Yes you can. Reach out for help. You will never regret it and they need you now more than ever.
You’ve Got this Girl !!!
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Proud Mommy follow her, she does an Amazing job!! If God leads your heart than do it!! Wishing you Blessings !!!
May God bless you snd guide you in all you do. Trust in Him and you will find the right path.
sob story of a life wasted
I just want to tell you how amazing and beautiful young lsfy you are.
Follow your heart 
Andrea’s & Nellie are the advice i would follow
Good luck beautiful 
God Bless you love them. Don’t let the system have them kid’s disappear. I believe you reap what you sow and you will be rewarded with smiles and hugs. You Got this 
Adopt them… surely the State will help with funding…
PRAYERS/and MANY blessings.
Idk fuck me shit happens
Praying for you and your family
Yes do it. U will get money for them
God doesn’t give you more than you can handle Sending prayers and love for strength 
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You’re stronger than you think!
My heart is so sad 
⚘:heartbeat:God bless you and your family
Bless your heart,I hope everything works out for the good for you and your family🖤
They need you. You will have difficult times and God will make a way where the good times will outweigh the hard times, assistance will be thereto help you. You will be bless by taking in your brothers and they will forever be grateful…
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Word of encouragement to you…am a single mother of two gals…14and 16…got other kids 16,15,10 and 10…at first l was very scared but they needed me so much…God has been providing and guiding me through it believe you me… you will make it.
You are so strong and you will find happiness those boys were brought into your life like that for a reason just try your best and don’t be scared to ask anyone for help I think family on your fathers side or their mothers side if possible should help you out and you need to reach out to them u just had a baby and a two year old at such a young age Idk for sure but there has to be at least one decent family member not stepping up to the plate but you are and that’s great. Foster care is hell and they’re your brothers
You will never regret showing these precious children what love is. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
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I would keep them, but don’t be afraid to ask for help, and find your resources that also help with this kind of thing. You don’t have to do it alone.
Siblings are who we have for life. I was in a position where i had to become responsible for my younger brother while being a young single mom and it was never a question for me.
Yes there were difficult moments but family is family and at the end of the day a baby sibling deserves to know they have somebody, especially a big sister, fighting in their corner for them.
Tell them you will Foster them. They will put you through the same training as a Foster carer, they will pay you the same as a Foster family, and they will support you with respite carers as and when you need it. Adoption or complete removal aren’t your only options lovely. I’ve done this for my cousins three kids and it works great for us.
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You are wonderful and strong and you can do this and they love you and they need you. Im sure they have a bond with you and im sure they want to be with you. Girl give them a home and love. Praying god carries you through this and you got this.
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Please take them in! My dad adopted me after my mom and dad got married. I would be so heartbroken if the only family I knew turned me away!
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You seem to have already been doing it! I think it’s a beautiful thing for you to do for them. It’s important to keep them with family.
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There are programs that will help you if you decide to take them. I was a foster mom for a year to a wonderful little girl that we tried to adopt. Had circumstances been different we would have. We are currently looking to adopt. It’s a wonderful thing. Just remember that you are young and to ask for help.
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I was single and I received for custody of my great nieces I was 46 and it was the best thing I ever did and they tell me that all the time please keep your little brothers they will become so attached and trust me down the road they will thank you and there are agencies to help u
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I would recommend this, if there is no one else in your family who is able to care for them I would recommend you take them - but also take full advantage of the respite they can offer. You will need it. You need to take a break and spend time with your original family. And I know things are overwhelming right now but as they get older certain things do become easier, they get more independent etc and you may even feel ready to have one or two more biological children. You are an angel on earth and one day you will look back and know that all of this struggle was worth it because they had a wonderful childhood because of you.
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I know exactly where your coming from , I’ve had my three Grandchildren for a year in a half now, getting ready to adopt them as well…I’m 59 years old and just couldnt bring myself to let them go to FC , Their 8, 4 and 2 , its definately not easy but the LOVE I have for them out weighs all the struggles, and I have absolutely NO help from any other family members…js Best of Luck to you and your brothers , I’ll keep all of you in my Prayers…Them boys just want LOVE Sissy…
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They are you family and I would feel horrible if they got into a bad foster home. I was lucky good foster family. My sisters were not so lucky.
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Take brothers with you , adopt . It’s a blessing. You will get rewarded . They will be able to help you with your kids as they grow up. Family .
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This is pretty complicated. What I’m hearing is that you love these kids, and they fit well with your family. But you’re scared, afraid that it may be more than you can gracefully do, and probably unsure of the money as well. I think you can do it, and it will work out well. But you must explore the questions a little more. Will social services provide for the two additional family? Will your boyfriend be contributing? Your Dad? Get all the cards on the table first, and obligations down on paper. This needs to be figured out legally.
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I’m so sorry that you’re having to deal with this at such a young age. But you’re siblings are so blessed to have you in their lives and have the opportunity to stay with you instead of going into foster care. Prayers and hugs to you
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As long as you have love for them all, you will find a way to take care of them all.
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This is such a hard choice to make and I can’t imagine what you might be feeling. The choice you make WILL be the right one. You are doing everything you can for all your babies and that includes taking your own health and abilities in to consideration. I’m not here to judge you or tell you what choice you should or shouldn’t make but I am here to say you are a great mama and a great sister and keep on keeping on, mama! You got this.
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Assuming you will provide the best life for them…please adopt those babies!!! You will live with guilt and regret your entire life if you don’t. Give them a chance and be the constant in their lives.
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They are your brothers. Family. And they’re kids too. You should want to be able to take care of them. Your kids included.
If I had brothers that are my son’s age, I couldn’t be that type of human being and turn my back on them. If you did turn your back on them and let them go to foster care, idk how you would sleep at night.
I mean, sure there are good family’s out there that are willing to take kids in need in, but there’s also a lot of downsides too. Not every family is good behind closed doors- you really wanna strip your baby brothers innocence away? Leave them confused and scared?
They’re better off with you.
Yes, it maybe overwhelming at times with 4kids altogether but they are your family. Make it happy and fun for them- tell your baby brothers that they’re uncles and they can help you with their niece/nephews. Talk to your bf/bd and tell them that they need to step up and help more.
Those babies need someone in their corner.
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I think yes, just remember to take time for yourself. You sound like a very strong momma. It would be good to find respite care for when you need breaks.
They are your blood, take them in. If you help your boyfriend’s kids… I think he should support you too. Your siblings will grow up and be very thankful for your sacrifices. Believe me, they will grow up and be very thankful.
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As a foster parent please take them kiddos being in the foster care system are so traumatized, I have cried a lot of the kiddos I have had , I know with the kiddos I have had some have no family to take them and so did but refused to take them and the ones that knew family could take them was so hurt knowing no one wanted them , sometimes if they can’t find a placement for them to go to together they will split them up and they will only get a visitation with each other I have also seen that with my kiddos .
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Most definitely take them. Where there’s a will there’s a way. You’ll figure it out. Just remember take time for you. Those boys will be grateful for you later on. Good luck!
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I do think people are being a little insensitive to your feelings. It’s completely valid for you to feel scared and worried. This is no small feat!
I think you sound amazing and strong. 4 kids is a lot.
I think you can do it. I think you’re strong and loving. In the long run, it’s better for everyone, but its completely up to you. Do some hard thinking about what you can handle physically, financially, emotionally and mentally.
I wish you the best no matter what
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If you are asking here, the answer is probably no. They need to be somewhere that people can’t wait to take them in and love them unconditionally. There are a lot of people who foster to adopt that would love to have them. Whatever you decide, I wish you and the children the very best.
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That’s so hard bless you. Follow your heart… can you bare to let them go? If the answer no you will work it out. It will be tough but kids grow and become less needy… they will thrive more because you loved them… bringing up kids it’s tough but take each day as it comes and ask for help… and remember they don’t need you forever in that sense… good luck
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Take those kids. You dont want them lost in the system and be put in a abusive home and then you have regrets about it later my twin sister took care of my two older kids because they didn’t give them back to me. But I have them now because they’re older my sister said it was the best thing she ever did was take them. Don’t live with regrets. The state will help you take care of them also
It might be hard at first but once everyone in the house settles and you get a groove going having 4 will be something you don’t even think about. You’ll just think “this is my family and it may be challenging at times but I love them and I’m so glad I brought them in”. You won’t regret it. There will be hard times. it’s not always gonna be cake and ice cream but parenting with any number of kids is never easy all the time. You love them and it seems you can give them more love and take better care of them than anyone else in their lives. I say do it mama. You’ll love having them all there
Can you take them in, but technically foster them is a question worth asking. You may have to take a class to be a foster parent, but that would also provide you with financial and other support to help raise them.
It is a lifelong commitment. It will also be overwhelming. You will doubt yourself and want to pull out your hair everyday. But if you don’t do it, they will feel abandoned. You seem to have your head on straight and you are young enough to keep up with them. Ultimately it is your decision, but it seems like your heart has already decided.
I dont know where you are from but you could possibly get help from cps/cas. There are different options they could offer you- but hopefully can provide assistance where u need it. Maybe worth inquiring as being with family is always the most ideal scenario. Good luck to you and your little brothers.
You will get overwhelmed. But you will sleep better every night knowing you have done absolutely everything in your might. If they end up in forster care, you will have sleepless nights wondering where they are, how they are, if they are safe/happy/sad…but thats only my point of view. If you dont feel up to the task and feel that they will get better care elsewhere, then go with that. Its a hard and sad situation.
Family first. Yes you will be overwhelmed, but you wont be able to live peacefully with in yourself if they are put into the system. Ask for help from family and community. It takes a village.
You can do it there’s plenty of organizations that will help get rid of the men keep the children good luck mama
Where does your dad fit in the picture? Does he parent them too?? He needs to help as much as possible!!
Where’s their Dad??? I think it will be very overwhelming for you- work something out wth CYS- foster care wth visitation, any other family members to pitch in??
Just do it. It will be hard hard as hell but They will always respect and love you for it later in life you will be a hero
I follow a girl on fb videos I’ll go see if I can. Find her. Idr her name. She is young and took in her sisters and had kids of her own.
Seems you already have been doing it. And if you don’t, there’s a chance, that not only will they get split up, but not be able to see you again either. And possibly not be adopted at all, and grow up in the system bouncing from foster home to foster home. Some potentially being worse then the last. Not trying to be rude or scare you, just putting those facts out there. That not many talk about or will say. Yes, it will be hard. It will be a struggle at times. And overwhelming at times even. But, completely worth it in the end. To know that you not only kept them together, and watched them grow up with you, but you kept them safe. And made sure they stayed safe. And always had a stable home. And you were always there, when they really needed you. Is your own father not around for them?
It will be hard but at the end of the day they are family. I feel like you’d regret not taking them in
You can do this!! Those are your brothers. You don’t want them in the system anymore than they already are. Where there is a will, there is a way Also, I have boys. Lots of us do. Maybe we can help with hand me down clothing or toys? 
LOTS of resources out there to help & support. Praying for you, your babies & your brothers
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Take your brothers. I can’t think of not having my brother in my life. But find some help so you have your time and take them to church.
I know it’s a lot of work but personally I would take them in, and they would be in school no? That makes it a little less stressful
If they were my blood and were threatened with having to go into foster care vs being with me I’d take them in a heartbeat. No questions. I’m sure it’d be hard at times. But I think the good would outweigh the bad. Where’s their dad?
whatever you choose to do, do whats best for you and your children as well. Remind yourself that you did not ask to be put in this position. If you choose not to have them stay with you, that is ok. Many will make you feel guilty but don’t let them. They are not you/
I know you’re so young and seem overwhelmed… but will you regret putting them into the system? Will you be able to sleep guilt free?
Just imagine the famalies that have 12kids ,some being triplets and you’ll feel much better😁
Ultimately it is your decision and I’m not going to lie it will be hard on you…they are young so will push your buttons and make you want to scream and cry but think of the alternative for them living with who knows who in who knows where…house to house…think about the regrets you might have knowing they could of been safe with you…please out of love really think about this
You already seem to know the answer to that question, time will go by quickly and you will not regret it
Also get government assistance for them it will help you a lot and you won’t burden your boyfriend or yourself
Where is your dad?? He should be there . And what about rest of family… this shouldn’t be all on you
If you are worried about the financial responsibility there are so many resources. Blessings to you.
I took in my 7 grandkids 14,10 ,8, 6,
Twins 3yrs and a 2yr old they keep me busy
Adoption has stipends that will help you as well since it’s a sibling group. Ask about them
Please, for them, keep them. you and those boys will be closer in the long run and you may regret leaving them to a foster home someday.
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You got this! It’s amazing what a mom or father or any parental type person can do when it to the task.
If you don’t take them in I’m sure you’ll be sorry forever but try it and if it’s too much ask for help
You don’t realize how strong you are until you have to be!!! Don’t sell yourself or your brothers short. God will help you get through it. Pray!
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Where is your/their Dad?
God bless. And he will help you. hold onto the babies. There is nothing worse THEN LONELYNESS😭
Sending u a hug! Honey please try to do this. But only if u can be fair to them. I’m sure they will have issues but God equips the ill -equipped. He will renew your strength if u will let Him help you. He will bless u abundantly if u take on the challenge. I don’t mean to preach but u really need the Lords help in so many ways but then we all do. Trust HIM!!
Family is everything and those boys are innocent.
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Remember God won’t give you more than you can handle. You can do this. Raise those boys to be men that you can be proud of. You can do this!
IF you will be able to provide the basic necessities… TAKE THEM.
They are your blood… Your life and theirs WILL be richer for this decision.
Just wanted you to know Terri N Jason I truly AM NOT MAD bc you didnt take Amanda’s Children, I am HAPPY that they are with me and NOT in some strangers home (FC), they are with FAMILY and that’s what matters the most, I’m so sorry you feel the way you feel , bc I PROMISE you I’m NOT upset with you at all !! All I truthfully have asked for from any of y’all was nothing more than SUPPORT, ENCOURAGEMENT, LOVE and a lil bit of your TIME, But I totally understand you are just to busy from what you told me the other day and all that’s OK, Just know you are our God chosen family and WE LOVE YOU with all Our Hearts !!! These Children are innocent and never asked for any of this, the least we can ALL do is show them Our LOVE for them, it’s really NOT that hard, I do it every single day, all day long !!! I hope you can find somewhere in your Heart to forgive me for what ever you say I’ve done to you bc I truly dnt have a clue and before I take my last breathe I would really like to know , bc I’m not MAD at you at all for not taking these Children like you said I was…I’m Blessed to know I’m still in good health enough to raise them MYSELF, God is Good !!! Besides they were placed back with me for a reason, like the saying goes…EVERYTHING happens for a Reason !! But…YOU are their FAMILY rather you claim to be or NOT, God chosen FAMILY !!! YUP !! They waive to you everytime we pass your subdivision, now that’s LOVE:blue_heart:
!!! Kiss my Grt Grandbaby for me please Maybe oneday she’ll know us:pray: !! I cant control anything y’all do but I can keep y’all covered in Prayers…
We Love all of y’all 
Naudia Marissa and Dyvar !!! NO Amanda’s not here, but the Children are…And they’d love to see you , Dyvar and Davina
It’s not going to be easy. It’s definitely something you have to pray about. But you seem pretty strong
My understanding is you won’t get as much help for them if you adopt
Best of luck
No matter how tough it’s get they r ur brother who r very young n would be scare with out u.
I’m going to say something that will make people mad… but it is not your responsibility to take care of your siblings. It’s your decision on if you want to or not, but the blame and burden should be falling on your dad and step mom, not you. These aren’t your children. If you can’t handle the responsibility, there is no shame in that. You don’t owe anyone anything. So you decide what is best for YOU and your family. But don’t overextend yourself because you feel obligated or other people see it as something you need to do.
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Wait, where is your Dad, their father, in this? I wouldn’t hesitate to take in family that need me but why isn’t he caring for his children?
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Look after your brothers.
Yes , definitely keep them , they are your family and need you , foster care is terrible, bounced from one place to another , may be separated, possible abused you never know what can happen to them. You are young, strong and I’m sure completely capable of giving them the home and love they need and deserve. Hang in there .
Follow Tried and True Mama on Facebook. She is now the mother of 6. She adopted her brother after her dad passed from cancer and his mom died from an overdose within days of each other. She can give you pointers
Please adopt them! You ever seen Gracie’s choice? That movie is what this reminds me of. Take in those boys and raise them. You’ll do fine.
If the state is taking them they will come with money every month for you to adopt them depending on how it’s going down . And that will financially help you . They are your brothers and you have them anyway so I think you will be fine . If you have to deal with the process through the state just know that while it is difficult and stressful it won’t be forever. I have dealt with them so I know how it feels to have all that thrown on you and you just feel overwhelmed. Thankfully now bc of covid you can call and do over the phone therapy sessions and if you start to feel that overwhelmed I would definitely suggest calling and letting those frustrations out. If you choose not to keep them you won’t have a clue what type of home they are really in. Some of the fosters clean up nicely for the state and paint a pretty picture then do horrible things behind closed doors.
I know it seems hard. It is overwhelming and I don’t blame you. However, I would do it. I can’t imagine letting the system take them away and never see them again. That would weight more than taking them in. I would give the world to have a chance and expand my family.
Take them in. Please. They need you now
God only gives you what you can handle
Do it. It’s something you will never regret doing.
Omg I would take them if I was you…I couldn’t imagine letting my brothers that I’ve cared for being taken away and put with strangers, it would break my heart and theirs. Yea it will be hard but not impossible, and now your children will have playmates. I mean it’s your choice, and your life tho. I can see the hesitation and fears. But just the thought of those boys