Take them! There’s a chance they will never get adopted then if they do, they will more than likely get separated and have a deep inner turmoil inside of them.
Have faith u can do it!!!
Do it. It’s beat for the children to be stable with someone they k ow and I go lives them and wants the best for them!
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If you don’t take them you’ll regret it, do you really want to give them up and have them live a life of pain and suffering, there’s more bad foster families than good these days. I have 4 kids of my own, it does get overwhelming as it will for you. Just remember you’re allowed to feel overwhelmed, sad, resentful and what not, you’re human. Just take it one day at a time and always allow yourself at least 5 minutes, whether you use it to cry, breathe or whatever, lock yourself in a room for 5 minutes, you’ll gain your sanity back and compose yourself. You got this!
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I took in my niece at 21 years old with a child the same age as her but 4 months apart in age and then I had my baby the next January and another in December the next year. I’m not gonna say it’s been easy because there’s been a lot of meltdowns from both of us but it’s better than the alternative. Definitely not easy but it’s definitely worth it and they’re old enough to help with little ones and mine do great with each other. Make sure you have a support system and help for sure.
I have 4 myself, 12yr old down to 3…2 boys, 2 girls. It’s hard AF. Everyday. I may question my ability to handle it, my sanity, but I wouldn’t do anything different. I’d never trade a single day.
God will make a way from the righteous. You do good and good comes apound you.
This isn’t something for the internet to answer because none of us, are you. None of us are in your shoes. I would say you need to do what feels right for your family, my personal opinion wouldn’t make a difference
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I would. I was 18 with a 7 month old and took my sister in. It was hard at first, but you will get threw it. Most importantly your brothers would be very happy. Give them a happy life and they will appreciate it later in life.
Take them you will be able to handle I know it seems like a lot at your age but I promise they will be so thankful with a route and a safe home and you will be so thankful you took them and kept them
I would make it work if it were me. I took in my brother when he was 16 when I had 3 of my own and I’d do it over again. He’s well into his 20s now. It’s better they’re with family. And if it’s any incentive there is financial help with taking them in.
You will probably regret not taking them in if you don’t … I had a similar situation only the parents (my sister & their father) were drug addicts… I haven’t seen my neice and nephew since they were 5 and 6 , they’re now 11 and 12 
I miss them so much and wish I took them. I was only 22 at the time going through a messy separation with my daughters father. my daughter was 8 months to 2 years at the time of visitations with my niece and nephew as my mom was trying to get custody but she couldn’t do it anymore. I regret not taking over
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U can do whatever you set your mind too. If you don’t keep them u will regret it. You might be able to get assistance with food or money if u take them depending on your state rules. That would help financially. And remember they won’t be little long. Soon they will be in school and gone before u know it. Can u imagine the heartbreak and stress on them if some stranger comes and takes them away?? I know it’s alot, but it’s your family. I think u can handle it. I hope u do.
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If you don’t take them you might regret it ten years down the road when you can’t see them or don’t know where. They are. It’ll be very hard at first. Good luck
You’ve got this momma. You’ve already been helping raise them.
You are stronger than you think you will make it
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Anyone with two or four kids feels overwhelmed sometimes. They know you as their safe haven. We can’t guarantee the future. You have enough love to go around
How does SO feel? Good luck you can do this. Prayers and strength
You already know it will be a lot of work. All parenting is, I can’t tell you want to do (you are grown) but the question is, is the work with it?
I would take them because foster care isn’t the best situation n the chance of them separated is likely. Where is your father y is he not taking care of his children ?
You can do it, if you need help assistance is available. They will be so lost if they get put into foster care. Good luck wishing you the best
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Ask for help . Friends and other family?
I would take them. And seek for all the assistance you possible available
Everything is possible With God!
God does Not give More than U can handle😘
s for U & Ur Family of 4 kids!!!
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What about you as a 22 year old. Where is their daddy,?
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U got this Momma!! God will always make a way!!! Please don’t let those children go into foster care
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You should be able to get some help with them love x
If you’re already doing is, as you say, then go ahead and take them. Otherwise, you will surely regret not doing it. They are already dealing with their mother going to jail. You’ll add to the abandonment issues if you send them to somewhere else. Also, in foster care, they could be split up. By you taking them, you’re keeping them with family and you are garaunteeing they stay together.
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It may be difficult but you will probably regret not doing it if you don’t. And you should be able to get financial help with them. You can do this mama
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You can do it. It will probably be a bit tough at first as everyone is trying to adjust to the new situation. But a month or two later, when the kids are adjusted, it will be much easier. I’d also sign up for food stamps, childcare assistance (even if you don’t work. You can drop them off at daycare, they can learn and grow and be around other kids…and you get a bit of a break). Good luck momma. You got this!
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Of it were me I would take them. I think its better to struggle with family then to be doing good without them
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I would take them in. You will do fine girl. I know it’s scary but you got this
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Where is their dad? That is a lot to take on but I believe you can do it!.
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Hey love you are already doing it you got this! Keep up the good work it’s a lot but you know you love them and they love you! We are here for you to vent anytime
You can do it you will always regret it if you don’t try
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Take them in the state will help
Yes girl be strong those babies need you later they may feel as if everyone abandon them you are their stability their is actually a lifetime movie about a sister who adopted her 3 siblings went to high school and college it’s hard most states help find a support group go to foster meetings you will have plenty
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At 22 that is a hard decision. But imagine the regret and guilt you would feel if you don’t. Do the right thing and you will be truly blessed. Have faith and good luck 
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You don’t need me to tell you what to do. You already know the right thing hun. Yes it’s gonna be hard. Yes it’s gonna be tiresome but at the end of the day deep down you know you can handle it. You wouldn’t have been handling it the last two years if you couldn’t.
AWWH you can do this, I am so proud of you God has you and your kids. Sending hugs…
I’m not trying to be rude when I say this but if you’ve been taking care of 2 kids and only wanted 2 kids why did you have more? I know the first 2 arent “your” kids but if you’ve been their sole caregiver then yeah…essentially you had 2 kids already. Just take them in permanently and keep going on with your life as you already have been with all 4 kids.
I think you can do it. If it would be me I would keep them I’m afraid you will regret it if you don’t. Just my opinion
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Take them in… They’ll grow up soon enough. It’s a lot for a 22 year old but you’ll regret it if you don’t. Stay strong.
The choice seems obvious, but it’s going to be tough. You have a chance to give them a good life and they’re not likely to get that in foster care. I don’t think I could forgive myself if I let my brother go into the system.
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You already know foster care is worse for them and you’ll regret it if you didn’t take them in.
You need to do it. Thats your family. Don’t let them go into foster care. Do whatever you can. There is assistance to help you
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Take them in. It will be overwhelming for a little bit. But every time they learn something new or do something that puts a smile on your face or their graduation day, you’ll be so glad you did instead of wondering how they are doing and where they are at.
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You have done been take care of this long. You can do it for a life long.
You can do it! Maybe baby-daddy will step up a bit more when he grows up. It would be great if you were all one family.
Take them! You can do it. 
Speak to the right people and make sure you get financial help so you can afford to pay for help occasionally good luck xx
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take them they are your brothers dont put them in foster care they may get separated. I know it’s a hard decision for u and life changing but they need u .
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Please adopt them. Do not let them go in the system. Sounds like your doing it already.
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Take them in there is programs that will help u with them foster care is no place for ur little brothers it is alot to handle but u will be bless an ur brothers need u plus u have already been taken care of them they need there sister not foster care god bless u
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I have 3 sons and end up having to take my brother in. He is 15 now but I got him at 12. I am 26. Not everything is easy but I don’t regret it cuz I would hate not being able to see him and such. You can do it. And they will love you for it. At first they might need a little time for adjustments. But in the end It will work out.
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God doesn’t give you anything you can’t handle besides that there your family
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You got this! It will be extremely hard but you are already adjusted to it for the most part. If they go into foster care you won’t be able to see them much if at all also they may be separated. Then you never know if they are going to a good home or one that pretends to be good n get the check from the state! I’m sure there are programs that will help where I live (Tennessee) they have a store that is for people that take in siblings/foster children and they help with clothes shoes just about anything you need. Churches help too. (If your religious) I wish you the very best and keep your head up momma you got this!!
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Gurl, you got this have hope in yourself. Plus God wouldn’t task you with this if he knew you couldn’t handle it.
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With God everything is possible. I raised my 3 children, then took on 2 young grandkids. You can do this. You are a strong young lady.
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Do it you will not regret it
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What about your/their dad?
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Please keep them with you. I get that you planned for only two but God thinks you can handle more. Please don’t divide your family, you are all they know and you seem amazing that you even took them in, in the first place. I will pray for you and I believe you can do it!!!
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Why isn’t your dad taking care of them instead of you? I’m not being rude or anything just curious.
You already know you’re going to
You got this.
I found myself in a very similar situation when I was 18. My 13 year old brother was “not wanted” by his father (different dads) and my mother was told she had no rights to him and lived 1400 miles away… I just graduated high school barely living on my own. But I did it with the help of my now amazing husband we had him all through his high school years. No idea how I was even allowed to have him or how we got next to nothing for help other than state insurance but we did it. I know with 100% certainty that I would have forever regretted not taking him even though it was harder than hell. I wouldn’t change a thing - my brother will forever have a special place in my heart not only because he’s my brother but because he was basically my first “child”.
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I would. They need you !!! Don’t send them to foster care they could get separated and never see each other or you again
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You can do this. Give them a stable, loving home! It sounds like they have been through so much already in their short lives.
As u just say u are already doing it. Is a lot but God choose you to do it and you are already rocking it and doing a good job. I think you should continue taking care of them . I will pray for u
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You will regret it if you don’t. They need love and compassion from you. I k ow it seems daunting, but you will have support and their love
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If you can’t bear the thought of them going then you know what you got to do
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If you take them legally you will get and have help personally I’d be living on the street with my siblings then to let them go to foster care. It sucks your out into this situation and I’m sorry for that
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Hard is part of life. It’s the part that makes you strong! It’s worth it though. I know that you don’t want these kids torn apart, or torn away from you. They need you. It’s not easy, but you can do it!
I’m a mama of 7. You got this! Somethings may have to compromise for a bit BUT worth it
Keep those babies!
I had four kids, under four by your age, and have fostered othe children on top of that. While I was married, I still did most of it on my own as my husband is an OTR trucker driver. You can do it. They’re only little for a short time and then they become self-sufficient and it gets “easier”.
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The lord has chosen you for some reason these babies was placed in your care for something I say go with it and help them babies they didn’t ask to be brought into this world their parents did it and it’s their job to raise them but sometimes it doesn’t go as planned so others have to step in and do it maybe you planned to only have 2 but god has placed these other 2 with you for a reason yes it’s gonna be hard and stressful at times but you just gotta recoup and start all over again the good always comes with the bad but you will look back and know you helped 2 defenseless babies who didn’t have no one to help them and you yourself did give yourself a pat in the back already and props you been doing it for 2 yrs already it will get easier once they get a lil bigger so question is would you rather see these babies go to foster care and possibly be separated or you wanna stay and be their hero and keep these babies together where they belong I pray you figure it out and figure it out soon cuz them being bounced around is gonna mess with their heads good luck to you and for y’all
Please take them you’re their best safest place to be and I know it can be hard ( I have 8 beautiful babies 6 I birthed and 2 I took on as my own full time birth mum is not in the picture) there is help out there if you need and your brothers deserve to be with family who loves them and won’t leave them you have this!
Take them in will be a blessing to you I am a grandma I am 52 years old and I took in my grandson he is now six I’ve had him for 5 years but he is such a blessing it was very difficult starting over being a mom that’s what I feel like to him he’s called me Mom since day one believe me losing them more harder than raising them
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It will be overwhelming for sure, but the piece of mind know that your family is together and these kids will succeed in life because of your selflessness will outweigh anything else. Keeping your family in my prayers.
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Can you foster them so you are able to get help from the services, as well as respite when you are struggling/overwhelmed. You could also put the money into savings funds for them. X
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GOD will give you the STRENGTH. Plus you’re so young and STRONG. These boys need you, you’re FAMILY 
GOD WILL FIND A WAY WHERE IT SEEMS LIKE NO WAY
GOD BLESS you Angel
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Do it, you can do this. Also keep us updated with ANY questions you may have after getting them. We can be here to help you.
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Foster them you will also get help financially so you won’t struggle
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Best choice you will ever make.its not there fault and they just need someone to love them and they already trust u
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As they get older it will get easier but they need u right now
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Google this young girl " proud mommy of 8" she took in all 6 of her brothers kids when she was 18 years old,and already had 2 of her own, it was a rough road but she did it, as much as it is overwhelming you may end up regretting giving them up to foster care, God knows what happens from there, i wish you the best and hopefully you can keep them😪 from just the fact your asking for advice means you’re going back and fourth in your mind on keeping them, it doesn’t seem like a cut and dry situation, that tells me you love them dearly
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Take them. You will handle it. Otherwise you will never forgive yourself if you dont.
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You got this…take those babies and do the best you can. The only regrets you’ll have is if you dont!!
I am guessing all the comments to take them - didn’t have 2 foster kids when they had 2 littles. It’s very easy to tell others they need to step up. When it’s not your life or struggle it’s always easy to be idealistic.
You are right to pause. It IS a huge commitment that will not only impact those boys but your kids. Can you raise all 4 financially, do you have emotional capacity?
You have been put in a tough spot, the boys have been put in a tough spot. Make sure to really think it through and what it means for everyone involved and make the choice knowing that you have considered everyone.
Regardless of the choice it’ll be a challenge. I’m sorry you are in this spot and very sorry the boys are in this spot. These situations are so hard for everyone involved. I am guessing your dad can’t take them or you wouldn’t be posting. Poor kids.
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I raised 14 children. 5 biological. 6 adopted. 3 guardianship. With God ALL things are possible…you can do it
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The blessing is God allowing you to keep them…they have all kinds of help for you. You just have to be strong…get involved with local churches
You got this!! I always wanted more kids. I wish I had had more!! I have one I gave birth to and two bonus kids by marriage. Now they are grown moved out and I’m 55. I miss having kids at home. I always wonder what if we had had one more.
Look into programs you qualify for with all the kids. Especially for fostering or adopting they have programs like daycare and stuff so you don’t have to feel so stressed out. Also idk where you are located but some programs will even help financially so it will give you guys a chance to cut back and just enjoy but going from a family of 4 to 6 is a big change. My thing is see what help is available so when you get overwhelmed you have options
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Do it ! In the long run it won’t be as hard . The toddler phase is just extremely difficult
Take them their family
Frosted you don’t know what will happen to them
The state will help you I know that for a fact
Maybe your dad
For me, I wouldn’t let anyone take them but me. I would never forgive myself if my siblings went into foster care and I could’ve had them safe with me.
Take your siblings in, if you don’t you may have regrets.
Atleast with you they will have a good life. If they end up in the system, well we all know the horror stories.
It might be a struggle but you are saving them and it will all be worth it
You sound like an awesome person. Do what feels right but don’t let them out of the family.
You got this you said already u been been doing it 2 year on n off already they need a stable Happy home n with family is always best for a child just don’t be scared to ask for every bit of support you can get you got this hun xxx
You got this you will forever regret it if u don’t when comes to things like this you make it work routine is key structure ! Xx