Am I wrong to keep a baby shower gift after a break up?

So my baby daddy and I broke up and we’re trying our best to get along right now. So anyways his mom is asking for the baby shower gift back. I told them no because it was a baby shower gift. Is it wrong to keep it?

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No lol but in the end it’s your choice. I never understood wanting a present back. However in the end it’s for your child. I would definitely put up some boundaries with her if she’s going to be that petty though

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A baby shower gift is a gift for the BABY!! Wherever baby will be using this gift the most, is where I think whatever it is should stay.

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Technically, its a gift. And one for the baby. Gifts are given and are not expected to be returned

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Keep it! It was for the baby.

If it was something for you and her son, and not the baby, I could understand her wanting it back. But if it’s for the baby, I’d be keeping it

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Be happy she’s not going to be your M-n-L! I’d give it back…

That’s so petty. Ignore her.

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It’s for YOUR baby. Keep it

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No it’s a gift for the baby

Keep it. It’s a gift for the baby once it’s given its no longer hers.

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The gift is for the baby so no you do not give a baby shower gift back consider yourself lucky what kind of a woman is she

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I say keep the gift, for the baby and be done with them…cut ties.

Not wrong but I’d have to return it - I don’t want anything that is not given in love for my kids

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No it was a gift for the baby. Keep it.

They give it you keep it , can’t take it back

Ummm no its no wrong to keep it. Its for your baby

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I mean, it kinda depends. I get it’s for the baby but you guys are broken up now and he needs things for his home too. Like if it was a swing or something big, I can see how they need that back to use at their home now.

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No, it’s not wrong. Keep it.

Oh I wish my ex MIL would!!! Keep that gift for your baby, how dare her!

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It was a gift for the baby, not you. But give it back and cut ties.

I’d return it !! But not after I destroyed it !! Give it to her with a smile on your face !!

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Oh you are welcome to have your gift back. And thank you for showing me what type of person you really are. THAT is your real gift to me. Showing me your true self and the type of person I do not want to negatively influence my child.
Sound Good?

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Keep it. It’s a gift for the child you’re carrying and going to have a majority of the time in your care.

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Its a gift for the child shouldn’t matter if you are together or not its meant for the child!

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If she’s gonna be that petty. I would give it back take your gift and shove it!

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That’s very petty of his mom
I’d give it back with a smile on my face and the grace of being the bigger person

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I would give it back and cut her off!

Still her grandchild, pretty petty of her in my opinion.

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It’s a gift for the baby not the mom it’s still her grandchild and I would also keep it be Petty and whatever it is take a picture of the baby in it and send it to her :joy: with a thank you note saying she loves it

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It’s a gift for the baby so keep it. Plus, she’s the grandma and wants to take back the gift?

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Wow! That’s still her grandkid.

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That’s super petty for her to ask for a GIFT back. You are not wrong to keep it, but I would give it back simply given the situation, unless it’s something you need. Sometimes it’s just easier to do what they want and cut them off then to hold onto something that will be a constant fight.

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I’d give it back. Why keep it. Sounds like she’s petty. Let her be petty all by herself

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No it was a gift. But I would give it back to her and let her live with her actions.

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If it’s a family heirloom then I would return it. If it is something needed to help raise your baby keep it. But send her a thank you note and state it is needed to help raise her grandchild

:astonished:ummm no, it was a gift! I can’t believe how low some ppl can be.

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Keep it and tell her to pound sand.

I would ask her this.
Are you still the grandma!

So hurt the baby cause her boy baby is butt hurt…awww…how sick…id cut ties w her also

That’s just petty…it’s for the BABY. Not mom, not dad.

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It’s still his baby and her grand baby . So no your not wrong.

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You’re not wrong that’s super petty and immature but now I want to know what the gift was :rofl:

Break it and give it back

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Point out it’s still her Grandchild.

She’s so wrong for asking for a baby gift back🤦🏼‍♀️

Wat is the gift ? Is it a purchased baby item or is it a family heirloom?

A gift is a gift no you shouldn’t have to give it back. That’s pretty rude and downright petty of them.

Actually it’s petty her asking for it back… It’s for her grandchild regardless of your relationship with her son… KEEP IT

No you don’t need to give it back but I’d return it if she’s being that petty and tell her to shove it were the sun doesn’t shine

it’s for the baby not him

So punish a baby niccceeee

It depends right. I’m an energy person . If the energy doesn’t feel right I don’t want it .

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It kinda depends on the gift. A crib or something that is needed or used daily should be kept. Something not really used would definitely be returned just to show her she’s not needed.

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It’s wrong of her to ask for it back.

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I would be thankful I got away from such toxic hateful people either way it’s her grandchild I would be thanking God that I got to see their true colors absolutely :100: keep it she is petty and I feel for you when that baby gets here keep it and keep you and your baby away from toxic hateful people like this smh I can’t imagine taking something away from my grandbabies

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No you are not wrong. It was a gift and it’s a gift for her grand child. Its still her grand child even if you and her son broke up lol. Sounds like she is being petty.

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Depends on what it is honestly if it is something that has been passed down in the family of give it back but if it’s just like a simple baby shower gift I’d keep it lol

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So was this a gift for the baby ? Her grandchild?

It was a gift for the baby. Keep the gift. She’s being very petty and selfish.

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Nope cause either way it was for the baby not for you.Your the mother who’s carrying the baby keep it :woman_shrugging:

Give her son back, tell her that’s the gift

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I would be like sure take it back but since you don’t want anything to do with me now that your son and I are done don’t come around here asking to see the baby either. :smiling_face::v:

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No, it was a gift for your baby which is still coming regardless of your relationship.

The gift is for her son’s baby right? I can’t believe she would ask for it back.

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She’s a POS for asking smh.

Maybe she’s intending for it to go with dad for use at his house; depending on what it is? I think it’s petty, but I could understand if that’s the reason.

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I mean…if you want to match her in being petty say, I can’t. I already threw it out. :joy:

Woooow!!! You are not wrong! That person is ridiculous!! Why did this infuriate me and it’s not even my situation :joy:

she’s definitely wrong for asking for it back since it’s for the BABY, but honestly i’d give it back and tell her you don’t need any of her sh** anyway :woman_shrugging: especially if she’s going to act petty about it

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Depends what the gift was. Was it a personal item maybe something her son used as an infant and then handed down to his child? Or maybe something that can be used at the father’s place. I am assuming that just because you and the father broke up that the father will still have visitations with the infant. Then I guess I wouldn’t feel wrong about her asking for it back to be used at the fathers home.

She wants a gift that’s for her grand baby :face_with_raised_eyebrow:…. Oh, hell nah!

Was the gift for you or the baby? That’s pretty immature. Sounds like you have a drama filled life ahead of you.

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Of course you’re NTA
Baby shower gifts are usually for the baby. You didn’t break up with Them. Lol

It was a gift! How awful its wrong as heck to ask for it back.

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Is the baby not still her grandchild? The gift was intended for the baby, I would think she would want you to keep it and also be involved in her grandchild’s life.

Rather petty to demand the child’s gift back. Though personally I’d give it back and tell her if this is how she’s going to be then she’s not welcome at your home. Let the father deal with his mother in his own time.

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Absolutely ludicrous but give it back anyway along with any notions she might have of doing any grandparenting. Bad energy in the “gift”

If she is asking for it back with the intention of the son to have/use it I could understand her reasoning. If just asking for it back just because of the break up, then no I couldn’t understand that.

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That’s petty. Keep that gift.

Gift for baby not baby daddy keep the gift and tell gramma to grow the eff up already

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OMG that was a gift for the baby no it’s not wrong to keep it it’s childish to ask for it back :rofl:

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Unless you broke up with the baby, I don’t see why you would not keep the gift

Why would she want the baby pressie back?

Tell her to talk to her son…# she obviously has some problems…# I would not entertain her foolishness

No it was a gift, for a baby, the baby didn’t have a fight with family, so the baby keeps the gift

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It’s wrong to ask for it back. Regardless of y’all relationship status it’s still their grandchild.

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She’s special. Why would she take from her grand baby :face_with_spiral_eyes:

Keep it and tell her to kick rocks

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Wrong or right, give it back. You don’t need it or the drama. How petty of them

I guess it depends what the gift is and if you 2 aren’t going to be together living in the same home

No itbwas a baby shower. Why give it back

How are you going to take away from a baby!?
Wtf…
Tell her to sue you for it.
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:rofl::joy: tell her to :fu: off… it was a gift and if that’s how she felt all along she shouldn’t have bothered getting it to begin with

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Um- is she breaking up with the grand baby? That’s the most childish thing I have ever heard!

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Nope. It’s for the baby. Not the relationship.

it’s for the baby, yes? HER grandkid? if yes, no… she doesn’t get it back…

I do believe you dodged a bullet with that family

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No it’s 4 the baby, not u and him,

No the gift is not for you it’s for the baby. Just cause you broke up doesn’t mean the baby isn’t his anymore🤦🏻‍♀️

Wow, did you break up with the baby aswell?