Where im at in Canada, unless you’re married, the father can be put on the birth certificate but unless he signs it it doesn’t count
No you can’t just put his name and make him take responsibility.
He has to sign it. You can take him to court later with a paternity test.
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For my first child, since I wasnt married the father had to sign a consent form or had to do a DNA test, he was willing though and signed the consent, they said most who arent willing you have to go and have a DNA test done, but even then they can just sign their rights away, so you just paid all that money for a DNA test for nothing.
I feel sorry for that child being brought into this.
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My soon to be ex husband’s name is on our daughter’s birth certificate… he bounced early on in my pregnancy. You can put anyone’s name down, tbh. ETA: I’m in PA.
Think of the child growing up with father unknown written on your birth certificate is not a nice feeling at all!! I still cringe looking at mine and I’m 42
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Father has to be present, but you can add his name later after paternity is proven
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Please don’t do it to be petty. Because it can bite you in the ass because putting him on that birth certificate gives him legal rights to that child. He could take you to court for custody and if he’s been with her for five years the chance of them breaking up is not as high as say a one year relationship. But just imagine, if she can’t have a baby and hey he has legal rights to one… So please really think long term before you make such a decision.
side note: Yes ladies I know she shouldn’t be sleeping with a taken man but she did and she already knows it was wrong hence why no criticisms here but wanted to acknowledge that before it gets taken as supporting that decision.
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in my opinion if I were you I’d let him bow out, cuz if he doesn’t want to be a part of the child’s life he won’t be and if you put his name on there you’ll need his permission for things like passports or just anything. Just raise your child
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In Michigan unless the couple is married or the significant other is there , he will not be on it , you have to go through all kinds of shit
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Where I’m at you can put him but without signature then it doesn’t really matter sorry love
Honestly hun if your wanting to go that route go through the courts and get a DNA test to prove it. I’m not here to judge it takes 2 people to make a baby. He chose to step out on his girl so she never really mattered. If she did you and your child wouldn’t have happened. Once you go through the courts he will have visits and say in the child and it brings forth alot of drama. You both made a choice you are accepting your going to be a mama so prepar to be a single mama cause even when u prove paternity theirs no guarantee he will be in the kids life
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Take him to court love. Search for the domestic relations office and ask them how to start the paternity testing process. Once you do that then you can add him on the birth certificate. Just put unknown at the hospital. My daughters father ghosted me as soon as he found out I was pregnant. Go through the paternity testing process. Get some child support at least. It takes two to tango and it’s not fair for him to just walk away. Make sure to ask questions and don’t sign forms unless you know what they are. If you sign the wrong one you’re screwed! Good luck mama!
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You would have to take him to court for a paternity test first.
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But also if u dont … he won’t be held accountable for child support
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Yes you can, file for child support and they will give him a DNA test and then the state will put him on it. I wouldn’t recommend you sign it for him at the hospital but go about it the legal way
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Why would you ??!!
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What a dick 
that poor girlfriend n no you can’t
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…no dont do that 
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Why would you mess around with someone in a long term relationship? And no you personally cannot forge his name and or signature on the birth certificate.
Worry about your kid, not getting revenge with him.
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No he has to be present and give his id… but you can take him to court to prove paternity for child support
Damn yall are hurt Bout her situation mean while most of yall probably doing the same thing but not getting pregnant 
she just asked a simple question.
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Is this a real question ? Why are yall helping and supporting this dumb bitch. If you knew he was in a relationship why did you spread your legs??? If hes legit telling you he doesnt want your baby why are you trying to force him???
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Why would you want to give rights to a father who doesn’t want to be involved???
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What others have said if u was married he wouldn’t need to attend but if u aren’t he has to be present
No. I believe he has to sign in front of a notary
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It kinda depends where you are usually. Like where i am if my boyfriend hadn’t been there to sign stuff he wouldn’t have been put on because we aren’t married.
You can probably call the hospital to ask?
Can only do it yourself if your married
i think they have to sign to have their name on it.
Yes and go for child support.
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If your not married no. They’ll be asked to sign paperwork to be put on. Just go to court afterwards they’ll do a dna test and put him on child support 
In my state dad has to sign an affidavit or have a paternity test done in order to be on the birth certificate.
So i highly doubt you can just put him on without him agreeing or having solid evidence that baby is his
No he has to sign it.
He can sign after the birth. My oldest son’s dad was in the military out of state when he was born. His dad voluntarily signed after he returned. You can’t put someone’s name on the certificate unless they sign it, but you can file an order to establish paternity. I am actually going through this process now.
i don’t know about other states, but in CA both people on the birth certificate has to be there to sign it. but not being on the birth certificate doesn’t mean he’s not responsible for the child… of you choose to seek joint custody or child support you may need to prove paternity, which wouldn’t be hard.
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You don’t have to put his name. U can just say u don’t know who the dad is and it will show as unknown on the birth certificate
Yes I would!! I would also get child support
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Why would you wanna put his name if he doesn’t want the child??! U better off alone raising the child
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What state are you in?
When my kids were born, their father was automatically put on the paperwork bc we were married. The father has to sign if not married I believe.
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Ask for a DNA test. Go from there. Whether he sees the child or not, he is responsible for child support
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Depending on where you live, if he refuses to do it on his own becausr you are not married, you have to take him to court for paternity.
Just out of curiosity… Did you know he was in a relationship? Or was he dishonest with you?
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In Iowa he does not have to be present. You can put his name down, but unless he’s there to sign the paternity affidavit then there will be no signature on the birth certificate under father’s name. If you want his signature on it and/or child support, you will have to get a a dna test done. A judge will make him do it regardless of his relationship status.
You don’t need his permission for a passport just put down you don’t know where he is. If you want him to be financially responsible for his child his will need to be on the birth certificate. If he is on the birth certificate the only two things he needs to know about are if the child is ill or schooling. I’m from the uk.
Nope u will have to get dna test first! Sign up for child support they are ruthless and will force him to dna for u
It depends on the state generally, but if you want him on it you can take him to court over it.
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No you can not and if he doesnt want it, then you’re better off without him because if you’re insisting on it, he can make you out to be crazy and he get custody. So you’re better off without him.
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You don’t have to have him listed
Why are you all so pissed at her? He is the only one who had an obligation to be faithful to another woman. Get pissed at him. I’m pretty sure she didn’t drug him and steal his sperm 
Depends on state if he has to be there. You should be able to put his name on birth certificate at hospital and you can take him to court for paternity if you want to go that route.
He and his partner will probably not make it easy on you. And you may not get anything from it.
Good luck either way. Take care of you and the baby, ignore the others. It’s not their place to judge.
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Also keep in mind if you are in a relationship later and he wants to adopt… it’s very hard when someone else’s name is already in the birth certificate
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I put my son’s fathers name on bc. We were not married. He was not present. Hell he did not know I was pregnant. He wanted name removed and HE had to petition court for DNA test. Why would you be involved with someone who had GF for 5 years is beyond me. And why you want his name there when he is telling you he is not interested. By not putting a name on you can someday allow a step parent to adopt if they want.
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First of all, Why would u want to put his name on the birth certificate if he made it clear he doesn’t want anything to do with the child?? 
secondly, why were u with a man that is in a 5 year relationship? (Girl I know it takes 2 to tango but I’m sure u must have knew he was in a relationship:woman_facepalming:t2: ) Lastly, I sure as hell wouldn’t want a man that wants nothing to do with our child on the birth certificate!
Can’t keep a man that way.
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I would weigh out your options here. If you get a court ordered paternity test to verify he’s the father so you can get him on the birth certificate you’re also allowing parental rights. Which means if you go after him for child support he can go after you for custody. Is that something you want in your life?
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Girlfriend of 5 years? Lol Just get a paternity test.
Um no. You can’t. Unless you’re married, he has to be there to sign it.
No as he has to sign it
You probably should get a lawyer… I personally would just leave it blank and stay away from him
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Keep in mind if he is on the birth certificate you will have to get permission from him to leave the country.
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No father on my sons birth certificate
Without him being present or you being married to him then no you cannot have him on the birth certificate. Even if you have a DNA test done to prove paternity you still cannot have him on there without his permission or being there.
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Why would you want to? Especially if he doesnt want anything to do with the child
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You can but he either needs to agree he’s the father or get a paternity test to add him to it
The declaration of paternity has to be signed by him otherwise leave blank and get a DNA test
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Leave it blank. Apply for child support. They’ll do all the work for you.
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dont do it. Trust me, find a real man to be in that babies life. He isnt worthy to be that babies father.
Also the DRAMA his girlfirend will bring will not be worth it.
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My bf is on our daughters. He did not sign. He filled out extra paperwork acknowledging her as his.
Who’s the guy? That poor mrs of 5 years deserves to know what this drop kick is doing behind her back
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I can’t, for the life of me, figure out why you’d want to put someone on the birth certificate who doesn’t want to be apart of your child’s life. Furthermore, the correct answer probably varies from state to state. You’ll need to get a paternity test to prove he’s the father before you can get any benefits (child support etc) from him. Understand that if he is found to be the father he will have equal rights to that child just as you do. That means when he brings your child around his girlfriend of 5 years, you don’t have a say so in it.
I hope that you’re mature enough to understand life isn’t about you anymore and will be all about your child. Sounds like a disaster. Good luck!
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He doesn’t have to be on it for you to file for child support.
why would you wanna do that if he doesn’t want anything to do with the baby
I believe that’s not legal. He has to be present and sign the paper. You should just leave him alone. If he has already told you he doesn’t want to be involved or take responsibility then, take him to court, get a DNA test, and have him sign away his rights.
Also, you should probably check with your local courts as far as how all this works, not a Facebook platform. I’m not sure why you’re trying to out him, other than being immature. Did you know he was with someone when you got pregnant? if so, you’re just as guilty. Woman up and deal with it.
You can put whatever you want…but remember, getting it changed later will be a pain!
Sooooo you fucked a guy that was already taken? Got knocked up?
You and him are both pieces of shit.
YOU did this to your child. Yuck.
Best bet is to apply for aid and leave him out of it. OR you could do the right thing and send the girlfriend a letter since he already wants nothing to do with you or the child.
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No you can’t sign for someone who isn’t even there. You sound like a homewrecker first of all. But that’s your burden to carry. He had a girl for 5 years and you chose to have a baby with him… you sound dumb. But also, just like women can abort to dodge the responsibility of being a parent when she doesn’t want to be a parent she can kill a baby, but when a man doesn’t want to be a parent, well, he has no choice and better step up or he’ll be in jail and etc. Such a bullshit feminazi double standard. He doesn’t want you or the baby, at least he didn’t kill the baby via abortion. So now you leave him alone and stop being bitter and childish, that’s your kid, so now leave him and his real family alone.
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AOP has to be signed in the hospital to put him on the birth certificate
Usually don’t reply to these post, but in this case: it’s not about you, him or his relationship. It’s about the support of the baby. You’ll be the one struggling to raise the baby and he will be like all the other dead beat dads, living his life with no cares in the world with no real responsibilities.
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Y’all need to chill on the judgment. We don’t know the details. She may know about the duration of the relationship after he told her, or she found out. I’ve certainly been lied to in a similar situation.
I hope you get this figured out, and find peace. You and your baby matter most here. 
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Ask him to sign his rights away and move on. The guys a loser cheating on his girlfriend, knocking the other girl up, and not even owning up to what he did and taking responsibility for it.
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Nope. He first has to acknowledge paternity… I have 6 kids with hubby, first 3 we weren’t married and last 3 we were.
When my husband and I weren’t married and he signed and acknowledged paternity it came with rights right then, saying he has parental rights unless/until a judge orders different. Also told me I myself cannot sign that he had to. After marriage it wasn’t real different.
no he has to sign it
No he has to sign, but after baby is born you can fight for child support and a DNA test will be mandatory
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I would leave it blank but get a lawyers advice. You can still get child support from him. I know how you’re feeling right now, but if he doesn’t want to be on the BC, don’t push it, later on it could open a can of worms that you dont want, like he could decide that he wants partial or full custody and you’ll be fighting a fight that’s not only scary but emotionally trying. You will meet someone else, and maybe that man will want to adopt your child, with the “father” on the BC, you will have to have his permission, and if you forced him to sign it, then I’m almost positive he won’t let it go without a fight. Like I said, talk to a lawyer first.
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No he has to sign it. You can not sign it for him.
He has to be present at the hospital for him to be on the B.C. atleast thats what i know in Cali
No, individuals would just name fathers all of the time then.
He has to sign it to be official
In TX the father has to be at the hospital and sign the paperwork to get put on the birth certificate
From experience it’s better he’s not as far as future for you if you choose someone else to adopt and such
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No he doesn’t have to sign. If she puts him on the birth certificate he will be listed as father even if he doesn’t sign. He will have to go to court to get removed if dna proves he is not the father.
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Depends on the state you live in. Each state has their own rules regarding that but birth certificates can be amended.
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Why don’t you ask his girlfriend for advice?
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I know in my hospital the dad has to be there and sign the paper if he wanted to be. I wouldn’t and just bring him to court and do it the right way but I wouldn’t force him to be that’s just childish but go threw court and do it the right way
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Mother chooses… you are the one who fills everything out. Its 100% YOUR CHOICE what name goes on…period…
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Wow. The amount of judgy bitches on here is astounding. I don’t really know the answer to your question, I would just write his name on there and go from there. And try to ignore all of the judgment on here, these bitches act like they know your story and like they’re just so perfect. Do what you think is best for you and your baby.
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The girlfriend needs to know what happened. You should tell her. She deserves that much. The guy doesn’t deserve her or you or the baby.
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In tennesse if i was not married i could put the fathers name down but dna was required before child support. It may have something to do with being a minor tho. Call a laywer in your state and ask
In AR you have to have the father fill out/sign a form and it be notarized in order for him to be on birth certificate.
Where I live dad has to be there and fill out paperwork and sign stuff after birth. And it’s illegal to forge his signature so grow up and go to court to get a dna test cause it sounds like you just want to get child support from adding him. If he doesn’t want the kid and told you that from the start you need to grow up and be ready to be a single mom. It will do no good forcing someone to act like a dad cause that won’t benefit your kid
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