My husband and I have been married for about 5 years. For the last month or so for his job they are “having him work weekends. 5-5.” He works construction and never once have I seen these people work over the weekend. I want to reach out to the owners wife and aresk her but I dont want to seem like a crazy wife…even though I feel I kind of am…it may be all in my head but at the same time he has started “working weekends” my best friend stopped coming over those same weekends…am I being crazy or could something be going on? How do I even go about this?
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Could my husband be cheating with my best friend?
Does he work close by to your house? I would drive my ass over there
Or go to your friend’s house
He’s cheating. Take your heart and run.
Trust your gut and follow them one day.
I would definitely look more into it my self because that does sound sus
If you think it then it’s probably happening
Do you have any other inklings for this worry? Is he acting different etc?
Also you could message the owner / wife and say you want to surprise him with a weekend away and can you book that weekend off for him as a surprise (I’ve booked surprise holidays before for my husband this way - not for cheating, just genuinely) and see if she comes back confused x
Do not call his work. Is there any other reason that you think he’s cheating? If you have other reasons, follow him.
I would do a random stop by at my so called friends house. Just a thought.
You better follow him one day and find out the truth
How bout his paychecks, they would definitely show if he was working those hours
Could message the boss’s wife and see if you could plan a luncheon type thing for the workers to show a nice gesture with all the weekends they’ve been working or you could look at his checks and see if there’s a difference in pay
Trust your gut,and just radomly show up at your friends,always trust the gut,its normally right
Call up a coworker that should be doing weekends with him and ask where hubs is at you can’t seem to reach his cell phone and see if coworker confirms the job or if it’s bs.
Can you drive to his work site take him lunch ? Or drop by your friends house to say hi?
Offer to take him a hot lunch to the job site on a Saturday
A simple call to the company to ask do they offer weekend availability would work or a call inquiring for a job and ask do they have weekend shifts available
Call bosses wife one day on a weekend and ask her what site they are working at so you can bring him lunch. If he is truly working you will have to cough up lunch but I’m sure that would be worth it for you versus finding out the alternative.Thats what I would do. That way you don’t look crazy if you are wrong you look like a sweet caring wife. I hope he is not and this all coincidence.
Throw a air tag in the car and see where he goes?
Text your husband on one of those working days and tell him you picked him up lunch and want to drop it off.
But a cheap prepaid phone. Set up your Google on it. Lock it. Keep it on and hidden in his truck. Then use your Google maps timeline to find his whereabouts.
Look at his pay stubs or the money going into the acct.
Take him lunch on one of his weekend shifts
My dad has worked in construction my entire life. We’re in Canada. From spring until fall, my dad works 6am-6pm Mon-Sat and it’s not unusual for him to work 6am-3pm on Sundays too. It’s absolutely part of the industry because many of them are laid off during the winter.
The rest of these comments are ridiculous.
If you think there’s something going on then you do you BUT those work hours in that industry wouldn’t raise any alarm bells for anyone I know.
My husband works construction and they do weekends when there is a lot of work. It’s feast or famine with the pandemic so we take when the work is good so that it Carries over when work is slow.
I would however say the paycheck should reflect that of course
Follow your gut. Go check and see if he’s at work or go drive passed her house.
Make plans with your husband. Give him plenty of notice so he can “get off work”. Then ask you friend to do something that same weekend. See what happens. OR… find out where he’s “working” and surprise him.
Collect all account numbers and seize your funds
Yes of course he is. He’s a man…
I would surprise the friend instead of going the work route. Just in case. You don’t want to ruin his place of employment. But the gut is usually always right. Follow your gut.
I literally live next to a house building site and they work a lot of weekends
Have a friend or coworker help you find out. Go in her car. Follow. Follow up. Figure it out. And if it’s happening then I wish you the best in your journey to move on. Those are nasty people that do not deserve your good heart if they are doing this.
Call owners wife and ask. All of a sudden works weekends and your friend don’t come over same days. Yeah he’s cheating
Look at his paycheck stubs.
Pop up at your best friends house one of the weekends.
Calling his job would be my last resort.
Make a big Batch of cookies for the crew and take them to the job!
Ask the boss’s wife for the location address because you want to surprise him with a hot lunch. 🤷 or check his paystubs to account for his hours
Reach out. Your gut knows.
Check the bank account or the paycheck stubs the extra money for the weekend work has to show up somewhere
If you feel like he’s doing something go find out don’t sit back and wonder
I don’t know many men that would be getting up that early to go cheat. Lol Also, why suspect your friend? She could just be busy. Unless you got something else, seems coincidental to me.
Trust your instincts.
Find a way to check on both sides. Ask your friend why she never comes over anymore. Call the owners wife and say that you want to surprise him and bring him lunch to the job site that day, and ask for the address. If she doesn’t know what the hell you are talking about then bingo. If she gives you an address then drive by check for his car hell even bring him lunch. See if he is truly there
Always trust your gut !
Id rather be the crazy wife than the stupid wife. Call her and say you want to surprise him this weekend bc hes been working so hard. She will either give it to you or say he doesnt work weekends
Look at his pay check stubs. Does the $$ equal to these hours that he says he is working? Then surprise your friend on the weekend🤷🏼♀️
Go to your friends house at the same time he has to go into work
I mean the money going into the account would be less BEFORE the overtime started so just compare monies…
Girl have someone you know follow him to work
I donno about you but my gut feeling almost never lies.
Put a tracker on his mobile like the ones you do with kids.
Just.pm her and ask her to.promise in confidence it.goes no.further…I be same big hugs x
Wouldn’t his check reflect the extra hours worked? And make plans with your friends after u know he has to work a weekend!
Tell your friend you will visit her for a change.
Always trust your gut
Could be coincidence
Do some homework. Follow him. Follow her. Hire a private investigator or handle it yourself. I doubt you’re crazy. If it feels off it usually is.
I would be crazy and call!
Show up at your friends place on those weekends.
Call the bosses wife and see if it’s ok if you come by and surprise him since he has been working so hard??
I would like to say I’m sorry your going through this. I hope you get through ok.
Drive past his work site?
Never disregard your gut feelings
There’s some pretty clever people here… I like a lot of these answers.
Follow him to job site
Bring him lunch to his work.
Ask the owners wife where he is working tell her you are going to surprise him with lunch have her give you where he’s located
Simple… Ask your husband…
Just go to the job site… What’s wrong with that? Why can’t we just take charge now a days? Instead of doing everything on the sly.
This used to be good. I’m done. Have a great drama day.
trust your gut, girl. ive learned the hard way. cause next time, ima trust my gut first thing.
call and ask his bosses wife.
Is his paycheck adding up to the overtime ?? Ask him where he is working and pass by , go passed your friend house ? Don’t just sit and drive yourself crazy go find out girl !
Call the wife and ask if there was any way for you to bring him lunch to the job site or something
Girl get into detective mode!! Listen to your gut!!!
Oh imma need an update
Maybe be friend bosses wife and see if she slips up info without having to ask…
Check his paystubs or go to his work
Go to the job site see if he’s there if not then that’s when you confront him and her .
Call the boss’s wife, tell her you’d love to surprise him with a special lunch on his break and ask what his break times are for the weekend…
Be careful reaching out to those other wives. I did that and turns out that’s who he was having the affair with.
Turn up to his work with a surprise lunch!
Put a tracker on his car and follow him.
If you don’t have a car, I would definitely reach out to the bosses wife saying something like “how are you surviving all these extra work shifts over the weekend? I feel so bored all the time lol”
Always trust your gut. Never dismiss a gut feeling
Don’t trust your friends
Um find out where he works on weekends… pop up with lunch for him… same with ur friend find out what she is doing pop up on her
His check should tell you! That’s ALOT of overtime.
Show up wherever he is with lunch or something.
Or call your best friend…see what she’s doing? Show up and surprise her for a “girls day” and see how she acts
Surprise ur friend when ur husband is at work see if she is home and will let u in xxx
All the crazies coming out of the woodwork, holy shit.
To OP, I hope you stretched before that reach cause y i k e s
Is he getting paid for working weekends? Surely you’ve noticed an increase in his salary. I would ask ask had something happened in your past to make you so insecure and distrusting? It’s not a usual reaction to have. And definitely DO NOT reach out to the bosses wife! You risk making a fool of yourself and your partner.
Yes but I would follow are watch your friends home or call your friends now you can add a tracker on his vehicle…why not best you know then sad, and nit knowing
Girl roll up to your friends house his job ! You got to play detective now. It won’t be hard they stupid
Go find out, your the only one who will be able to confirm.
What everyone else said, check his pay checks or bank account if you all share and if not find out one way or another I guess, follow him, follow her, just show up to his work one day just go check.
It sounds like he could be cheating but dunno
Get your man a new car charger with camera and audio
My husband does construction and sometimes he does work weekends… so sometimes they do…
Buttttt…. A good way to tell is check his checks and see if they are adding up… and also to seem less crazy you can text the owners wife and be like hey, my husband said he was working today and I was wondering how many people was working and where, as I would like to surprise them all with lunch……
Why not ignore it and accept this is your life? Sometimes it’s not worth the battle. You married who he is, if he’s a liar and cheat that’s who you married, if he’s actually working wkends, that’s who you married. I wouldn’t go digging up proof or driving myself nuts, if I enjoyed my marriage. If I didn’t I’d just file for divorce or leave.
Love him or leave him…
Check his payroll for 24 hours of overtime