So if you had two kids of your own what would you do? Ship the sick one off? This makes no sense at all
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Congestion can last for weeks after a virus has left the body. The BM is could be right that her daughter is better. Coughs last a long time. Your son was probably exposed to the virus before anyone knew she was sick.
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I get being protective of your child but if she was your bio daughter would you send her away or expect her to not be at her home? I doubt it
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Grow up butter cup! You should take care of that little girl as your own child!
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When you date a single parent, you take on their child as well. Treat that child as if it were you own. You wouldn’t send a biological child of yours to another house just to keep them away from your 5 week old. That’s not on… so neither is not wanting your step child. So yes, it is wrong.
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Couple of things 1. Maybe she had been feeling good. You did say it was off and on and was good on Friday
2. The time that child is with her dad she’s YOUR/HIS responsibility. It’s not optional time. If she’s sick it’s his turn to nurse her. if she’s tired/crabby/has homework etc. that’s HIS time.
If you’d known she’d been sick on and off you should have kept them separated as best you could as all parents with 2 kids do.
It’s not up to her. It’s not just her kid.
Parenting isn’t optional just because it’s hard.
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Sounds like your just a selfish person! Why would u ask your SO to give up time with his daughter just cause she isn’t feeling 100%. Would you send your kid away if she was yours? Prob not. Either step up and be a parent to both kids or rethink the situation. I feel sorry for his 6yr old. How do you think she feels about not feeling wanted. She is the innocent party, not your cry baby ass!
Yes you are wrong to be upset that she came over. Precautions can be taken to ensure her not passing germs. She’s your daughter too and if you don’t see it that way you’re not ready to be a stepmom. If your son was sick would you say he can’t be in the house while she’s there? No. You wouldn’t. And her dad has 110% rights to take her in to the doctor. He should just do it if you guys are concerned about her health. Over reacting for sure. Sorry 
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All kids will get sick. I understand ur concern but unless u can quarantine ur child the rest of his life he’s gonna get sick. These things happen. Just take good care of ur baby (and his sister when u can) n keep an eye on him. He will b fine mama.
this will happen many more times!
you got into a relationship knowing you would be a step parent to his child,
I hope you realize the child didn’t ask for a step mom and you step up and provide her with love and attention during the good and bad times of her life.
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As a parent you don’t get to pick and choose.
I have a newborn and a sick toddler. Am I supposed
To send her and my husband to a hotel bc it’s disrespectful to have a sick kid around? No.
That his child. So it’s just as much his responsibility if he had full custody.
If y’all are that concerned with her health, you could have taken her to the doctor, ER or whatever else.
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Your definitely wrong. You don’t not get your kid regardless of step or not because they are sick. Siblings get siblings sick. That’s life. Absolutely insensitive on your part. I have a baby and a toddler. I don’t not have one because the other is sick. Come on. How is your spouse even ok with you feeling this way. So crazy. Kids get sick. Move on
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You’re deadass wrong.
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I mean i could understand the flu or vomiting… but congestion?? I mean really? I feel like every time im around kids one of them is coughing or has a runny nose. Not really that serious.
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Im sorry but ur wrong. Kids can be ok then 5 mins later running a fever coughing. Kids get sick ur husband should still get to see his child.
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You sound like a very selfish person , that is actually gonna your child to . You also sound like you don’t give to shits about anyone but YOUR baby . That child sick or not deserves to see the father .
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unfortunately u cannot do much kids are germy
but arecyou concerned the step daughter hasnt received medical care then you need to get dad to take her
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Sorry mama, I’m with everyone else on this. 
you are being a little selfish about the situation and I think you should cut her some slack. Kids get sick…ALOT. Especially when they are in school. It’s something you can’t avoid, but don’t keep her from coming to your house when it’s her dads turn to spend time with her. Let it go. Maybe you should act like her stepmom and take care of her as if she was your own that was sick?
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I have 3 kids and my youngest is 3 weeks old. If one of my older kids got sick in would keep my sick child away from the baby . I would take care of my sick child and just shower and change clothes before holding baby. I would explain they cant come around baby because we dont want baby sick but at the same time I cant neglect my other kids. As a parent u just sorta figure out how to deal in the moment
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You’re just horrible, I guess. That’s all I have…
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My daughter is always having a cold. It’s actually common among small children. There are 200 common cold viruses and you bet your ass your children will have almost all of them. It’s to build their immune system. Please do research, it isn’t the childs fault she’s sick, it’s apart of LIFE!
If she was your own child and was sick what would you do then?? Send her away until she was better??
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I’m sorry to tell you this but once you have multiple kids no matter if you quarantine them and Lysol the whole house and make sure everyone has their hands washed everybody is going to get it. Momma is usually last. Now if it was a sick adult it’s easier to handle. But your step daughter no you can’t tell her she can’t see her daddy. I would get dad to take her to the Dr to make sure she is ok, but this is the life of mom with multiple kids.
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Why can’t the father and yourself take little girl to the doctor yourself
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You care more about your bio child then your step. If you had her 100% of the time what would you do send her away with every little cough? I have a 5 year old son and a 3 month old she got rsv from my son at 1 month. I cant segregate the kids I am a mom. I am the care taker. The fact you dont want your step child their for better or worse is not unconditional love. That dad should be sad.
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There’s germs outside of your home too, like in public and at stores.
Take precautions as she’s your daughter too.
Give her meds, make sure she washes her hands, hand sanitizer, wipes, Lysol, bleach, tell her to cough into her elbow and cover her sneezes, quarantine your infant, feed her homemade chicken noodle soup, have her father take her to a doctor.
Is she sick, or is it allergies? If mom won’t do anything and insists she’s fine, then have dad figure it out. Or have dad stay with the infant and you take her to get it figured out yourself.
Look at all these options you have wowww.
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Yikes. If you had her full time and she was sick would you send her away until she isn’t sick anymore??? It’s your responsibility to take care of that child when it is your turn to have her… If she’s sick or not… I have two stepchildren and I wouldn’t ever turn them away… Id try to nurse them back to health!
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Get a diffuser and some oils for her or even vicks vapor rub
Would you be mad at your own child for being sick?
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Okay since everyone is just bashing you instead of giving you advice, here’s some actual advice! I understand completely considering your child is only 5 weeks old, they basically don’t have have a strong immune system. I have a now infant and a step son and my step son is sick a lot! Probably the same reason why your step daughter is sick but anyways, if her mother is lying then take it into your own hands, my bf and I are the ones who always help him feel better. 1 I dont want my son to get sick either so I take matters into my own hands. You take care of the child like you would your own, Yes sometimes it gets hard but it’s in your best interest and your newborns as well. Wipe down everything!! Don’t let her kiss your baby(not rudely of course) but explain to her because she’s sick and the baby can’t handle being sick at a young age. Give her medicine or y’all take her to the drs yourself if you have to
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Your a parent. You dont get to chose if they are sick or not. If you yourself had a older child that was sick I’m sure your not going to get mad at them. Be a mom/stepmom and help take care of her
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You say you “are currently a step mother” but if you don’t give af about that kiddos health and well being because she’s like your child, then you need to consider moving on to single motherhood
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In case it hasn’t been said enough, you’re beyond wrong. You should be looking at her like she’s your own flesh and blood. Which, if she was, would you send her away because she got sick??? That’s fucked up on so many ways. You already said she’s been sick on and off, so why isn’t it possible 5hat she had been perfectly fine for a fee days before you got her?
Babies get sick. It happens. Her dad could have just as well taken her to a doctor on his own if you didn’t trust her mom’s word to make sure it’s not something more serious. That poor little girl. I hope you didn’t let her know how you feel about her. She can’t help being sick. I’m sure she feels bad the baby got sick. But you can’t treat her like some random woman dropped off her random kid with no warning. I get that if it were something serious, if you have the opportunity to keep distance, then do it. But come on now. Congestion. I know my comment is all over the place. This post just irritates me.
Sorry you feel that way about your step daughter. Tho it should not be labeled step or half but family. Obviously you have not put forth effort to love and care for this girl like a daughter but instead like a problem. It makes me sick. Would you send away your own child if they are sick because of a new baby. NO you would just take steps to try to avoid and outbreak. Like washing your hands before handling the baby. That’s where the baby got sick from was unwashed hand exposure from either you or your husband. Seriously how can u even sit back and try to deny your husband time with his child. This is why I have no faith in humanity.
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If you had two kids living with you full time and one got sick, what would you do? Yes it’s scary when LOs get sick, but you also cannot take away that time from your SO and his Bio daughter. Bio mom can use that against him in court and it’s not fair to daughter or father.
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Get used to it, kids are gonna get sick, i brought one of my kids home to a house full of sick people, she is your family
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My two year old went to her fathers for a night during the first week my baby was born. The day we picked her up her step mom had become sick with a stomach bug. My 2 year old ended up getting it and a common cold and now I’m struggling with a sick congested coughing 3 week old baby. Its been going on since Tuesday for the newborn. I dont blaim the other parent and I have my 2 year old 90 % of the time. It’s bound to happen. Both parents are capable of caring for a sick child. It’s both parents responsibility to take care of the child. You could have taken precautions like Lysol and handsanitizer and not letting the little one touch or be near the baby till you knew 100% the kid was healthy. The child may have went 24 hours without a cough. So the mom thought he was ok you dont know. But the little one is your step child too. You want to punish him because he is sick and not let him come see the father and sibling???
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I get why ur mad. Butbid let it go and next time she comes over sick like that send her back or take care of her
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Kids get sick. Sometimes it’s just congestion or cough, sometimes it’s more than that. If step child was your child and lived with you 100% of the time, you wouldn’t be acting like this. Imagine if your fiancé behaved this way had the daughter been “yours” instead of “his”… the reality is that kids get sick.
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Kind of rediculous that you wouldnt want her to come to your house what if she lived with you full-time what are you going to do is send her away because she’s sick that’s you not really accepting her as your stepdaughter and to you she’s disposable if she was your own kid what would you do with her if she was sick you would just separate her in the baby and make sure everyone washes their hands and follows good hygiene practice I have an a 3 month old daughter and a six year old son who’s in school and comes home sick I certainly don’t kick him out of my house because he’s sick I make sure he doesn’t get in the baby’s face or touch the baby pretty sure you can do that too
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I understand the not wanting your baby to get sick so young as mine got sick at 10days old because i have 2 older boys. Are tou planning on having any other kids? Bc if so you cant really send them away if they are ypur own kids
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See I do not find this selfish at all. It’s one thing to be understanding you have a younger child and a older child. If in fact you lived under the same roof and had no choice that would be diffreny. Why contaminat 2 house holds? Everyone on her knows when a baby is sick they want mommy anyways. If she purposely sent her sick it was wrong, but yes things happen and she. Ould have been sick and didnt know it. My next thing is this the weather has everyone messed up if she is bot running fever then su k it up and enjoy your time. I have babies at home and one that if he gets sick has to be admitted into the hospital due to him being allergic to penicillin and sulphur this is the only way we can treat him. Due to this I stay home with my kids people do not come into my home sick. I am a mom to multiples, I do not pick favorites but I have to ask whose going to do my job while I am in the hospital with 1 child. Now.of you are that concerned take her to the dr yourself or have your fiancee, mom doesnt have to do everything.
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If this is your first child I get it. You want to protect that child. That said families get sick. That is what you ALL are now. A family healthy and ill. If your concerned about the health of you step daughter than by all means you and your SO take that child to the doctor yourselves. Call up her doctor to verify her condition if the mom has “stories”. It should not just be up to BM to care for her alone. What? The mom gets all the sick time and Dad only the good times? What about when your baby is ill… do you need to send your baby away so step daughter can see her Dad and she won’t miss school because maybe the baby “made her sick”? Family’s deal with things like this. My 27 weeker 1lb 9oz son who’s identical twin died after birth has two older siblings. Needless to say I was careful when he came home from 3 months in the NICU and his siblings got ill, but never would I send my other child away. No parent would/ should punish their child for sickness. I also am the step parent to two other children… who I’ve often taken to the doctor and cared for. I’d never for a second think of turning them away. Ever.
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He’s the Dad. If they split time, yea, she goes to your house. Sick or not. You’re gonna take him for better or worse, but not his kid? You suck and need to get over yourself.
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Like what are you gonna do when you son gets sick at daycare? Or brings something home from kindergarten/school? And if they do bring something home and the second child you have gets sick, then the third? What then? Get upset at your kids for getting sick? Get upset at the other kids that don’t know they’re carriers of something or their parents don’t know they’re carriers of a sickness? Kids get sick and it’s our job to take every precaution necessary, it’s our job to care for them unconditionally. Welcome to motherhood, when one gets sick we all get sick.
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You don’t get to send your step kids away
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Please don’t have more kids than. They can’t just fend for themselves when they are sick.
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Step daughter or not if she’s sick for over a month why haven’t you or her father taken her to the doctor as well ? Just telling the birth mother to keep her at her house until she is better and giving her all the responsibility of a sick child ? Your partner is her birth dad and needs to be responsible as well. He should take her to get seen by a doctor too.
When you decided to be with someone who has a child that is you accepting everything that comes with that. His daughter shouldn’t be made not to see her dad just because she is sick. Do the normal thing and don’t let her hold the baby/ hand sanitiser/ keeping as much as possible germ free instead of sending a little girl away just because she is sick.
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If you were a babysitter or an aunt and uncle I would agree but her father has equal responsibility to her eyes her mother and he needs to take care of her when she’s sick. In situations like that you just have to keep the kids apart and get an air purifier and sanitize everything and maybe have him care for the daughter and you care for the infant. I’m sorry that happened it must be extremely frustrating. Try giving everyone elderberry.
I get being upset because bm isn’t being responsible for her own kids so now it puts yours at risk
You need to be someone with no kids cause this shouldn’t be an issue
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Why do step moms have to just put up with everything that the other parents wouldnd
What if the 6 year old was your biological child? Would you send her away until she wasn’t sick anymore to keep the 5 week old healthy? Probably not
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You shouldnt be upset that shes sick. She still needa ro be able to see your son. If that was YOUR daughter would you just semd her off w whoever while she was sick bciz of the baby? Probably not. Youd just take extra precautions to make sire baby boy didnt get sick.
Yes u have a right to be upset that the mother lied to you. But then again maybe at first she really did think her daughter was fine.
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In all honesty if somebody is sick I’m pretty sure I would be keeping them home whether it was Dad or mom’s turn with a child the reason being is they’re sick they need their rest they need to get better end of story. But also you’re not going to be able to prevent your child from getting sick. You’re also with more than one child going to get colds more frequently. Wash your hands every time cover your mouth maybe a face cover to keep you from spreading germs but in all honesty yeah I would probably be ticked that the baby was sick it always sucks when a baby is sick but at the same time if you have more than one kid it’s going to happen so I think everybody needs to get on top of their shit you could have taken more precautions at your house you could have straight up taking the girl to the doctors didn’t have to ask your married to the dad the Dad could have done it he didn’t have to ask so everybody is equally to blame for this some of it could have been prevented but in all actuality it’s going to happen.
In this case, you are the asshole. Would you kick her out if she had been your daughter? No. You don’t get to say she can’t come over, for -any- reason.
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I live with family. My mom, brother, me, and my daughter. My brother got sick when he went to a concert. Then my daughter got sick. Then my mom. Then me. Am I mad at my brother? No. I’ve been taking care of my daughter, mom, and myself, while they’ve been sick AND while I’ve been sick. It happens. Now my brother is better, my daughter is better, and my mother and I have gotten better. And we take every precaution. And we’ve also been doing what we can to get better quickly. Like I previously stated, when one gets sick we ALL get sick. Domino effect.
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Shes not mad she sick shes mad at the other parents lack of responsibility if it was her own kids she would have taken her to the doctor and got her the help to not be sick for a month!!!
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Treat her the same way you’d hope someone would treat your son if he were ever in that position.
So was your SO and your step daughter supposed to go a month without seeing each other? Kids gets sick. Life cant stop because of it.
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That poor baby (the bonus child). It’s so sad that your son got sick but YOUR DAUGHTER has been sick for a while from what you say, that’s just as sad. If you don’t care and love for her as your own then why be in her life? As a part of her family, you should accept her no matter what. It’s not ideal having a sick child and a new born but thats what YOU sign up for when you decided to marry your SO. The fact that her father agreed to this is beyond me. I feel sorry that she has a bonus mom who cares more for her bio kid then her. Hopefully one day you’ll see her differently.
Id also like to add im not trying to be rude, I find this legitimately sad. I had a step father and never in a million years did I ever think that he wasnt my actual dad cause he took me EXACTLY like i was.
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Seriously…SHE IS YOUR FAMILY… not an outsider. YOU need to step up to the plate of being a good stepmom… not one out of convenience!
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I’m just curious what you would do with the child if he had full custody? Just throw her away because she got sick and you don’t want her near the baby? Here’s a thought, how about don’t let a sick kid near the baby. Both my girls got the flu this year and my premature son didn’t, you know why? Because I didn’t let them near him until they got better. I feel like you are being extremely petty. This sound a whole lot more rude than I intended for it to, but I’m just being honest here.
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I don’t think you have any right to be upset, being a step parent is a difficult process but you need to look at it from every perspective.
What happens when said child comes to visit and your own biological is sick?
Good hand hygiene and sanitation should ensure the germs don’t get passed around
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When u said yes to that ring u said yes to his daughter get over yourself kids get sick and being the older child she’s going to bring germs u don’t want your son sick than don’t ever go anywhere with him infact look your self up in a padded room with him. Or accept that u now allso have a daughter who needs attention
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So what would you do if she was your kid living in the same house? Would you send her away because she was sick?
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Yes you are wrong to be upset it’s his child . His responsibility as well as hers . If you think she needs to go to the doctor then you guys take her . Hopefully everyone gets healthy. Best to you all !
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You should take your step daughter to the dr. As a parent it’s also your responsibility and you should be treating both children equally
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My question. Why don’t you and dad take her to the doctors? If moms says she taken her whynot save mom another day of missing work to take her again and just take her YOURSELF. hell I understand. My mom was a single parent and so am I; my mom never sent me sick to my dads but if I got sick at my dads house it was my dads responsibility to take me to doctors.
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He doesn’t get to choose when he is a parent to his other child because your 2nd child 5 weeks old? You’re at more risk taking your baby to the Walmart.
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If she was fine Friday morning & it started Saturday morning. Could it possibly be something at your all’s house triggering a cough/cold symptoms
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Why are you asking the mother to take the child to the doctor, does nobody else have enough sense or time to take her yourselves & hear from a physician yourselves since obviously you don’t believe the BM anyway?
Sounds to me like the kid is just battling a cold and or allergies for quite some time. Your kid will be fine. Step or not your SO should never have to been torn in between BOTH his flesh & blood children. I’m sorry this is selfish. If you’re going to have kids hang on for the ride. The stress, sicknesses, good times, etc. you don’t get to pick & choose what’s more convenient.
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You can’t ask your SO not see his kid because YOU are worried about YOUR kid. I mean what do you plan to do if you have another baby, and your older child gets sick while you have another new born at home? Kick them out the house until they’re better? No you make it work.
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I don’t know if it’s even possible for her to have given whatever she had to the baby in less than one day. Don’t most viruses have incubation periods of several days? Maybe I’m wrong.
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I have this exact same thing happen to me with my step children ages 3, 4 and 5 their mother doesn’t take care of them very well and I’ve even offered to take them myself well I have a now 7 month old and he has been sick from them 4 times in the last month and a half he has been so sick with the flu and she their BM doesn’t want me to take care of them more then I have to cuz it makes her look bad it’s very frustrating cuz she is so jealous and I will have them better and they come back sick again and again with several different things my so don’t want to fight for custody cuz he doesn’t want any issues with her but they’re not being treated like they should be I would take them but she trys to make sure that I can’t take them to the doctor or pick them up from school or anything but asks my so to leave work to do it she trys to cut me out of everything I am sorry for the rant I’m going through some stuff trying to figure out what is the best way to deal with this for the children cuz they are the most important thing I totally understand cuz I ask her the same thing to please make sure they are not sick especially cuz my son has a low immune system from some complications of being born early good luck
She’s still your husband’s kid. When they’re your biological children, you don’t get the option to send them away until they’re better, you just separate them, wash everyone’s hands and keep things cleaned up. And sometimes they still get sick. If she has a cold or respiratory virus, taking her to the doctor 100 times won’t help anyway, so requiring it is useless and expensive.
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If you had more than one child living with you and the eldest was sick, would you move the eldest out of the house until they were better so the baby didn’t get sick?! Surely it’s the exact same situation except for the fact the stepdaughter doesn’t live with you full time. You don’t get to pick and choose when to be a parent whether that be bio or step
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So… if you had another kid that was biologically yours, would you send them away if they were sick? No. I have a 2 year old and I just had a baby on the 10th and she ended up getting sick a few days after we got home. But we dealt with it and did our best to keep them away from each other. When you have multiple kids, it’s going to happen. You can’t expect that little girl to miss time with her dad because she’s sick. I hope you didn’t say anything to the little girl and make her feel bad.
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You’re not wrong for being upset she lied. That being said, she should have said, “Yes she’s sick, I’ll send her medicine with her.” Or something to that affect and you could have taken precautions while she was there to prevent your newborn from getting sick. Totally fair to be upset she didn’t warn you. The simplest of colds or coughs to an infant can be deadly. Just tell her, “Hey if she’s sick please just warn us so we can prepare.” Little one should still get to see her Dad though.
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If its court order he had to get his daughter on his time
Kids get sick and it’s back to back well…just deal with it🙄
Honestly if u have more kids then u would be dealing with this eitherway and they at home 24/7
Of course the BM doesn’t care bout u or ur son. Shes immature and jealous.
You take ur stepdaughter to hospital. Have her wear a mask. Make her some soup. Give her meds. Be a mom.
Maybe it’s a mold allergy?
Her mother sucks. We get it. But it not the child fault to disown her for months. She needs u guys. If it better parents than her own mother…then show it!
Coming from the same…I have a newborn
And my older kids come to me sick all the time.
There dad wont clean the mold or take them to hospital.
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As a step-mom you accept that girl no matter what. Even sick cause us mom’s dont toss our kids aside when sick. Sorry to hear your new one got sick but hey eventually you will be dealing with him sick. Welcome to multiple children and stock up on medications and show some compassion for sick kids
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You took on your partner knowing he had a child, he can’t stop seeing her just because she’s ill, as parents we can’t pick and choose when there going to be sick or when we see them or not. Have u considered if his daughter is poorly the mum might have spent a months worth’s of sleepless nights looking after her child all week sent her to her dads anyway so she can have a good nights sleep and rest. If the child was that poorly while she was in both of your care why didn’t one of you take her to the drs or give her medicine
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I dont think you should be upset unfortunately your partner is her dad as well as your sons and you knew she was around before you had the baby he cant just not have his daughter if she is poorly
Ok well first off why didn’t dad take her to doctors right then of it was that bad of a couch? Sounds pretty shit tr y to be so worried about the baby then neglect the other. He’s her father so wtf is it only her mother responsible to take care of her sick? It isn’t she’s been sick for a month ffs you sounds fking horrible.
This is your step daughter yes? In my head step/half doesn’t matter. You took your son to the hospital for the same thing this little girl has, did it not cross your mind to take her in to be seen at the same time? Then they can treat BOTH kids, and you know she’s taken care of as well. This needs to be a team effort your SO had a child with this woman, this is his kid, why not treat her as yours too? She’s sick it happens. sanitize, suck boogers and move on momma cause this won’t be the end.
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I’m sorry but as your step child you should be willing to take care of them even when sick. If it was your child would you send them away?
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Tell her dad to tend to her. She was there first so deal with it. Or leave. And as a mother keep her till she is better have dad take her to Dr too make sure
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Ok first of all… that’s your stepdaughter. Maybe be more proactive with sanitization. Keep her away from the baby, even?
My older daughter got her baby sister sick. We didn’t banish her. I mean, it’s gonna happen. I was armed with Lysol & just had to take care of it. They got over it.
It is scary & glad your baby’s okay. But you sound like a first time mom.
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this takes me back to my own childhood when my half sister was born. 
your so and his daughter are a package deal. you don’t get to pick which part of the package you want when you want it. If y’all about to be married then she’s your daughter too. If you are going to alienate her, a LITTLE GIRL, like that, you don’t deserve that package.
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I would have problems with you too. You don’t pick and choose when you get the child. If they come sick then that’s how it is. My kids get snotty nose and coughs during cold weather and it last forever it seems. You’re being too dramatic and definitely not treating that girl like you love her.
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I have 4 kids,they all give each other something at some point…
It just comes with the territory of having kids,we know if one has it,they will all most likely get it,then us too haha
I get it’s scary with a newborn but we’ve all been there and I think you’re being unreasonable.
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U had every right in asking and I have a newborn and when my son was sick i asked him to keep him longer dont want her getting sick as they have not even been vaccinated they can die from a older kids cold it can cause rsv. I’m with u on this !!!
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Also u shouldve been told so that if u didnt have a choice u could’ve isolated the sick one and dad took care of her while u took care of newborn. And prevented a newborn from getting sick
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Idc if you have a 5 week old if your gonna be married to her dad then you need to take her weather she is sick or not you don’t have any rights to be upset she showed up sick. Now you have a right to be upset that baby momma isn’t taking care of her properly but other than that it’s time to grow up and be a mom to both kids. Cause right now you act like you don’t care about the oldest. In the slightest.
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If visitation is court ordered… You can’t do much… Just treat the kid while she’s there… Buy the meds you need and move on…
Hm. He doesnt get to stop being a dad because his daughter is sick. What happens if you decide to have another child are you going to send your son away because hes sick and the baby might get it? No. So yes I think you’re in the wrong and when dad noticed the cough he should’ve taken her to the doctor himself.
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I’m sure if your stepdaughter was your biological daughter, you wouldn’t ship her off to Timbuktu if she was sick around her younger sibling so why act like she can’t be sick at her Dad’s house aka HER other home. Adults are the most petty and clueless sometimes 
If you have another baby, what do you expect to do with your current son when he’s sick around that baby? Think people, think.
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My kids go to their dads when they are sick enough to see a Dr
Because I searched high and low through 3 states to find a pediatrician that I trusted. I moved 4hrs away from this pediatrician, so now their dad takes them to appts… He has a baby with his wife, I believe baby is 7ish months old now. My point, my kids go to their dad’s when they have strep, bronchitis, etc to see their Dr. It’s wild to me you’d expect your daughter to stay at her moms house because she is sick. I’ve literally never, not 1 time, kicked one of my kids out for being sick 
infant or not wtf… My kids step mom wouldn’t even come up with the thought they shouldn’t be there sick, she would just help their dad take care of them. We have 50/50 time and we adhere to it, hell or high water. That’s what coparenting is, you don’t negotiate time unless it’s necessary, it’s all about the kids. We manage with 3-4hrs between us. I can’t imagine saying my son can’t come here to see his mama because he’s sick… It’s just nuts to me I have 4 kids you bleach, sanitize, wash hands and faces as much as possible, you repeat over and over to stay out of the baby’s face, you monitor to make sure baby isn’t putting things in their mouth sick kids have touched, you repeat 100 times that you can’t use/share baby’s blankets and toys… Like what would you do if your kid was sick, just not let her come see her dad? Idk, maybe it’s cuz I have 4 kids and can’t separate them but I think this is wild
As a mom I personally wouldn’t send my child off sick Even with their father. I’d want my child home with me. As that mom, I wouldn’t send my child off sick knowing she would be around a 5 week old baby. But that’s just me.
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As a mom I’m not sending my kid no where sick. I hate ppl like that sit tf down and tend to her. Kids are dying from the flu.
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His daughter is his daughter regardless of being sick or not. If it’s your time to have her YOU take the precautions to keep the sickness away from baby. Preferably by you and baby staying away instead of locking away in her room. Also, why can’t dad take her to the doctor? He’s a parent too and if you have doubts that will solve the issue.
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I would totally be upset. Why doesn’t the mom want to take care of her baby when she is sick? I would think a mom would call and rearrange the daddys weekend so she could tend to her sick baby. Most babies want their mom when they feel bad.
“Stepmother” the wife of one’s parent when distinct from one’s natural or legal mother.