over reacting.
I’m a step mom too and i have twin 6 year olds and a 2 year old and I’m pregnant.
My husbands ex never ever takes her to the doctor. We always do.
When my twins were born mom decided to bring daughter up to meet her siblings. We were all shocked that she would do so. She’s never driven child to us for anything ever in 11 years. Well, turns out daughter was home for school that Friday & Monday (day babies were born) & the bio mom took daughter to urgent care in the evening and was diagnosed w flu. We were mad. Very mad. I even told my husband that step daughter looked off and i hope she wasn’t feeling jealous or anything. And two hours later we find that out. She had also asked her mom to Take her to doctor twice and mom said it’s probably flu nothing to do for it.
What upset us was, mom not taking her to doctor in the first place. With flu we wouldn’t have wanted her up at the hospital, weather she lived with us or not. But if it was ear infection or sinus then that’s a different story. Can’t turn our kids away just Bc they are sick.
I mean you guys have a newborn… unfortunately if you had another kid yourself and he or she was sick you’d have no choice but to be ok with it??? Think of it as building the babies immune system
Also stay off pages like these to ask for advise people are brutal to step moms 
y’all are fucking lucky we exist js .
Is this even a serious question?! What if the child lived with you?! If it’s the fathers weekend, then you take care of the child…sick or not. When you got married you accepted those children as your own; take care of them.
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