Very incredibly selfish.
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I don’t think she was trying to be petty or exclude her step daughter. I get the whole if she were yours argument or the what if she was over full time but that isn’t the case. And as a step mother myself your love for your step kids is always going to be different then with your bio kids. Different doesn’t mean less just different. And In her defense I would be worried for my baby as well. I have a newborn and my step sons mom and younger brother had the flu. They spent the week with us to avoid catching it themselves and I was a basket case making sure they washed their hands and stayed away from the baby just Incase. Since the flu could potentially kill my baby. I stayed in the bedroom with her for most of the week to keep her away from them as a precaution and with postpartum hormones you feel trapped and your mind wanders and over reacts so I totally get her concern. We have a good relationship with BM tho and if we were all sick here she would keep the boys to make sure they didn’t get sick and get her other son sick. It goes both ways.
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I have my daughter majority of the time along with her step father her bio father gets her Friday and Saturday I don’t send her if she’s sick just because I feel like I take better care of her when she’s sick, I’m 5 months pregnant right now but when I have baby and if she’s sick he’s guna have to step it up and keep her longer than the usual two days because newborns can die from normal illnesses children have. Newborns health is so fragile I’d be mad
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This has happened to me before . i dont have a newborn but i have 4 other children. As a mother i couldnt understand how their mother could just send her to anyone sick not feeling well. So my boyfriend and i took her to the dr together. It gave my boyfriend peace too. Thats his child too. He cant pick n choose who to take care of. I do also understand why u r so worried cuz when it comes to newborns u dont play period!!! When it comes to children you never pick one over the other you just try your best to accomadate everyone. I noe its hard but children dont understand if their mother or father is being petty . they just noe they feel sick and need comfort.
I had a step daughter had no problem having her over when sick.
People have older kids who get sick when they have younger kids in the house. I think the relationships are more important
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When you married the man you knew about his child . What did u expect ? Was he to ignore his first child and put yours first? Children always get sick . Mom need a break too. If it was his days to keep the child so be it. I can’t believe you put the time and the effort for this BS.
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As a FORMER stepmother who hated her stepchild, I recognize the same toxicity in you. You have no business with stepchildren. Ever.
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If your all in this with your bf or whatever he is to you, then his kid becomes yours as well too. Co parenting with the BM. It’s not a “his kid” “my kid” type of deal. Before you had a baby with him you both should of thought this through. Take her to the pediatrician, why didn’t you?! Should send your bf to the BM house when he gets sick then. Geez. You can’t just pick and choose what child you want to take care of. Doesn’t work that way. My bf and I have 2 kids each, but I treat them as my kids as well. Planning a future together. Plus they don’t have a mom in the picture. It is what it is, I understand the worry, but his daughter is a child too. That worries me that if she was coughing and having a hard time that neither of you took her to the doctor.
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Well you dont get to choose to be a
parent or not. Kids get sick. Welcome to parenthood?
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oh dear GOD. that child is still HIS CHILD just as much as your son is HIS CHILD. kids get sick. that’s what they do. and if y’all don’t feel like she’s been to the hospital, then take her yourselves. boo snarl. but if she was your daughter, would you send her off because you don’t want her around the baby while she’s sick? absolutely not. you have no business in a relationship w somebody who already has children if you can’t handle their children. lord have mercy.
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This is a joke right? Wtf is wrong with you.
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He’s the father. He has every right to take her to on of those walk in minor emergency clinics. There open on Saturdays. He doesn’t have to ask for permission to keep his family healthy. Don’t rely on the mother. You and dad need to keep the family healthy. 
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Wow if this doesn’t sound exactly like fkn Ellie 
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So if the tables were turned and it was your weekend with the daughter. But your son was sick, would you send the son away for the weekend to avoiding getting her sick? No, because that’s your child. Your kid, your responsibility. If you want to be with this man, that girl is your responsibility too.
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Umm. Wtf did I just read🙄
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if you guys had custody of his daughter, she would be there regardless when she is sick. Once your son is older, and you have another child (if you have another child) what are you going to do when he gets sick? Send him to a relatives until he’s better?
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That poor little girl, I feel so sorry for her to have a “step mom” like you. If she lived with him full time what would you do try and send her away somewhere when she’s sick? You guys should’ve taken her to the doctors and taken care of her like parents are supposed to like you would with your baby smh. Shame on the dad too for letting you treat his daughter like that
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Yeah you’re overreacting. I get that your baby is little but no need to punish her or the father for being sick. On top of that nothing stopped the father from taking the child to see a dr over the weekend. My youngest lives with his dad but if I notice my child sick on my time weekend or not I take him to the doctor because his health is a priority to me. You also could have probably avoided your son getting sick. Also making sure the child uses proper hygiene reduces the contaminate. What would say if the child was living with you all the time? Send her away because she got sick??? Now think about it.
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Its hard cuz this is your first baby and you are probably freaked out. But yes second kid gets sick all the time. Even at 5 weeks. My newborn son got RSV from my daughter. Its scary but your son is going to have a strong immune system and rarely miss school when time for preschool.
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I understand why you are upset but that’s your step daughter. She’s basically considered your child now as well even though not by blood. What happens when you and your husband have more kids together? Are you going to keep them all apart from each other?
You’re overreacting, and sound entitled and childish. Kids get sick, deal with it. What would you do if you had another child (biologically), or had your stepdaughter full time? Would you send them away? Yes, a newborn can get sick contracting a cold, but if you shield your child to everything, a cold will eventually be deadly without a built up immune system. I never, not once, sent my bonus son back to his moms when my youngest was born because he was congested or had a runny nose. Even if he was throwing up, this is his home just as much as it is mine, and I’m not going to make him feel otherwise. Grow up.
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Yup you’re wrong and kind of a B&$#%! 
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Honey if you’re gonna be that girls step mom you need to STEP up. When you get her treat just the same as your boy… if she’s sick take her to the doctor same thing you did for him. If she’s hungry feed her, the same you would do for your son. When decided to be with this man you decided to be with her to. You can’t just push her of into a corner when its convenient. That being said if you can’t love her like you’re her birth parent then walk away bc that’s only gonna cause problems in the future.
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You must be a 1st time parent 
Have a few you will calm down kids get sick it happens I have 3 kids 19 ,12 & 11 it’s okay to take percussions but you cannot prevent everything, my daughter went to school fine and came home sick as a dog it happens .
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So do you think if someone is sick they shouldn’t see their kid 
As an adult and mother, it’s up to you to make sure that anyone around your child cleans their hands. And let alone close to baby. That’s your choice. Your child. But I wouldn’t care. Build a strong immune system. All three of my kids went to visit their cousin and they kissed my cousin on his head, when their cousin had chicken pox. Nothing happened. And I’m damned if I encourage my children to be afraid of things like that. They haven’t been sick in years! Let alone worth visiting a doctor for.
Kids get sick. Your child will one day get sick and make your younger children sick, it’s no ones fault. 
You are causing drama where there is none, you and her father should have taken her to the hospital, being with someone who has children already means you take care of that child as if they were your own… if she was yours would you have sent her away sick??? Kids get sick, you gotta suck it up and deal with it.
I dont think shes upset with her daughter being around ladies like calm it down a notch … shes upset that the mother doesnt have the respect to say hey yeah she is sick still she lies and says the kids not and then ontop of that sounds like the mother isnt letting the father or step mother take the child to get medical help or medication sooo to me this step mother has total right to be angry… atleast if she got a heads up she could send her own baby away if that’s the way she wants to parent, or even set up her own way to keep the kids separate etc., and for the mother to not allow them to take the child to get medical care that makes it pretty clear she doesnt give a shit…
Step daughter has just as much right to be in your home as your 5 week old son whether healthy or sick!
PERIOD!
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Well, I can see why BM doesn’t like you.
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He’s the kids parent, he’s just as responsible for looking after her when he’s sick as the mum. Get a fucking grip.
Your baby could be sick just on his own. BM has probably took her to the doctor and they tell her it’s fine. Mine are saying that, because it’s the weather keeping them coughing. You’re over reacting and not being his fair. He’s her parents whether she feels good or not
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You can’t pick and choose when you’re a parent and no child is more important than the other, they both your partners kids.
Make sure you don’t have anymore kids, just incase your eldest gets sick and gets the new baby sick.
Unless you’re going to send the eldest away for a week and put them in quarantine…
I’m a mum of 3 about to be 4, a friend- yes fair enough but your step daughter is just ridiculous to be upset about.
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That’s that little girls home as much as yours… if it’s his weekend to have his daughter and she’s sick then you guys need to look after her just like you would look after your own. Can’t be throwing her back to her mothers house because she’s unwell…
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You don’t deserve to have that title of step mom. We all work very hard to be good step mothers out here and you ruin it so don’t consider yourself one please
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I’m sorry but you are definitely overreacting, that is your child’s sibling. You should be treating her as she is your own. To say it’s wrong for your spouses daughter to come over because she is sick is simply selfish behavior in which I pray for you if y’all have any more children together. be fair in the situation, would you send your child somewhere else if you had another kid who was sick? Shame on you for asking such a selfish question. I’ll pray for you 
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Wow what if that child loved with u permanently u are a awful step mom all the kids should be treated the same
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I wonder what it’s like to be able to choose when you parent ?! 
how about if you don’t want to be in the house where the child deserves just as much right to be there as you do . LEAVE. Get a hotel stay with family. ANYTHING ! If you don’t want the evil step mother nickname cut the crap. I have 4 kids all under 6. (6,4,2,1 ) I better tell my oldest he can move out so he doesn’t get his siblings sick , HOW DARE HE COME HOME 
no wonder why BM doesn’t like you !
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Split custody is unfortunate and visitations are always about teamwork.
My dad raised me and if I or my brothers were sick, he kept us at home until we were better and we would see our mom another time.
A newborn is a NEWBORN and if anyone is sick, sibling or not, they need to stay away from baby!!!
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Some people have a terrible time understanding children’s health. You have every right to be upset.
Whooping cough is a very serious thing I might add, to me this post has nothing to do with step mothers, it’s about the safety of the newborn baby.
Trust your instincts and make sure everyone that comes near your newborn is vaccinated properly and is healthy!
If your step daughter comes over again sick, take her to the doctor and see what’s up and why she’s so frequently sick.
Then keep her in her room to rest, take medicine, drink fluids and get to feeling better. It limits time around baby too and that way you don’t seem like the “evil step mom” that people keep calling you in the comments.
You’re not btw.
That isn’t how being a parent works. If you cant handle being a step mom then break up. But you are an awful person if you act like she cant be around her dad because she has a cold.
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Let’s find the middle ground here everyone. The daughter was STILL SICK and the BM should have been considerate of there being a 5 week old at home. So what if some of you are saying your child got sick at such and such an age and was fine. Some are not fine. Give the baby more time to develop a stronger immune system. That said, the 6 year old, yours by blood or not, is family and deserves all the same love as your son. If she’s sick you and your fiance should have taken it upon yourselves to get her treated. MOMS WORRY, its natural.
What’s really sad is the daughter’s mother has no respect for her own daughter so of course she has no respect for your kid. Why didn’t her daddy take her to the doctor.
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I have a 3 year old and a 2 week old . My 3 year old had the flu this last week and still has it . Ifeel you are overreacting because the other child isn’t your blood. and that’s really selfish of you. She’s only 6 it’s not her fault.
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Get used to it. I cant just put my 2 other kids in bubbles bc one is sick. Ahhh new parenting
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Get over it. Kids get sick. Your fiancé has the right to have his child whether she is sick or not…that’s his child. Your kid is not superior just because it’s yours. What are you going to do if you have another baby and the first one gets sick…send him away?
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Well you did say it yourself that Friday she seemed fine and Saturday she had a horrible cough. Most viruses and bugs that children pick up don’t even set in until 24 hours.So the MOTHER of that child like you may not have seen any symptoms or heard anything and thought she was perfectly healthy and that’s why she sent her. You need to stop being such a judgmental person about her being sick all the time because once children start school and are around all of those other germs its sickness all the time and you won’t be judging when it’s your child coming home with all the cooties bringing them home to you! My daughter had pneumonia and a virus together at the same time for two weeks and three weeks later an upper respiratory infection, Last year she had the flu and strep at the same time and nearly died and she is 8. So learn to be a bit more sensitive as a stepmother and stop trying to act as though your baby is above your stepdaughter.
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So when u have your 2nd baby. And your now son is sick…ur gonna send your son away?? What do you think families do that that multiple children?
You’re a first time mom and nervous. Taking your son to the hospital during flu season was worse then his sister being around him.
Do better at hand washing and keeping them apart. You will soon learn that just because she is congested, it doesn’t mean it calls for a doctors visit. It’s cold season. Kids her age spend the majority of the fall & winter sick.
(Mom of 5) We don’t do doctors unless they have fever for more than 3 days. Congestion calls for some mucinex or Benadryl. Not a doctors visit. At that age you can not control these kids colds.
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You said it-she was fine Friday and sick Saturday. That’s usually how virus’s work. What I’m getting from this is that you think you’re child is superior to the other one. Your fiancé has every right to see his daughter on his scheduled parenting weekend! So if you have a new child are you going to make this one leave when they’re sick? You’re very clearly a new parent and don’t understand how kids get sick so easily and can be fine one minute and sick the next. You better never send your kids to school…they’re gonna get so sick all the time😂
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I keep my kids separated when they start showing symptoms, doesn’t always work but it helped a lot when my son was born prematurely. Lysol everything and be sure to have a second TV for when one kid has to be quarantined lol
When did we start using BM to describe a person?lololol!!
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You are not wrong for being upset. When a family has multiple children in the home its impossible to avoid spreading the illness. In your case it is possible to avoid and shoukd be avoided with a newborn. If your son was 2 its a different story. But they should have switched weekends or something to try to avoid everyone getting sick. And everyone wants to say she is your child too. That is somewhat correct…you need to always treat her as if she is your own and love her. Thats part of being with a person with kids. However I dont agree with people referring to you as MOM too. I would be PISSED if another woman married to my ex or not referred to herself as my childrens mom. Stay in your lane ladies! Be a loving step parent and a role model and a wonderful person for the child but know that you will never be their mother. And stop trying to and over stepping your boudaries. Dad could have taken her to the clinic but it is not your place as dads girlfriend! Or really even if you were his wife. Unless you had mothers consent. And vice versa…a step dad needs to play a step dad role and remain in his lane as well. So i can see where you are upset. When you have baby #2 and your son is sick you cant help it except to disinfect and try to keep them from spreading mucus and whatnot. Its part of having multiple kids. But I personally would never send my child around a newborn knowing they are sick if i dont have to. Weekends can be switched. I cant understand how people think the other BM doesnt have to care about your child? Hes a baby! A child! I care about all children, mine or not. I would never want to expose a newborn or have hard feeling for an innocent baby. My ex has a baby and I love her though Ive only met her a cpl times. In fact I care about his ex gfs child as well. I think of them both. And they’ve been broke up for yrs. She is a rotten excuse for a human being if she does not have genuine care for your child. So while I see your point, also remember to never make baby girl feel bad in situations like this. Love her, comfort her and just be the best step mom you can.
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If it were the other way around… If your newborn was sick & the 6 year old was home, would you send your newborn somewhere else so the 6 year old wouldn’t get sick?
Prince Og this was so gross.
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As a step parent of 3 and a mom of 3. I don’t separate my kids because they are sick we avoid the touching hugging and all that. If my step child came to me sick I’m gonna take them to the Dr. I think your over reacting … myself and the children step mom gets all great we co parent well. For the last 6 months the children have lived with us I have took them to the Dr and etc. My 8 year old had the flu all last week but we didn’t send the other kids away… I have a very young son to but we just kept everthing sprayed and washed hands. Body etc. Even bed sheets and all. You Can t keep the step kids away just because you have kids of your own. You accepted the x with the responsible adulting thing called his children as well… so next time she is sick stop blaming the them and take care of her as she was your own! Keep the baby a distance. Keep everthing sprayed. You will never once here my step kids refer me as step mom but I’m the there bonus mom that helps them everday I can. I not only take them to Dr. But I deal with there schooling to.
You obviously don’t plan to ever send your child to daycare or school than because kids are always sick!
No wonder you and the baby’s mother don’t get along 
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I can’t say I really blame you! My son is 14 and when he gets sick I dont send him to his dads and there isnt even babies over there. But they do have 2 daughters that I dont want to get sick. Also its the same if his dad or step mom is sick, she calls me and tells me everyone in the house is sick! Imo thats just being a decent human being!
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Kids get sick… just think if she was in the home 24/7
I understand your concern, but what happens when you have another kid? Are you going to send them away when they get sick? If your a family your a family, accept it. I know it’s scary to you but your stepdaughter is just as much your husband’s child as your son it.
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Being a parent is in sickness and in health. I’d the child had fever and/or vomiting I don’t bring mine to their dads but a cold, he can handle that
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When you hook up with a partner, it’s a package deal if they have kids. You seem very resentful of not only the “BM”, but of the little girl too.
Get over yourself. These children are going to grow up together IF you and your fiance stay together. Whether she’s sick or not, that’s still his daughter and he has the right and responsibility, as much as the mother to care for that little girl whether shes sick or not.
Keep them isolated, wash your hands and get both of those children to the dr, just like you would if she was your own. She’s innocent in all of this. And if mom is sending her to your house if she’s sick, then she should be loved and nurtured and taken care of just as the newborn.
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What if you and your husband had a sick 6 year old together? You gonna shut her out the house if she’s sick? Do you know how many parents have MORE than one kid ??? What do u think they do when one gets sick and they have a small baby in the house as well? U suck it up. That child is half your husband. Sounds like you consider your child to be the important one
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I understand you wanting to protect your child but he has multiple children. She should be welcome sick or not. As a mother of 4 children should I have kicked my older children out when they got sick to keep the younger ones from getting it? Sorry life doesn’t work that way. Use good hygiene and make sure everyone properly washes hands and dont let her kiss on the baby. Good luck.
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Its having common sense. It’s being respectful about who else is in the house hold. I wont send my son to his fathers when his sick because he wants to stay home with me with his mom. Like most kids they want their mom for comfort. Exposing a baby that young to a virus could be deathly. Their immune systems arent6as strong as a 6 year old is. Also tell you step daughter to keep washing her hands and cover her mouth more stress it on her how important it is so she doesn’t get anyone sick. Also for the mother being that way is kind of selfish. When my step daughter isn’t feeling well her mother still sends her to our house. It’s not a problem, but I do get bothered by it because that means my child is going to get sick now. And if he gets sick enough it can be a trip to the hospital, if he gets a fever it can turn into a seizure. So yah in some cases maybe keep your damn kid with you and away from other children for simple reason like this. Or this little nb can end up getting pneumonia because of a simple cold. So yah be mindful when you wanna send your sick kids somewhere where there is a nb. Its selfish stay home with your sick kids!
Your house isnt a daycare, that’s her father. You don’t get to send her home when she is sick. Welcome to life with kids. Dont call that little girl your step daughter if you’re not going to treat her like an option and not like your own.
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I only read the first question. Yes.
We just delt with this at my house. My step son was sick and i have a special needs son and she sent her son here and my husband brought him to the hospital and he had the flu. I was so pissed! You have every right to be upset! I dont let her kids come over when my kids are sick and it should be the other way around too. Its just protecting everyone in the situation. I get where your coming from.
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I don’t send my kids no where when they are sick. Dont care if they have kids or not my job as a mom is to make sure they are taken care of. When they are healthy they can go anytime to there other parents but not till then.
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So I’m gonna say this - any chance she is allergic to something in your home? If she gets a cough and congested every time shes over I would say shes reacting to something and very likely could be fine at her moms. Aside of that as someone who has been a stepmom - you need to put your animosity towards mom away and remember that your children are siblings and BLOOD related. You don’t have to like her mom or the situation but the 6yr old is innocent as is your son. - as for the possible sickness - do what every other parent does and take them to the doctor or an urgent care instead of the e.r. and remember as the adults it is your responsibility to keep a clean home and germs at bay, not the little ones.
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Kids get sick. That doesnt mean they cant see their parent. Do you send dad to hotel if he’s sick. I fucking doubt it. Quit causing problems.
IMO you can’t keep the daughter from the dad because you have a newborn baby. I had a preemie at 34 weeks and her older sister was in kindergarten. The day my preemie was released from the NICU, my daughter was running a fever and the school had called me to tell me she spiked one. I was terrified but I wouldn’t have denied my daughter a right to her house or family bc I was afraid of my youngest catching something. Good grief. Some kids just get sick and the cough or nose symptoms last longer than being infectious. Keep them separate at home, but don’t be pissed off that their time being sick doesn’t line up with your schedule. That is ridiculous and unfair to the oldest
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As much as it sucks, kids get sick. As the stepmom to your SOs daughter you just have to deal with the fact that you’ll have her sick sometimes. You cant expect the BM to keep her every time she gets sick. Children get sick, period. The best thing you can do is just make sure shes washing her hands and staying out of the babys face. Also her dad shouldn’t not get to see her just because yall have another kid now. Sick or not.
So what ur son is more important then his daughter? Would u lock her up some where away from everyone when she is sick if she lived there? Kids get sick it’s part of life. Stop blaming that child cause ur son got sick. U sound very self centered to me and need to grow up
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I honestly can’t stand questions like this. Yes, it’s wrong to be mad. Your child isn’t more important than his child and do you just not allow your child in your home because they’re sick? You’re not a friend. You’re a parent. Be a parent.
Yes you are wrong. Wash your hands and sheets.
Calm down killa!!. She is building his immune system. Encourage healthy hand washing. Place and use sanitizer in every room and Lysol everything possible. (There even sanitizing tissues) As a mother of 8 (blended) kids only wanna share germs.
Yes you’re wrong. It’s his kid too. Not just the moms responsibility to take care of her when she’s sick. You sound very immature and I can see why you guys don’t agree on things often. You seem very petty.
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I’m married. We both have a daughter from a previous relationship. Plus we are pregnant. My husbands ex NEVER brings his daughter to the doctors, dentist, etc. we do everything. But I would NEVER tel him she cannot come over because she is sick. His 13 yr old is just as much mine. Granted he also has 50/50. (Just got 50/50) before he had her 2 nights a week. Again her mom NEVER brings her to doctors, dentists, never goes to conferences or concerts. My ex on the other hand gets my daughter 2 nights a week. He doesn’t have ANY other children. My daughter gets lice, or is sick, etc he refuses to take her because he doesn’t want to deal with it. He also NEVER takes her to doctors or dentists. He could. He just won’t. He will tell me to.
My question is, if you took your son to the hospital why wouldn’t you have her seen as well? How are you gonna get mad for your step child being around, sick or not? That’s ridiculous. You need to rethink about the word #family 
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If that child was yours together would you send her away for the weekend?? No. That child is a part of your life, sick or not. Kids get sick ALL THE TIME.
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Can her dad take her to the dr? Maybe mom feels
Overwhelmed that everything falls on her. She probably feels like you think your child is more important than hers and treats her differently. I mean kids do get sick, and especially coughs tend to linger even after you are better. It’s not the girls fault so don’t treat her differently but also, have dad take her to the doctor to help the mom out. You have to be willing to see it from her side as a step parent.
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You’re a parent, step or not. You don’t get to pick and choose between healthy and sick. It’s kinda like wedding vows. It’s just yours now. Suck it up and take care of the child. You think he/she asked to be sick?
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As a step mom of 5 all I can say shit happens! Kids get sick! And if it’s dad’s weekend then dad takes care of kids. There has been time my kids come home with a cough a cold a fever etc. as a parent I do my best to take care of child and keep house clean from all the germs that comes with being sick. Treat the child like it’s your, kids get sick, this is part of parenting!
If you had other biological children would you refuse to let them come home if they were sick? GTFO. You said your baby was fine.
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Step moms with these kind of thoughts geez!Yes your wrong !
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I have 4 kids… my oldest is 14, 13, 10, and 3… so according to you if my older kids get sick… I should what send them to a hotel until they stop being sick, I dont understand what your asking lol. She might have allergies. When shes at her dads house is she even allowed near her brother or is she locked in a room?
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We let the other household know if my SS is sick and the receiving parent of course can swap time. We have also kept SS extra days so that I could care for him. We have 3 other kids and no way would I not want SS here just because he may be sick or recently has been.
You sound selfish AF to want to keep the child from her daddy because she’s been/or is sick. As others have said, you wouldn’t have the option if the child lived with you full time.
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The dad is equally responsible to care for his daughter, no matter if she’s sick or not.
Yes, op, you are very wrong.
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So if you had another child together and that child was sick, your plan would be to just kick the out? Cool.
You are 100 wrong and I hope you end up with this man forever so your child don’t have to go through what his daughter is. Why hasn’t he told you to mind your business yet?
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Omg, keep her away from your son until there is no sign of sickness, period! My grandson at 18 days old got RSV and was in the hospital a week and a half and coded once while in there, all because his Kindergarten age sister brought something home from school from one kid in the class sick and parents sent child anyways! So unless a parent has watched them resuscitate a 18 day old baby and seen them try numerous times to put an iv in and not be successful because he is so dehydrated, and listened to them scream in pain, then the hell with them and what they say or think!
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How about you shut the fuck up and help take care of your stepdaughter you annoying cuck.
So you don’t have to parent when your kids get sick? Oh. 
What in the actual fuck.
I didn’t even need to read the whole thing to figure out my answer. Step mom or not. You are a parent. You can’t deprive a step child, your fiancés daughter, of her time over there because she’s sick. She has NO CONTROL over it. That’s like telling one of my biological kids they have to go stay somewhere else because I don’t want them to get their sister sick. Just keep the baby and the child separated and wash hands.
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This post reminds me of this. Don’t be this lady.
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So much unnecessary judgement on here. . Your concerns and feelings are completely valid here. I can remember these same scary feelings when our twins were newborns and my bonus child came and had a stomach virus. I kept the babies in one room and he stayed on the other side of the house, as I would if it had been one of my other bio children. You do what you can, the best that you can. However, I wouldn’t even ask or seek permission from the BM, but encourage your husband to take the child to the doctor himself. If bio mom has a problem with it, TOUGH! She will need to just get over it, as your newborns health comes first! RSV and other serious sicknesses are so easily spread to newborns and it’s just not worth the risk!
If that’s your step daughter why dont you and daddy take her to the doctor if your so concerned. The morning time is always the worst because phlegm settles in the back of the throat. Being a new mom can be scary but being a six yr old with a new stepmom is scary to dont make her feel like a diseased leper.
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