I have a friend who has been married for 4yrs. She called me upset yesterday because her husband came home with a different brand of condoms than what they use and to top it off it’s “flavored” which she NEVER uses and has never bought for each other. I find it very odd. While she was venting she said he hasn’t been spending quality time with her, didn’t even do anything for their anniversary recently. But he’s been wanting to have sex more than before when he gets home from work. To which she also said there’s a new co worker who has been going out of her way to help him at the job and when he’s home he’s constantly finding an excuse to be emailing or calling her. I find that VERY fishy but she feels to give him the benefit of the doubt. Thoughts ?
You already know the answer…
Women intuition never lies. She should dig deeper.
Yep sounds like he’s definitely cheating
He sounds like he’s cheating
MYOB…. Stay out of it!
I don’t see cheating here if he wants to have more sex with his wife. Usually it’s the opposite. They find reasons not to!
I’d be suspicious as well tbh…but if she gives him benefit of a doubt not much you can do, just tell her you also feel it is fishy … Because if it walks like a duck, quacks like a duck…
Mind your own business
If he isn’t he is definitely thinking about it
If a man speaks a little more than he should about a woman co worker, he is defiantely into her.
Cheater cheater pumpkin eater
Wow, and what if being nosey makes her feel paranoid because he’s trying to spice up their sex life a bit?? Most peoples sex life changes a bit to prevent boredom. Just saying. Stay out of it.
Flavour3d condoms are for giving head so I think u got your answer already.
He may be working up an appetite at work and coming home to have his meal. If so that could change, be wary. Something is going on or getting ready to.
I would say no, he isn’t cheating. If he was, he would probably be wanting less sex and less intimacy along with spending less quality time.
There’s a good possibility this female coworker is attractive to him and he wants more sex and is trying to get his wife to experiment more to fulfill those desires. Obviously this is also wrong and problematic for a number of reasons but it’s better than physical cheating.
he brought the condoms home, he wants sex with her more than before? I guess to me that would mean he wants to vamp up their sex life, not seeing how that points to him cheating. Alot of men don’t even think to do something on their anniversary–if they even remember it and what is quality time to her might not be what quality time is to him. I would not like him calling and emailing the new co-worker all the time though and would confront him on that. But as a friend I think you should stay out of it and just be there and listen if she needs to vent.
MYOB cause if you say anything it can cause problems with your friendship later on. Just listen to her and be there for her.
Stay out of it. No good will come from it. Just be a supportive ear who MINDS THEIR BUSINESS!!! Not your place
My thoughts are that I am glad I am not married
Theres no reason a married man should be contacting any woman other than his wife or momma after work hours especially if he aint getting paid to do it once hes off the clock…but ye he dead wrong for his behavior and definitely something sketchy going on
Was the box open or close
People buy different condoms all the time, he may want to try something new also I don’t think he’s cheating, I think he’s fantasizing about her though, she may get his engine going and he’s going to his wife to finish it, and while yes that’s offensive and can be hurtful, I truly don’t think he’s cheating. Also if their conversation is strictly about work there’s nothing there.
Thinking and acting are 2 different things. Not saying it’s right but make sure ur 100% before u say anythinf
Answers plain as day.
It would not sit well with me. Maybe she doesn’t want to open up that can of worms. If he keeps it up it will have to be dealt with.
My opinion you should keep your nose out of it u shouldn’t get into somebody’s marriage no matter if they’re friends or not cuz It just mess your and her up if she don’t know how to deal with it then that’s her problem but to keep you from getting into it and fighting with both of them I’d stay out of it if she can’t handle it get out of the kitchen
Tell her to communicate with her partner, and just be a shoulder to lean on. Also you shouldn’t be getting so invloved in someone else’s relationship, nothing comes good from doing that.
Did she bring up cheating or you?
Sounds like the plot to Dirty John the Betty story. He was cheating with a new coworker. I would say support your friend and be there for her. The truth will eventually come out.
I think your adding to the fire she already has building in her head and you probably just need to stay out of it. However yes it’s red flags, yes it sounds fishy and as if he’s cheating but him wanting to have more sex is what’s making me think he hasn’t just yet cause otherwise you’d think he’d be more distant and giving the new person a lot more verse wanting more sex from his current.
Tell her to quit being a door mat!!! This sounds very obvious what’s happening. Love is blind so she doesn’t want to see the truth. Tough spot to be in.
He might not be cheating…but he is crushing. Anytime a man brings another woman up on a regular basis… especially at weird times…his eye is wondering.
Red Flag! 
If he’s changing things up all the sudden and texting/emailing another woman constantly, then he’s definitely guilty! Been through it multiple times.
Not your circus, not your monkeys. At least he’s using condoms
Maybe that’s all that was available???
If cheating wouldn’t he be wanting less sex ?
If you don’t have a dog in the fight stay out of it
Well first off, she needs to communicate with him. If she can’t talk about it, then they should call it quits. Communication is number one in a relationship.
Secondly, not your business, you shouldn’t be invested in it. I’d be pissed if I knew my friend took my business to the Internet, anonymously or not.
Maybe he is, but what if he isn’t… stay out of your friends marriage.
Get out of your friends business.
There is such a thing as breeding discontent. He may be crushing, but he’s coming home to you. Be careful.
Maybe he just wanted to try something new? Helping a new co worker? Put some trust in your man. If you can’t trust your man why are y’all with these men? I just don’t get it.
Mind your own damn business.
Stay out of it. If he is or isn’t and they work it out you could lose your friend
IMHO as long as he comes home for it, let him get his engine going before he gets home. My hubby can look and conversate as much as he likes, as long as he comes home for it. We are always looking for new ways to keep it interesting. Maybe he was getting bored and wants to try different things to spice it up. But if she knows he is talking to her after work and he isn’t hiding it from her, he isn’t doing anything.
the advice you can give her then leave it up to her…is checking his phone,emails and other internet stuff he’s into. The wife should start visiting his work place …check out the co-worker…and if her hubby goes out at night maybe an investigator wouldn’t hurt if she really has seen something concerning.Other than that you are being a good friend …thats what friends are for.Women should stick together in a male oriented world
Tell her it’s not your problem
Mind your own business it’s not your problem to deal with.
Be there for her, but let them work it out.
Stay out of it, but yes yes he is.
The amount of people here who advise to stay out of it show that when their friends come to them for life guidance they leave them in the dust
Stay out of it some will stay just because of the competition and you will.get burned in the end.
Mind your own business!
It’s none of your business. And him trying new condoms doesn’t mean he’s cheating.
Not your circus, not your monkeys. And just because someone brings something new home doesn’t mean they’re cheating, people change and like to try new things who wants the same ole same ole day in and day out?
That’s simple… IT’S NOT YOUR BUSINESS!!!
Sorry none of that really yells cheating maybe he decided to try different condoms
Yep. Something is happening.
Sorry but it’s really none of your business. You can be there for her, but they as a couple need to work it out themselves.
Buying different condoms doesn’t mean anything either, it could be that he wanted to try something different. Those condoms aren’t just for preventing pregnancy and diseases. Lol. Also wanting more sex doesn’t really scream cheating either if he is wanting it with his wife, I mean where’s the issue with that? The communication between him and the girl would be a bit concerning but if he has a high demand job or something that requires the communication I wouldn’t think about it too much.
I hate “friends” like you. Unless you’ve got proof keep your trap shut and keep these thoughts to yourself. You don’t need to sew distrust in other people’s relationships. If he’s cheating it’ll come to light. Until then though just stop! It isn’t your relationship.
Maybe he’s trying to spice things up with the flavored condoms and maybe the brand they usually buy doesn’t have flavored or he couldn’t find them. If he’s wanting to have sex with her more then I wouldn’t suspect him cheating. In my experience they tend to not want to touch you when they’re getting it from somewhere else. Maybe he is having feelings that he hasn’t acted on and that’s why he wants to call this chick but I don’t get the feeling he’s cheated yet. He could be feeling guilty that he has feelings for this other girl and wanting to spice things up at home like I said. Also, don’t tell your friend it’s not your business. Be there for her.
I just asked my partner for a male perspective, he said “the flavoured condoms maybe he’s trying to spice things up and try something different and that the fact that he’s been open with her about this new Co worker, is a good sign obviously if he’s making phone calls in secret and emailing etc then that’s different but if he’s being open to her about it then I doubt she’s anything to worry about” from a guys perspective, but I thought the same tbh 
If he’s more sexually interested in her then I wouldn’t suspect cheating … could be mental exhaustion? They need to talk, he could be trying to spice things up with the flavoured condoms…
You are a concerned friend , but your friend should sort this out herself …you can give support , don’t get involved …not a good idea…
Your friend needs to sort this, you care for her, but stand back
It doesn’t matter what you think. She won’t leave him until she feels he gave her a reason to.
How about your friend does the adult thing here and talk to her husband. It’s really that simple she tells him how she feels and they talk it out no need to run to Facebook
Thoughts? Mind your own relationship not theirs
I mean the condoms could just be a new thing to try but being distant except for sex and constantly talking to this new coworker idk that’s suspicious
Maybe she just needs to have a conversation with her husband and see what’s going on. I’m sure there is way more to this situation than what was posted and it’s their business. Just be her friend and be there for her.
Stay out of it…none your business
It’s nice your worried about your friend but you may find yourself being accused of interfering. She has to be the one to talk to him about this. For all we know he could be trying to spice things between them and if she is willing to look over it you just be her friend and be there for her there’s nothing more you can do xd
Not your marriage…not your problem. She wants to give her husband the benefit of the doubt…so let her.
Start fishing girls cos that’s the only way get him hooked…they always slip up .
Why are you worried about what your friends husband is doing? If she’s so worried about it she can ask the question
What people are failing to realize Is her friend called her upset about this, and she’s just asking for thoughts. I wouldn’t call that butting in to their relationship. The biggest question here is was this a brand new, unused box of condoms, or was this an opened package with any missing? If it was a brand new box perhaps he’s just trying to spice things up a bit. If any are missing and they haven’t used them together she already has her answer. She did say they are having sex more, so maybe he’s just wanting to spice it up. Tell her to trust her gut. If something really feels off it probably is but only she can decide if anything feels amiss in her relationship. I would also raise an eyebrow at continued, repeated contact with that “new employee” outside of work. If it was only a time or 2 I don’t think it’s anything to raise a fuss about but if it really is constant, little unimportant contact with issues that could wait for at work, that would definitely be suspicious. Just try to give her the best advice you can, without inserting yourself into the situation. Alot of times involvement of the “best friend” can cloud her judgement and more often than not worsen the situation. Her decisions must be her own. Just support her through whatever she decides. She really should just voice her concerns with her husband.
It be different if he wasn’t wanting sex but if he does want then maybe no…never let a man out with a loaded gun…
I do not think he is cheating. He is not hiding the condoms, phone calls or emails. He is not working late with the new Co worker. The new Co worker may make him feel young and spunky and he is taking that home to his wife. Now if she starts pulling away, accusing him of cheating or ignoring his affection she may cause problems in her marriage.
Oh yeah that situation is definitely gonna blow up he needs to either find a new job and learn to keep it in him pants 
she’s absolutely right he’s definitely thinking about cheating or already is
I get the vibe just from your post you could be the problem… I feel like you are pumping her head up to the thought of him cheating🤷♀️ I’d stay out of it.
I always found , that after one has been married for a while, things, sometimes, get into a routine, So now there is a new woman in the office, she is all smiles, being nice to him, He’s probably thrilled someone is noticing him !!! given the fact he has a new type of rubber, doesn’t mean he is cheating, maybe he is trying to spice things up at home, She should go with it, she just might have a good time & renew their relationship…it is a thought
Full or red flags. So many it almost looks scripted. If it’s real then it’s time to start digging in a lot deeper to either prove or disprove whats going on.
Drink water…and mind your business
Number one it’s none of your business number two if he wants more sex odds are he’s not having sex with anybody else because if he having sex with somebody else he’d be having less sex or equal sex not wanting more sex
Someone could always be cheating. All you can do is gently tell her what you see, and wait for her to see it herself.
Always a possibility.
Full on investigation in progress I am following him I am reading his emails I am reading his text I’m going into full investigation mode until I get to the truth!Hats sunglasses sitting up the street from his work to watch what he does at lunchtime I’m telling you I would be in full investigation mode
Maybe you should stay out of their business!!!
So if a man goes in a convenient store,and sees a pack of interesting condom, that he would like to try, he’s cheating?
Were there any condoms missing? Sex in a marriage is supposed to evolve. That is your safe partner and you should be able to try to spice things up not be rejected. As animals we often feel attracted to someone else. That doesn’t mean it is acted upon. But if she keeps kicking him away he may find comfort somewhere else.
I’d just be there for her but I wouldn’t be putting any ideas in her head. Let her do her own investigation and no secret stays hidden they always come to light eventually
Sounds like he is just trying to spice up their sex with something different by buying new along with trying to have more sex often ,I’d be all in before he does resort to cheating lol
Yes he could be cheating. It’s not your place to play detective.
First of all, I would mind my own and let her come to the conclusion.
If you and her talk then, she goes back to her husband and says that you and her discussed things. He could then try telling her that you are jealous or something alone those lines. Which then causes conflict between you and her. She could than end up choosing her husband over you so you lose a friend.
I’d suspect him, yes. If she asks your opinion or for help, tell her. Don’t offer unasked for advice though. She could get angry with you.
Stay out of her business.
Married peoples problems is their business be a supportive friend but do not interfere or get involved
Don’t offer unsolicited advice unless asked. As friends it’s our job to be there, be supportive. And of course we wanna protect them but ultimately it’s up to them. If he is and they work things out,.and they will, guess who she stops talking to?
You’re inserting yourself where you should not. Even if he is misbehaving that doesn’t mean she’ll leave. Women don’t end marriages until they feel they absolutely have to. It’s THEIR marriage to figure out. If she needs to vent then listen. That’s it.