Are you okay with your husband watching adult videos?

I’m interested to know how many women are 100 percent ok with their husbands looking at porn. I’ve recently found porn on my husband’s phone for the second time after I’ve explained that I’m not comfortable with it and I see it as a form of cheating. We have sex regularly I send him photos and videos all the time I just don’t understand why I’m not enough ???

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This is something I’m not okay with. My husband has been I don’t want to use caught, but it’s the only word that comes to mind right now, twice in this situation. Each time it broke my heart. I couldn’t look at him without tears streaming down my face. It honestly changed me as a person. We worked through it together and as far as I know he’s respecting my wishes. Trust is a fickle thing sometimes. Hugs to you because I know exactly how defeated one can feel.

Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Are you okay with your husband watching adult videos?

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Porn is absolutely terrible.

Nope I told mine before we married or was really fully dating that it made me uncomfortable and it stopped or we did now we been happily married for three years

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My opinion: I’m totally fine with it. I watch porn myself sometimes. I see nothing wrong with it :woman_shrugging:

When your uncomfortable with it then there’s not a lot of reason to ask other women what their preferences are. Every relationship is different as far as what they are okay with. That’s something that isn’t okay with you, so definitely need to have a conversation. I for one don’t mind it

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It doesn’t bother me at all, I like to look why should I hold him to a different standard

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Nope not like he seeing any of those girls ever so doesn’t matter to me

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I encourage my fiancé to do it lol I do

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NOPE. His bags would be packed after I disrespected him worse

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I’m great with it , but invite me
To :kissing_heart::joy::rofl:

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:raising_hand_woman:t3: sometimes we make our own :smiling_imp::rofl:

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I’m fine with it. Doesn’t matter where he gets his appetite as long as he eats at home :woman_shrugging:

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I have the same issue and it’s bullshit I reckon as then we feel as if their are certain expectations that WE need to uphold
That ain’t sex, it’s a job I tell my partner and that’s not anything at all close to sex

I don’t have a problem with my husband watching porn because he doesn’t watch it.

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Better than him actually cheating? :woman_shrugging:t2:

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I don’t mind at all… watch it with him

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Well I didn’t mind, but he’s recently walked out on me and our 2 children (3 and 1 month at the time) and has been cheating this whole time. So, I say no. Unless we are watching them together.

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I love when my husband does it, I do it too. I don’t see any problems with it.

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I’ve bought mine porn. My dad asked me for some to so I gave him several dvds

In my marriage it led to cheating.

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1st of all if you’re going through his phone you have bigger problems … 2nd I am 100 percent okay with my man watching porn … I’m not insecure … And it’s a natural thing .

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Im perfectly okay with my bf watching it. I watch it with him sometimes. And i enjoy wnatching it so why get mad at something i do aswell

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im ok as long as coming home to me. i know has watched and hes showed me.

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I mean my husband and I watch it together during sexy and we both watch it separately & find videos. But it’s not everybody’s cup of tea. So if you’re not comfortable with it then talk to him about it hun. :heart:

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maybe hes watching for ideas to for sex life some guys do that

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I watch adult videos so sure

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It doesn’t bother me. I watch it too. Watching together can be fun too!

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I don’t care at all. I’ve watched it with him. :woman_shrugging:t2:

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It doesn’t bother me bc I know he’s mine lol. We both watch from time to time. We have great sex. 9 years together in October. But me being okay with it doesn’t mean you have to be okay with it. Its different for everyonr

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I’m ok with it. My husband is grown and if he feels the need to watch adult videos and relieve his self I would rather him do that then some girl. I mean come on most men have been doing it since they were teenagers better them to be honest then have to hide it and lie about it.

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It doesn’t bother me if he watches porn.

I’m fine with it and I watch them too

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Your entitled to your feelings about it. And he should respect your feelings. I do not tolerate it.

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Doesnt bother me. He watches porn, I watch porn regularly myself. :woman_shrugging: Not cheating, no intention to go out and cheat. Just a lil pregame warm up.

You have a right to your feelings and your boundaries. If someone ignores your clear communication of pain, understand you need to end the relationship, they do not care.

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I don’t mind at all but also don’t really want to know about it haha :joy:

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He is a grown ass man. If he wants to look at porn that is his business.

I dont care if he does

I’m not ok with it. It was fine while we were dating. But disrespectful after we got married. Didn’t stop him.

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Your not comfortable with it but then you send him pictures and videos…

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Yes! Now if it gets to the point he would rather watch porn than have sex I can see it being a problem. But if not it’s 100% ok. Hell I watch it by myself and we watch it together

I don’t understand why alot of you girls don’t like the idea of it.
I watch it with him, I watch it by myself and I know he does too. I actually get curious to see what his looking at and interested in, that way I can atleast try to do what he wants… Some guys don’t know how to tell us they want it a certain way but will watch it on porn all day lol

send me some of those videos and I will give you my opinion whether you are enough, lmk

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My husband will watch it, and I watch it with him. It wouldn’t bother me if he watched it by himself. :woman_shrugging:

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No I’m personally not comfortable with it either. You especially laid boundaries down and he disrespected them, I mean…is porn more important than respecting you?

Nope. Not ok with it.

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Me personally i think its ok cuz half the time we’re both into ot.

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Totally fine. As long as it doesnt come between us, as long as it doesnt become unhealthy, and as long as it’s not… Disturbing… Pedophilia, bestiality, etc.

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We watch together and separately. Doesn’t bother me.

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I dont care :woman_shrugging: he’s still at home in my bed. Hell sometimes we watch it together :woman_shrugging:

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No not okay at all. Watching porn is a form of cheating and know it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with him!!! Sending hugs I hope he stops and treats you with the respect and love you deserve :yellow_heart::yellow_heart::yellow_heart:

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They are pervs. They can’t help it supposedly :roll_eyes:

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I actually pull porn up on my hubby phone if I’m not in the mood. I watch it occasionally too.

It’s not my thing. My husband isn’t into it either… Our imaginations are working just fine. :wink:
That said, some men need extra stimulation. So, instead of getting super mad, talk to him about why he likes, why he really likes it. Go from there.
As long as he’s not getting a warped sense of sex, maybe you can find something you both enjoy?? :woman_shrugging:

My husband does it sometimes, it doesn’t bother me. Most often its pictures of me that he has up anyways :woman_shrugging:

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Does not bother me. I had babies back to back so he can watch away! :joy::joy::joy::joy:

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You can have healthy boundaries. But the line is drawn in human instinct. It doesn’t make you not good enough or not attractive enough. Any normal human being has had thoughts or fantasies regarding their sexual encounters. It’s healthy. We as humans have a basic instinct toward sexual interaction. Now if it was someone in his office sending videos or pictures then yes. Be mad. But there’s nothing emotionally involved when anyone watches porn. So, to me, it’s not cheating.

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It doesnt bother me. I watch it too sometimes. Better he watches porn than out there watching the real thing.

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My dude has porn tabs for days on his phone and I don’t care not one bit . It’s just a video . That being said , every couple / woman is different and if you told him you don’t like it then he should respect it

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It’s a two way street … That’s how I look at it :person_shrugging:
If he needs it to get the job on his own whatever… We are all human :person_shrugging:

Different if he’s pays two people to see come to his house for a live show :rofl:

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I’m pretty sure I look at more porn than he does. We even look at it together for ideas, or just copy them and do what they do

Please don’t take this the wrong way but I was curious. how is your self confidence or do you have low self-esteem? I always wondered if this went hand in hand about women who dont like their man watching

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I’m not a fan of porn, but honestly I don’t care if he watches it. To me he isn’t screwing those women and would never meet them in person. Now doing webcam or anything where he would personally be talking to someone I’m not comfortable with that. We know our boundaries. Porn is fine, hell I don’t even care if he goes to the strip club with his buddies. He respects me and I respect him, we know what each other is okay with.

I agree with you. I dont like it when my partner watches it(when im in a relationship) and feel it is cheating as well.

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Yep we watch together sometimes :woman_shrugging:t5:

My husband claims “every man watches”
My boyfriend says he never does…. :woman_shrugging:t2: wonder which one is lyin??

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I am 100% fine with it. Lots of times we watch it together.

I could care less if he watches it.
I do too.

Do yourself a favor & find porn you love too. Self love has been in & there’s nothing wrong with pleasing yourself from time to time. Who cares if he watches porn bc its NOT cheating. Trust me there’s a huge difference #pornhub is free & lots of different videos lol ijs…:crossed_fingers::woman_shrugging:

I’m divorced, but if I were still married to him: sure, anything to keep him off of me LOL

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Totally fine. Go for it.

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Yes I’m 100% ok with it. We watch together sometimes and separately.

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If it bothers the other spouse it is a problem.

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My man watches it and it doesn’t bother me

I watch it so I dont really care if my husband does as well. :woman_shrugging:

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Nope. Not okay with it.
Porn can cause issues especially if the spouse has expressed their feelings on it.
It’s disrespectful if the other disregards their significant others feelings…

Variety is the spice of life. You thinking your not enough is a you issue there is never gunna be a guy with a woman that doesn’t notice and take interest in other attractive women and vice versa… Be thankful it’s porn and he’s not actually cheating.

I don’t care one iota if my man watches porn.

Man, porn is normal to me. He watches, I watch, it’s whatever.

It doesn’t bother me we watch it together and separately

Don’t worry what other people do. If the both of you had an understanding that you are uncomfortable with it, and he does it anyways, that is a betrayal PERIOD.

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It’s a guy thing, Men are from Mars,women are from Venus. A guy thing

He’s a pervert and nothing is ever enough

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Why were you on your husbands phone?

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Well…I’d rather him watch porn that go participate with someone else. I feel like it’s one of those situations where you need to pick your battle.

I love when he sends me new ideas :yum:

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I say it doesn’t belong in relationships, I absolutely hate that my husband watches it. I know I have low self esteem and low confidence in myself so I know those feelings are apart of it. But like I told him if your married and your okay with have a sexual release to another woman then it’s cheating

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Lmao honestly it doesn’t bother me at all as long as it’s not like local girls ect I don’t care

Men are visual creatures it turns them on

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NOPE! I absolutely will never have that Disrespectful behavior crammed down my throat again. If a Man wants to be Alone looking at a screen touching Himself, I’m not going to be on the other side of the door waiting for My needs to be acknowledged , Been there done that, Left a 15 yr marriage bc Porn addiction replaced our Sex life. NOPE!

I have been dealing with this bullshit for years I’m really about done because it has come between us when he’s not giving it to me but has all this shit in his phone it pisses me off 13 years together I am his one and only I know hes not out cheating but studies show men that watch porn have unrealistic expectations in realationships and its the stuff he looks up if it was woman who looked like me thats one thing but specifically looking up one type of woman that im far from makes me extremely self conscious he says he loves me and wants to marry me but I can’t get over this shit

Way too many judgemental women on here!! We are supposed to be here to help other mamas not put them down!!! If u don’t agree or don’t have anything nice to say then keep scrolling respectfully.

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First thing. It has absolutely zero to do with you, or you being enough.
Second, why does it bother you?
I’m 100% ok with my husband watching it, sometimes we both do.
I don’t understand why so many women are intimidated by porn. In all honesty, it’s men who should be intimidated…. You should see the size of some of those dingalings :flushed::flushed::flushed:

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I’m totally comfortable with it. Every guy does it, most women do too! I have way too many other things to worry about :laughing:

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We both watch it separately.

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It’s totally fine with me
It’s normal

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The only time I have an issue with porn is when it replaces sex. That being said I have a high sex drive. Sometimes he does, sometimes he doesn’t. Sometimes he’s up later and doesn’t want to wake me :woman_shrugging:t3: all about personal preference

My only issue with it and with my husband watching it has everything to do with how demeaning the porn industry is on women. Young girls Teens etc… most of these girls are young have no idea what they are getting them selves into and are someone’s daughter.