If you close it, unless tjere is already a no contact order that doesn’t terminate his rights to still see him
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Lol… take a peak at college tuitions- save it.
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California fucks a man over on childsupport:laughing:
girl them are his kids too, don’t cancel it… they deserve it. keep it for the cars and college& or their future if you don’t need it… he made those kids just as much as you.
You should be able to contact the child support office, either go in and get the paperwork or they will send it to you but it’s just a "petition to close the case’ … You can cancel support that way and also wave all arrears as well. Just call your local office!
You can. But don’t. Save it for them.
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Pa the receiver is the only one who can close an open case
If you don’t need the money right now your kids will later. Don’t be selfish to those kids. Open an account and put it there.
Put the money away for their schooling. And ignore it.
I would take the money and save it for them when they are older to go towards tuition or a car. It sounds romantic he wants you to cut ties but it’s not that simple, what guarantee you have that things will stay like this?
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You can have him to sign off I think
If you don’t needed the money when you get it set up savings accounts for your kids, use it for college, or give it to them when they graduate highschool. Their father is a looser for not wanting anything to do with them, but at least the forced child support makes him pay up.
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Really it’s the children’s money and if you don’t need it too raise them bank it for them
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That money is owed to the children you don’t need it bank it for them
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Keep the support don’t close it. Kids need it
It’s not your money, it’s the kids… save it for them if you dont need it to help support them. 
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Not sure what the laws in California are but I live in Australia and have child support paid into a trust account for my child I figure one day it might come in handy as a house deposit or university fees, I have never touched a cent of it and believe I am doing a good job without it but why should he get off not paying it just because he chooses not to see our daughter? The money doesn’t help me but it will help her one day and after all it is supposed to be spent on the child
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It’s for the children not you so put it into an account for a car or for college.
Child support is not your Money it is your child’s. If child or children are planning on going to college than why would you cancel the order leave it alone. Let the State handle it if and when you collect it if you don’t need put it in an account for them so they don’t have to take Student Loan. Thus not Hawking their Future. Or if they don’t go to college give it to them to buy a car, move into an apartment, pay for a trip that you wouldn’t be able to pay for. For their family after they get married. You are stealing from your child just because you have money for them now doesn’t mean their birth parent who owes the support should not pay for bring them into the world. I have Step Children, and Adopted children any funds we got being it from VA, child support, Social Security, or Adoption assistance because of Special needs we used it for extras above normal needs Food, Shelter, Clothing. Clubs, Sport, Camps, School Trips (Washington DC, Europe, FFA, 4H) Computers, Telephones. College, Car downpayment, Savings be Creative. Remember that money was ordered for your child not for you to drive a new car.
Don’t close it. Put the money in a savings account/college fund for the kids if you don’t need it. It’s the kids money not yours and they are entitled to it
I wouldn’t. Anything you get, put straight into savings accounts for your kids. That way, once they are adults, they will have a little cash to start off with.
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Keep the support. Things change. College is expensive and for three kids?! I’d save every dime. Let the courts do what they need to but keep your support coming in for their future.
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I would save the money and have it go into a separate bank account that you won’t touch. Your kids may appreciate it later.
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No you cannot …he is obligated he is the bio father he pays until 18 or the kids graduate college… i believe there is nothing you can do …
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I wouldn’t close it, especially if he isn’t helping any other way.
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Maybe the children don’t need it now. Set savings accounts up for the kids. It’ll be there for college or a car, etc. Somerhing to think about.
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if you don’t want or need the money, open an account for your kids and save it for them.
Child support and visitation are two sepwratr issues. If you dont need the money.put in savings accounts for kids for college.or high school graduation. Wedding…something. !
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I wouldn’t close it. Even if you don’t need the money to buy the things your kids need, that is their father, that is the other half that’s supposed to care for those kids. Save the money in an account for them for college/ a first car/ or a little buffer when they move out.
Yes you can close a child support case. My 14 yr olds bio dad has had several of his children’s mother’s close out the case and you can even erase rears. Go to your local social services and they will walk you through it.
I did in Missouri. I originally filed for child support through child support agency while we were still married but legally separated.
Then he agreed to let me have full custody if i dropped the child support so when my lawyer drew the plan up it stipulated that neither of us was to pay support to the other.
All he had to do was take the court order to child support agency.
Don’t close it. You never know what could happen to your current relationship and need that money. Its for your kids not you anyways. Put that money back for them for school or something big they need eventually. Reguardless if hes a worthless father he still has rights to see them and you cant stop that so make him pay support for kids he help make.
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He owes you that money. Get it. Your kids deserve it. If you don’t need it put it into a fund for their college or a new car.
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Make his life as miserable as possible don’t change a thing
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Yes you can close the case as long as there are no state services owed like tanf or state medical but once you waive those arrears you can never go back and ask for them again just an fyi you should be able to call their customer service and ask for a closure application
DO NOT STOP CS! Whether you NEED it or not, that’s for the kids he helped produce!!! You don’t have to communicate with him directly whatsoever regarding CS. He’s the one losing all the way around.
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This is why I don’t have female friends. So many are just downright petty!
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Keep receiving the money and just put it in an account for the kids. You still have college and weddings to think about.
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If you dont need it… put the money into their acct for college or downpayment on a house or car.
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I personally wouldn’t close it(even if it were possible). Put that money that you do get aside for your kids future. Or let them spend it now(depending on age and responsibility level) on whatever they want. Even if it’s just a little bit
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Put the money in a savings account for your kids for later on…THEY DO NEED IT!!!
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Don’t close it. If you can manage with out it open a savings account and deposit the money into it. When they are older split the money snd give it to them to use for school, their first apartment or house, a new car. Use it for their safety net
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You don’t need the money? You’re telling me you can put all 3 of your kids through college to finish and buy them a car ? I highly doubt it. Sounds like you should just keep it going
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He should absolutely pay child support even if you put it away in a savings account as someone else suggested. Canceling it would be doing him a favor and to hell with that.
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Sounds very noble to me; however, I may not fully ‘ get it”
I wouldn’t close it put that money in bank for your child’s future you don’t have to have ties with him to to save for your children future college is expensive
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Even if you don’t need it, you should still collect it and put it away for college. Education is expensive.
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I wouldn’t close it! As you know now, marriage isn’t always forever, then what happens?
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Save it. If you don’t need it now you might later. It’s his kids, he should pay. My dad paid for my 2 bothers lime a dad should. Even after my oldest brother turned 18 he still paid child support for him until my youngest bother also turned 18
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It’s not your money to just give up.
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I wouldn’t close the case, even if you don’t need the money put it into a account, your kids can use it one day towards a car, college, ect, you don’t ever have to tell them it’s from child support
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Keep that case open why close you gonna need one of these days put it into a separate account for your children needs
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Those kids will need that money!! They will need cars, insurance, etc. Open an account for them and save it all!!!
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The money is for the kids …if u don’t need it then leave the money for the kids…it doesn’t matter if the wage assignment doesn’t take effect like it should… the money could help them in the end.
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Im more concerned why the kids don’t want anything to do with him. . . You admit that the only reason you started child support payments was to make him miserable, have you turned your children against him too? Are you an alienator? Two sides to every story don’t forget that.
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Why should he get a free pass on supporting his kids?? I mean you and your spouse now pay to support his and your kids.
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You can call child support and have it stopped
Unless you went to court for it
Then you would have to file and let him off the hook that way
California really sticks it to them men for not paying
So I’m would keep it open
Just my Opinion
But you are very nice for wanting to close it
You can close the case and forgive the arrears I think you have to go down to wherever your local family division is that handles your case and speak to a case worker (or you might be able to call) BUT I personally wouldn’t whatever you get when you get it put up for your kids 
Definitely keep it. Put it away for a rainy day, for college. For whatever they need it for later. Good luck
I’m in Indiana and I did. His daughters mother passed in car wreck and child support was taking most of his checks and he wasnt left with enough to provide for her most of their income came from the mother. So I told the judge why I wanted it stopped and he stopped it and forgave past balances he owed. We had an agreement once he started a new better job you know if I needed help wipes, diapers, medicine, medical bills he would help if I didn’t have the money.
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Why close it he helped make the kiddos he can help support them.
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No dont close it! Your kids deserve it! Start a savings/college acct for them! Its his responsiblity!
Does your new husband want to adopt your kids? If He does that’s one way to stop child support
This is the mistake that so many make. Putting their feelings or the ex above the kids. The kids should be top priority, and child support should be mandatory regardless. Why would you turn off support to your kids bc you are in a relationship or vice versa? Child Support isn’t about the CP or NCP. It’s about the kids but nobody realizes that.
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If your husband adopts it will close. Also the child support is for your kids not you. If you don’t need it, set up a account it deposits into for their collage or first car, wedding, whatever. I didn’t collect from my x (because I am women and can do it alone.) Worked 2 jobs and 40 yrs later wish I had collected and spent more time with her. Good luck
The money is for the kids. I wouldn’t close it. Put it in an account that stays locked until the children are grown up. They are his children, and he should be paying. Why don’t they want to see their father?
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While all that info was involved, I look at child support as holding both persons who made the child responsible for that child. So while you rarely see support and he rarely sees kids do not take an order away. It holds that parent financially responsible too
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It’s not support for you, if you don’t need it bank it for your children education, wedding 1st car/house down payment. Most courts rule that parents are financially responsible for the seeds they plant, again it’s not for you, it is for his children’s support!
In arkansas, if it went through the courts you can’t without a court order and I’ve never heard of a judge granting that unless the non custodial parent signs away his/ her rights. They usually won’t let someone sign away their rights unless someone is willing to step up and take responsibility for that child, like through a step parent adoption. If it hasn’t gone through the court system you may be able to go to the local child support enforcement office and drop it. Also, he helped make those kids so he SHOULD help support them, even if it’s only financially. You not needing his money is irrelevant of him needing to support his kids. Put it in a savings account for the kids when they’re older. Trust me, the older they get, the more expensive it is to provide for them.
As long as your not getting government assistance you can withdraw your request
Yes you can contact child support and tell them you want to close the case and you will have to fill out paperwork
Keep it open. Put it in a savings for your kids.
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Leave the case open it will help you terminate parental rights if your husband wants to adopt
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That is your kids money, not yours. Why would you ever deny them?!
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I recommend keeping it open. Put it away for the kids. I believe and I could be wrong its illegal to not pay childsupport
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The money is for your children. When u do get it just put it into savings for them.
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Doesn’t matter what you want really. That money is reembursment for care for his children. I can’t see any court letting this go unless he is willing to sign off rights and your husband is going to adopt themm.b
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I live in Lousiana and even though you request closing the case, if there are arrears, it must be paid regardless. The dead beat in my case figured out the system for the past 13 years nor has seen my child or made any attempts. I would leave your case open and take that money and place it in savings for college or cars when the time comes.
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Don’t cancel the child
Support. Not only
Does he have a responsibility to financially support his children, they are entitled to it. The older they get, the more expensive they get. If you really don’t need any financial assistance from your ex, put the money in a savings account or a 529 college account for your kids
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You should just make him pay his dues… if you dont need the money fine take that money and open savings account for your kids. It’s called child support to help you support your children. Save it for them when they need it. I get support on my kids about 3 months out of a year so I never rely on it but one day my ex will have to pay that back support and idc if my kids are 30 yrs old when it happenes because it’s his duty to pay to help support them even it the amount is just a fraction and I dont need it my kids can benefit from it some day just like your could.
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Make his ass pay unless he terminates his rights. College money, first car money, etc
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Do what you heart says it the right thingvto do. Maybe without the stress of child support you dont know if he will or wont be a better father or man. Waiting for the child support might be stressful for you and releasing it might be good for both of you. I’m just one option. Wish you the best.
Tried it in KCMO. Judge said it was for the kids…not my decision. Broke my heart. So I had to document bad behavior on his part and prove I didn’t want them to see him. (Alcohol, leaving them alone etc.)
I believe in California once you and your husband have been married for five years they are his kids. As receiver you should be able to cancel anytime though.
Child support is for the kids. Put the money in the bank and let it grow. Give it to them when they are adults. They will appreciate it then.
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You can CLOSE it. You just call the child support office and tell them you want it closed. However he helped make them id hold him accountable. You can save the money for college or something. Don’t just let him off.
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I live in PA and I was able to dismiss all arrears and close our case, just had to make an appointment with domestic relations (who handles child support) and sign some paperwork. It was a simple process.
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No that money doesn’t belong to you it belongs too your children
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That’s his choice not to see them I wouldn’t close nothing
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Bank it for your kids education or their first car.
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I took the cs put it in a bank box when the last payment came half to each.Teach them to save not spend.Well got then a account.
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Put the money in a savings account for the kids. Child support IS for the kids.
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He owes this to your children and they deserve it.
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Even if you withdraw child support he still has visitation rights. One does not have to do with the other. Unless he terminated his rights he will still have ties to the children which is his right as a parent.
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Support is support…better than nothing at all. Many pay support and still have no access to their children. Children are not pawns in a game…they have another parent regardless of how that parent is portrayed. Most want to know their child. Sadly, the opposition uses that as a card in the game. Not every absent parent wants to be absent. Eventually…with all the DNA that can be offered to adult children today…those that were denied seeing the other parent when they were younger…they will seek them out as an adult. Do not deny your children the opportunity to know the other biological parent…regardless of the circumstances. Especially if financial obligation is the only focal point.
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You can close it in California as long as you’re not on government assistance, and you can close out the arrears too.
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Yes you can! But check the laws in your state.
Food for thought since it can be hard to close a CS case if the parent still has legal visitation.
Set up a savings account and let all funds go into it. Use it for big things the kids may need. Cars, sports fees, prom, college. Whatever. But just let it build up for the kids. Then you don’t feel like you’re using it to support your household in any way.
Just because you don’t want it doesn’t mean the baby daddy isn’t financially responsible for his kids.
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Ma’am DO NOT CLOSE the C/S case. Open a savings account and put it there, if you dont NEED it . The kids will NEED caps, gowns ,class rings, drivers ed ect…later. Even if you only get a few payments a yr, or once out of his income tax returns, its something for later I guarantee they will need
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You are a hell of a women . Most keep it just because they can and to make their ex miserable. I think it shows a lot doing it with out him and letting it go . You go mama !
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Keep it open! My daughters dad didn’t get his payed off until she was 27. You can have the payment sent to a bank account. That’s what I did, I didn’t keep track of it but it’s a nice little chunk for your kids when they wanna but a car, get an apartment.
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