I was 17 and my mom and I went on a cruise but I couldn’t board because my mom was remarried and had a different last name than me. They told her I couldn’t board until my mom proved to them that she at one point had my last name and was actually my mom and that there is no father listed on my birth certificate to get approval from. It was a fucking headache. I was a week from being 18 
don’t list the dad on the birth certificate unless y’all are together and definitely don’t give the baby his last name if you’re not married or plan on being married.
Take the MFer to court get sole custody and child support.
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Get a DNA test after the child is born. His name will be put on the birth certificate then!
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In Texas and Missouri the father has to sign the acknowledgment of paternity which is prepared and signed at the hospital. If he don’t want to be there to sign it then you have to take it to court to establish paternity via test.
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I think it depends on the state you live in. I know in Oregon the father has to be there in person to sign the paper work to be added to the birth certificate. But every state has their own laws on it.
No he needs to sign the paperwork for birth certificate
Why when he doesn’t want to, sorry he used you!!
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It all depends on the state you are in. I would look into that first before deciding what to do. 
As a child that had no name on my birth certificate, I would advise putting the name of the father on.
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In Ga they have to be there to sign.
Best idea is to put your name and give the baby your last name and take the steps from there after for paternity.
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So you basically got pregnant with a man in a relationship??
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First, you are shit for sleeping with him knowing about his girlfriend. Second, in Iowa, I believe you can name him on the birth certificate but he has to fill out a paternity affadavit
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In PA the father has to sign the papers stating hes the father, and it’s usually done at the hospital right after birth
Not without him signing an affidavit of paternity which normally follows a dna test. The office of child support will provide the dna test and the affidavit
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In NJ, no you can’t. My husband was away when my daughter was born and they would not let me sign for him even though I have power of attorney.
In all reality this “fan” aka mom can put whatever name she wants on the birth certificate. But say she wants to leave the country, travel… etc there will have to be permission by the other parent because obviously it will be a different last name than the mothers. I say screw the last name and put hers. Sorry to hear about the situation.
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he doesnt sign. yes you can… but if he doesnt want responsibility now, in the future for passport you will need him.
Not without him signing it or having DNA taken.
If you put it on there or not, you would still need to prove that he was the father with a DNA test in most states to get child support. So if he doesn’t want to, then don’t worry about it. That’ll be on his conscience but he’ll still have to pay child support when that DNA comes back…
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In NJ, they have to sign. But if you get a paternity test done (and he’s the father) you can get him added.
Your child deserves to know who it’s father is regardless of the sperm donor wants.
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DNA test is probley the only ways his name will be put on the birth certificate but if he doesn’t want anything to do with you and the baby he’ll just give up his rights and all you’ll have a name on a piece of paper& get child support but if he doesnt want to take responsibility he’ll try and get out any way he can…you need to be the bigger person and realize ur baby is more important than fighting with a guy that doesnt want anything from you or to be apart of ur child life…be a strong independent single mom.
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yes ofcourse you can ! wth it’s law he has responsibilities even he doesn’t want it . that dumb ass prick
Don’t do it. You’ll regret it later.
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U dont have to put him on there and u can still do child support they will just have to do DNA test my friend is going threw it right now
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Should’a picked a better sperm donor!
This one’s try’na get out of child support!
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He probably doesn’t want his name on it cause his ass been sleeping around on his girlfriend and she don’t know.
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I’m in California and my Daughters father is not on the certificate because he was not there at the time of me leaving to sign the paperwork.
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There sure are some judgmental women in here! Whew, all that bitterness and y’all don’t even know the details.
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In the state of GA, if a woman is unmarried you can’t put the father on the birth certificate nor give the baby his last name unless the father signs a paternity agreement.
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I never did. He didn’t want to sign it. He showed up for the birth but miraculously disappeared when the birth certificate lady arrived. You will need his permission to move, travel out of state/country and so on. I personally did not want that headache or control from someone who seemed not to care.
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YOU can’t put/sign his name to it but the state you live in can if you go thru them to establish paternity.
So he’s been in a relationship for 5 years and you’re 4 months pregnant with his child?
You’d have to prove he is the father by getting a DNA test when the baby is born before putting his name on the birth certificate, and if you do he still has to sign it for it to be recognised that he is the father. I’d speak to him about what part he wants to play in this child’s life and then make your decision.
Why would you want to? Dont force this shit. God…some women just make me wanna throat punch them. Leave the dude alone. He told you he dont want anything to do with the child. Leave it at that!!!
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I bet his girlfriend is proud
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Have him on there. Not for you but for your child.
I recommend you do not put him on the birth certificate!
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If you file with child support, they will subpoena him for a paternity test after the birth.
I wouldn’t worry about putting him on the birth certificate. I would put him on child support as soon as the baby is born. If you don’t, he can file a lawsuit against you later if he wants.
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Depends where you live in Ontario u can and don’t need DNA
Why did you sleep with a guy who was already in a relationship? I don’t understand
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In Australia you have to list the father regardless if he signs it or not and if you don’t put the father on there you need to write a explanation to why you havnt included him my ex husband is still on my sons birth certificate even though he didn’t sign shit… but my other son I never put his father on there due to circumstances but had to let them know why
Nope, he has to sign it… go for the child support anyway though
In Washington the father has to sign a paternity agreement in front of a notary if you two are unmarried
I believe she can ask for a paternity test once the baby is born and if that proves paternity she can put his name on the birth certificate. Legally he has to pay support for the child.
Doing that gives him legal rights in some states
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Put him on it’s your only chance without paternity tests
No because they need someone to sign for paternity because otherwise people could put whoever they wanted on the birth certificate but if the fathers name is on it the person assuming the legal role of father needs to sign it alone with the mom
I don’t think you can put him on the birth certificate without him being present there and signing it. What you can do though later on file for child support it’ll force him to take a paternity test proving that he is the father of the child and then he won’t get much of a choice but to be on the child’s birth certificate and be there for the child in some way even if he doesn’t want to see the child. If his dumbass didn’t want to take responsibility he should have took the precautions but obviously he didn’t and the person he’s with has a right to know that he does have a child. I would be mad if I got into a relationship with someone and they did not tell me that they had a child and I would be even more pissed if I heard this kind of circumstance you’re dealing with and probably would smack them upside their head. If you helped create a child whether you want it or not it exists congratulations he’s not getting a choice I just go and file for child support and a paternity test. I would flat-out tell the girlfriend over a message or ask to meet in person and let her know that you are pregnant with his child. That he wants nothing to do with this child and all I asked was for him to be on the birth certificate just for the sake of the child. He will probably tell her you’re lying but I did also inform her that a quick DNA test proves you aren’t
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No, he has to sign the paper work, but you can take him to court and get child support and he will have to pay for the DNA test. Then the court can put it on for you at that point
Keep in mind if you put him on the certificate that does give him the ability and the rights to the child. Which means custody, and guardianship… I’m from Canada and I wish I didn’t put my ex on the certificate. Thankfully the courts agreed my ex is unfit and I have sole custody and guardianship of my little one.
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Where I live unless you’re married to the dad they need to sign off with a witness. I guess a lot of women were putting random fathers down for child support
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The dad would have to sign the birth certificate papers at the hospital. If you wanted him on there then you shouldn’t have slept with a married man 
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I’d DEFINITELY say YES, you KNOW who the Biological Father is, why say unknown??? Try holding him responsible for ANYTHING, after you put on a Legal Document…THAT YOU DIDN’T KNOW WHO HE WAS!! I know, I was a District Register, for years. Many years later, I had mothers come to me, and tell me, THEY WISHED THEY WOULD OF LISTENED TO ME.
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In Oklahoma they aren’t allowed to let you do that unless y’all are married I’m not sure where your from but I know they have difference rules everywhere but in Oklahoma the father has to be there or you have to be married
You’ll need a court order DNA test but yes.
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I wouldn’t worry about the birth certificate. If you want him financially responsible go through the attorney general. But, I honestly wouldn’t want him in my child’s life if he doesn’t want to be.
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If he doesn’t want to take responsibilty to the child…then theres no use of putting him in the birth certificate.
Neither of my boys have their dads on their birth certificates. They weren’t there to sign, and I wasn’t doing it for them 
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My oldest daughter doesn’t have his name listed. It’s blank. I know who he is, but the situation was sketchy, and IM GLAD I kept it blank. Won’t go into all those personal details, but it legally saved her from tons of drama. He eventually caught 20 years when she was about 7 months old. She’ll meet him later in life.
Also, unpopular opinion, but I don’t believe parenting should be forced. If I didn’t want a baby there are options. If he doesn’t want one, welp… face the reality of what u wanna do solo. 
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Here in Florida I filled out the birth certificate information on my own, my boyfriend was there but he was never asked to sign anything. I was able to put his name down and no one questioned it. I do think you should ask yourself WHY you want his name there if he doesn’t want anything to do with you or the child? What purpose does having the name on the paperwork do? In most states all that is required for child support is a paternity test. You can have that accomplished without having his name on the birth certificate. You should check what your states requirements are
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Did the father hide the fact he was in a long term relationship? I say make him accountable
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I wouldn’t put him on it especially if he doesn’t want to be.
Yes you can. It’s just for record. They’ll do paternity anyway if you request financial support but that’s all
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If u knew he was already in a relationship why did u even go there in the first place🙄
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Yes, you can put the name. Only 1 signature is required therefore you can fill in the fathers name. My husband passed away while I was pregnant and the Social security office was so mean, they stated I would have to have DNA. After Months of worrying my OBGYN explained to me that I could write his name and only sign my part. She said only one signature even if we were not married.
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Don’t force him to be apart of the babies life. I know that sounds bad but it sounds like it wasn’t the best decision and trying to force it will cause you, him, and the baby problems in the long run.
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Honestly I would not. Unless you are going to take legal action against him. If he wants nothing to do with the baby I would have him sign all rights over ASAP.
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In most places, no. The form requires fathers signature in order to have him on it.
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Ok I’m going to be the ass in the comments I dont care if ppl hate on me .lol …but Wait hes been with this girl 5 yrs but your 4 months pregnant wow girl wow … … Did you really think he would want her knowing about the kid no wonder hes saying he diesnt want it on the birth certificate he cheated and you obviously knew he had a girl and. He doesn’t want to be caught . so good luck with that scenario .but anyways they wouldnt allow me to put my sons father on the birth certificate because he wasnt present at the birth I was pissed but they left it blank said he had to be there and sign it himself because anyone can out down anyone’s name if they wanted .this was in 07 I don’t know how it goes now
In the state of Georgia you can Not put his name on it. He has to sign it. If you do paternity and prove he is the father then you can have birth certificate changed. For a price because it has to go through a lawyer
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Do you have the fathers last name? If not I would use my last to have my childs last name same as mine!
He has responsibilities regardless if he wants to or not. Goes both ways. Dont let them tell you you shouldn’t have slept with married man, it already happened. He knows what happens with people have sex! Put his name on birth certificate ask for child support. Think about you not what his wife will think. He doesn’t care for you so you care for you!
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I know from my past the only way the fathers name will go on it is if he is there and signs the birth certificate saying he is the father
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His name on that document not only gives him responsibility but it also gives him RIGHTS. Be careful what you wish for here and examine what your motives are along with what’s best for the baby.
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Make him take a paternity test
Why did you pregnant when you new he has had a gf for 5 years. That was stupid on your part 
you just need to move on & live your life without him. If doesn’t want to be on the birth certificate you can always say you don’t know who the father is
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In Texas you can not put the father on the bc unless he is there with you. You can give the baby whatever last name you want and take him to court later for paternity but you can’t just put him on there.
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I wouldn’t put the father on there.
Not to say he doesn’t have responsibilities but for you and your child’s sake.
It’s a very difficult feeling knowing you’re unwanted and that’s exactly how that child would feel.
Putting him on birth certificate gives him to right to fight you for custody in the future should he decide he wants the child later on, don’t give him that opportunity. If you leave him off, yeah you may not be able to take legal action and get child support but without his name and signature on certificate, he would have to pay for a paternity test and all that to prove himself before he could even think about everything else.
Make a better life for your child and you, they’ll be a man walk into y’all’s life and be the man and daddy y’all need him to be😊
Don’t settle babe, boss it up😌
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Be honest and put his name. It’s not about him, its about being honest with your child…you wont be here forever…
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Wow! You want to out him? For what purpose? He wants nothing to do with your the child. Time to get on with your life and learn from your bad choices
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Talking from experience i would let it be if he wants to walk away let him. He has had a stable relationship that whole time honestly all they would have to do is get married and there is a very big chance they would win custody based on stability. Even if you are stable alot of judges will give custody to the person who is married etc
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For your sake dont. If hes on there he has rights to challenge whatever he wants.
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These comments are something else. 
why attack this women? He may have a gf but he knew he had a gf as well? He is just as responsible for this as she is? Making jabs at her for a mistake HE ALSO MADE! these comments are like she is the only one at fault here. My advice to the OP you do what you feel is best for your child. He also needs to take responsibility for the child as well. You didnt make the baby on your own? If he didnt want any part of the child he should’ve not cheated on his gf and definitely should’ve used protection.
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I’d have him sign away his rights but put him on there. He is the father and your child should have access to that knowledge.
You cant put the dads name on the birth record without them being there cause they hsve to sign it
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I’d show up at his house, confronting him and ask him to sign over the rights or he’s being put on the birth certificate right Infront of his gf. She deserves to know.
Just give the child his last name but file child support as soon. As you have the baby. If he shows up and denies the bay they will ask him to take a paternity test. If it turns out to be his child then they will establish a child support order and he has to pay for the test. If it’s not his you have to pay for the test. I have twins that are 14 now and their father is not listed but I gave them his last name
Don’t put him on there, and plus he physically has to be there to sign it. If you do it, that’s a lawsuit
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You can get a dna test court ordered, if he refuses to take the test he’ll automatically be put on the birth certificate and be declared the father.
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There is a huge difference of putting a name on a paper and actually being a parent you need to put his name as father the child can still use your name you were both responsible enough to create a child you can both support it and hopefully act like adults if he chooses not to have a relationship that’s on him you can love and teach your child alone he has a responsibility to this baby as much as you do.
Depends on the state, but mostly not without his consent. He has to sign the papers and say he is the dad, otherwise you need to petition the courts to test for paternity to establish child support.
And btw…if he had a girlfriend you probably should’ve left him alone. #sorrynotsorry
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Yes, put him on the BC and start child support ASAP.
Leave it alone you put him he can go for half custody to spite you. Its sad this baby suffers because you acted like a whore messing with a taken man. What did you think he’d leave her for you?
let me guess he was gonna leave her for you until you wound up pregnant now you’re mad and want child support. You need a court ordered DNA test. You’re both so shitty and I hope his girlfriend leaves him for better.
If you dont like negative comments dont put “I slept with a taken man” Could have easily just posted “Can I put the father of my child on the birth certificate if he doesnt want to be, yes I know hes the father” she opened herself up for the negative comments and nobody should defend cheaters or those who partake in the cheating. Those who do are shady AF imo
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Pretty sure you can’t put him on there without his signature anyway. I would leave it alone though. If he doesn’t want to be in that child’s life and he told you upfront then I feel you should just leave him alone. I know I’m a minority, but I feel like if a man doesn’t want a child and you have the child anyway then he shouldn’t have to be apart of that child’s life financially or physically. I also feel like they should have to give up their rights in that situation as well though. So ask him to give up his rights and leave him alone.
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In Texas the dad has to sign the birt certificate. Otherwise it says father unknown
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If he didn’t want a baby he shouldn’t have screwed you so it is very much so his responsibility. Anyone who thinks difference is stupid asf.
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Whyyyyyyyyy bother sleeping with a man who already has a girl in the first place?!?! And you are still trying to put him down as the daddy. Sure he’s probably on every other birth certificate too. Grow up
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