Please post anonymous I have three kids from a previous marriage I will honestly admit I filed for child support on my ex-husband just to make his life miserable at first he would see the kids and spent time with them ever since he remarried and had kids with his new wife things changed he no longer sees our kids and the kids want nothing to do with him. My new husband suggested I close child support to no longer have ties with him, and honestly financially I don’t need it nor my kids the other hassle is every time he gets a new job I go 6 to 9 months without getting child support from him my question is how do I close the case? Can I even close it? To no longer receive child support, can I include past arrears to be closed to? I know it depends on the state we live in California.
Close it if you can.
Why not take it. Put it in an account for the kids. It could help with there future
Your best bet is to call the state of California child support office. They will give best advice!
Props to new husband for stepping up!
I say don’t but I’m mean. Regardless of any situation dont let a parent walk away completley like that!
I live in California! Dont stop child support. Put money in college fund or car fund for kids.
You’ll have ties with him legally with or without the child support unless your husband adopts the children. I’d keep it open. The least he can do is pay.
You should be able to go to the courthouse and sign a paper closing it.
Take it and put it in an account for the kids for college or something.
Take it…put it in accounts for your children. Life is expensive. They can use it or donate it later
Some states wont allow you to because legally hes responsible financially already. Best bet is to call the child support office and ask. But why not keep it going and save it for your kids?? It’s for them anyway.
Make a savings account for the kids.
If you have any type of state help you do t have the choice but if it’s agreed upon between yourselves you can remove the court order
You should set the money aside for the kids when they turn 18… they can at least get a car or pay some towards college… don’t worry if he doesn’t pay it because you won’t be expecting it anyway
take it and save it for the kids.
Don’t close it, even if you are financially well off. Put it in an account for them if you need to & when they are older, they can use it later
To me, that’s your kids money and why should they be denied it. It’s his responsibility too. Put it in a trust for them for college or unforeseen events.
Don’t make the same mistake I did. Let it ride Mamma. My advice is to leave it be. The money WILL come in handy one way or another. Don’t think of you right now, but your children or even grandchildren. He owes the money. Period.
Not in Tennessee, the state makes you pay
This is a question for the state you live in! Every state has different laws and rules an regulations
Im pretty sure the California website for child support has an option for you to request to close it…
In California you can. It’s really simple you just sign a paper and he also signs off on his end and it stops
Do it for the kids…
I dropped $35k of back child support I just told the child support office n the did it no questions asked that’s in Ky tho
I wouldn’t stop it. If he pays it &you don’t need it save it for the kids college fund or something. &if he doesn’t pay it let it add up on him. 
My ex owed me 36,000… Arizona let me sign off when my daughter was 16. They said she could sue her dad herself… he might win the lottery. You would be 1st on his/the list … my advice… let it ride
That’s his responsibility. I would save the money for the kids, as it should be. They deserve it
I did this exact thing in NC. I was owed 7k. I told them to do away with it and cancel the order. The judge asked me a few questions and that was the end. Best decision ever!
You can call and close it on your end he will jave to pay whatever remaining balance and then it will close for him as well
Generally speaking a case can be opened or closed at any time as long as you are not recieving TANF.
Why would you cancel it? If you don’t need it right now, just save it. But you NEVER know what might happen in the future🤷🏽♀️
I’m sure
You can go down there and just ask to close it or call. But I think save it for the kids in their own bank account. It’s the least he can do since he doesn’t see them.
I had mine cancelled without issues. They would not cancel arrears without seeing a judge but they dont persue it.
Just went through this but a little different
Make him pay!! Start an account for kids if you want…
You can terminate his rights if he doesn’t see them and have your new husband adopt them
I would just put it all in a savings account for your kids. It will be awesome for a car or house down payment in the future for them!
Um, save it for your kids cars, college, Weddings, IRA, 401k etc. If he doesnt bother with you, why is this even a question? You know how many women cant even get pennies from their deadbeats.
And to close the case you just called. I called and closed a case where I was owed $17,000. They just verify your info. The debt doesn’t disappear if one day you want to get it.
I live in Washington State, my daughter’s father lives in Oregon. He was in arrears as well and it was affecting his ability to get a drivers license and all I wanted was for him to have a relationship with my daughter. I believe as long as you aren’t on any state aid, you likely can write to your case manager to cancel the child support. That’s all I did and it was done with.
Let it come do it for your kids and they don’t need to know just save it in the bank.
Do not cancel it! That will follow him forever! If you dont need the money put it into a savings for kids when they get older. Even when the youngest turns 18/19(depending on state and when child is done w high school) if he still owes money it will follow him until it is paid in full.
My ex owes around 20 thousand is back pay, I talked to several lawyers and none would take it bc it is his responsibility to pay for his children.
See if he will sign off on the kid. He doesnt even have to sign them off to someone else. He can just sign them off i believe depending your state
Have him sign over his parental rights. You’ll both have to sign.
As for erasing arrearages, you’d have to call you domestic relations department to see if that’s doable.
Personally, I’d put the arrearages into an escrow account, or a trust for the kids when they get married, or college, or if they have a financial emergency.
Yes you have the right just stop in.
Even if u dont need it, why not let it go directly into an account for them to access when they get older? Also…not to be negative but how do you know the same thing wont happen with your current husband down the line and you may actually need the money for the children?
As long as none of it is state aid you can 100% close in CA. Just went through this
I guess I don’t understand why you want to close it. You said to cut off ties to him but it doesn’t do that. He can still get legal visitation of your kids whether he pays child support or not. Nothing will change except he won’t be held responsible in anyway. Why enable him? He helped you make those kids. They should reap some benefit from their sperm donor. Since you don’t need it direct his payments to a savings account you set up for them. You won’t have to even look at the money. When they reach a certain age or milestone (get their drivers license, graduate GS or college, get married etc) give them some ‘starter cash’.
Put it in an account for ur kids when they get older they would have use for it college or whatever that man deserves to have to pay no matter what
Just call to close.it. you have to file papers for it. If they refuse to close it. Reduce it down to 20$ a month and save it for your kids when they go to college or whatever.
I don’t believe you can cancel child support because it’s technically not your right, it’s the child’s.
Stop. Just put the money into a savings account for the kids. That’s your kids money not yours.
You can if you terminate his rights/he gives up
His rights. Here in Texas I’m in process of doing that but they told me the only way I could terminate his rights is if someone else was adopting my child. Which I thought was dumb because there is several single parents out there. But at any rate my husband already wanted to adopt so cross your fingers 
it all goes well for us!
Take the child support put in the bank for the kids they will be able to use for college a car use your head not a hateful heart
Why close it don’t give that dead beat that favor just let it be a savings account for your kids I only got 75.00 for my daughter but he still had to pay it ,and what could we have got with that but he had to pay it ,the kids can use it when there older think about that .
If in NJ - Your new husband will need to adopt the children. Judges do not let you sign away your rights because of men not paying child support
No way! He is responsible for the children even if he has others! Save it for their future they will thank you one day.
You don’t refuse or cancel child support and automatically revoke his rights… it doesn’t work that way if that’s what you’re hoping.
Keep it. Put it in a bank account for your kids. You could do a CD or invest it for them.
Closing a child support case will not make the arrears go away and will also NOT sever ties with him
He will still have his parental rights and rights to visitation
I believe that if he signs his parental rights over, his financial obligation is also over. I’m not certain about the state of CA. I would suggest getting in touch with a lawyer.
Child support has nothing to do with custody or even visitation. Keep the child support.
If you collect any state benefits for them he will have to pay that back. Once you start a CSC you cant cancel it. Its in the judges hands now
No and it is NOT about you either. If YOU dont need it, put it in a savings account for YOUR kids.
Why don’t you just see if he will give up his rights? Then he won’t have to pay child support anymore, you will never have to deal with him again, and your new hubby has the option to adopt your child
All you have to do is write a letter to the Child Support office it’s that simple. The only time they will force you to have a child support case is if you are recieving state benefits, because they want their money back, or they will start a case of course if its requested by mom/guardian
You can’t close a child support case. They close when the child turns 18 or 21 depending on the state/case or if you can get the dad to sign away his rights. I don’t know of a state where they can just sign their rights away without someone to adopt the child. I personally would put the $ up for your child as that’s who it’s for anyway. If you truly don’t need the $, put it up for the kids 1st car or when they move out on their own.
No regardless if he sees the kids or not he is still responsible to help support the costs and needs of the children he brought into this world.
You can easily close it. But I would suggest not. Same with a lot of above responses. If you don’t need it today put it in a separate account. You never know what next year with hold honestly. Start funds for your kids for later. Help with car or car insurance, etc. It will come in handy one way or another. And child support won’t cut ties. You don’t have to talk to him to get child support and closing support doesn’t keep him from parental rights.
That money could help them off to a good start in life. Save it all and split it in between
Take the kids on more trips and make memories with his money!
It’s literally the law in Indiana someone is paying child support lmao if you’re on state aid or get divorced. I guess you could fly under the radar if you don’t get state aid or get divorced but lol
Keep and save ot for a college fund
All you have to do is wright a letter stating you no long wish to receive child support from so and so date it sighn it and give your phone number .
When I closed mine everything he was behind went away but it’s different for ever state
Child support is for the child. Not you. If YOU don’t need it, let it stay on a card until the child is old enough to buy expensive things ( first car, down payments etc. )
Put the money into a college savings account for the child if you don’t need it. Unless your husband is willing to adopt I don’t think they will sign his rights away from your children either. It’s unfortunate when a man get remarried and wants to have a separate family and not anything to do with his kids that he had before.
Can you file for abandonment or have the father terminate his rights? That’s the only way I know of.
It’s money owed to your children.
You don’t want them to think you have anything to do with cutting their dad out of their life.
I personally wouldnt close it. Its not about you its about your kiddos. If he isnt involved thats on him. His back child support or chilf support he owes to his children could be put into funds for them when theyre older if you dont “need” it to raise them. That can help them with college and or when they start out on their own
Put the money in savings account for the kids for a car or college one day.
I would continue getting the child support and bank it so the children will have a nest for college,
take the money put it in saveings for when hey get older
ABSOLUTELY DO NOT DO THIS! He doesn’t see the kids fine whatever, the money you don’t need it that’s wonderful! Put it in an account so the kids can use later. Don’t sign that waiver PLEASE
Put that money into an account for your children. Even if you don’t “need” it… the bio dad still should pay for his kids. Don’t let him get away with thinking he can have kids all over the place and no responsibility. Not only that… you don’t want your kids thinking they can ever do the same. Besides, I’m sure your kids will be able to put the money to good use later on… either college years or buying that 1st home.
If you don’t want the support, then yes, you can cancel a child support case. You have to file paperwork, with the court, but you can give up the right to getting child support. You can even forgive the back child support that is owed. Do what you feel is right for you and your children.
I wouldn’t close it… open up bank accounts for the kids and dump the child support payments into there savings account. Give them the money when they turn 18 and they can use it for school, car or whatever. Utilize what’s being given to them and SAVE SAVE SAVE!
I closed mines even with back child support. All I had to was write a letter stating that i wanted it closed and that I forgive him of all rears, got it notarized and they closed it.
It also depends on the state and if you wasn’t getting a check from the state.
My fiance pays a woman child support and she doesn’t need it, she puts all the money in an account for the child
Yes you can close it. But id just let it sit in a bank. Dont even loom at it. And at the end of the year. Take ur kids on a vacation. Or let them slurge at the mall.
You can cancel when ever you want. Is what my caseworker told me.
Yes you can close it, I did, I’m in California
In California u can close ur case jus have to call ur case worker or go down to ur office.
In California, you can close a case as long as you aren’t receiving any kind of aid. You can also sign off on any arrears owed to you. But, unless you are doing really well financially, you owe it to your children to collect money for them. So you could ask for the support to be lowered if you think it’s excessive.
You can tell the courts to close the case. But he still will have right to see the kids if he decides he wants too! If you closing child support I would only if he signed over his rights!
Wow there’s women that push men away to this point. She got exactly what she wanted. So sad.
You can go to ur local child support office and sign a paper to end child support. I did it for my daughter’s dad once… but I’m in Alaska.
You can absolutely close it! Just call your case worker
You CAN sign a “VSA” VOLUNTARY SUPPORT AGGREMENT…in which you only request medical coverage for the children,IF HIS JOB OFFERS IT,AT A CEETAIN PERCENT OF HIA INCOME. THAT STOPS PAYMENTS AND HASSEL OF DEALING WITH HIM REGULARLY
don’t close it just put into savings account for them! U will be happy u did so later on!
Save whatever you get from him for the kids when they’re older.