This seems irresponsible
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No
I mean its very sweet but donāt
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Ok so your boyfriend isnāt the father so that means you and your boyfriend have been together less than 9 months. You donāt know his true intentions for you or that baby and thatās not enough time to know how long he is gonna be around. Yāall donāt even know each other that well. Do not and I repeat do not put his name on that birth certificate cause if you do and things donāt go as planned that baby has to suffer and carry a mans last name that is not his father or that stuck around.
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I wouldnāt even list a dad.
If he doesnāt wanna be a dad, donāt give him the power to fight you down the road.
If he wants to step up, he can file a motion for a paternity test/hearing. Then he can get visits and pay child support.
Personally Iāll go without support if it means not dealing with a half ass man in my kids life.
But by all means if he tries then go from there.
Leave bf off of itā¦
Make that YOUR child.
Down the road after he shows he can be a good father or when yāall get married or something he can adopt.
Dont give a bf rights to your baby yet. Thatās 18 years of potential hell if you hand that gift to the wrong person.
My birth fathers name isnāt on my birth certificate. Didnāt know him till I was an adult. My Dad that raised me is on it
Loved them both. .
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Just do it the legal way so you never have to worry. It not that costly either. Have original dad sign the bc then sign away his rights so boyfriend can adopt him. Then you never have to worry about the legal ramifications later
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Honestly I would wait on that honey, people can change once the babys here, keep it blank, if the boyfriend still wants to help out once baby is here then thatās a different story but this is something you need to ask a lawyer in case dad ever does wanna come around the baby
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It depends on the laws in your state! In my state you can put whomever on the birth certificate but it can come back to bite you in the ass later if said father wants to be listed and someone you know for sure isnt the father isā¦if anything have him sign his rights and your boyfriend legally adopt the baby! That way the birth certificate can legally have his name and hes the father period! And doing let any of the asshole comments above bother you! Asking facebook before contacting a lawyer or the courts isnt a bad thing!
NO. That is putting false information, you havenāt been dating this guy very long, the child has a right to know who their real father is and if this man leaves you he will still be legally responsible for the child which could lead to resentment and stress on the child.
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Yes noone has to know he not if he wants to be but if he does if you 2 break up he legally responsible for that baby
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Soā¦ youāre asking if itās okay to falsify documents & commit fraud? There are other ways to go about it.
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Depends on the state. But I wouldnāt put your boyfriend down. Id wait for a formal āadoptionā if/when yāall get married. A lot can change and Iād hate for a mother to have to play tug of war with custody to a man who isnāt the father. But thatās just me!
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I wouldnāt
U only know him for 9 months
Dont put any father say u fobt know who it is
And then when u know he is a true keeperā¦time will tellā¦u can marry him and have him adopt child
That way u can get through this with ease
But if u dont wanna waitā¦u can put him
Becu, ur not married to anyone else
If u were married to himā¦u would put him
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He can sign the birth certificate. In doing so he will be responsible for the child for 18 years. Or as long as child is in school. Praying it all works out for you guys 
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You could but you can also leave it blank and if down the road he wants to adopt your child then add his name
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There is no legal reason you can not do it. If things do go south between the two of you a paternity test prices heās not the father and your child would not her tithered to him.
This happened to me
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Just because he puts his name on the birth certificate doesnt mean she wont ever tell her child who he is.
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My daughter father dipped out when I was pregnant. Hes not on the BC but 3 years later he came back and they have a relationship. Put whoever you want. If he wants to come back to be a dadā¦then cross that bridge when you get there.
Yes he can if thatās what he wants to do. He can sign a paternity affidavit stating he is the father. But you can not put any name on there without a signature since you arenāt married. Itās up to you on if you want the bio dad to step up or just let it go and explain when your child is older. They will know who their daddy is either way if your bf stays.
No, but your boyfriend can adopt your child and have rights to the child, if you want that. Your sperm donor can sign his rights away, if thatās how he feels.
Uhhh do you like being in bad positions? Lol. No he shouldnāt till yāall are married.
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I wouldnāt put any one on there just say you donāt know whom the father is ā¦because if you were to break up he could possibly get rights also if you guys break up he will b responsible for the child ā¦
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you can, but i dont think its a good idea. putting a person on a birth certificate is a huge responsibility and a serious decision. dont take this the wrong way but its not smart. who knows if you two will last. and if you break up he has every right to that baby
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Leave it blank I wish I did, wait until thereās a commitment
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Adoption after you know itās going to be a long healthy relationship. Babies are hard work.
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You can put his name on it. The hospital doesnāt know the baby isnt his. But if you and him split up, once his name is there he is the legal father and has rights to that baby. Its something to think about.
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You can and if yall split just prove heās not the biological father with paternity testing. I personally could never do this, but I know a couple girls who haveā¦
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First of all if you are 8 mo the pregnant and you have a bf who is not the father this relationship is too new for him to make that decision. 4 months down the road he gets a taste of what having a baby is like and he wants to bailā¦ but canāt cuz heās tied to a child he will have to support and co parent with you. Itās not a good idea to do that. Let him step up his name does not need to be on the birth certificate. Being a father does not come from a piece of paper. He can always adopt him later when he is for sure going to stick around for life. And the actual father might change his mind and want to be a father. You have no right to take away his rights as a father like that. Now if he willingly signs over parental rights by All means do as you wish. But still donāt let your man now make that big of a choice based on a short relationship. Everyone is in love at some point and feel like your gonna ride or die for each other. Then something happens and bam itās over. Donāt make it more complicated.
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You are better off putting āunknownā so nobody had parental rights but you
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He can but he will also have to sign a petition of paternity as well which will make him legally the father even if hes isnt biologically. He needs to be aware that in doing so he will also be legally responsible for child support etc if yāall break up. Thats how its done in Alabama anyway, my ex-husband and i did thisā¦i was 2 months along when we met and were noy married yet when i had her.
The baby has a right to know who their real father is regardless of them being in their life or not. Leave it blank if bio dad doesnāt want to sign. Have the bio dad sign over his rights to the child and leave him be. Then whoever can adopt your child if they want to be the dad. Donāt have him lie on documentation and to your child.
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He can. Nothing stops both of you from do it. You can write anyone you want. But as long as he is willing to sign the paper. Thatās fully his choice. But now he takes on more responsibility for this child and say if you guys split. Thatās the way the courts will see it. Unless he does a DNA test.
You can put anyoneās name on the birth certificate and they are legally responsible for that child so forget the sperm donor and let your boyfriend step up
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Honestly I wouldnāt only because I personally went through a situation where my sonās āSperm donorā isnāt involved never has been and my baby is 3, my bf at the time was with me from the time I was 12 weeks pregnant (NO I DIDNāT ALLOW HIM TO SIGN THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE) up until my son was about 1 1/2 he ended up not wanting anything to do with my son if we werenāt together after telling me he wanted to step up and be daddy. So I completely cut him out of my sonās life because he wanted to use my son as leverage and only be around when itās convenient. Not saying that yours will do so but itās a thought and does happen. My fiance now is the best father figure to my baby boy and we have a baby girl due Jan. Although Iām the only one on my sonās birth certificate it doesnāt determine or change the fact if someone truly wants to be there and help 100% so ide just wait and maybe he can adopt him later down the road. He can still be there and not be on the birth certificate right now.
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Depends on what state your inā¦ in my state my fiancĆ© couldnāt be on the birth certificate bc we were not married at the time of birth and it was his biological childā¦ And imo from a kid that didnāt know her biological fatherā¦ IF you do end up doing this donāt ever hide the truth from your childā¦
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Iām pretty sure sure you are allowed to list him as the father on the certificate. Iāve looked into something very similar and I think itās okay
For medical purposes, dont do it. Allow step dad to go through the adoption process afterwards but always make sure its medically documented who the bio dad is.
If you decide not to put him on it, instead of putting āunknownā you can leave it blank. Thatās what Iād do personally. Thatās what I did with mine.
Yes donāt do it, it doesnāt matter if he wants to step up. He can regardless if heās on it or not. My dad isnāt on my birth certificate but he was in my life and still is. You never know what could happen in the future if yous break it off. He could fight for rights and use it against you. But medical purposes itās good for them to know in case the father has health issues he could potentially pass on to the baby.
Iām going to just assume that if you are 8 months pregnant with another manās baby that you and this new fella havenāt been dating all that long. I would say leave father name off birth certificate and give your child your last name. It can always be changed in the future but if new man is on certificate and you guys dont work out, he could try gaining custody of your child and since you acknowledged he was father he very well could. Best of luck to you.
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Girl I gave my first born child my maiden name and left the name blank on the birth certificate.
Your in the honeymoon stage of your relationship and will kick your self if the relationship doesnāt last and then to get back at you he wants to have visits with your baby.
DO. NOT. DO. THIS.
Give the baby your last name and your boyfriend can still love and support this child as his own. But nothing is permanent in life and you need to make sure that you have legal protection and your sperm donor needs to financially provide for this child as well. In the future, your boyfriend can legally adopt your child.
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Donāt put another mans name on the birth certificate. Have him be there 100% for your baby, have it call him dad. Just donāt do that. Itāll bite you, possibly both of you in the ass one day. Leave it blank. Have him adopt her if anything. Donāt knowingly forge something like that.
First you need to have the father give up his parental rights. I think if you Google it there is a form. Secondly, let the BF step up, let him be dad but donāt put his name on the birth certificate, if you break up thatās just a long court battle for the baby.
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He just has to sign the paternity affidavit
Yes. Fuck what everybody else is saying. Not their situation or life!
If he is willing to make at least an 18 year commitment to your child- why isnāt he your husband? Simple. You dont marry a man after 8 months of dating- donāt do this to that child. If he is meant to be Dad- he will be. No rush.
You can put any name on there you want.
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The biological father has to sign with lawyer too that he wants nothing to do with said babyā¦then boyfriend has to go through legal right way to adopt herā¦then he can put his name on the birth certificate
I donāt care what what the boyfriend says or what the sperm donor says. Put the sperm donors name on the birth cert. The new boyfriend can still play house and raise the baby as his own. You need to go for child support immediately, too even if you donāt 'need ā it, sock it away in a savings account for the baby. Imagine 18 years from now and your child is worried about paying for college and you can tell her to not worry about money or 25 years from now and he wants to buy a house and you hand him a check for the down payment. Thatās their money no matter if itās used to keep your lights on and gas in your car or if you save it for their future.
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Legally, daddy dearest will always be the daddy. Who cares if he doesnāt want to be in talks life. It would be much better to leave the signatures line blank. If you stay with the current guy for awhile then maybe have him adopt. My niece did something similar, then her boyfriend left and took both of her kids.
Yesā¦a sperm donor does not make a fatherā¦ A Dad is more important!
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A friend of mine did this. Her two daughters have the same legal father but different biologicals. Itās up to you.
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My grandson and his ex girlfriend are Co parenting their son, he is not the bio father,but his name is on the birth certificate. But he is our beautiful- happy 19 month old blessing.
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Ummā¦ so I looked back at my hospital paper work the other day and Iām pretty sure you canāt
He has to sign an acknowledgment of paternity form at the hospital but itās just easier if he adopts the baby when itās born and have the bio dad sign over rights.
Itās important that hospitals have correct documentation of paternity in case something medically happens in the childās life. Where they need an organ or something. Also you canāt file for child support if heās not on itā¦also Iām guessing you guys havenāt been dating that long soooo.
Put just your name not the boyfriend,your x is the father and it can be complicated later in the future.,if the boyfriend leaves you ,just make it simple,your name only.
In my experience they dont do a DNA test my bf just was there and signed it. I mean he is the father but they didnt know that. So I would assume it doesnt matter unless your baby daddy was a problem. But since he doesnt care it should be okā¦Iām not saying this is a fact and I have no idea legal way but u can do it
Depends on what state you live in. Someone who is knowingly not the father legally can not be put on the birth certificate and can not sign it. And the babies actual father can cause alot of trouble.
Have biological father sign over his rightsā¦ dont put your boyfriends name on the birth certificate, from the looks of it you havent dated long since u are 8 months pregnant by another man. Just because his name wont be in the birth certificate doesnt mean he cant raise and be that father figure for your baby. Wait some time before having you boyfriend adopt your son and adding his name on the birth certificate.
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Do not do this. Give the baby your name and he can marry you to change it if he wants and adopt the baby. You do not want legal issues later on if yāall break up nothing is permanent
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You can put whoever you want on the birth certificate
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Yes you can. As long as there is someone to sign they dont ask questions otjer than if you are married or single.
The biological father should be taken to court to pay support. Your boyfriend can still be her stepdad!! Her bio dad doesnāt have to see her ever. But he DOES have to pay support! That will be extra money you can set aside for her college!
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I would highly suggest not adding his name to the birth certificate without him adopting the child. It will be a pain in the butt if something happens. And LIFE HAPPENS. I highly suggest you look into adoption laws in your state if thatās the route you want to go. Every state is different. Iām only familiar with indiana (and have successfully completed a step parent adoption here. So you can PM me if your from IN). Letās be realā¦bio dad could step up at any point. Yupā¦10yrs down the line he can change his mind! Just be smart, and dont get caught up in the importance of a birth certificate.
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You can but youāre probably going to end up fucking yourself over in the long run or the kid God forbid they need an organ transplant or something and you die they wonāt know who the dad is and have completely incorrect medical history etcā¦
You dont need to put a father period.
My advice is that yes itās nice he wants to step up HOWEVER he is JUST a boyfriend. Untill he puts a ring on it, leave it be as is. He is not the babys father no matter how hard you make it BUT he can be father figure he can be a dad. Just leave the birth certificate out of it. That is unnecessary right now.
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Pleaseee just leave it blank !!!
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Do it the legal way after birth certificate is filled out WITHOUT his name
You can but if bio father requests a pregnancy test then he can bump your bf off
If youāre serious about it and 100% sure, just get married before the birth. If a child is a product of a marriage, regardless of biological paternity, the husband is the legal father.
Please do not do this!!! I am begging you!!! My middle child, I made this mistake. Thought things were absolutely great, and then my then boyfriend (who signed and is not the bio) hurt my oldest child. Itās more trouble than itās worth! Trust me! Do it legally!!! Get married and do an adoption but not out of it! Please!!!
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The bio dad needs to sign over his rights i believe
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Iād be hooking the biological dad upā¦
A piece of paper dont make u a parent. Iād by pass the while birth certificate thingā¦and hook the biological dad up. Let ur bf be ur babyās dad as he wishes. But dont let the real dad off the hook. Thats bullshit. And Iām not meaning that in a bitter wayā¦u deserve financial help for the child u didnt make alone.
Family member abandoned his biological daughter and adopted two kids that were not his and him and the mother divorced. Now he has to pay child support on 2 kids that are not even his. $30,000 + he owes. Heās been locked up a couple times for non-payment.
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Do whatever is best for you and your kid. If the dad wanted to be in his life he would be there now. Actually they can. My second oldest brother and my big sister have different dads named on their birth certificates. DNA testing will only come into play if the father tries to get in contact or she loses the baby. They dont do DNA tests to prove who the father is in any state unless you ask them to. But it would be wise to only have you on there. You never know what people are going to do in the future. Not to say he would but you never know. People change over time.
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You can but watch a few Paternity Court TV episodes and youāll see why thatās stupid.
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Donāt do it! Make your life easy and put no one as a father so you are the sole parent on the birth certificate. No having written permission from the other āparentā to get a passport or go out of the country.
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You can put your boyfriends name on the birth certificate. Without a DNA test you do not have to put your exes name on it. For all everyone knows itās his child. If you two are stable and going good by all means do it. If you are unsure dont.
So, how long have you been with this guy? Unless itās been years, you donāt actually know him. Everyone is āomg so amazingā for the first year. The second year you start to see some shit. By year 3, you can say youāre starting to really know them. If thatās not the case then do not put him on the birth certificate.
Yes but itās binding
You can do it the easy way just donāt say he isnāt the bio dad and have him sign the birth certificate if not do it the right way then go to court have the bio dad sign over rights and your bf can adopt which I say would be better because if bio dad reconsiders all it takes is one dna test and your bf will be removed from birth certificate and bio dad can gain his rights once again unless like I said he signs up his rights but think it through before deciding
U donāt have to have his name on a bit of paper to be a dad
Absolutely. He will be recognized as the ālegal fatherā.
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Keep your mouth shut and do it. L a terrible it can be updated for gene therapy
I wouldnātā¦ just put your name only!!you dont need his name on a piece of paper for him to step up
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He can def do it. The bio dad would have to take u to court. But find out anyway. Free legal advice
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You can ā¦but hey letās start your relationship with your child as the worst lie you can tell a child itās not protecting anyone but your relationship with your bf to the out side world
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Iām pretty sure there just a paper you have to fill out and heāll have to fill one out too at the dmv when you go pick up the birth certificate
Many moms have told you not to but I wanna be sure to explain why;
You 100% will always be by your childās side, no matter what road life decides to take you and your child on. Your boyfriend must be a great man to tell you he wants to raise him, and I give him credit for the thought and hopefulness of the best outcome possible; true love between them (as I have seen it first hand in my own family). So to answer your question you can put him on the birth certificate.
But please, wait.
Wait until actions; marriage with Full dedication and commitment with more legalization between you and him, before you commit your son to legalization with him.
Loving him and adopting him is always a choiceā„ļø
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He does not need anyone to sign his birth certificate except for you if his dad wants nothing to do with them let it blank. I understand if your boyfriend wants to be there he can be but does not need to signed a first certificate for a child that is not his. Because as of right now you guys are good but in a year or so you may not be.
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How long have you known your new boyfriend? You realize that your basically giving him equal rights to the child? What if things dont work out?? I know you probably want a dad for your child, but honestly, I dont think thatās a smart move. Maybe list only yourself on the birth certificate, give your new boyfriend some years to be a āparentā and step up, and if hes still all in, then he can legally add rights later on.
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Just because of what I have been through. In Most States you are better off not putting a Dads name. If yāall get married he can adopt the baby but you need the Dad to sign a paper from the clerk of court in front of a notify to sign his rights away. Which is pretty simple. If he wonāt sign tell him fine he can support the baby they usually sign then Good Luck hope it works out for you and your boyfriend by the way if his name is on the birth certificate and it doesnāt work for yāall whereās that leave you and the baby? Get a job and raise your baby unless heās willing to say I Do
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Just give your baby your last name & save yourself some potential future issues
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Nope. Leave the fatherās info blank for now, then take him to court for a paternity test (doesnāt matter if you know for sure or not - the court requires it nowadays when youāre not married).
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If they real dad dont want nothing to do with the baby have him sign a paper in front of a notary this way of anything happens you have something with proof ā¦ and if the Bf wants to take the baby on then yes he can list himself as the father at birth ā¦ but he needs to understand if his doing it it ties you to him until the child is of legal age ( an adult) which means if you guys ever split up he can be responsible to pay child support or he can also take you to court and get full custody
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Give the baby your last name and leave the fathers name off the birth certificate. If yāall get married, depending on the state you can go and have him put on the birth certificate. All he has to do is sign a paternity acknowledgment form.
Itd be way easier than putting him on the bc and then yāall not work out and all the legalities come in to plays
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NO NO and NO Definitely NOT, he is NOT the Father his name does not go on the birth certificate
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