You don’t HAVE to do anything. You do NOT have to adopt them. I know it may sound harsh but do not take on more than you can handle mentally, physically, spiritually and emotionally.
Weigh out your pros and cons and do not feel bad about whatever decision you make.
Keep them! Not every foster care home is safe and a good one! Some kids go through hell in foster care!
It seems really overwhelming to think about, but you will establish your own routines and life will adjust to them and be normal.
Can you get child support from their dad?
I think you can do it. You know that you are all they have so therefore you have no choice but to take them. You can get help from your state since you are adopting them. Good luck!
Keep them! We tried to get our nephews and the wouldn’t because we didnt have enough rooms broke our hearts now we have no contact
Can u get money from state by adopting them? Look in to it, I feel so bad, I do hope u keep them, ur all they have
I’ve heard so many horror stories of foster cares. There are good ones, but its not guaranteed! They just need love the most 
It’s hard, but they didn’t ask for this. We raised 2 grandchildren. It was hard! Looking back, I’d do it all over again. Would you want your kids in foster care? Where is the dad?
Support those babies anyway you can. With God, everything is possible 
Overwhelming definitely but they will love & respect you when they are old enough to know what you did!
U can do it they r ur brothers foster homes r not always safe and st least u know they will b safe and taking care of with u
Keep them. You’ll regret it if you don’t. They’ll both be in school soon and that will help. Plus you’ll probably get assistance having 4
Where is dad? Can he at least HELP or split custody with you? I would still adopt them, but it WILL be hard. 
I hope you keep them because the foster care system sucks. Hardly any of those kids are adopted and are always in and out of the system.
You got this mama! Not saying it won’t be tuff but God wouldn’t put more on us then we can handle. I’m a single mama of four I’ve been doing it on my own ten years so I know you can!
Every mother gets overwhelmed with her own children.
Where is their/your father? I would take them but he would be helping too if he’s able.
First of all good job for coming this far and stepping up and being there for these kids lives. Just know your age does not matter you can do it all one day at a time. Time flys And then one day these kids will be grown taking care of you, you’re their whole world. Those men in your life will step and be there if they’re really good. Life is short you only want good souls around you. Stay strong. You’re doing so good already.
You are their family and it sounds like the only family they have. You have already been caring for them. They are young and deserve a stable home. They probably won’t get that in foster care.
I also was put into that situation with my two nephews … I thought long and hard about it it was tough we had three of our own! But 12 years later I couldn’t imagine our family without them!
I think it will be hard and you will feel overwhelmed but I think in the end the joy you will get from them will far outweigh the negative. Best of luck. 
I tried to keep my siblings whenever this happened but didnt have enough room for them in my apartment
Keep them if you can if you believe you can adjust to the life style and love your life raising them as well
They are your brothers , shouldn’t even be a second thought about it.
The boys will be ruined emotionally if you give them away! I know it’s hard but please try to keep them!
I would keep them. It is a lot. Parenting is a lot. But at least you know they will be safe, loved, & happy.
Where’s ur father ?? And your amazing for taking them on just saying
You have to do what 8s best for all of you. It is a big task to undergo. But I think you can do it. Stay positive. Reach out if you need help. Not sure where you are from bit I would help you if you are close enough. I am in Wisconsin reach out if you need to.
You can do it, it’ll take a little time to adjust and get everyone on a schedule but you got this
You’re an amazing woman to be able to give them a stable, loving home to grow up in! Reach out to Rose again foundation and also SMART with Traci L. Williams maybe they can help you out with taking custody of your brothers and getting what you need. I’ll be praying for you! I have 4 children of my own and my now husband and I just gained guardianship of our newborn niece. It’s a blessing I promise!
You can do it pace yourself one task at a time have the oldest do small chores too help. Never easy raising kids but what you’re doing is amazing
Don’t let them go to Foster Care! I know it will be hard, but God will give you strength and courage! God Bless You and your family Always 
Is there any other family members that can help out, to avoid the foster care system? Even family friends?
I took my sister from my mother but that was only one kid and she was a bit older. We do what we have to do for our family.
What about other family members helping? So you can get a break once in awhile
Just stay strong 
! You probably are the only one to be the best parent. When you need to vent come here or find somewhere to let it out! I know it’s going to be a lot at first. Just remember teach them how to be better. I have 4 kids 16-7 . Children teach us how strong we truly are. Just believe and fight. I just want say your amazing person to want to raise your siblings.
Honey, I truly believe God puts us in this place for a reason. I had 1 child, adopted a sibling group of 4 and now we are getting their infant sibling, making it 6 kids.
It will not be easy, but you can do this. Have faith in yourself and know that you are going to rock this!
Best of luck to you and your family. Thank you for stepping up for those boys. You my dear are amazing.
You will regret it if you don’t. Life is hard life is stressful. But regrets can’t be undone.
Depends on how much do you love them???
You got this momma! You are doing an amazing job already! You can do it!
I think you can do it! You’ve been doing it for two years already. I know it seems more daunting because now you’ll be committed for the next 14 years to raising them. But women tend to be able to make things work even when they seem like they can’t. Not to guilt you, but they may be split up in foster care or end up in an abusive home. You will get some financial help for caring for them if that is a concern. Theyre both school age so at least they will be able to go to school. It won’t be easy but I really think you’ll be okay.
I had 2 kids by the time I was 21. Meet my husband and gained 2 more. Then we have a baby. I ended up with my cousin. (Same situation as you) I’m 31 with 6 kiddos. It’s an adventure for sure but looking back I wouldn’t want it any other way. We have all the kiddos 100% of the time
You can do it! We believe in you!
Please take care of them all…
Do not put them in foster care kids go through hell in there…The Lord will Reward u an he will make it easy for u…
Many moms out there take care of 4 kids or more …Those kids will love u all they will forever remember the Love an care u give them …
God is Great ⚘
Love them all an cherish them be the Mother they long for ⚘:heart:⚘
You are stronger than you think. You have more love than you know. Family is always best. Prayers for you. Hope all works out. You are braver than you think. Be proud of all you do.
I’m with a lot of the other people on here asking where is your dad? If their mom is in jail, their father should be the one taking custody. If he’s MIA for all of you, then that’s a different story.
If this were me (and I’m a mom to 4) I would take them in. I know you’re young, but so are they and they don’t deserve to be put into the system. They didn’t ask to be here and while it’s not really your responsibility, they’re your brothers and if you can help them, you should. I know the system would much rather place them with family than in foster care or a group home. It’s gonna be hard, but you’ll be saving those boys.
If you do decide to keep them, check with local agencies for help. This situation is not the same as a married couple going out and willing adopting a child. You should be able to get assistance… food stamps, medical, child care… apply for everything you can to ease the transition for everyone.
Good luck!
Where there’s the will theres a way. Be positive. you are a very special young woman. Keep up the good work
Keep them, you will feel better in the long run.
Honey I have 6 kids. 10,8,6,6,4,3! You will find a way to keep going even when u don’t think you can.just remember they will get older and it will get easier.ride it out! If you don’t have them on a strict schedule do so because it will be a sanity break for you lol.
I have custody of three kids , the hardest job i ever had, but the most blessed i have ever been, i have my meltdowns, overwhelmed most of the time and probably fail them all the time, but i know they are safe, they are together, and very loved, as crazy as it gets i couldnt see my life with out them.
Keep them. I haven’t been able to see my baby brother for almost 9 years because he got adopted by his foster family and they won’t let us have anything to do with him.
The state will pay you to take them. Use the money. They are almost school age and you will regret if you don’t.
Stay strong, you got this💜 they will love you forever. The system is broken. I know THIS. Lots of support. You will be fine💜
You will make it work…God will give you the strength. You got this
You can do it and I don’t even know you!!! Prayers!!!
OMG I know it’s gonna be alot. But please take them in. They need you. Get as much support as u need and see if you can get community resources so that you can get all the help you need. You’re a great person and it’s all gonna work out:blue_heart:
You can do it you are strong if I had the option when my little brothers were taken I would of done it in a heartbeat
You can do this. Your query makes that evident
You have been, you are, you can.
I fear what would happen to your heart if you allowed them into the system.
There are resources- financial and emotional. You can fo this. Your man will understand or not. That is secondary to your heart’s full wellness.
Please don’t give your brothers up, I know it’s not fair and not supposed to be your responsibility but they are safer with you than foster care and it will mess them up mentally/emotionally. I grew up playing mom to my siblings because my parents were not mature and cared more about theirselves and I wouldn’t change it for anything, I’d do it over again if I had to. You can do it! They love you and I’m sure would prefer to be with you. You got this!
it will take a bit of time to adjust and it won’t always be easy, but you can do it. I believe if you let your little brothers go into foster care you will never forgive yourself, especially since you have taken care of them off and on for the last two years.
Reach out to your local community. There is help out there. You can do this
They will help you don’t let your brothers go into the system. They can also help you with your 2 kids
You can do it! See what resources are out there to help. Good luck!
My mom took my cousins because her sister was a drug addict. I was 17 and my sister was 19. My mom was in her 40s and practically done raising kids. My cousins were 4 and 6 weeks old. She literally had a newborn. Also my dad had just been diagnosed with lung cancer. So yeah it was a lot but she took them. Of course she had help with my sister and I who were old enough to help take care of them. My mom also worked full time. 2 years after we got custody of them they were officially adopted by mom and dad and they have always been my brothers. I’m asking you to please take them. It will seem very overwhelming but you can do it. Reach out to friends and family for support. You can do this
You can take care of your children and your brothers. Yes it may be hard at points but you have the strength to do it. They are with you for a reason.
My half sister did this at 18 by herself no husband with her sister(9) and brother (6)and she had a 6 month old baby. She finished raising them both cause her mom passed away and the dad didn’t want them. Please don’t let them go into the system.
Get support from ur dad, n I’m nt sure if u will be able to get adoption money for both boys, than maybe u cn get someone to help u a few days a week with the kids an cleaning the house Jst to get a break
You have had them off and on for two yrs. Keep going nothing is going to change with 4. You got this you are stronger than you think you are
Honey those babies need you . Know this with my own kids and grandchildren I was overwhelmed. There is not one mom out there that doesn’t feel overwhelmed at times . With God all things are possible. He was my helper and I’ll pray for you . Find support . Moms groups , day care , counseling , church groups , neighbors that u trust and friends ! Choose wisely and ask for help .
Anyway you could foster them so the state will help pay for their care ?
Take care of them. Because a life in CPS has a lot of uncertainty. I know kids who have been sex trafficked in CPS care or beaten and broken.
I’m just going to say it can be done…I was 22 with my first 23 with second I took my 3 nieces in…right after the second went through a divorce with 2 year…it’s tough and hard but can be done. Was life “perfect”…No. Do I regret it heck no!!
You have to grow up immediately and take care of them. It will be the hardest thing you ever do and you can do it. Don’t let the system take them.
If you know what the foster care system was like you wouldn’t even be asking this question? I’m sorry but there’s a lot of other people who would even have to question it. It’s tough luck but you can save their lives for the better.
You can do it momma. Just take it one day at a time. Look for local resources to help out as well. Sending you love,light and positive vibes
You got this! At 6&4 they’re already a good bit self sufficient. I personally would do it but if you think you may not it is 100% your choice.
You got this once you adopt u will still get help from the state
You need to do what’s best for you and your family. Sometimes with stress comes animosity towards them, which neither of you need. If adoption with a loving family is what is needed, with lots of love, the ability to do things with them, no other children due to infertility, so they’d be spoiled. Please reach out to me. God Bless, may you find peace and comfort with whichever decision you choose.
Take them! They know and love you. Do not give them up now! It’s a lot and gonna be hard as Hell, but you can do it. Ask for help. Those boys will always look up to you, even when they are being lil s**ts. I promise, it will be better for them. Don’t forget…ASK FOR HELP.
Sorry but this shouldnt even be a question. That ur brothers. . yea u just had a baby but. That ur brothers.yes it will be hard but u are strong
You can do it it will be hard in the beginning but do you want to wonder where they are all your life if you don’t take them in,cps will help financially in most states,with a monthly check each month for each child so that should relieve some pressure financially and I don’t know where you live but in mo.where I live cps also give a clothing voucher every 3 months
That’s alot. I’m 34 and have 4 kids. I’m overwhelmed Alot. But it’s worth it.
You gotta ask yourself are you ready to really grow up and be the parent they need… Routine and structure will be your best friend… coffee and long days and long nights.
Hands down I’d take them. But it’s not going to be easy.
Aw I know this is such a hard decision and it’s a big responsibility. I would think about it but if I were you I would adopt my brothers. One is 6 so he can go to public school and the 4 year old can go next year! That may be helpful to you to have both of them gone during the day. And I think the state will pay you so that can help financially. I know it’s tough but you got this!
You can do this !!! You will establish a routine. You love them and they live you!! Just remember, they will be all grown up before you o ow it
They are family. Of course you will care for them, no matter what. Think of how they are feeling with everything that is going on in their lives. What if you were one of them & the older sibling said ’ i can’t do this '!! But what if that sibling said ‘yes, i can do this’ . Jow lucky & grateful you would feel to have a stable home. Yes can be crowded, but stable.
You can do hard things. Is what you though life would look like? No. But life will always throw curve balls. You can do this.
You need to talk to others that are going thru similar… there will be good days & bad, happiness & disappointment, but your brothers coming to live with you may be exactly what you didn’t know you needed… pros, cons & possibilities
Look girl you sound very strong plz dont give up on them have lot of faith pray for agood life for u your kids brothers n your man n the happiness u will have
If there’s any way you can, PLEASE take those babies in. Please do NOT make them go into the foster system. It may seem like a lot to take them in, but you will forever regret putting them in foster care. Take it from someone who aged out of the foster system. YOU WILL REGRET IT if they go in the system. Chances are no one in your family will ever see them again if they go into the system. PLEASE if anyway possible take those babies in!!!
I’m not going to lie, it won’t be easy, there will be days where you will feel like pulling your hair out, but it WILL be worth it! Those boys are going to love you even more because they will know you HELPED them. If they go into to foster care there is no guarantee that they will be kept together. It’s obvious that you love your brothers and it sounds like you’ve been more of a mother to them than anything. You got this hun
If they were infants I might say it would be harder but 4&6, you got this. You will never regret taking them in no matter how hard it is or gets but you will regret it at some point if you don’t.
And you can get financial assistance for them as well.
It’s okay to say no… There are great foster homes out there.
Coming from someone who has done the same, 4 kids of my own plus my teenage sister, I say do it. You will not regret it & one day they will understand & be so thankful. My sister & I are so close, I call her my sister kid, she calls me her sister/mom & my kids her nieces/nephew/sisters & brother. She tells me how thankful she is I took her in & says thanks to me she is the way she is today, but it was really all her, she just needed a little push. & she’s even helped me on my hard days & has always been there when I needed someone. If we didn’t have anyone else, we knew we had each other.
You are young but you sound very mature and loving.i don’t think you would ever regret taking them.but you might regret it if you don’t. Poor kids deserve your loving chance for a good life. Build a village of supportive friends that will be happy to be aunties to these children.pray .ask God to help you. I think you got this. Bless you.
I have been a Foster parent, and the system is not a good idea for any child of any age, if they go into the system so young they will be scared for life. As their sister you will love them in a way only you can. Yes, you have your own babies, they can grow up as siblings and be well adjusted, you have been taking care of them already, so not much difference, just the legality of all this. If you keep/adopt them, they should (depending on the state) keep some benefits, college and medical are ones that some states allow for children who have been in Foster care.
I know it is/will be difficult, but you love them and have been taking care of them already. Make sure you tap into all of the resources available to you and your family, resources are available use them!!!
You will make it work
You can definitely do this girl. You’re pretty amazing already! You’ll rock this!
Age does not factor into maturity… A 22 yr old could be more mature and capable then a 40 yr old…Step up girl, make a plan, have all your resources lined up, get yourself in online college courses if u already haven’t, make your a family a better life… God first, family then career… you got this!!
Where’s your father? I feel like you will find a way to do it. Being with you will be a lot better than foster care & floating in & out of homes. It’s a lot on your plate for sure. But I feel you regret giving them away. Take what help you can. Financial aid, moral support, help from their school, church etc. You got this!