I know its a long story but this is the best i can shorten it there more details like a lot more.
Me 22 and my bf 24 have been together for 4 years 2 months. When we first started dating he was working a 13$ an hour cash job and i was doing a 18$ an hour contract job. Fast forward now we have a just turned 2 year old son who hasnt left my side for more than 4 hours at at time ( still breast feeding strong ) and I stopped working when i was about 8 weeks pregnant because i had extreme nausea and was even in the hospital cause i couldnt even hold water down. His cash job gave him a 4$ raise to 17$ an hr two months before he was born. In between the 4 years he got let go before i got pregnant and i was supporting him and then he went back after they gave him a raise. He got this amazing job thats 39$ an hr in January. The first month of him working there i found out that this single mom who dosnt even work in the same department as him ( half the pay too) was constantly texting him sending messages like ā oh my back hurts so much i need a massage and a bath ā ā maybe the 4 of us can hang out just you me and our sonsā and he said ā no my woman wouldnāt like that plus shes still breastfeeding she dosnt leave the baby ā her response was ā she dosnt have to know if the two of us hang out at my place after work ā he replied ā no i donāt fee comfortable going behind her back Iām happy but we can still be friendsā she was constantly texting him and double triple texting him on fb messenger. 3 weeks into his new job i could tell heās been acting different ( i never had no reason to not trust him before this i thought everything was šÆ between us) one day he forgot his phone at home and i seen that he had multiple messages and i opened them and this girl was flirting with him and constantly asking to hang out and he kept on saying no then she would change the subject to herself ( i had no idea this was happening and who this girl was) i took screenshots and have them saved and i called her cussed her out saying let me catch her around town 3000-4000 people live here and when he got home we got into a huge fight and i said she was clearly constantly trying to get with you and all he said was yea but i kept telling her no and i said why is she even on your fb why are you even talking to her she works in a completely different building and i told him to delete her or we are done and heās like i cant do that shes nice so i told him to choose and i said to delete her and if i find out that shes still messaging you at all we will be done because this is cheating and a week before hand when i asked whoās texting him cause his phone went off 5 times durning our weekly date night and he said just the guys and turned his phone completely off. He cut her off, two weeks after that they get a new car pool cause they work in the next town over just 45 mins away and he didnāt tell me and it was the known home wrecker in town and i didnāt find out till 3 weeks after they been car pooling when he was in the shower and she was face timing him so i picked it up and she had her chest out and shes like ooo i was tryna ask your man if heās driving tomorrow or if i am and jake came out and heās like whoās on the phone and i said the home wrecker and she heard me to and i said to him why did you not fucking tell me your now car pooling with the home wrecker huh ( she slept with 3 married guy) ( and shes know for doing coke) she hung up and i started going through his messages with her and she was flirting with him and he did the same with that other girl at first was like no no my woman wouldnāt like that but we can be friends 2 days before that she sent him a selfie with her chest out and flour on her saying she got messy while baking and we got into a huge fight and i said if anything happens between them then tell me now cause i will leave this relationship because this is 2 different girls already and him hiding the messages because he would archive the messages so if he asked me to text someone on his phone while heās driving or something i wouldnāt see it. I broke our apartment lease that was under my name that he was paying for and i moved in with my grandparents and he had to move in with his parents and we are still together but we would only go up there when heās not working ( his parents are just terrible people) everything has been fine no other fights or anything since then but last night was his first day off work and he was in the shower and his phone goes off so i look at it like he does to my phone when i donāt have it on me or in different room. It was a girl he went to high school with messaging him yesterday saying ā hey there how are you doing? ā then they did small talk and right away he mentioned me and then she said ā Iām in town at my parents house and Iām alone right now do you think she would care if we could hang out the two of us i need to talk to someone i just feel so alone right now my parents are not even homeā and he said ā no Iām with my woman right now and she would not like thatā and she said ā wow shes so insecure you cant even come and see me for even an hr so we can talkā he said no and she just kept on asking and asking and he left her on read and all this was happening when i was doing my ate home work outs and then took a shower cause he was with the son and our son was sleeping and then he took a shower after me ( midnight). Honestly i think Iām just done now because heās a ānice guy and cant just delete themā then i looked at her profile and he liked her profile pic and it was just her in a skimpy bikini holding 2 beers. Yes he does say that heās with me and heās happy but heās not stupid he knows there flirting with him and towards the end of the conversations he starts taking to them more and talking about himself. Before January he had no ā girl friends ā just guys he hung out with and i Donāt have ā guy friendsā all my friends are girls. Why is it now all of a sudden after 4 years know he needs girl friends because no one looked his way when he wasnāt working or even when he was just making 17 an hour because he screamed in my face saying Iām a dumb b whoās insecure whoās trying to start a fight because apparently Iām the one cheating when heās at work and thats why i moved in with my grandparents so i can leave our son with them and taking off on him everyday and how Iām a shitty mom and girlfriend because Iām no longer cooking and cleaning for him and packing his lunches no more since moving out of our apartment and just kept trying to gaslight me. We go on a date night 2-4 times a week sometime every other day but not longer than 4 hours or my boobs start to hurt. Idk what to do or to say because thats 3 different girls in 7 months.
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I would talk to him about doing couples therapy. It seems he is letting the women know he isnāt available and they just wonāt stop from their end. Instead of blowing up, tell him you want to work on things. Find a couples therapist. Tell him he needs to tell you when women are hitting on him or texting him because that is raising trust issues. If this doesnāt work, it would tell him you canāt deal and leave, but I would try the therapy first.
Get rid of him. I know itās hard but you and your son should be his #1. Making you feel safe and secure in your relationship should be top priority. You should NEVER have to feel second best to ANY other woman in his life. They are temporary. They wonāt stick around. Your there for the longhaul. He should be catering to you. The fact that he canāt delete and block someone to make you feel secure is just trash. Its like them being āniceā to him is more important than you crying yourself to sleep every night because your should be enough. Let him go. He might fuck around for a while. But I promise he will come back. He seems genuinely with you if he kept saying no to them. But he needs time to think about how important you are and how much he needs you. Because once your gone after awhile heāll realize how good he had it and that they werenāt worth losing you.
ā¦ your man is loyal. Itās NOT cheating if a girl is flirting with him. So get that out of your head. You sound crazy. Youāre being controlling as hell and not even allowing this man to have friends who are women. Heās going to end up either cheating or leaving YOU because of how you are.
Kick him to the curve and move on
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Ok, 1. That girl didnāt get his number by herself. 2. That baby aināt no baby anymore itās time to stop breastfeeding and go back to work 3. That girl isnāt the only one with his number so you have 2 choices deal with getting cheated on or move on
Please message me if u feel comfortable. Look be glad he is turning them down. And you need to cuss them girls out. Do not feel guilty for that. But if he canāt remove them cause they r nice or set a very firm boundary u might wanna reconsider
Ok well honestly hes telling them no and refusing to hang out with them and constantly bringing you up. I feel like you need to work on yourself and your insecurities before leaving your childs father and breaking up an otherwise happy home. Just my opinion.
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To read and didnāt finish buuuut. If he isnāt standing up for you heās not on your side. Youāre either with me or against me. Even if he technically isnāt cheating if he canāt let go of insignificant ppl for you thatās your answer right there
GIRLā¦ run! You will have a lifetime of misery and grief.
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What are you trying to save? 3 girls in 7 monthsā¦this isnāt just happening. Heās the common denominator
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You are already living separately; thatās half the battle. Break it off.
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I didnt even make it half way through this train wreck to know if you ate having to question all this time it is time to goā¦
DONT MAKE IT A HABIT OF COLLECTING RED FLAGS.
I get thats daddy to your kid but your kid is seeing you unhappy and thatās not healthy
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If he has to hide it from you he is well on his way. Why are these messages saved? Why hasnāt he blocked her? Dudes are mad sneaky. These might just be the ones he wants you to see, showing that heās turning down the advances but in reality heās deleted all the incriminating ones. He is not serious about the relationship if he canāt be honest with you.
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You are too young to live with and put up with a guy like him. Move on for your own sake and that of your child. You two both need to mature and get counseling to avoid making the same mistake.
Leave him and move on.
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Run!!! If you stay, your son will learn his bad habit and think itās ok to treat a woman like that! Move on now since your son is little! It will get worse if you keep tolerating the disrespect from him and disrespect you are allowing!
So this is harder because of the time youāve put in and the fact that thereās a child involved. Maybe try therapy? What helped us was learning how to love each other the correct way instead of the normal way. When I was little and my parents were mad they would raise their voices and cuss and stuff. We have set expectations that we both agree will be how we treat each other. We used to tell because thatās a normal thing to do when youāre angry. But that doesnāt mean itās what you should do. So just apply that to all of the other areas of your life. Figure out what goal you guys have for your relationship and how to achieve them.
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I would leave I had an ex like that. I had to go he always not changing or deleting the girls. My best advice is to leave and I know its hard with a child but ur child doesnāt need to be put thru that.
You deserve better And youāll never leave him until you realize that.
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Heās telling them no on texts because he knows youāll read the messages and it makes him look like a stand up guy when he does that but heās clearly saying otherwise when he talks in person. They arenāt chasing a man who told them NO. Leave and stop the misery.
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I stopped after halfway but girl leave!!! There is that saying. When someone keeps talking to your significant other, itās cause he is opening the door for her. No way a person is talking to themselves. It starts off as texting and flirting and will eventually lead more to that. Put your man on check rather than put the other girl on check. Obviously he likes the attention she is giving him and he is paving the way for them to keep flirting with him. It aināt ever going to change, sorry but truth hurts. Run while you can or else youāre going to be stuck and having to fight these girls cause of your man.
You already made him decide once between you+ his son or a friendship with a random girl. He says he canāt delete her because according to you heās ātoo niceā¦ā He chose the girl and not only 1 girl but now 3 in 7months! Girl please save yourself the heartache of a lifetime of girls being after himā¦he clearly doesnāt have his priorities straight.
Yes a man can have female friends but once he has said no to her flirting, yet she doesnāt get the hint and youāve made your feelings clear that your not comfortable with that girl. A REAL MAN that LOVES ONLY YOU would BLOCK her right then and there.
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End the relationship now!! Heās been cheating even if he hasnāt had sexā¦and Iād be surprised if he hasnātā¦this is typical cheating in todayās societyā¦he has allowed this to continue and you are allowing him to continue by staying with him get out as fast as you can!!
Girl be done hes trash there are other guys out there that will treat u betterā¦
I agree with every one else just call it done he probably did do something with some one and these are just some that you see or catch on his phone. Honestly, their is no point to a relationship like that and he does not have his priorities straight time to let it go unless you want to live a life checking his phone all the time and fighting over girls that message him and he puts himself as a victim. You deserve better than that.
Thatās a terrible situation 
I wouldnāt botherā¦ If youāre already arguing about it to where you are leaving and canāt be happy when your together, itās not worth it. Especially when it keeps happening over and over. You deserve to be happy and not babysitting a grown man and his girlfriendsā:disappointed:
Girl, I have soo much to say but Iāll just leave it at thisā¦ā¦leave him, heās being shady AF, I know you have your baby but donāt make that the reason you stay together! You need a man who is gonna, waitā¦.I just said itā¦.You need a MAN!!! Good luck!
Honestly, speaking from personal experience, it is never the same after you find out theyāve been messing around with other girlsā¦ Trust is broken and it doesnāt go back the way it was I promise! You have to ask yourself if you are willing to do all of the extremely hard work it takes to rebuild trust that is brokenā¦ Or start over again and tell that MF goodbye
If this shit doesnāt scream immaturity then I donāt know what does.
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You need to run, he isnāt worth it. He is entertaining other women
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Women goes through a lot. Women stay because of their kids happiness but men runs from responsibilities and it would end up as if youāre insecure and not good enough doesnāt matter if you give him your life, canāt you see heās enjoying while you making the sacrifices for your child. Let him go go let go before you wasted your life and before you get anymore kids. Use birth control your kud will grow up soon. Donāt stress heās becoming independent as if heās single running from family comittment please donāt get no more kids for him.
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Iām not sure the question here. You obviously canāt trust him so leave
Holy effing wall of text! Your man is cheating and as guilty as these other women, you just donāt want to see it. Leave. You deserve better.
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Itās not easy to leave someone especially if youāve had kids together but I would leave before it gets worse and it sounds like heās just too young to know what he wants plus the randoms stroking his ego make him feel good thatās his insecurities
Iām not sure what the wages have to do with it but if you donāt like what heās doing and he wonāt stop you have to make the decision to leave or stay and put up with it.
You already told him to make a choiceā¦ and he did
Now itās up to you to make a choice.
Since he couldnāt let go of the messages and didnt block them run run run his lack of respect for your feelings and his lack of actions regarding these women disrespecting you is all you need to know the rest is just bull. I totally understand what you are going through I feel your pain Iāve been there and itās taken me countless tears for me to accept that I AM WORTH MORE THAN THIS AND YOU ARE TOO. Run get away
Honestly. From experience babe,leave. Youāre young you still have so much time ahead of you to make an amazing life for you and your bub. Donāt waste another 17 years like this. . youāre already half way out.
Good luck with it all ,stay strong.
If you took the time to write all of this wanting adviceā¦you already know the answer. Follow your instinct.
Just break up and take that L cause he clearly needs/wants the extra attention. No man gonna keep entertaining these women If he already made it clear he in a relationship. So thereās probably other messages heās deleted or something heās doing in person. The whole fact yāall living separately is a signā¦.move on and coparent
Stop going thru ppl phone its like your trying to find stuff to push u out the door so go! If he did it before 9/10 heāll do it again but sneakier!! If u can trust him its a thing called coparenting!!! Donāt stay for the child leave for your sanity or be quiet and live with it smh!!! Iāve been there and done that!!! Only thing that made things better was me leaving!!!
Everyone saying heās cheating this and that. My personal opinion is heās handling it very well. Heās making it KNOWN heās with YOU! So wtf is the problem? Oh yea yāall are WAYYY IMMATURE! Like back off of the poor guy or he IS GOING TO LEAVE YOU!!
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Are you asking us for advice or are you just venting? Because if youāre asking us itās very clear what you should doā¦ but please donāt ask for advice and do the opposite. 
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I had tbis SAME ISSUE with my ex but he never said āno, cassy wouldnāt like that.ā He always went and let girls sit in his lap at the bar and gave lots of attention to other women even when I was around. His friends even made a commentā¦ my friends were screenshootibg girls pics and showing he liked the skimpy ones!
Trust me girl itās not worth the fight. If he canāt delete them or even argues you to delete them, itās over, a real man would never do that. Iāve been in that same situation minus the child for 9 years! It is not worth it!
One secret leads to many secrets. And if heās giving another woman attention let him and walk away. He doesnāt know how good he has it! Walk away before it gets worse love.
First thing, you canāt control who messages him, it seems like he is always saying no and to be fair these are people he works with whether in the same building or not they could probably make his life hell if he isnāt nice to them. Second, you are so playing in to their hands, look your girlfriend doesnāt even let you have friends I wouldnāt do that to you, now he has started hiding messages because you are always arguing with him about them.
A good solution is to stop arguing with him over girls messaging him, if they want play dates or dinners then tell him to say yes and you go along with them, should be grateful heās saying no, a lot wouldnāt.
Try chilling the feck out, you not having a job and being constantly attached to your child is clearly making you stir crazy, he probably had all these interactions when you had a job but because you had your own life it never bothered you.
Talk to him, move back in and calm the feck down 
Stay away from him. First a new life with ur son he will never change
Why are u still with him?
Firstā¦ you need to stop judging people by how much money they make. Youāre no better than someone who makes 2.38 an hour at the Olive garden. With that being said. You told him to choose. He chose. He didnāt block her he didnāt respect that their friend or more relationship made you uncomfortable. Itās time to come up with a co parenting plan and move on.
Itās the ābut we can be friendsā for me like whaaaaa I just turned 23 and no maāam I wouldāve had to apply to the job no matter the description and see whatās what ā¦ i do not approve my bf talking to people he used to fuck with or talk to girls that want to fuck with him because why would you be blatantly disrespectful, why let your partners mind wonder especially when moms donāt have the best mental ā¦to the fan I suggest you leave his silly ass because heās only doing what your allowing, he gets a thrill of getting away with things and you need to show him your serious because who wakes up one day thinking they need female friends without an explanation when your significant other is supposed to be your best friend ā¦ I understand another females opinion on certain things but talking to girls that want to fuck him ? No maāam! He can ask a 40 year old for advice oooo idk maybe someone with years of experience 
also try co-parenting the goal is to get the dude out of your life not the childās
First off heās cheating. Whether he has slept with them or not, the fact that he knows this bothers u and still does it means u accept it cuz he knows what heās doing. Secondly since heās already blaming u about cheating I suggest u start u start making male friends and have some of them message u on advice on what u should do. This way he sees u flirting with them and will know how hurt u are. Will he care or change? No cuz he thinks heās a big shit earning big bucks. What u do need to do if file for child support so your son can be taken care of properly and those hoes will stop getting what belongs to your son. U need to move on and find someone who really loves u and most of all respect u. I know it will be hard but u are raising a baby boy who will learn from what u teach him. Do u want to raise him right or to teach him its ok for him to disrespect women like his father does? U need to choose correctly cuz u have someone who is counting on u to teach him properly
Wow
If u believes and trust him still
And if heās willing bcuz he believes in ur relationshipā¦I suggest couples counseling
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i forced myself to get through this post, repeatedly forced myselfā¦ and i still has d the same thought: JUST LEAVE.
first of all you owe him nothing, pack his lunch heās lucky you even thought to in the beginning, youāre not his wifeā¦ and even if you where packing lunches isnāt your duty. whatās holding you back? iāll tell you something would you like the man in front of you be an example to your son? is that good morals your babyās father is bestowing on you? itās obvious heās not into you/your future. heās not mr. nice guyā¦ a nice guy doesnāt even respond and immediately closes down the conversation, and it will never come back up again. home wrecker should not even be in your vocabulary, why entertain such negativity in your life. work on yourself, your self esteemā¦ focus on your son, and look into getting married with your next relationship and not having any insignificant drama in your life. growth.
You wrote a whole movie girl I stop reading . He cheating probably just saying that because he know you going thru his phone
Tbh the second time I would had cut everything off. One chance is all anyone ever gets. If I catch it the 2nd time, you bet Iāll gather all the evidence that I can get, then everything of mine and the child is gone.
To be fair I only read about half but from what I read you are ridiculously immature. He isnāt allowed to talk to anyone? He told her no, what more do you want?
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Your child is better off seeing you single than in a toxic relationship.
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Iām wondering if the issue for him isnāt about being a ānice guyā but wanting his ego inflated. For these women to be persistent as they are, I feel he truly hasnāt done anything wrong yet far as getting intimate. Iām not wanting to justify him but as one person on the outside looking in. Maybe he enjoys their attention because Iām sure your super busy with your son. If your not ready to call it quits whether itās because of your son or for yourself, then here is my advice. This is gonna be a little bit scary but do the opposite of how youāve been reacting to certain situations. Acknowledge the fact that he brings you and your feelings up in these messages. If you feeling a little bit froggy and wanna play with fire. They want to hang out with you and him. Then so be it, remind him why he chose you over them for the long haul. Yāall both go out in a social setting with these females, you make sure you have fun. Be cool, calm and collected. Show love and affection but without being all over him like a cheap suit as they say. You might actually shock him straight. You two are both still fairly young, I believe if you play as the cool chick instead of the stuck stay at home mom. Things might change but if you truly try and they donāt. Then Iām not sure what more you could do. Good luck on things working out for the best, whatever that might be.
If I were you I would just leave himā¦ you donāt desrve the anxiety. Dont waste your time on him. Find someone that cares about your feeling because he obviously does not. And make sure you file for child support if you havent already!
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He told them no and even mentioned to them that you wouldnāt like that, so why are you saying heās cheating?
Throw the whole āmanā away heās not interested in keeping you. My fiance of 7 years has NEVER called me a bitch it baffles me that men say that to the women in their lives.
Why? Heās brushing them off for u girlā¦ heās a good one from the sounds of it and heās just trying to be nice by saying letās be friends itās not his fault they donāt accept it. be grateful heās not feeding into them and being sneaky and saying ya letās meet up to them like some douche bags. ā¦
but tell him how it makes u feel and you also need to grow up! You are super insecure if anything reading him choosing you every single time would make me more secure and trusting.
Chill out!
- You are extremely childish.
- Yes he was 100% faithful and told them no BUT he should have blocked them immediately
- Grow up. Everyone in a relationship has to deal with their partner getting hit on one way or another. As long as they arenāt entertaining it than why tf are you getting so mad!
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No one canāt tell you what you already know what to do? Good Luck
To long and boring. Nobody wants to read all that. I only got 25% thru it.
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I mean it isnāt cheating if heās telling them no. Heās not hiding the fact he has a girlfriend. Heās telling these people no to hanging out because he has you. Only thing Iād be annoyed about is that he wonāt cut them off since they disrespect your relationship.
Im sorry, but all I saw was him saying noā¦? Am I missing something?
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I used to be like this, it pushes your partner into wanting to be unfaithful even more. I agree he shouldāve blocked them and such, but if you canāt trust someoneā¦it is difficult to even have a relationship. I donāt know the entire context of the story but Iād say you may have overreacted. No one is perfect. Youāve seen that he declines the other womenās invitations. Men are visual creatures and they are going to look at other women, that doesnāt mean they are out there screwing around. I donāt think Iād throw my entire relationship away over it.
Youāre both assholes. He shouldāve blocked her when she didnāt respect him saying no and out of respect for you. But you also sound extremely insecure.
Yāall started out young. Some relationships last and some wonāt bcus as people grow they want to experience other people. I would leave and focus on my life with the child. If he wants to really be with you he would straighten up and prove it.
Phew! Girl you got it out. Now move on! Itās a trust thing in relationships. If you trust your man, you wouldnāt even went through his phone but you donāt trust him bcuz heās now the breadwinner and youāre a stay-at-home mom. Idk what to say bcuz Iāve seen way way worse, also been through way worse. Heās wrong for calling you a bitch, I can tell you that much but you may have been acting like one. If he gives you no reason trust him then forget them thirsty thots. They want what you have. Even though I wouldnāt even entertain the bitches, it seems as if they are messaging him on social media and not even his actual phone line. I do know this, during pregnancy and postpartum our emotions are everywhere, our hormones are doing numbers, and our body is struggling to get back to normal. I wish you the best but I wouldnāt end things over hot hoes wanting what you have. Ijs
If he is staying friends with the ones flirting & sending him pics, that is a warning sign to me. Yes, he can have female friends & you need to accept that BUT the flirty ones? No, they need to be blocked. He is saying ānoā which is great, but allowing them to keep on sending that stuff is not a good sign (and by keeping them as friends, he is allowing it to continue).
Yes, women will flirt with your partner and so far heās handled himself as a good partner and man. Keeping them on as friends though, while they continue to harass him, flirt with him & send suggestive pics, shows that he is enjoying the attention - and heās lied about it too, which is not good.
The decision is yours though. You need to either 100% trust him or get out. What is your gut feeling telling you?
Listen I can see where the problem on your end is because youāve asked him to stop however if he isnāt flirting back and is telling them heās happy and with you then maybe you might need to look at why itās making you so mad. My husband gets hit on constantly and has girl friends, I donāt care because he doesnāt entertain them. There have been a few that took their flirting to far and I asked him to stop talking to them and he did but that was once they started sending him nudes on āaccidentā. I donāt think you should leave but maybe sit down and think about why it bothers you so much for him to have friends that are girls and then talk to him about everything.
First offā¦ If your son is still latched at the breast to eat thatās like pedo behavior I feel. Like he should of already been eating solid foods and drinking from a sippy cup starting at 1yr old. To me thatās some strange behavior you are allowing. Iām just not down with that at all. And you are young in general tbh so if you are saying the stuff right now about your relationship then I just dont feel you and your boyfriend ever loved each other as strongly as you should have. Problem is is being young in itself let alone being young parents tends to not allow growth in your already young age and I feel maybe it was rushed. Time you take a long hard look at the life you have now and either learn to work it out like adults FOR YOU or call it quits. ESPECIALLY while your son is still little so he isnt stuck in the middle even though he already seems to beā¦ Lastly holy buckets you wrote alot. I honestly stopped reading it about 1/3 of the way through.
as soon as he starts hiding messages, its overā¦ he is cheating, wont changeā¦ find someone who is into you only
I donāt think sheās childish. HE IS. He steady entertaining these other females. No females is NICE if she keep trying to get with someone that keeps telling them NO. Him and they are all disrespectful, let him go his way.
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Chile I stopped reading that message a third of the way through I couldnāt do it, itās too much! Girl you donāt want advice you just wanted to get it off your chest and it was all over the place if you talkin like that girl just let it go and let God and stay off of social media and stay off of people phone
Once a man says your the one cheating after you call him out. Heās just trying to cover his tracks. LEAVE HIM. A real man wonāt be looking at others while in a relationship especially if they have a family. Heās clearly a loser.
I think you guys need to talk stuff out, talk to him about boundaries with his friends and that he should know when to draw a line in their friendshipsā¦ You get some nasty girls with horrible intentions and maybe try get a job as well, I know when my little one was still small you start being insecure from being home and feeling depressed I think you just need to get your life going again.
Youāre young I get that, but take this from people older than youā¦grow up. Heās not cheating and was never cheating. He kept it respectful and mentioned both times that he had a woman and he wasnāt comfortable going behind your back. Youāre insecure thatās a trait you gotta work on for yourself honestly. If the relationship fails itāll be on your end to be honest. If you trust him like you say you do then you wouldnāt be blowing it out of proportion. Iām not gonna bash you like most of these people are doing Iām just going to lay some wisdom on you. Trust your man before you put him into that perspective to actually cheat. If the man was gone cheat on you in pretty sure he would of been cheated, but he loves you and respects you. Chill. Donāt push him away from yāall relationship the least you could do is help him understand how you feel instead of accusing him and thinking itās ok that he canāt have friends male or female. That shows complete insecurity.
I think you both have a lot of growing to do that canāt be done together right now, leave before it gets worse. Your kid shouldnāt grow up seeing that.
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Am i being thick or what has it got to do with him being on so much a hour? How would they no? And tbh my hubby speaks to girls his best friend was a girl, 10 years together and 2 kids, hes mine, he also gets female attention hes a DJ and door bouncer, he said no they no hes got you, you just need to get over it and trust him!
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Not a chance Iād of fucked him off already! He has no care for your feelings heās making out like he does to the women because it makes him look good but if he had any respect for you and your feelings he wouldnāt entertain them at all and heād tell them where to take their dirty little hoe asses - the fucking bin! I know for a fact my mans response would either be nothing and completely ignore them altogether orā¦ heās fucking warn them that theyāre making a big mistake and asking for an early fucking grave even attempting to get to him because Iām psycho and will fuck a bitch up and show her, her place seeing as she clearly canāt find it!
get out now hun because you deserve someone who will make it CLEAR that itās not just because āmy woman wouldnāt like thatā because heās just blaming you!!! He should be telling them āno Iām not interestedā āno thatās inappropriate and I have more respect for my woman than thatā or fucking something like that at least. Idiot. Honestly I wouldnāt be surprised if he has been seeing these women behind your back! Because why else entertain them other than to boost his little ego! And why would he be archiving the messages if heās doing fuck all wrong?!? My man use to get unsolicited nude from girls in the first year we was together, at first he was like well Iām not sending anything or asking for it they just do it random idk what you expect me to do itās not my fault etc etc. I made it very fucking clear that shit isnāt happening! āGet them blocked on everything now or Iāll be hunting some bitches down and kicking you out!!!ā ALL ABOUT RESPECT!!
If someone doesnāt respect your relationship you donāt have them in your life if the relationship really means anything to you!!
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Sooo youāre mad for what? Heās not cheating heās telling them no! Please grow up.
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Hes telling them no so hes doing the right thing. But he needs to stop playing nice to them and tell them all bluntly to fuck off. My partner would do that if any girl disrespect our relationship by trying it on him like that.
Heās entertaining bitches. If the wife says DELETE/BLOCK a bitch with no boundaries and he DOES NOT, then he is PURPOSELY entertaining bitches. (If the tables were turned and YOU were sending topless pics to a man, even if it never went further than that, and even if the man knew you had a husbandā¦Your man would be equally furious as u are now.) Heās playing ,girl and heās hiding things which indicates that he knows it is wrong and does not care.DO NOT ACCEPT THAT.
You left and took yalls kid, he still couldnāt just delete provacative pushy women? For me thatd be the end of that permanently. Thank you NEXT bec while he is shutting them down. Them not getting the point should be his motivation to remove the disrespectful females.
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I think he deleted the messages of him leading them on. Thereās no way anyone would be that pushy if something wasnāt happening and then he gaslights youā¦ yeah time to cut ties
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I been breastfeeding for 16 months and I dont get full and sore after 4 hours. You must feed ALOT for a 2 year oldā¦perhaps give yourself a little break. Get rid of the man too. Hes taking you for a fool x
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Heās way too about the attention that heās getting from females and thatās always a no go in my book! If I felt some type of way about any females messaging my bf and he didnāt immediately block any and all contact with them, Iād be done! If being with you was important to him then these girls wouldnāt get anymore of a response then āno im takenā
Heās encouraging these women! You need to dump his ass!
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Love yourself. Leave his ass! You know ALL the reasons why and from reading what u have written, you are far from dumb. A liar is a liar. A cheat is a cheat. But u already know that. Good luck
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Seems like the two of you may want to consider counseling. It seems to me that he isnāt cheating or at least hasnāt yet but at the same time, likes the new found female attention he wasnāt previously getting. It looks like the two of you are at a weird place where youāre both hurt or bothered and donāt know how to come back together and let the pride go. Is speaking to women who are clearly trying to get into his pants the right thing to do? Absolutely not. But he canāt seem to stop. And it seems there is something he canāt express to you. You need a third party.
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Though you all being young doesnāt excuse his behavior. He seems insecure. Your the only woman he knows and though he is not trying to mess things up in his mind he needs to make a choice. He would not like the shoe being on the other foot. Cheating isnāt just physical. He is shutting them down but needed to remove them. You took the kids and he doesnāt seem to want to be a family. More that your probably not aware of going on.
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No 1. This guy loves and respects u.
But he need to put a boundary to his friendship with girls who wants him.
He should take a stand.
And you ,donāt throw away a good man because you are insecure.
Because he has you doesnāt mean he wonāt have female friends.
You pokenose too much which will make him keep hidding.
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āHello, Whole Man Disposal Service? Do you do same day pickups?ā Dump him, youāll be so much happier, it might be tough but, sweetheart heās taking you for a fool.
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Of his parents are horrible so is heā¦ he may need some counseling to get through some childhood issues. It sounds like he loves you but has issues saying no.
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Kick his asd to the curb. Quit being a doormat
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