For those women that are saying “make him pay…he helped make them” shut up! She doesnt need that from us. She asked a question about stoping it. We should be backing each other not attacking each other on this. If she feels like she wants to do this so be it. If her new husband is loving her kids great!
My answer to her is…do what you feel is best. This is ALLLLLLL about the kids.
Save it for your kids
Sweetie…keep the child support for your kids…just bank it!!!
I closed mine for different reasons. We decided on shared parenting and he is a great dad. We went to an attorney’s office and I signed a paper to dismiss the court order and past owed amounts. The attorney did give me a hard time saying I was taking away from my child-however, I did what I thought was best for everyone and everything has turned out great.
Your situation is different- child support and visitation are different. You can cancel support but he will still have visitation rights. The only way around it is to have him sign over his rights.
I agree with above comments- put the money in a savings account for them for when they get older. At least they can benefit something from him even if he doesn’t have a relationship with them.
Good Luck!
Keep it and put it away for your kids for college!
It’s for the kids, not you!
You can have him go and sign off on the kids. I’m not sure about stopping it unless he signs off. I might be wrong
This totally depends on the state. In Illinois, you cannot terminate the order until emancipation or termination of parental rights.
If you want to close it than try too. You can always ask child support.
In California, they typically will not close a case unless the parties are of equitable incomes AND have joint custody. You can just have them deposit it all into a savings account for your kids for when they go to college or something.
Some states will continue to back track the payments that were never made even after the case has been closed. Check with your caseworker. You may be able to close it now but they may still try to take past unpaid child support income from him. And those getting left unpaid can lead to seizing his paychecks or income taxes until it has all been paid off.
Put that money away for the kids. Its for them not for you to decide if you need or not.
I agree here. Just put it in a savings account for the kids. It isn’t always easy to just stop it. And it is the kids money. They can use it to furnish their first place. Or pay for college.
Listen my ex was real SOB, when we divorced I asked for nothing, just out. He was however a great father. Sometimes balancing to child support and a new family he missed a few payments After our last turned 18 he asked me to close the case for the arrears. I realized the past was the past and I did not need the money. Neither did my kids. I called CSS in California and said I wanted nothing more close case…best closure of all.
It’s the kids’ money. Save it for them. They can use it for college, travel, down payments on a house or car, anything. He has a responsibility to ALL of his children. It doesn’t matter if they don’t “need” it. I’m sure if you ask them when they turn 18, they’d love to get it. Also, you really don’t know where you and your family could be next year financially or even next month. Things happen. You may need that money, even if it’s scarce.
Depends on the state. In Wyoming I paid my own into a revolving account. Check went in, next check written off of the account to pay the next month. Some states won’t dismiss it, so I found a way around it.
I’m not sure of ur state but the state I’m in you cannot just close it unless ur husband were to adopt the children and take financial responsibility for them. Even if the father gave up his rights he is still obligated to pay support. Just save up the money and divide it equally among the kids when they are older or sage it for when they need money for something in the future.
Why not keep getting it and put it away as an education fund for your kids? He helped create them, he can help pay. Especially because by the sounds of it when your children go to college he won’t be contributing to the extremely high cost.
You could try, but honestly they’ll probably still hold him liable for it. And if he misses any payments before the kids turn 18, they can make him back pay for all the times missed. But give it a shot. Please update us if it works.
It’s for the kids. If you don’t need it put it in a savings account for them. You’re making it about you again. The child support is for the kids.
Bank what ever little you get for your kids regardless of what u earn!!..EVERYTHING helps for their future, it would be SERIOUSLY STUPID NOT TO!!!
your husband sounds a little jealous of the strings u still might have. Tell him to get over it…he shouldnt be deciding for your children with another man!!
Keep it and save it for them. But if you really want to cancel it and wipe it out you can. My husband did it with his ex. He wiped out all her back pay and cut it in half, we are also in CA
I have a exemption def ring child support and discuss with them
My suggestion is to put the money in a savings account and save it for whatever the kids may need later on. There is no such thing as unneeded money.
Not your money 
put it away for their future
Keep whatever you get when ever, put it in a college fund for the children.
You could try but legally the money is for his kids so they might not close it as his still liable until they turn 18
He needs to pay what he owes. That money is for his kids. Collect it.
I would. Child support is a hard issue. If you did it to get even, and you don’t need it, by all means drop it. I’ve had to pay child support for my ex. It makes life miserable. Give the guy a break.
I wouldn’t put it in an interest bearing account and just let it build up. You never know when it’s needed
u could honestly probably get him to sign over his parental rights. ur hunny could legally adopt him, and if bio dad refuses to contact, or sign, then the court will vawe his signature.
I dont know California law, but if he has no contact and the kids dont want anything to do with him, you might be able to sever parental rights. Is your new husband willing to adopt them? One thing to consider is can you afford to raise your kids without any support from their father or the state in the event that you and your current husband should divorce. They may cancel future support but he may still be liable for any support due prior to the stop order.
You can tell them you want to forgive the back payments and drop the child support.
I would have him sign his rights away to the kids first. That way he can’t come back later and say you kept them from him.
Dont close it! It the kids money not yours! Leave it and he will pay back all what he misses! CS dont play around with no one missing payments hun…good luck.
I wouldn’t… that money is for your kids not you, they’ll need it one day. If you dont need it put it in saving or invest it for them! They deserve it, they’re his kids too.
In Oregon you have to have a very good reason why they should close it. It’s not easy. Just put the money in savings for them. Start a college fund. Child support isn’t always about financials now. Eventually it’ll catch up to him not paying and that’s his problem not yours.
In NC yes you can cancel it and all the arrears you just gotta go to court
Why shouldn’t he be supporting his children? The money has nothing to do with you.
Put it away for college. Put it away for a car when they need to get to their first job. Put it away for the downpayment on their fjrst apartment when they are ready to move out.
In tennessee I filed bc his ass said our kid wasnt his and since he wanted paternity that was how I did it. So in order for me to close the case, the paternity fee would have to be paid and then it could be closed. Google your state and if you can close it yourself.
That is the Child’s money. Not yours or your husbands… It really should not be up to you…
Put the money on a college account for the kids if you don’t need it to live on.
If you don’t need why don’t you open accounts for each of your children and decide the child support into each of their accounts this way they have money down for car or something they want when they get older
You have to go to the local office and talk to your rep. And Inform them that you no longer feel its a necessity. They’ll probably ask you for wages and if you make their annual household income, they would drop it.
If is not your money! It is your child’s money and you have no right to cancel it. Put it away for when they are old enough to decide if they want it. If they decide they don’t want it then they can return it to their father.
Why ask Facebook?
Call your lawyer.
Talk with child support worker. But I would put into a savings for each child. I wouldn’t let him off that easy…
I agree. Let him pay still. Put it in an account for the kiddos.
Yes call child support.
If you don’t need it, why not take whatever you get and put it toward an education fund for them in the future?
Dont cancel save it for your kids
Depends on the county and you can either go down there or call them and have then send you the paperwork so you can stop it all together that’s what I did when I lived in another state and wanted all ties to end; I was living in Texas/Oklahoma and was getting child support from California for my kids from their father that lived in California, all I did was called the county that it was started in and ask them to send me the paperwork to stop it completely
Let him pay til they are 18
My girlfriends mom put her child support checks into savings accounts for the kids- both ended up with nearly all of their college paid for.
Only cancel if your husband plans to adopt, otherwise stash it back for the kids
I’m not 100% sure about California but in Wisconsin there are forms you can fill out claiming financial indecency. If they deem it admissible, that form should do the trick. Otherwise, you can write a letter requesting to “close” the case. Meaning, no criminal action is taken in case of non-payment but will still show as a debt for him (may also be subject to garnishment) but you could always send the money back to him & have additional arrears expunged when the last child turns 18. I do agree with Emily Stephens though! Personally, I’d wait for this new guy to legally adopt your children. Just in case something happens, you won’t end up in that kind of pinch with three children.
Ur mad!!!
Make him pay… bank the $ for ur kids.
Just bc ur new husband says u don’t need it! What if u 2 divorce? Then what
In Texas you can close the case, but you can’t cancel the arrears. If you close the case, you can’t reopen it. I agree with the others, a savings account would be a really great idea to help your kiddos.
I would put it in a fund for your kiddos if you don’t truly need it. But, yes to your questions. You can go in and sign a paper agreeing to remove him from child support payments as well as any arrears he may owe. You can bring his balance down to $0 just as long as you are not receiving financial assistance from the state!
Would he be willing to sign over his rights in full? If not then I agree to not let him off that easy & put it in an acct. for your kids if you don’t need it.
Dont drop child support!! If you dont want to spend it put it into savings accounts for the kids to go to college!
Don’t. Let him off the hook that’s the best revenge
You should keep getting the child surport and but it in an account for the children when thwt get older
Still his kids whether he chooses to be an active father or a deadbeat. Don’t reward deadbeat actions by letting him off the hook for supporting the children he helped create. When you do get those random payments from him put it up for your children later. Their education, first car, graduation, etc. If it’s because you don’t want him around at all because he’s a flake now then go talk to your case worker about his actual involvement with your children and see what steps you can do to take his rights away. But let him continue those payments.
Unless he’s adopting them, ex agreeing to- idk if you can. You can petition the court to a review of case and cite non visitation
Yes.
One option would be to have your new husband adopt them.
Save it for the kids… Theres a lot of things in life that theyll need money for even if college isnt for them 
its money for your kids not for you. open an account if you dont need it an put it towards your kids future/savings.
College funds sweetie
Save that money for your kids, put it all in a savings account. They could use it for their first car, collage, apartment, save it for an emergency.
My child support goes into my daughters college fund. Why not just open an account for your kids and when it does get deposited you can put it for them. Child support is for the kids basically anyway whether you need it or not. One day it may be needed and this way its there for them.
Idk about your state but in NC once u drop child support you can never take it back out agian if anything ever arises in the future. You can talk to him to sign all his rights away and maybe your new husband will adoot them.
If he’s still paying it , put the money in a savings account for future use
Why cancel it? It doesn’t matter if you need the money or not, that money belongs to the kids. Divide it up among them and they will have a nice savings account. His choosing to not visit them does not negate his financial responsibility to his children.
Need to go to court with him…
The kids deserve that money for schooling,housing,dental… or what ever they want to spend the money on if you don’t need it.when they are older I sure in the heck not let him off.
First thing I’d make sure that my husband knows that your ex is still your child’s father and closing the case doesn’t mean that they won’t desire to have a relationship with him later in life. Maybe your husband just wants you to not stress about it which is wonderful, but maybe he wants all ties cut? I just think he should know his place. I do think it’s great that he wants to be financially responsible for YOUR kids. My kids stepdad is wonderful and more of a father than theirs ever was or will be. I just want you to think about what your kids may want over what your husband wants.
Yes you can close it. By not showing up to court if there hasn’t already been a court date.
Sounds like child support for the kids or a investment program for them
In Wisconsin it’s taken up in family court. It’s actually very hard to get rid of child support. The court sees it as support for you children and for there needs now and for the future (such as college or a first car)
You file a petition with divorce court
Yes you can stop child support. You have to show the judge you and your new husband can financially support your kids without your ex’s assistance
You can’t close it he would have to give up his rights …
If you don’t need it then save it later for them! His kids, his financial responsibility period! If he has nothing to do with them he should still have to pay!
Do you take state aid? If so then no.
I’m dropping mine because the system is ridiculous and we are handling it ourselves since we get along etc and all we had to do is request it from our case worker. In your case tho, I would not drop it.
My case is in California too. Call your case worker and ask. All I had to do was email her a request to stop child support. Again, I would not drop it in your case.
I closed my case. My daughter is 30 now, so the entire balance was arrears and interest. He still has to pay the state fees and interest but it should be a fraction of the balance. 
You’d probably have to have him sign Rights away. But the money isn’t for you it’s for your kids. Save it in an account for your kids so they have college money or first car money. He needs to be financially responsible in some way for those kids whether you want or need the money or not. Those kids do.
Do not stop it Put it in their car funds or colleges Funds!
If you’re not on cash aid and he owes no back child support it’s up to you.
Go to talk to a family attorney or call the child support office in your area. Both can accurately answer this question.
Don’t close it if you don’t need it still get it for your kids and put it in a account for them for when there older
Close it for what? That money can be saved if you dont need it…that’s the least he can do…chileeee I wish I would 
The kids DESERVE a father who spends time with them not just pays them. I say cut all ties and close the case! Maybe even have your husband legally adopt them. Adoption will automatically cancel the support in some cases. If you’re financially stable, let it go, and him with it. 
Don’t take off child support on him he’s all cool with his other dam family but he’s no able to take care of his own kids I would just keep it until they turn 18 years old just save it to them for one day they really need it
He should be held responsible for his children
I was able to waive child support when we did ours. Contact your county family court and ask to waive child support and see what steps they need you to do.
Don’t cancel it put it in a account and save it for when they get older it would help your kids out school cost alot they will need a car to keep a job something to get started… rent Bill’s anything they need they could have if something where to happen to you… I would NOT cancel he is paying for a reason…
Save it all the kids college fund!!! Don’t stop getting the support.
You can close it and reopen it at anytime in CA …I stopped my sons fathers support for the exact reasons