You can get certified as a foster parent yourself and eventually adopt but fostering them ensures you get help with things like daycare expenses and a stipend to help care for them from what I understand.
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You are a strong an amazing woman!! Seems like you have already made your decision to keep them but the over welming anxiety of the unknown is getting to you. Which is completely normal!!! You got this. You can do this. They need your love. Also you should be able to get some assistance with child care, & food. Prayers for your strength.
It’s a big responsibility, maybe see what help would be available to you from a case worker etc
Take time and work out how would you see it working, if your happy with it then go ahead If not there is no shame in that, you can a still be an active positive force in their lives (hopefully). It sounds like your more leaning to no, I wouldn’t take on children if I wasn’t 100% certain.
Please take custody of them because no child deserves to be in the foster care system. My son is engaged to a young lady that grew up in the foster care system and the horror stories I’ve heard from her are outrageous. You are the only person that will love and protect them unconditionally. It will be hard but you can do this! I will keep you in my prayers!
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Let me tell you something. If you have family support do it. You can also do it solo. Your 22 yes these are your brothers I wouldn’t let fall in the hands of foster as they can be separated and cause trauma. I am 23 years old with a 3 , 2., 1 yr old. I also take care of my step kids ages 6 and soon to be 4 yrs old. In total I take care of 5 kids alone cuz husband works alot. But If I can do it. You can to!. I got faith you are strong!
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Become a certified foster parent and or see if your state has kinship benefits.
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Please take them!! They are your brothers, you can definitely do it 
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Of course it will be overwhelming but your family and you love them so please keep them. Our foster care is not good and they love you already
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No way would this even be a consideration for me, no family of mine will go to a foster home. At 22 you can handle it.
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My mom raised 4 of us before she was 24, there’s no reason you can’t do it !!
U already take care of them as is so why second guess urself now? They are family and believe me u don’t want them in foster care. They will be split up more than likely, bounced from home 2 home, and u never know what kind of people will get them. The system isn’t a good place 4 them that’s why they urge family 2 take them instead. U are strong and can do this. Stay positive.
Your heart will ache forever if you decide to not adopt them. It’s going to be hard but I’m sure you can do this!!! X
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Where is your Dad? I took in my (exhusbands) neices when they were 2 and 5. Mom lost them and Dad was in jail. Long story, but a year later I got the girls 1/2 brothers. It was a crazy time! I have thousands of stories, having the boys young enough will be helpful. Find a support group for creative ways to guide you and your family. They will thank you for it. My kids are in their 30s and the oldest just turned 40. We had some ups and downs but I can definitely share with you if you want to private message me.
Take them!!! If you do usually you will get financial help from the state to make it easier for you. Once they get lost in the system you might never see them again.
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I raised my brothers. I gave up allot. Took away from my own kids. Hard on my marriage. I tell you I regret it. My hot mess of a mother is was in and out causing issues for everyone. Constant drama due to relatives. Guess who they chose to be with and don’t talk to because it will upset her? Just because they were lousy mothers, doesn’t matter still their mother. They will always chase after the love they never got. I really wish I hadn’t sacraficef so much. As much as I hate to say it.
I was a few years older than you when I took in my neice and nephew after their mother OD. I was already a single mom of 2 young kids one of which is on the spectrum, but being a child that has had to grow up in the system, I most certainly didn’t want them to. It wasn’t easy. When is raising children ever easy but by God’s grace, I managed to. They’re now 27 and 25 and I ended up adopting them not long after they moved in. I also have an 18, 16 and a 6. Like I said it wasn’t easy and being a mom to another woman’s child is hard, but the love and bond, I have with them, I wouldn’t trade for the world. Every hard day, every sacrifice was worth it.
I am a registered foster parent pm me
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You’ll regret it if you don’t. Soon you won’t be able to imagine your life without them. I have 4 kiddos and have learned not to sweat the small stuff.
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Kids are abused in the CPS system
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Every parent gets overwhelmed at times. That’s life. Try it, take them you never know until you give it a chance. There are millions of people who manage being a single parent to multiple kids. If you’re already doing it than what would be the difference?. If they get into the system they could be seperated go through worse and you potentially never seem them again.
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Just hang in there. Accept all the resources you can and get all the help you can emotionally, physically,and financially. God Bless
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You can do it. It won’t always be easy but it will be worth it. You got this
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Utilize all the programs and county benefits that you can. And you can do it. Yes it’ll be hard and it will be scary but it’s not going to break you.
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Always remember the good Lord gives you no more than what you can handle
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I would not let them go through the system. They are no way as good as keeping them. Maybe you could get counseling on a regular basis from a preacher or counselor. Please raise them. It would mean the world to them. Put yourself in their shoes.
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Where is your father?
It’s a big thing to take on but I wasn’t allowed to stay with bio family and it has messed me up my whole life. I wouldn’t wish on anyone not knowing where they come from or who their people are.
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Family over everything and anything!.take them and give them the life they deserve!. Yes it will be absolutely hard at times, but the love and appreciation they will one day show you will outweigh every hard day that is to come. .
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You said it, if you don’t they will be gone forever. If you have feelings for them, you must. You will hate yourself if you let these little boys be separated .You are strong, you can do it. The 6 year old will be a great help.
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Imagine something happens to you & your kids get put in foster care… Then you would see how your brothers feel… Smh… It’s sad that you even question what to do… Our purpose in life is to help others…
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I was a single mom of 6 when i took my nephew in. He was 3 months old and born addicted. Hes now 2 and a half. Was it hard? Yup. But I’d do it all over again.
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Could you become a foster parent and take them…that would help money wise, and maybe get you a little help. I don’t know how your state works that… you’ll never forgive your self if something bad happens to them in reg. foster care, altho you are young and it will be a lot of work ,at least you’ll have the energy now.
I wish you the best,whatever you decide.
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You can do it you all need each other, they need you don’t turn them away .Not all foster homes are good homes I personally know of some that are not .As someone said in an earlier posts check into all resources possible to help you .God bless you I know God will show you the right thing to do.
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You can do it just stay strong. God will bless you.
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It is wonderful that you are willing to do it for them. But I couldn’t imagine putting my brothers or sisters in the foster care system. It is A hard life for them in there. As far as you being able to take are of them. I work with a woman that has 10 kids never been married and has a full time job. The biggest thing is teaching them to be self sufficient and to help each other. Which are both very good trates
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Sometimes we have to make sacrifices for our family. Id rather know they were safe with me than not knowing whats happening to them
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It may be hard at first with a new baby, but the rewards will be greater. You would regret not taking them the rest of your life. Lots of moms have more than 2 kids those ages. They somehow get through it. Sometimes God puts us in situations that are the most difficult but the most rewarding. God bless. Hope you make the right decision. 
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Anyone who questions whether they should take their siblings in or not dont fucking deserve them. There’s no doubt or worry in my mind when it comes to my sister. I’d of taken her in any single day. Still would now with my niece too. Yes it’s hard but they’re your brothers…
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You and God have the power to do it!
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Where is their father?
My niece/husband in their 50’s are adopting 3 children under the age of 3.
They just couldn’t see another outsider adopting them.
Talk to your bf and think what type of life your brothers will have in the system.
Take them! Go after your dad for support if he is able.
God won’t give you more than you can handle. Family is important and they won’t stay little long. You are string and brave.
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They are your flesh and blood, take care of those kids, NEVER hand them over to the crap system we have!
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Do NOT let them go to the foster system!!! As a foster parent I see first hand how easily it is for a child to get lost in it. Are there good foster parents? Yes. Are there bad foster parents? Yes. One bad foster parent is too many. Do you want to risk the chance of your brothers being in a home with someone that won’t treat them well? I understand your reluctance, I is a lifelong commitment. I adopted my cousin almost three years ago. I’m 48 and she was newborn. I wasn’t sure I could do it but trust me, you do it for family and it will work out.
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family is family no matter how hard it is keep your head up you got this sending prayers
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You can do it honey.
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Yes you can. It will not be easy but you can do it.
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You answered yourself girl, you’re a momma and these are your brothers and you’ve already been taking care of them! You could foster them and it would help financially and you would get to keep your brothers safe.
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No matter what folks say, you are not obligated. You have your own children to care for. It is a decision not to be made in haste. Pray 
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Take them family is family no matter how hard it is keep your head up you got this sending prayers. 
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In my experience you are able to do it because when the time comes you do it. Sounds odd but you find away because you have to and then it’s like it was always that way and its hard to think of it any other way
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Ask cys if you can foster them. That way you will get paid and can afford to turn around and pay for some full time help raising the children. Maybe later on, when they are old enough to feed and dress themselves, you can look at adoption.
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Don’t turn your back
Momma! You can do this! please don’t those sweet boys fall into the system left wondering why no one wanted them….it sounds like you have been the only stable person in their lives…personally for me this is a calling from God and I would listen to it. Letting them go into the system and being adopted means they most likely will be separated…… please pray and think hard on this one….
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I raised Three girls 2 1/2, 4, 9 they were a blessing they all graduated. So glad I raised them.
You done this long so I know you have it in you to keep on it may be hard at times but you will overcome it… Stay atrong and keep on.
They are family, they are blood. Take them and just know no matter how hard life will get and there will be tough days. It is far better to keep them and take care of them. reach out to close and responsible friends and family for help when needed.
Do not let your siblings go into foster care. You choose to have kids with dads that are worthless. Your siblings didn’t choose it. Keep your family together.
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You can do this!!! This is family
Nothing is ever easy. But you were meant to do this!!!
Family is forever. When they grow up they will wonder where you were. And why you didnt care. I have done foster care for over 20.years. you really dont want then in that…they could get tossed around from home to home and separated!!
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Yes u can as a mom who was a child in foster care please for do it for ur brother’s they need to be with someone who they know and they know u
You already know the answer. Do you not want to ever see them?
I would look into seeing if you can get income to help with them so you can stay home, or extra income to pay a sitter. You got this!!
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You can do anything you put your mind to. Sending healing prayers and bright lights for comfort 
Look after your brothers in turn one day they will.look after you and your little ones. They will love you forever. Fostering is for someone who has no one
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Take them in. They are your blood.
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Adopt them. Join a big church. Ask for help. You got this. Family is always better than the system. PleAse do this. I was a foster child till 18. I wish family wouldve taken me in.
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It’s hard. But do it. You will never regret it. Don’t turn your back on them. God bless you
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You will find a way to make it work. It sounds like you care very much for them and so does your partner. There may be a long road ahead of you, but in the end it will be totally worth it. Stay strong.
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Take them and love them. It’s sounds like they have been let down by people who should be the most important people in their lives. Show them what family is.
You will find a way. I feel you would regret it if you didn’t help these innocent boys x
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It would hurt you worse to not take them. Mentally that is. Foster care tends to be very difficult for children. A lot of them get treated badly and they’ll probably be separated.
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You may be. EligAble for food stamps,medical card for you all. Help to pay babysitter, help you go back to school, etc. It is out there. There is HUD for rent. Some people only pay $245 for rent, when their rent is $800.
You got this! Take them in and show the love!
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I know you can do it I had six by the time I was 21 raise them by myself it has been so rewarding as they grew up to be fine young ladies and men so very proud of them they have blessed me over and over you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you
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Are there not any other family members that can take them in? Aunt? Grandma? Cousin? I’m about to have baby #2 at 29 years old, I can’t imagine having two of my own at only 22 years old and then be given 2 more mouths to feed/dress/raise… Being a mom is hard enough, don’t push yourself to far or you won’t be able to take care of any of those babies💜
Instead of thinking about how you feel, stop and think about how those kids feel.
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My moto was always “if you can do two, you can do ten” … But then I had baby #5 a year and a half ago! 
Just kidding. You can do it. That’s the magic of motherhood. Some how we always manage. No matter what
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With God all things are possible. Rely upon Him.
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I know it will be hard but so will foster care for your brothers. I think your mom instincts will help you be successful. Please hang in there for them.
This is why God gave them an older sister. It’s your purpose. 
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Please adopt them. Where is their dad
Honestly there your brothers I don’t think u would forgive yourself putting them through foster care I have 4 kids on my own u can do this
Honestly ask urself if u want to see strangers teaching it brothers. Or they could possibly abuse them as well. If it was me I’d take them in in a heartbeat
If you can support them do it. The foster care system is a mess.
There’s no guarantee they will be able to stay safe and together if they enter the system… if they’d be better with you, you’ll find a way to make it work❤️ it’s going to be stressful for you either way but at least you’ll be able to make sure they’re taken care of properly and together
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I have 4 kids ages 3 (twins) 4 and 5. The 6 year old will be in school most of the day as that’s first grade age. You just end up finding a way to make it work.
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Be your brothers keepers, everything will work out even when it seems like its not. Doing this for them will NOT go left go left unseen 
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If you live on the central coast of Ca I know you don’t know me please reach out to me. I will help you, with guidance of public services and help with care if I can. I truly mean this from the bottom of my heart. I would even like to help from afar if you so feel inclined. It ultimately is up to you but, I think you should try and keep your brothers. They are only little for a little bit and your love will mean so much. There are services that can help. Use them! Do not feel ashamed or anything about asking for help if you need it. It will be an adjustment as with everything in life… build a strong foundation for them.Best wishes to you and your family.
You sound like you are already doing it, don’t let them get stuck in foster care system, please take them in, and also cyfs should be able to help in holidays with paying for camps and holiday programs. I know it’s a big ask, but I believe you can do this. You are these kids last hope and are by the sounds of things the family they know. Please take them in but don’t be afraid to ask for help when you need it
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You are taking on alot,but I have read the Lord never gives us more than we can handle.i am not overly religious but I believe this to be true .bless you .are there other family members than an help you ?
Have a schedule that all
Ask for help when you need it. Have a mom’s day out. You can do it.
Don’t put them in foster care it’s a horrible thing. Reach out for support and help from your family.
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Please dont put them in foster care. Its horrible. The children are often times abused and molested. Please keep them together with their real family. God will provide!!!
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Dont let them be lost in the system I know its going to be hard and frustrating but u got this god works in mysterious ways
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There is no doubt you should take them. They are your blood and family. If they go to foster care they will get list in the system and you will regret making that decision. Life throws us curve balls all the time and we try our best to make the right decision. I hope you will.
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Please dont put them in foster care if at all possible! And why can’t the dad make arrangements care for them as well so it’s not all on you
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The guilt will eat you alive if you don’t take them make sure it’s legal and mum dosn’t return later and distroy your family unit
You will have tough days but you will survive
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keep them … yes it will be hard amd you’ll wanna pull your hair out there be days that you feel like you just cant… but you can last thing you want is for them.end up in the system… praying for you
Do everything in your power to keep these kids, you will not regret it. It will save their lives, and you will be blessed.
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