Tell him to grow up 
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Yes one of those you can tell him his parents can get ready for him and the kids thatās where heād be living. I used to be soo upset wondering how I could pay rent and childcare when the dad refused too watch them and how embarrassing it is to have someone come in while he sits thereā¦
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He is apparently unaware that he is also the childās parent and needs to act accordingly.
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No,he might need a break to,do maybe a couple days but overall itās his time with the kids.
Uhhhh thatās a big fat NO
I understand wanting some days to yourself. Maybe they kiddo can go for a day or two?
No tell him if he wants to send the kids to his family then he can pack his stuff and go live there
Classic selfish prick
Dads who think watching their kids is babysitting is a child in a grown manās body. If he needs help attending his kids, he should visit his parents house. I see this as a learning opportunity for him to step up his role as a parent. You shouldnāt have to worry about your family watching your kids. Tell them to make plans so that he canāt use them. Time for him to grow up if he hasnāt already.
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Listen mama you made your choice to keep baby home with you and have to respect if your husband doesnāt make the same choice as you. That doesnāt make him a bad father. The same way as a mom I get tired and need a break I recognize my husband is human like myself and gets tired too. Itās not fair to expect more than a person can give. Does your husband have a full time job? 8s he always busy? Then he will be exhausted. The same way we would be rooting for a mother to get some time and jo judegment etc letās not be double standard. Same rules applies to a father and that doesnāt make him any less. Stop with the step up and be a daddy comments. Be fair. Mothers have checked their kids into daycare solely for the purpose of taking a day and we donāt think any less of them cause theyāre moms and so are we so why are we so hard on the msn in our life who is working so hard to provide and take care of our needs. Why canāt we treat him like a human being? Why is his feelings not valid? Itās because society expect more from men is why men donāt show their feelings and so many men feel the need to shut everything in and be "macho and strong " . Men have feelings too and itās time women stop and realize that. The only difference is Anatomy
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Here is my thought. If you pay said family member then yes go ahead and take him. If you do not. Then donāt. IMO that is taking advantage of the help your getting. Iāve been on this receiving end.
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No he can take care of his own kids when he is off.
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So youāre mad that you didnāt get a break on your week off and now your husband is gonna take advantage of it.maybe he has stuff he needs to get done that he canāt while watching the baby. Grow up.
No let him look after heās son itās bonding time
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Iām not sureā¦When I was working my family watched my kiddo and they did it for free, so I tried not to take advantage and have them watch him when I wasnāt at work very often.
Now if heād been going to someone and I was paying them I probably would have felt a little differently.
Or if heād been going to a daycare where you pay to hold their spot whether theyāre there or not Iād have sent him.
I tend to agree with the perspective that the kiddo should stay with himā¦First to not take advantage of the family members whose watching him especially if theyāre doing it for freeā¦
Or if theyāre getting paidā¦well thatās time that he doesnāt have to go and money you could save.
But at the same time I donāt necessarily agree with being upset-upset.
I think this is the kind of thing that you both need to sit down and discuss.
Take the time to really hear the others perspective and opinions.
Take the time to hear why he wants time alone.
Then explain why you donāt agree with him taking the whole week (hopefully it isnāt just simply you didnāt do it so he canātā¦because in theory you could have if you wanted to at least a couple days)
Then maybe try to find a compromise.
Maybe a couple hours each day or a couple days. Especially if itās really important to him.
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Heās a child too I guess. He should want to have his kids around on his time off.
We dont have children to push them onto someone else. This is his time to be a Dad. To spend time doing things with his children he cant do when heās working.
Tell him noā¦he can have alone time when the kids are in bed
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Bullshit like this drains your love for them until itās gone.
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Bull make him watch the kids
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If your family is watching your child for free then no, you both should have the children when you are off, if you need a break then ask them to take the kids for awhile so you can have time, if he needs time for himself then he can ask and drop the kids off. Everyone needs time for themselves for self care.
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My husband had vacation saved up and has been off about half of December.
He works outside the home M to F and myself 2 to 3 daysā¦
The list of stuff he had to doā¦mow/mulch the lawn, repair/maintaince on our carsā¦ household repairsā¦he hasnāt really had much time where he hasnāt been āworkingāā¦
We have sent the oldest to Gymnatics camp 2 days both weeks and the youngest Weāve utilized her daycare days (she goes up to 3 days a week)
If I had family watching them I would check and see if they needed the time off or could do one or two daysā¦if they needed time off I would utilize drop in daycare or find a teenager off school to watch the kids. Or if they are old.enough have them help him some.
we took 2 days a went to the beach as a family and Iāve worked my normal days as well plus part of Christmas where they where with him
We both have done it everyone needs some them time. I have so many projects that are good luck with a 2 year old. I just pay the daycare or whoever n do my thing.
At my old job I would take 2 pto days a month just for me time. Hubby will take days here or their n do the same. We pay daycare or whoever so as long as they are available n they are getting paid itās none of their business. Daycare also asks that the kids donāt miss days.
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Nope. What a child. Wow. The fact hed rather have your family keep him vs himself blows my mind. Probably wants to be alone so h e can nap , poor baby. 
What a MAN CHILD. girl hes gross vibes already from what ive read
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Nope! Their his kids and your family 8s their for you and your husband when your both working. Tell him to grow up.
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Get a new husband!!!
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Iāll never understand men who donāt want to be with their kids. Kids deserve to be at home when mom or dad are off work. They arent here to be dumped on other people.
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Uhm nope, my husband knows better than to pull this mess!
He needs a break too. Compromise and take the kiddo to the sitter for a couple of days.
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Umm yeah thatās a no
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He canāt take your child to the family that watches them?
His kids, his week, let him find someone to watch them.
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Ask him why he wants to be alone, let him make the arrangements.
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Tell him noā¦he needs to take. Are of his childā¦itās not baby sitting ā¦ itās being a dad. A parent.
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Is there a reason? Is your husband struggling with his mental health? A new baby can bring a lot of extra stress and a lot of women forget that men struggle with being overwhelmed and tired too. Iād ask him why!!! If his excuse is only because he wants to relax then Iād tell him that he needed to spend quality time with his children for the holidays. Thereās no back story here so we donāt know if he is struggling with anything and just needs some alone time. He may need a break and thatās okay! We shouldnāt shame men for the very thing we all deserve, self care! If he insists on needing the time then have him make the arrangements.
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Uh no just say there busy 
Nope! He helped make them he can take care of them just as you do! Really? Why is this even a question!
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A good daddy would want to spend precious time with his kiddos.
Why have kids if you donāt enjoy spending time with them?
There youth is so fleeting.
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Kids arenāt optional, lmao
Ummm no lol thatās not even an option
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Nah. He can watch his own kids since he will be home. GOD FORBID these dadās actually be parents 
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I personally would keep my kid but we donāt know his sideā¦is your child now at the terrible two stage? Is your husband nervous about having to be alone with a Toddler that requires all his attention? Does your husband feel that he needs a break from all the work heās been doing outside the home while you stayed home? Before becoming upset, why donāt you ask him to get his side of the story then come to Facebook and to see if his answer should make you upsetā¦Asking here before getting his side will only get you answers from the man haters club because I see alot of that on Facebook ā¦
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I would just because how is he going to treat them or talk to them when he doesnāt want them
Nope! He is the dad so time for him to grow up and apparently be the dad! If you decide to go ahead and take them to your family, let them know on the phone while he is there, the reason you are bringing them over. Be upfront and blunt!
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I would compromise and take the kids for 2 days out the week. A marriage isnāt 50/50, thatās divorce. If he is asking, I donāt see what the problem is. Iām sure if you took the kids for a day to treat yourself he wouldnāt have minded. We canāt expect others to feel and be the same as us. Maybe he needs a mental break.
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Oh heck no, He needs to act like a Father and be responsible for the child he made. If He needs a break he can find a babysitter.
Ya thatās fishy hell no. Tell him to be a father
According to most of these comments, only mothers need a break
If I was him though, Iād just be asking whoever I wanted to watch the kid. Donāt see why you should.
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Nope. Have him find his own childcare. Care.com has child care options that are great and affordable. If you family agree, he can also take the children daily.
Absolutely not. He needs to be a parent
Kids are his responsibility too
lol thatās not the way it works. Your family is nice enough to help you, but they deserve to have that break when one or the other parent is home. I would be very upset if I were your family and knew he was at home and I was still watching his children, when heās perfectly capable of doing it himself. I could see if he wanted to do some running around or cleaned the house, and asked for a few hours. But I would expect him to work that out and get them there and pick them up, thatās not on you while heās home too.
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I would think he might want some daddy time and possibly some free time too.
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Yes but shes not getting any time off not fair to her
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Thatās messed up, Iād be pissed
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No way ā¦hes the dad suck it up buttercup and be a grown upā¦unless he has other intentions while u r at work and he doesnāt want his children to see whatās going on???
No he can watch the child donāt give in good luck momma
I mean for a day okay but the whole week na
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It sounds like you made a choice to have kids home and he is choosing to have them stay with family. I donāt see a problem on that but I would say he needs to be responsible with drop off & pick up.
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Maybe if heās got some stuff to do around the house that he canāt do while with the little one but if he just wants some time for himself ummmm no thatās not really something parents get
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Lol people act like dads arenāt exhausted from working or parenting also. Dads need breaks too. Maybe, youāre upset possibly jealous because you didnāt think of it first lol. Possibly because you were a stay at home also and you want him to feel like you did. I think he should do it but tell him heās responsible for pick ups and drop off if he wants them there.
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Is he planning a remodeling project? Thatās the only valid reason I see.
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Iād say ok but your responsible for the rides to and from. And if your home alone that means the house should stay clean
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I might be a lil upset that he wouldnt wanna spend the quality time alone with his kids but i would also understand that maybe my husband needs a break as well maybe u guys should talk about it and come to a compromise maybe a few days of that week take em to the family so he gets his āme timeā which we all do need and then a couple days he spends quality time with the kids 
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Ive read the comments but in my HO had anyone thought about the family members that are gracious enough to help out with the baby while NEEDED? I dont think they should overwhelm them with extra time taking care of the baby when one parent is available to take care and spend quality time with him ā¦
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Why not let him enjoy his time off. Or maybe 3 of the days.
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For a day or 2, I get it. The whole time, nah. Be a dad.
Not at all. He made that baby too. Are you going to have all the responsibilities of this baby while he sits on his ass and does nothing? I would probable fix it where he could have all the alone time he wants permanently. I think he should be watching this baby, while he cooks and cleans and folds clothes like you do when you are off. Heās lazy and takes advantage of you!
Yeah, I donāt see a problem with this. SAHMās are always begging for time to themselves so they can get something done, poop in peace, wipe down the table, fold a stack of towels so your kids donāt knock them over; why canāt dad have time alone?
Nope!!! You decided to have children. Guess what? Breaks donāt come when you have kids. You didnāt get a break when you had your week off. You both work. He doesnāt get a break for his week off either. Except he does cause he isnāt working and also taking care of the kids. He is just taking care of the kids. So still a break!
Why canāt he watch them while youāre at work? Not like momās really get a break.
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How about give your family a break.
Absolutely not. He can watch and care for his kids. Why are men? 
If my family member doesnāt mind watching the child and is getting paid then I donāt see the problem. Dad had been working the whole time does he not deserve some quiet alone time every now and then? Maybe he wants to eat chips, sitting on the couch in his underwear, watching Netflix. Sounds like they only have one child so mom has had plenty of breaks over the 2 years she was a SAHM. Iāve been a SAHM to an only child I know from experience. Asking for a break from your kid does not make you a bad parent.
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Also I watch my niece for my sister and I would not be offended if they asked me to watch her even though they would be at home. As a parent I get that need for time for yourself.
If you read it she said she stayed home with the kids.She also said someone watches the little one.Means there are other kids.
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One or 2 days maybe but he should take them not you. Also you donāt want to take advantage of the sitter because they may tired out or end up feeling like yall are taking advantage of them and decide not to keep watching them.
Seems to me that would be the perfect time to bond and make memories which is really hard to do when you are working. A vacation shouldnāt ever mean handing over your family and taking advantage of people that help you so you both can work. He is wrong here.
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Get up get ready and go to work heās off he can drop the kid off if thatās what he wants. Donāt be his door mat
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I mean one day I could understand, because everyone deserves a break but even if someone couldnāt watch our kids my husband will always watch our three babys bitching ever, no asking for a break never.
Heās a parent and needs to take responsibility. He can have a break once the kids are old enough to stay home alone or once they move out
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Selfish! He needs to grow up
He has daddy duty! No going to the sitter!
Nope. He needs to parent his own kids.
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Ugh. Not here for that kind of energy
Your husband is a child. My ex husband was like that. EX! Tell him grow up. He can tend to his kids.
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My ex-husband was the same way. What a loserā¦
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Do you get alone time? Because if not then that would be a swift no
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Mmmm thatās not how that works bud
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What! Cheeky bugger!
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Lol. Surely he was joking
Nope! It aināt babysitting when itās your baby! He needs to step up & be a daddy!
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Okayā¦ people seem to forget the man worked 2 years by himself. He is entitled to some alone time just to relax.
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Recharging the batteries or taking advantage?
How often does he get time to himself at the house?
If heās asking for the time, maybe he needs it? Donāt forget, in the long run, this could be better for the entire family.
If you feel heās taking advantage, thatās a whole other issue and need more details.
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Why canāt he drop them off. Why is he asking you?
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Some men are assholes
I canāt stop laughing at the absurdity of some of these comments. I assume the majority of you scoffing at him wanting to let his family watch the kids so he can have time off are just pissed off that you A.) donāt have the family near by to help you. B.) You are so far up your kids asses that you havenāt stopped to think if theyād like a break away from you. C.) You were never smart enough to actually ask for a break, instead you just bitched about not ever having one, even though you probably could have if youād have just asked.
Nope. You had mommy detail while he worked he can do daddy detail while you work.
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Everyone is going to say what they believe. Either he should or shouldnāt. I get the whole he worked for 2 years but she also stayed at home for 2 years! I honestly believe the reason why she is upset is because she is working and still taking care of the kids when she gets home. So naturally even if he wants alone time. He is still a parent! Me and my SO work different shifts because we donāt have the family to keep our kids, but he has never once complained because when i go to work and he has the kids he bonds with them and the same goes for me. We sacrificed a lot to be parents.
Dont get me wrong. Breaks are very much needed as a parent, but she returned to work and comes home to still take care of the kid. So why canāt he?
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My husband would never send our children away if it wasnt neccesary. Dads need alone time too but the whole week, cāmon!
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A couple days of his week off I could seeā¦ Just to rest and recharge but not the whole week.
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