Apparently you’ve been with the boyfriend for less then 40 weeks…does that REALLY sound like a good idea to you? If you’ve been with him longer then it’s a train wreck. No, it’s not adopt a daddy scenario.
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Anyone can go on the birth certificate if they sign it at the hospital, but I personally would not put anyone on the birth certificate who is not the birth or legal father all kinds of nasty things can come from putting a man on the birth certificate that is not the birth/legal father. Especially sense you guys are not married. What happens if down the road he changes his mind and you guys break up then he is basically stuck paying child support because he is on the birth certificate, and then he would have to go to court and have a paternity test done in order to prove he is not the father so he can be removed from the birth certificate and be released of child support, and in the mean time it would be putting you through hell. I just think it’s a very bad idea. I say wait and see if you guys end up getting married and if he is still serious about it then maybe he can legally adopt your child and then he will automatically be put on the birth certificate.
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I would put down the biological father honestly and make him pay child support. If you dont then you can never go after him for it and if you and your boyfriend separate even though he isn’t biologically the father he will still have all the same rights to the child and it wouldn’t be fair to go after him for child support if you ever need it or if you guys break up. Common sense to me would be putting down the biological father of the child🤷♀️ idk why you’d lie on the birth certificate or to your kid about who their father is bad parenting in my opinion…
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Don’t do it. Get married and he can adopt the baby if he really wants to be the father
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You are only 8 months pregnant so you couldn’t have been with this new guy that long. You are still in the honey moon phase where he is telling you everything you want to hear. Give the baby your last name and do not put a father on the birth certificate.
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Not sure why you would want too. In case your relationship doesn’t work out he still has right to your child and try to take it from you. I wouldn’t want to take the chance of putting y’all through unnecessary bullshit when he isn’t even the father.
Think it through. You’re going to have to live with what you choose forever and explain your actions to your child one day.
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What happens when he walks out and his name is on the birth certificate. He has no reason to love that child, doubt he will he walks out
Ask your boyfriend if he is willing to adopt the child in his last, and merry you, then do it, if not then don’t.
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I can’t stand mums like you! That’s a legal document! If the baby’s real dad isn’t going on their don’t fill the space because one day when that child wants to know about their real dad maybe when you’ve passed they will see a name of a guy that’s not their dad 
in reality you only want him on there because you don’t want it blank. Think of your child before your own feelings how long have you and this guy even been together if your pregnant and he’s not the day! Sounding whatless to me
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Yes he can sign it just like he is the daddy. If he don’t at hospital go courthouse its free up to they are year old. I would personal wait for close to year see how things go. I am saying this with respect to you both. I was in same place not married before. Give it time to see how things work out. He can be daddy still.
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The child has a right to have their BIOLOGICAL FATHERS name on their birth certificate whether the jerk wants to play the part or not and he should be paying child support. Your “boyfriend” can still be a father figure without having his name on some legal document. If you should get married and the biological father signs over his rights and he adopts the child legally, the child still has a right to know once they reach an age of maturity to understand the situation.
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You need to talk to a lawyer for leagle advice
if you will brake up with your boyfriend
And loose your job
How will you support your kid
Go to the Court and get money from the real father of your baby …
It’s just fair .
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Get baby daddy to wave his rights and boyfriend to adopt your baby
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I say put the biological father’s name… if for no other reason than the child may need him for a medical condition then there is no question and no dna etc… will need to be done first. Just some food for thought.
Your boyfriend can be the baby’s dad but can NEVER be the baby’s father.
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I would put real dad down get child support see how things go, he could adopt once he proves he wants to be dad
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So do you know if you break up he can up and take the kid and you won’t be able to do anything right???
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He can, but he shouldn’t because he’s not the child’s biological father. Why start your child’s life off on a lie
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Why not just leave it blank on the birth certificate? I mean, come on, hes your boyfriend who you havent been with for very long… you are talking about your child’s birth certificate for fucks sake.
Yes you can but if you separate your bf will still have rights to the child. Also if the biological father summons the courts for a DNA test and decided to be involved once proven he is the father he will have rights.
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If he isnt the babys dad then you shouldn’t be putting him on the birth certificate, by the looks of things you have known him 5 minutes!! You cant replace the dad with some other dude!!
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Ok. So here is some fun stuff. It is not legal to have him sign it. Just by posting this you are admitting to wanting to lie on a legally binding document. If the bio dad knows he is dad and a month a year 10 years decides he wants rights he can sue you both for putting another man on the document. He can have you charged with withholding his child. Kidnapping. fraudulently signing a document and so many more bad things… If the bf breaks up with you he cant get off of it without both or one of you admitting to lying on a legal document. If bf decides your an unfit mother and goes for full custody and you mannage to lose custody… That child will not be with a blood relative ever. If you and bf get sick or hurt in a car accident baby will never know their dad. If baby develops a paternal passed condition they may need “dads” help. Car accident, we kidney liver ect… If dads family has a history of illnesses ect… its really just a bad idea. If you know be isnt dad and others do too they can tell on you… You need to be careful… Really careful…
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If your boyfriend is a wonderful man I say go for it! Whatever you do don’t put the biological Father’s name on there. If the biological Father doesn’t want to be a Father don’t force it. People that are forced into being parents is dangerous, because if the children are just a burden to them they could lose their cool and hurt the children or neglect them while in their care. You can absolutely put whoever you want on the birth certificate. 
I am pretty sure adoption costs quite a bit, so your boyfriend signing the birth certificate would be a way smarter thing to do. Congratulations! 
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That should be illegal. It shouldn’t be this easy to write off whoever it might be. Kinda crazy when u think about it.
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You can do anything you want. You don’t have to ask anyone or tell anytime. You fill out the paperwork any way you want.
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I would put the biological fathers name on the birth certificate for so many reasons … the biological father may say he doesn’t want anything to do with the baby now but he may change his mind your child has the right to know who her biological father is and even if things do work out with you and your current boyfriend the biological father needs to be held accountable and pay child support it’s his choice if he chooses not to be in the baby’s life but he helped make that baby so he needs to provide for that baby and again he may change his mind after the baby is born if the biological father really doesn’t want anything to do with the baby have him sign his rights away and be prepared to raise the baby on your own but at least one day when the time comes you can honestly and whole heartedly tell your child who her dad was and what choices he made if things work out with you and the boyfriend he can always adopt the baby but if you put his name on that birth certificate and things don’t work out he will have every right to that baby & visitation how well do you know him ?? This is a very serious decision that needs time and thought this is your child that you must protect at all cost do you two live together how long have you been with him are you planning on getting married does he have other kids if yes what is his relationship like with them if you two were to break up is he going to provide for that baby financially don’t start your child’s life out with a lie
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I wouldn’t put the boyfriends name on the certificate until you guys are married (in a natural, organic way that had nothing to do with this situation) I ALSO wouldn’t put the bios name down because that gives him rights off the bat. I think the best course of action is to leave it blank for now. Anyone saying that this “man” who impregnated you has “rights” because it’s his child don’t know what it’s like to do a pregnancy alone. If you don’t want him involved don’t open the door mama bear! Your instincts on the situation are better than ours, we aren’t involved!
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No he can’t, if you know he’s not the biological father he cannot go on the birth certificate. There is a sign that you have to read on the desk about it. If you continue to do this without them knowing the facts you will get into trouble, when found out. (This is in the UK). Children have to go through adoption via the council from a step parent c
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your deluded mate, putting your boyfriend on the birth certificate after 8 months 
if his that keen let him adopt the child once it’s born, then you can change the name through courts etc.
don’t just find anyone to be on there because the dad don’t wanna be around and you don’t wanna see like there is a dad.
wotless.
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How long were you with the biological father how long after you broke up with him did you start dating new boyfriend the decision you are about to make does not just affect you and THE TRUTH ALWAYS COMES OUT like I said earlier don’t put bf name on the birth certificate when and if the the time is right you get married he can adopt your supposed to protect your child so don’t make a decision now that could hurt later do you live with him does he have kids how well do you know him his family how old are you is this your first baby I’m not trying to be personal just need more clarification on your situation you may feel like your being attacked but there is genuine concern for you and your baby here just remember everything may be great now but only time will tell how things will work out and you don’t want to give the baby a name that doesn’t belong to them and will bind the baby with him in the eyes of the court if things don’t work out with you and him my best advice is give the baby your name if you don’t want to give the biological dads name but you still need to remember the child has the right to be supported financially by the bio dad regardless if bio dad wants to be part of babies life good luck you have a lot of important decisions to make make sure you can live with those choices when your child is mature enough to start asking questions because the child’s emotional well being in the future is at stake
Ask yourself this how would you feel if you found out your mother lied to you about who your real dad was
If you let him you you are an idiot
It’s illegal to put him on birth certificate if. You know he isn’t the bio dad.
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I’m not real sure but I don’t think he can sign it. He can, however, adopt the baby if the dad doesn’t want anything to do with the baby.
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I wouldn’t because it’s a legal document and if the father ever decided he wanted to see the child you could be done for fraud 
. It’s really not worth it. What you can do is get your new bf to legally adopt the child xx
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Girl don’t put any man on that paper, I love my boyfriend but we aren’t married so his name isn’t on it. I am not playing about my baby.
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Literally by adding him on you can cause many more problems for yourself and your baby. Do you want your baby to go through hell later for your choice of mistakes now ?
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This is what’s wrong with society. A man who creates a child with you and you deny him his right to the child on a birth certificate so he has to jump thru hoops. Shame on all of you doing this. Grow up! This is disgusting. And let me guess you’ll be the first in line to get his money for child support.
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I don’t know why people are advising you to do it 
it’s paternity fraud and both you and your partner could end up in shit if it ever comes out that you knew the child wasn’t his.
Nevermind the fact that your child has a right to know who it’s biological father is.
Also the fact that the child is young enough to not have birth cert done yet and isn’t your partners shows that you’ve not been in this relationship long. You should be getting to know someone a lot more before signing them up to be a father.
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In the UK it’s illegal to KNOWINGLY put someone else’s name on the birth certificate when you KNOW they are 100% not the biological father!
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For one, youre lieing to your child before it’s even born. Good start on this parenting thing. If I’m doing the math right you’re 8 months pregnant which means you’ve been with this “boyfriend” for less than that. So after being with someone for 6-7 months you’re going to lie on a federal document and legally tie him to you for the rest of his life? You can be fined big time for putting his name on there if he comes out sometime with the truth. You can not lie to the state and government. Legal documents are nothing to be messed with
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It’s great your bf wants to step up. Kudos to him…but I would personally leave the father on the bc blank just cuz the bio dad wants nothing to do w baby so putting him down, gives him rights automatically n hold off on putting bf down until maybe you guys get married? Just because he may be there now, but u dont know what the future holds (no1 does in all fairness). Once u both are married, it makes it a little more solid. Then after some time, he can just adopt your child n really seal the deal. But just dont make any vast decisions yet. Bf can still be dad n not on the BC. Just worry about your family you are trying to build n take each decision step by step. Best of luck and congrats
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Bio dad should be on there whether he wants to or not. You want your child to be beneficiary to anything he has in case of his demise or inheritance. And whether or not he claims, child support should be notified.
What if BF walks away? No ma’am.
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You’re not even married to this guy, do not put him on the birth certificate!
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Yes your boyfriend can,once his name is on the birth certificate he is the father.He can if you all break up he can legally file custody for the child if he chose to ,he is legally the father 100%.If you guys should end up getting married and having children then they will all have the same last name which is good for school age children.At some point in your child life you will have to let your child know that he or she is adopted.
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Give that baby your last name then if you and your boyfriend stay toghter later on let him adopt the kid and also the kid should know who the real father is no matter what for many reasons
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I’m old school. I waited to marriage to have kids, the father of my child is on the birth certificate, even though we divorced. He has every right he is entitled under the law. Stop playing house and not expecting SHITTY outcomes like this.
Whoever puts the name of the father who is the father is the father of the other but if your boyfriend wants to put his name on the birth certificate remember he would have to pay child support for the rest of his life and tell that kid is 18 years old so think about it I suggest you put the biological father sound like that he could pay child support don’t let him go without paying child support the real father
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Don’t put anyones name on there but your own. You should really sit down and talk with ur bf. Having a baby is a big responsibility, and sometimes has a lot of strain on the relationship as well as money. Make sure he knows what he is signing up for here. Like really talk to him about it before you go asking him to adopt your baby. Because this is another life you’re talking about here it isn’t a pet where you can just give them away. Make sure he is really down to be there because it will be hard on you if he chooses to leave.
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Just have your boyfriend adopt the baby then once the baby is born, pretty sure putting his name on the certificate is illegal.
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You’re a whole ass mess and probably barely more than 16. Grow up.
Depends on the state laws I believe. Some states (like Kansas) do not care. Also, may cone down to hospital policy. As long as he understands what signing that does to him legally. If there comes a time he wants off it, it will be a LONG expensive process. It is amazing that he wants to step up, but maybe just not putting a father on there would be safer. Up to y’all most likely
Don’t put any father on it. The boyfriend could be temporary
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My opinion if the biological father what’s nothing to do with the child then he should legally terminate his rights and then the boyfriend who wants to be the father can legally adopt the child.
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If your not married to the father give the child your last name putting some boyfriend is not a good idea what if the father later down the road wants to see the child having some else last name will be hard for the child knowing that this is his dad think of when the child gets older not now while your in a relationship
Do not do it!!! whatever u do trust me
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Don’t put his name on the birth certificate. If you get married, let him adopt the child, otherwise if you break up you’re risking him taking your child from you and you having to try and prove to the courts that you lied and he’s not the real father.
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Make sure your child knows the truth though
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So the guy lizi knows as her dad is on her birth certificate… He was there my whole pregnancy and after… We split and he was still there for her. And noe we’re back together. Hes always treated her as his own…
So yes you can but really thats something yall should both discuss first.
There is a test out there …DNA test that can tell who the real father is. Most court systems require it for child support payments .
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You need to ask him and he needs to be WELL aware it will leave him financially responsible.
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Umm so this new boyfriend has obv been around 8 MONTHS right??? If hes not the bio dad.
Are you nuts-?
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Put the bio father on the birth certificate. No matter how much you think you won’t need financial help, you will stand a good chance of wanting any and all funds to give your child the best life possible.
Whoever signs that BC is agreeing to be legally bound to be financially responsible for that child and it’s VERY expensive to fix.
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I would not, because that can cause problems in the future. Leave that line blank. Don’t even put bio dad down because unless you’re married to the bio father he’d have to acknowledge paternity by signing a document and it doesn’t sound like he’d do that. But if you eventually marry or somehow get legally bound to your boyfriend, you can have him become the adopted father of your child instead. In the meantime, he doesn’t need a certificate to let him be a father to your child.
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yes he just needs his id and to formally sign a paper stating he is the father and takes legal responsibilty
Put your name and only your name on it.
Bio dad needs to legally terminate his rights so he can’t come back later saying that he wants to be dad. After that your boyfriend can legally adopt baby as his own.
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Ain’t NO WAY I’d be the boyfriend doing this!
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He can sign an affidavit of paternity
I wouldn’t do it. Happened with me and my mother divorced her husband but he’s still on my birth certificate. Led to many teenager arguments. I’d leave it blank if I were you.
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I don’t know much about the law, but i can tell you your boyfriend is a keeper , congratulations.
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Putting his name on the birth certificate gives him legal rights. I would wait. If you get married, legally adopt. However I would ask the bio father to sign over his rights. As soon as the baby is born
Leave it blank. You are asking for a boatload of problems otherwise. Awesome your boyfriend wants to be be daddy. That’s great. Get married and he can file to adopt. You are putting the cart before the horse here.
No you should not do that. The child should not be told a lie about who their father is. They will love your boyfriend as a father anyway if he is good to the child but a child should know the truth. Let him legally adopt the child later.
Give the baby your last name.and if it works out for you guys then he can adopt the baby with no problems. If you put the father’s name in the papers then he will have to give permission for anyone to adopt the baby.
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Yes he can if the bio dad doesn’t fight you on it, once you sign a birth certificate it says at the bottom that by signing this you acknowledge you will have legal and financial responsibility to the child
Wow you guys are harsh, if he doesn’t want anything to do with the baby then that’s his fault and if you get proof of that then it doesn’t matter
Leave it blank and give baby your last name. If you’re concerned, go to court and have bio father TPR. Get married in a year or so and then your boyfriend can adopt (it’s better to make sure you both know what you’re getting into with the baby first). Or don’t get married and boyfriend can still raise the baby with you. I know a girl who has 3 kids by the same guy and they’re everything but married (due to medical requirements for the middle child they chose to not get married in order to get financial assistance )
I will note that a true father is the one that raises and takes care of the child, not who sired it (or mother for that matter). Genetics make you related, bonding makes you a parent
You Dummy!!! Start making better decisions …That’s all…Evaluate your life immediately and if you can’t think proper enough to see how ludicrous this is then go ahead and let your ,apparently remedial ,boyfriend sign his livelihood away while real baby daddy gets a free card ,as long as you get what you want in the moment then what do you care …Dummy!
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Make sure your babys father financially supports his child. Your child deserves to be supported in that way.
Even if you all are not together.
You don’t have to fill in the father’s name. If I were in your situation I would leave it blank for sure!!
Put the biological father on the birth certificate and get his ass for child support. He helped make that beautiful baby so he should help you $$ support it. Also your child might want to know their genealogy and any family medical history someday…
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Just because you can doesn’t mean you should. Bio dad should always go on record to protect you and the child. Regardless of what he says now his heart may change when the baby gets here. A boyfriend is just that…a boyfriend. If he loves you as much as he says he’ll do it the right way. Marriage first and adoption later. Blessings to you all as you are about to make some life long decisions.
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You do not have to list a father in most states. Give the child your name and if either man actually steps up you can have it changed later. Please do not tell your child a lie about his parentage. She or he will eventually find out the truth.
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For medical reasons you should put the biological Father’s Name on the birth certificate but you can still have the Biological father sign away his rights and your boyfriend can adopt your child
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Every child brought into this world should be required to have a DNA test before any man, even a husband, can put his name on the birth cert. Yes, there would be a whole lot of divorces. However, if the bio dad doesn’t want to child and the boyfriend (not husband?) does, prevent legal concerns in the future and do it the right way now. Bio dad gets test to prove he’s dad, signs rights away, boyfriend adopts. His name will then be placed on the birth cert and future legal issues avoided.
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I don’t think you should, only the biological father should go on there. If you wants to raise your child as his own that’s fine but, put the bio dad on there. Some day your child may want to know who his/her bio dad is even if he wants nothing to do with him/her.
My opinion to you is that you put the biological father on the birth certificate to hold him accountable and for your child’s sake. Regardless of anything your baby will need to know who their birth parent is one day. As far as the boyfriend goes I suggest you guys take a step forward in your relationship such as engaged and then married before you just just give him the rights to your child. If you’re 8 months pregnant then obviously you guys haven’t been together that long and anything can change. If you break up then you’re on your own as a single parent and the birth father is free of any responsibility. I was a single a mom for many years and I’m very thankful I didn’t make this mistake when I had the chance. Good luck to you and your baby!!!
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In West Virginia no u can not granddaughter went thru this and they refused to put him on it. It may depend on the state you live in.
I would put no name on the birth certificate. Sounds like you haven’t been with your bf for very long and babies are lifetime events. If you put no name you can easily do an adoption in a few years. But if you and BF break up then you don’t have a baby with a real dad, and a birth certificate dad. It might be something you want right now but having a child is for the long haul. And you need to think of that child first. Not anyone else. Including yourself.
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Thats so sweet of him but he has to make sure of what he is signing. Because there are woman out there that convince their “boyfriends” to sign on the baby’s certificate o adoption papers and shortly after the couple will break up and then child support will be on his door whether he is the father or not.
Its your child. That being said the father should always be in his childs life. To give the child the boyfriends name leaves no place for the real sperm guy. What if later sperm donor hits it big, you would want his child to benefit…boyfriend? Here today gone tomorrow.
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My lawyer said yes when I asked sbout this after my son was born! Yes he cab
Your best bet would be to have the bio dad sign his rights away and have your boyfriend go to court for adoption of the baby after y’all get settled in with the Lil baby. Every state is different though so your best bet is to call the courthouse and ask to speak with someone in family court who could help you with your question.
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Yes he can all he has to do is sign the declaration of paternity in CA.
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Put the biological father on the birth certificate. Marry your boyfriend and let him adopt. Do everything legal.