Child support is not for you, its for your kids, so if you don’t want it or need it at least open n account for your kids and just have it automatically put it there for them.
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Dont make it easier on him. U would be doing him a favor. Yes his not paying u sometimes but when he does put it away for the kids.
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Was the child support for you or for the kids? If it was for the kids, why cancel sth that could help them settle down when they move out? Get him to pay arrears
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If he was around and involved maybe it could be debated but since hes not making an effort keep the child support
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Keep the support put into a college fund or a trust fund for the kids he is still their father and should be helping with the kids even if he isn’t seeing them. This will help them when they are older and have a small start up venue to help them
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Why are your current husband’s interests more important than your kids’? When the kids grow up, I don’t think they’ll appreciate the way you talk about their dad. Apparently, husbands come and go at the flick of a switch, your children are forever. Do what’s best for them.
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He will still have rights to his kids regardless of whether you close the case or not. If you don’t need the money, start a college fund or a first car fund. Stopping child support won’t change anything that’s already happening.
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Yes you can there are special circumstances that allow you to do so but unless it’s for reason attaining to you or your child’s safety then they may not …open an account for your children and just let it go in there and forget about
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They’re HIS kids too, he is also financially responsible! Put it in a savings account for your kids future. Lord
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I just looked it up and there is nothing stating for California that if a parent doesn’t want the other parent to pay that it will be forced. Where I’m from it doesn’t matter, if the child is under the age of 16 the non custodial parent MUST pay child support regardless but that’s not the case in every state. I would call your court clerk and find out.
Yes! All you have to do is sign a paper. Past arrears is included. Once it’s closed, everything closes.
In Pennsylvania you can. There is a fee that your ex will have to pay to cancel it. If I remember correctly, it’s $45
Don’t cancel , leave it for savings for the kids. You never know what can happen in the future.
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do not stop it, put it away for them for college/family vacations
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Those are his children too. Put the money into investment accounts, college funds etc. If he doesn’t want to see them, that’s on him. He will ALWAYS be their father. What if you end up alone again? Or widowed or your husband becomes disabled or unemployed? College is very expensive.
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Don’t close the case. Just leave it open if you get checks great cash them if you don’t get checks just ignore it you don’t need to contact him you don’t need to contact the courts just ignore it and the money will keep stacking up unless he makes the payments. When the Children turn 18 they can sue him for arrears. And when the children are grown you can even sue him for a rears. But there’s no need to close the case just let it keep racking up a balance. I speak from personal experience. My child support is up to $167,000. If I ever want to go after him I guess I could…
Keep the CS and have it go into a separate account with your kids’ names on it. They will need it for a car, college, any life changes like marriage or buying their first home. The possibilities are endless. Hate to break it to you, but your husband is wrong. The kids’ money isn’t his business.
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Of course you can! You can cancel at anytime but I would highly suggest leaving it open. At the very least that child support can go into a savings bond or a savings account for your kiddos for college, cars, when they move out etc. the world is very expensive now so I would keep it open just to make things easier on your kiddos when they get into their 20’s and have their own life.
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I cancelled the child support case by both of us signing a paper. I couldn’t cancel the arrears unless we both appeared in court neither of us had time for that. So he just paid it off slowly.
Why close it? If he owes he owes. Make him pay for not being there. If you don’t need the money just put it in a college fund for your kids.
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Well I went through similar my. Ew husband at the time told not to put my 1st husband and when she got older and things where not good between us he would throw it in my face. Let that man support his children after all u didn’t make them by yourself
I have a friend that her ex pays her every 3-4months(I think the longest is 6 months) and she took him to court. They took away his parental rights and he will still pay child support till the kids are 18. We live in CA
Most states wants child support Start it does not stop until the child reaches 18. You cannot sign your child’s rights away. Now that you instituted child support. So I suggest you live with it. You could possibly get your open to adopt her children and have your ex sign away his rights.
He should still be paying his share of support. Maybe put it in a savings account for the kids to have when they are older?
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Ridiculous. He needs to provide for his children. If the children were living with him, you should be paying child support. It’s about the kids. They didn’t bring themselves into the world.
It’s not about u it’s about ur kids n reason y the kids don’t talk to him is coz they hurt…don’t do it for ur n ur new husband benefit u should actually find out the real reason to y ur kids really don’t Wana talk to him…n it’s ur kids money they deserve it if u don’t Wana take the money at least open accounts for your kids save it but don’t be selfish
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That’s not up to you! And the money doesn’t belong to you! It belongs to the kids and you have no right to disallow them from receiving it.
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Many people.have posted however it is really up to you what you want to do. I feel sometimes it just easy to.screw it all and cut ties etc. But other times not. Best of luck on what you want to do.
You will only be helping him and his new family put it in bank accounts for your children he should pay either way, it’s his choice not to be around and paying child support will make him know he has kids wether he wants to see them or not!! which he should be reminded he has them some men get away with to much.
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Put the money into a savings account for your kids
Its according of it’s a dss cass or of it’s a cass you brought forth
I live in Indiana and they won’t just cancel hold support . But if you’re married , and the father hasn’t made contact and/or isn’t keeping up on his support … after a year your husband can adopt the kids . Maybe you guys have something similar ?
I closed mine, wrote off his arrears, just rang them up then they sent letter out to confirm it.
Its money…??? Just save it. Those kids are more then entitled to it. Once they get older n want things like cars n college u might wish u had it
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I think your amazing. Head held high showing him you dont need his money because you can provide a good life without him. Ignore the negativity on this page.
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Petty ass females!!
To make his life miserable seriously?! NOT to support your kids but to mess with a man who left your ass?! This is how women get such bad names!!
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Why would you want to do that? It’s his responsibility to provide for his kids, don’t think of the now, think of their future. This money can be save for the kids and invested in their college fund, a new car or any emergency they might have in the future. There’s no such a thing as not needing the money!
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All you do is file with the court (or dhr if that’s who you went thru) to close the case. You can also forgive any back pay owed
YES YOU CAN! all I had to do was call the enforcement office and tell them my reason. I had to wait 2 weeks and call back to verify it. Do what you feel is right I did, nobody else knows your situation li kik e you.
Sounds like you are still trying to get even with him at the cost of your children by saying I don’t need you. Open a savings account with direct deposit and list the children as beneficiaries and let it be. It’s their money not yours. Trust me someday there will come a day they will need or want something you can’t provide and finding out they could of had money saved but don’t because of you it will backfire on you.
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If he made the baby, he can pay for the baby. Let him. Once your child is 18, you and he can attempt to at least erase a portion of the past due as long as you weren’t on state assistance. If you were, the state will seek their repayment from him.
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In australia you need to include your ex, but you and the ex partner can come to an agreement on a payment deal if you choose. As long as this agreement is put through the agency. My ex is doing the same thing, at the end of the day you dont need to accept it but do not, not take it. If you dont want it give it to your kids for at the end of the day it is to help raise them. And it may take a few months but just think that is a saving for you so when you do get it in a lymp sum you can do things with your kids.
Put the money in a college fund for your kids
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Save the money for the kids.
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you could , as long as your not getting any help / money from the goverment
He will still have rights to the kids even if I choose not to accept the money for the children. Forgiving the debt might be a gesture for taking the support when U thought u shouldn’t have … however if U get support the court demes I need it based on your finances as well… that’s the kids money at the end of the day to help raise them … if your in abundance place it in a direct deposit savings in their names so they can have it when they are 18. Then u can’t touch it if u do so giving u the feeling of not being involved with him and his money and his money is going from him to his kids accounts . Again he doesn’t loose rights to the kids because u deny or relinquish him of his payments .
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Not sure about California’s rulings, but I’m in Texas and a family member has a child support case where she wasn’t the one opening it up. The State opened it up towards the child and my family member doesnt have the option to close it.
In Oklahoma if you are getting food stamps, Soonercare, day care assistance, etc you can close the case but will lose any assistance you get.
His new wife is a bitch. I could never be with a man who doesnt take care of his kids nor will I ever be the woman to take a man away from his kids.
Keep the case open and put that money into your kids savings accounts.
I was thinking about closing my case against my daughters donor too since he isnt involved and my daughter has a wonderful dad but then I go back and say “fuck no. This is her future money”
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Good for you mom 
Your growth is remarkable. But, I would personally keep the case open. Not for you but for the kids when they are older. The money will accumulate and it’ll be for their benefit.
When I was a teen the money accumulated helped me grow independently and value the money to spend it wisely.
Maybe get a direct deposit debit card? Keep the card safe until the kids are ready to use it? I know in NYC we have the bank of america prepaid card. I have it for my sons father and I just let it accumulate. It will be beneficial in the long run
But, if you really want to stop it, contact the childsupport department.
You’ll have to take him to court and see a judge etc to get it canceled. It can take a while.
I would keep the case open sounds like u already have no ties to him and like someone else said put it away for ur kids cars…liscense…insurance…college…its his responsibility to help even if he doesn’t want to be in there lives.
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I wouldn’t close it. If you dont need the money, put it into a college savings account. Their father needs to do his part in supporting them.
Yes you can. I cancelled could support on my ex. I went to the child support office, and took a police report of domestic against him, told them he was a danger to our kids and the quit child support right then
I wouldn’t. Your kids deserve it weather you need it or not. Take that extra money it opens up for you and add it to their savings accounts, put them in more activities or just whatever.
In BC this is kids money…has nothing to do with you…of course parents use to cloth and feed…put roof over their heads…even if you don’t need it should be saved for education, or down payment on a house, or vehicle…
It’s to bad the kids have no relationship with father.
I’m not sure of law now but if dads didn’t pay kids used to be able to go after the money owed them…I guess it depends on where you are
That’s your children’s money, put it in savings for them.
As long as you are not on any assistance (including medicaid for the children) you can file a motion to stop support and forgive the arrears.
Just put the child support money on an extra account for your kids. One day they’ll need money. Maybe for the first car?