You could be the difference between them ending up in the gutter or being successful if you show them love and understanding and compassion God gives us what we need not always what we want and never gives us more than we can handle I know it’s probably very frustrating to have to take on a responsibility you did not expect to take on but if you treat them as if they are your own it could be the best thing you ever did
Wow. Yeah, duh, it’s a hardship but that’s FAMILY. Would you wanna be left in the foster system by them if the situation was reversed? Would you want your kids to go through that?
Always take care of family.
Why are you even questioning it?
Yes you can n God will help you!! You’re all they have sister!!
Yes mam you can do it.
You’ve got this lovely lady xx
Take care of them. 
Of course you should do it
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You are going to be overwhelmed. That’s natural and inevitable. Once you understand that then maybe it won’t be such a hard decision to make. Because what’s the alternative? Foster care? Could you really live w yourself happily w your two kids knowing you allowed your own family to be taken to the broken system of foster care? Would you be able to live w the guilt?
God never gives you more than you can handle.
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God bless you for doing what you been doing. You don’t want them to go with strangers.
They probably already think of you as their mama. Let God lead you 
You will do great!! They are lucky to have you
You can do it!! Do it for them 
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God wont give u more than u can handle…
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You got this! It’ll be worth it all in the end💕
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Take them, hands down. If you have a partner or support, do it. Better with you then cyfs.
Love conquers all, it’ll work out!
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I dont even know how you have doubts right now. Those two little boys are going to wonder why you never loved them enough if you don’t and that right there starts them off on the wrong foot in life. Already they lost a mother with a rough situation and now your even considering giving them up. I would never give up my sister. I would heaven and hell just to be with her.
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Yes at times it will be hard and stressful. Worrying about being stressed is a mute point because it will happen weather you take them in or not. Life has its ups and downs and I’m afraid if you shut the door on your siblings because of potential negatives you will be shutting out a lot more positive along with them, then you know about. Ask God for love strength and wisdom every day and you will be blessed in this endeavor. If you don’t even try it will eat away at you and cause stress that way. I never had to do anything more then raise two of my own by myself but i do think God gives people what they need to take care of what or who is dealt them, if they are guided by love and faith.
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Just imagine how they would feel if you didn’t.
It will be hard but doable.
Idk what the rules are, but I know when my birther lost her youngest she had to pay "child support " to the foster system
Mentally 4 kids is so much, but if you have the heart and will to make it work I would. They are innocent in all this and it’s already hard for them, and you of course. But the foster system isn’t always a pretty one and in my opinion I feel they would fair better with someone who knows and cares for them.
AAnd if you need any financial help I feel like this is a good situation for a go fund me (or other types)
Best of luck!!
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Yes I believe you could do it to keep them from going to the system.
Sounds like this is weighing heavily on your mind. Be assured you will be able to handle it. When a mind decides to do something the body has a way of following suit. Make sure your boyfriend is on board with you. Good luck and God bless
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If you let them go into foster care you will regret it. Coming from someone who was put into the system with their 4 year younger sibling, my older sister wasn’t given the option to take us in, but we all know that’s where we should’ve been. Foster care should be a last resort if there is no one fit and able to take care of a child inside of their immediate family. It’ll be a lot of responsibility, but it will be worth it. You should never wonder “hmmm should I let my siblings fall into the system”… Would you want your siblings to wonder that about your children should something ever happen to you and their father?
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What would you want for yourself if you were in their position?
Best of luck to you and yours 
I have been in the foster system before and I would NEVER let anyone go through that in my family. You can do it💖 it’s hard, but so worth it!!!
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Please please take them in and don’t let them go in the system it will be hard and stressful but that’s apart of life it will be hard and stressful with just the 2 you have remember that!! I would never consider letting my siblings go into foster care if I had the option to to give them a loving home
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Word to the wise. Get your foster license. Then in a years time you can get granted guardianship. Medical expenses are covered by the state and the kids will qualify for help such as daycare. You will get paid a sum. It’s not enough to survive on. But it does help with the increase in bills such as food and electricity. Seriously. Then if after that year you decide that you can’t do it, you know you’ve given it a try. Do not adopt at that point, get guardianship, and you will still have them covered medically and still get some kind of payment to help. I currently have two nephews two nieces and my two kids. It’s been three years. Yeah it’s difficult. I’m a single parent. Worth it. Without a doubt.
During that time. Make sure you give yourself “me time”. I get one night a month. I get to go to the lake. Stay home locked in my room. Spend time on my horse. Whatever I want. It’s at the point the kids want to come with me. To sit on a beach and do nothing. Make time for you, or you will loose yourself in the chaos. The question you have to ask yourself is “can I handle not trying?” Knowing you tried and made an educated decision will sit a lot better on yourself, then wondering what if.
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You can do it! It’ll be hard but worth it 
Check out support service
Do it. They need you and they will be terrified in a new home with new people. You can do this! It won’t be easy but you should be able to get some by kind of assistance through the state since you’re taking them in. Welfare, food stamps, something. You’re a good person and you know it’s the right thing to do. Best of luck to you!
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You’re in a very tough spot. You already have been taking care of them for the last 2 years and yes you have 2 kids. You only wanted 2 kids. You still have 2 kids and will have 2 brothers living with you. I have 4 kids and I take care of my brother as well. And my grandma and dad.
Some tips to help with a variety of people: have binders for each one. Each time paperwork comes in, school reports, if cps reports come in, put them in the binder, Dr reports, etc It will save a lot of time and headache later.
Always make sure all of them feel your love and support in their own way. “Yes I’m your sister and I’m helping take care of you” and “yes your living with your niece/nephew”. As long as there is always communication with that, you’re good and that saves time.
Telling the school about your situation helps as well. Most schools will help as much as they can. It’s very rare to see a sister take care of her brothers. (I know from experience). So they usually do their best to assist you in any way possible.
Do have connections. Do have support. Since their situation seems odd, perhaps getting them a counselor too will help. Some counselors will do telehealth if you’re unable to get them to the counselor physically.
I believe in you. Good luck. I hope I’ve given some food for thought!
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I would take them there your brothers you can just givd them up and its sad that there dad would
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I’m in a similar situation!!! I’m 22 years old, I don’t have kids of my own, and I’m fostering my 3 nieces and 1 nephew so 4 total and it’s going to lead to adoption in December. I know it’s hard, but CPS offers a lot of resources. Use them! You will also receive financial assistance for your two bros until the are 18! Right now, you’re at a cross roads and their fate is literally in YOUR hands. They’re either going to grow up in foster homes and live a tough life, or they’re going to be raised by you. It’s very important that you have a support group as well!
I understand how you feel, my life flip 360 degrees when my nieces and nephew came into my care. I had to quit my really great job, my boyfriend of 6 years and I were going to move to Germany but ended up having to stay here, we can’t travel as much, but we don’t regret anything. Sometimes, things just don’t go to plan, just remember that even though they are little kids, they know everything that is going on. Best of luck! Feel free to PM me if you have any questions on resources/ schedules
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Where is the father of your brothers
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You can do it , just ask God for guidance . You have all ready have them in your home. And you would regret not keeping them safe . They are your brothers .How do you think they would feel if you leave them
I have 3 kids. At the time all of my kids were 3, 2 and an infant… i took on my little sister who was 2, her step sister (not my biological sister) who was 6, and her little brother (not my biological brother) who was 4.
Im not gonna say that it was a piece of cake. But I managed. I had them all for almost 2 years. Eventually the 2 that were not my blood got put into the care of their aunt. And my biological sister got to live with her mother again once my biological brother was born.
I know its a scary idea. But it is doable. And financially there are support systems. Cps helps! And use what they offer.
It’s scary. And overwhelming. And somedays will be tougher then others. But it is also wonderful.
Don’t adopt, become their guardian. The state will then help you with day care vouchers, camps, etc.
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As someone in this position, I know the feeling babe:heart: at the end of the day, you have to do what’s best for you and your babies - and if that’s taking them in full time, then do it but don’t let anyone make you feel bad for making a choice for you and yours
I just recently adopted my baby cousin. Her mother passed away during child birth. The baby was put into the foster system immediately ( the father is incarcerated so he wasnt an option)… Never in a million years did I think I would make a decision to adopt a child. I am a 43 year old grandma, i have 4 children, 27, 25, 9 and 5… I had my tubes removed, and was going through a very long drawn out divorce, The baby was in Arizona and Im in Kansas but I chose to do what I felt needed to be done and decided to adopt her. It took 2 years for the adoption to be finalized and honestly it was the best decision I have ever made… She is a blessing and she is with family and that is what is important I went from a mom of 4 to being blessed a mom of now 5… She is almost 3 and perfect…
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I had 7 in my house when I 25 you can do it
Honestly the foster care system is so terrible. I know it will be stressful but I feel like it will be worth it in the long run.
You will regret it if you don’t! It may be hard, but you can do it! You love them right? It would be ashame to put them through the foster system! Who knows what would happen to them! Best of luck to you! 
Prayers 
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I’m playing devil’s advocate here. You need to do what’s best for you and your children. Taking on someone else’s children is hard work even if they are family. Unfortunately others will hold you up to a higher standard than they do to themselves. It is not your job to take on so much nor is it your responsibility. You may regret it whether you take them on or not and you may feel bad about your decision but that doesn’t mean you don’t care. You are young and have a life to live. If it puts you in a too difficult of a situation then don’t do it. Your boyfriend helps some with his kids but you can’t just pick and choose which children in your care get the most attention.
Please contact me. I would like to help 
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I would talk to a therapist about it , but if they went into foster care you never know what their life will be like. You can get financial aid and assistance to help.
If you have to ask, no, you can’t and if you can’t, you shouldn’t
Not exactly the same situation but my dad raised 4 children ages 3 to 8 by himself. He kept us all together and I am so thankful he did. I can’t imagine not growing up without siblings. Take them and love them. God will help you through
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You should be able to get some kind of help financially. It would be hard for now but worth it in the long run.
Yes you can…it won’t be easy but you can do it…God won’t put you through what he can’t get you through
Where is your dad? The grandparents? 22 is so young. I would talk to a therapist and process your feelings before you make a permanent decision. And if you do decide to take them, definitely make sure you get the maximum help that you can from the system financially. These kids sound like they’ve been through a lot, and are likely to need therapy to help them cope. Not to mention the added expense of supporting 2 more children.
These babies need someone to love them and who better than their own sister. Good luck and God bless you and your family.
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Become a certified foster parent and take them in.
the foster care system sucks . if it were me i would take them in . but i cant tell you what to do .if you dont you may regret it later
Ypu got this. I applied to Foster my 2 nephews and my neice when I was 24 and I already had two young children of my.own at the time too.
Social will offer help, and there is restbite and stuff if your really overwhelmed.
Where is your/their dad at and how come the children aren’t going with him? If thay isn’t a safe option the hopefully social will work with him aswell to do supervised visits etc to give you a break also.
Your brothers will grow up and see the queen you are for not.letting them gp into the care system xx
It sounds like you don’t have alot of support from your baby’s daddy either, so it would all be on you , and not sure if your relationship could handle it, your very young and this is alot of responsibility like you said, I feel bad for all of you , to be put into this situation by such irresponsible adults good luck for whatever you decide
Where’s their father. Take them
I wouldn’t be able to live with myself knowing I put my baby brothers in foster care it shouldn’t even be a question in my opinion you feel overwhelmed? Imagine how they feel!! Only difference is your an adult and their babies.
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Take them in, they are family. It will be difficult at first but it’s the best thing to do for them
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Having kids is a life long commitment too. It’s going to be very overwhelming. But you seem like a strong woman who could handle it. My sister in law is in the process of adopting 4 little ones under the age of 5. It’s very overwhelming and stressful but you can do it.
It’s going to be tough, but believe in yourself. You can do this, if you choose to open your home to them permanently. But if you choose the other option, don’t feel guilty!! You are still very young yourself. And if they go into foster care, that doesn’t mean you lose touch with them. If you choose to keep them, get yourself certified as a foster parent. They provide additional assistance with finances and food stamps.
Could you just foster them ? Then they would get a medical card an you might get some other help .
You sound like you have it in hand already, I believe you can do it. You’re not just a super mum, you’re a super sister! No you’re a super human being wishing you all the best in whatever you decide.
Just foster them! You are allowed to do that! If they are offering to adopt them that means you can foster and then if you can handle the weight you can adopt them! That way you can get the help, because having little ones and supporting other kids is hard but the little extra help will help while they grow a little older!
Praying for God to show you witch direction to take!! You’re very brave being so young and even thinking about it! God Bless you and the kids!
There are programs that can help you. Maybe be a foster parent first, then adopt , but they really need you so much. 4 and 6 can be helpful to. Give them lots of hugs and love.
Try. Get self-help parenting books to help you cope.
No question - take them in
Family over everything
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They will help you
If you struggle with travelling for nursery or school runs they help
They there to support yous all so don’t be afraid to speak out how you feeling about it.
Where’s the dad? Can’t he help?
Do it but plan ahead and get the help/assistance you need. Maybe try the foster route first to make sure you can handle it and get the extra help
Honestly, I think you’ve proven you can take care of them however you’re right…it’s a lifelong commitment. Yes, they are family and if you choose to allow another family to adopt them, then ask for an open type adoption so you can stay in touch.
There should be no shame should you choose to go that route. Those children will understand, just be honest with yourself and them. There are many families who have put themselves in a position to financially, emotionally and physically be able to afford them the great life that you also wish to provide. Again, I’d like to state that there should be no shame.
Fostering is also an option too. You are allowed to speak up and make a personal choice about how much you can handle, without guilt.
You should be so proud for stepping up to the plate for them as you have.
Take care of those brothers foster care isn’t for them you are there sister the only mom they will.no and if you foster them.they could be seperated and you might.not ever see them I was a foster parent for eleven years and I no from experience what can happen to.them I don’t know you but I am trusting you do what is right for them would love to no what you do
Take them in! And get all the help offered to you!
Respite care- weekend care for the kids by foster parents, there’s heaps of help for these situations!
It will be extremely difficult at first. I’m 20 & have custody of my 3 siblings, it’ll be 2 years in November. We still struggle every single day. They don’t look to me as authority is I was once a fun sister & now I have rules, boundaries, and routines. Once you get in the hang of things it will get easier. I’ve also had a lot of family reach out to help, school helps me out a lot as well as neighbors and friends. They see the struggle. But you seem to have to the strength. Just remember when times get hard that you can’t pour from an empty cup. Make sure you take care of yourself as well. Often I find myself getting lost in parenting and that’s not fair. You’re young & strong. You absolutely can do this, just remember to think you will have them forever. So make sure to think of long term. If you need anything feel free to reach out as an outlet, definitely here for you!!
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If you don’t you will live w regret. You can get financial support from the state pr child but it isn’t much, I was in foster care along w all of my siblings whom were younger than myself. Once I emancipated I lost contact w all of them, it’s a horrible feeling. You won’t be given what you can’t handle is what I stand firmly by
It’s not easy but in the end you will be glad you did it .I was
Do what is right for you and your family 
Become qualified to be a foster parent, the state will help with finances. You’re going to need help. God bless.
The most precious thing in life is family. You are young and I can only imagine the strains of 4 children that can arise. But, in my point of view I’d do it come hell or high water. You are their constant. Children especially young ones need that. You obviously love them, children need that. It will be challenging to say the least but you have already proved you are resilient. In the end you all will be better for your sacrifice. There is a special place in heaven fir people like you. If only the world had more.