You’re single, and you start talking to someone… they’re great, but their name is the same as one of your children. Could you date and or marry someone that has the same name as your child? It’s an obscure name too, so it’s not just like “Michael” or “Alex.” Weird or funny? Neutral? He’s a nice guy, but that’s why I’m holding back!
I married someone with the same name as my daughter. We met when she was 3 and they both happen to have the same name. Almost 10 years later, he’s legally adopted her so they even have the same last name, and half the people we meet think we named her after him, only those closest to us know the real story. And since she is his in every way but biological he never corrects anyone, just smiles and says yup that’s my girl. I’d be more concerned about other qualities, introducing too early, things like that then a name.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Could you date someone who has the same name as your child?
If you really like him, then name is NBD. pick a nickname and stick with it! Haha
I’m doing it 
My middle sons name is Tyler and so is my fiancés. I think it’s kinda cool.
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Idk about you but I usually call my SO pet names I rarely use his actual name unless I’m talking about him to other people
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It would be just like marrying someone, having a child and naming the child afyer the father/mother.
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We named my oldest after his dad. But I call him “Bubba”.
My boyfriends name is Kadin and I have a step son named Kayden 
Just do it. It’s not weird. Many kids are named after their dads so idk why it bothers you. It’s just a name.
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This happened to my friend. She found the man of her dreams who fell in love with her and her son. We all find it adorable and makes us love their story even more.
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I dated someone with the same name as my brother, but it’s only as weird as you make it. Silly reason to hold back.
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My husband is named after his dad and my son is named after both of them. It’s just a name. If you like the guy then it shouldn’t matter lol
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If you can’t date him because he has the same name as your child then that’s a you problem. He’s not gonna change his name just because you have a child named that. It’s not weird unless you make it weird.
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I married someone with the same first name as my son
Why not just give them nicknames? It’s really not that big of a deal.
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My husband has the same name as my brother. It was weird at times. But my brother goes by Porky instead of Zach so it all works out and no one gets confused in conversation
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I mean I’m dating someone with the same name as my dad 🤷🏻♀ maybe a little weird but who cares you like him you like him i say go for it
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No, but my mom did I’m CORRI, her ex was Corey. It would be too weird for me
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Call him by his middle name or create a nickname for him
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I was so weirded out by this too hahaha. On Tinder if a guy had the same as my son, I’d just left swipe that because it was so weird to me lol.
But that was just Tinder online stuff. If I had met a really nice guy in real life and had legitimately met in person, I wouldn’t NOT pursue it just because of that.
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Ewwwww imagine saying his name during sex
Yup i could never… goodluck😂
It weirds me out too 
idk why.
My friend married a guy that has a daughter with the same name, they’re spelled differently, but they don’t care.
I don’t think it’s weird at all.
Seems like a really strange reason not to date someone lol
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Seems to me you are finding any and every excuse not to date him. So, do HIM a favor and walk away!
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People name their kids after their spouses sometimes. I am trying to talk my husband, out of it. Lol most won’t agree with what, I’m sharing but it’s my opinion. I moan my husband’s name sometimes. I don’t want my son named that 
just my personal opinion ahaha
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You just aren’t that into him that’s why your holding back nothing to do with the name. If you were into him and him being a nice guy the whole name thing wouldn’t matter
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My sister’s name is Deanna…she married another woman with the same name I call my sister DeeDee and the other one Dee
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My bestie has the same name as my Dad. It’s not weird to me.
People name their children after their parents sometimes and add “jr” or “the second” but since it’s not his dad I could see how it would be weird for you. Give him a nickname if your uncomfortable with it. Don’t sacrifice a good guy just because of his name 
best of luck to you momma!
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I named my son after his father and don’t have a problem with being with his father lol
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You do realize people name their kids after parents, grandparents, etc. My husband is named after his dad and my ex husband is named after his…oh and my dad is after his 
I dated a guy who ended up with a step brother and they both had the same name.
My brother and my kids dad are both named James. I call my brother Jim and my husband Jimmy. They are both named after their fathers as well so one is a Junior and the other is the Third.
Ummmm most people name their kids after either the father, mother or someone in the family.
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My aunt married a William Jr. Their son was William II. They divorced. She married another William Jr…who also had a William.
Once, my husband and some of my aunts and cousins and my mom were talking about who was going to take care of something. It was determined that Billy would do it. We all walked away, and my husband Jeff was with me. I was like, “Dude! What are you doing? You have to go do it!” He looked perplexed. “They said Billy was gonna do it.”
I was like, “Dude! You’re the Billy they mean!”
“But I’m not Billy.”
“Today you’re Billy. And I’m
Dolly. Just do it.”
Is this a serious question?? 
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Yes definitely… my sons name is anthony we just called him little anthony at the time lol
Yeah I would.
This just seems like a horrible excuse not to date someone LMAO
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Date the person not the name
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I’m not sure what difference it make.
No I couldn’t. Lol one of my son’s name is Dylan. And turned down a few.
It’s just a name. Don’t sexualize it.
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Well ppl name their kids after their fathers so… I don’t really see the issue
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Absolutely!!! It’s the man not the name…maybe a nickname for one of them!??
Is this a serious question lol
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How is that any different than naming a son after his father?
Don’t think too hard about it
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I know a woman named Darcy who’s husbands name is also Darcy.
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Sounds to me like your using his name as an escape goat as to not get to attached emotionally maybe even subconsciously doing it if you have had heartbreak before this is just your minds way of protecting your heart if he is all that and you honestly like him I would start by letting my wall down a little hunny and put that whole name thing out your mind hunny my grandfather and my dad not related had the same names lol
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Why would that matter? A ton of people name their kids after themselves.
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He should be weary of you!
What does his name have to do with ANYTHING??? YOUand his mom were thinking alike
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My husband is Justin and my son is Justin Jr. We difference them by calling either lil J or Big J and most time son goes by Bubba to family and friends 
no issues here!!
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I named a child after its father and grandfather so yea ……
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I wouldn’t be bothered. I’ve dated someone with the same name as my dad. Someone with the same name as my grandpa (had his baby and gave the baby that name too), and someone with the same name as my sister’s husband. It’s never been weird. Though if you asked me as a teenager, I would’ve thought it would be weird then lol
Is this a real question??? 
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I don’t see the problem
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For the longest time I used to swipe left on all the names that were either my dad or my brother’s name and I have six brothers so there’s a lot of those also I wouldn’t date a guy with the same name as any of my ex’s so there was that too. Eventually I quit being so picky based on a name and ended up marrying a guy with the same name as my dad.
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It’s very simple, if you’re uncomfortable with it, don’t further the relationship. Sure, people name their kids after their husbands and parents, but this guy isn’t any of those to you. So you do you.
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My oldest son is named after his dad. I don’t think it’s that weird. His name is Peter and we just call his dad Pete and him Peter.
Honestly, the name thing is the last thing to be worried about. Is he a good, honest and hard working man? Would he be good to you and the child? Is their chemistry between you two? I will be totally honest and admit I wouldn’t date a guy that had the exact same first and middle name as my dad. It was awkward to me for some reason. That was many moons ago and I’m happily in another relationship. However, that guy I passed on is a great guy and if things were different I would give him a chance. I grew up and out of the awkwardness.
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If it bothers you that much that they have the same name and this is the only reason you are holding back, then talk with him about it and see about a nickname that you can call him. There’s more people than not that shares the same name.
Plenty of boys are named after their dad. So it’s no different really.
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People name their kids after their spouses it might be weird at first but I think I’d be fine with it. Maybe a nickname for the boyfriend
My husband and father in law are both James’ (but have different middle initials) they go by Jim/Jimmy or either of their nicknames. Why is it weird if you date someone who shares a name with someone else? I know someone who had a son named Zack and her current boyfriend is Zach. Now if I was dating someone with the name of an ex that treated me bad I’d give them a nickname and get past that it’s just a name it doesn’t totally define the person. Not everything has to be sexualized either. If you don’t want to say their name because it reminds you of your child that’s where a nickname can come into play.
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That sounds a little petty. What does his name have to do with anything??
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I dated a guy in high school who shared name with my step-dad. It was weird 
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I mean I’ve dated someone with the same name as my dad so I don’t see what difference it would be if I dated someone with the same name as one of my kids
my husband is a sr and son is a jr. itd be the same thing i call my hubby by his ne amd son is called jr. ik not able to do that for u but its really no different imo
This is so incredibly dumb.
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My ex has the same name as my brother and my now fiancé has the same name as my step-dad. It’s not that big of a deal
Yep this is a you question! I completely understand it took us months and months to decide on a name for our little one and like someone said earlier you really do think all the other significant names in your life. The fact they are the same may create a pathway for a strong bond… On the other hand if we would have gone with the other of our top two it would be just down right confusing. You know if you can handle it.
You couldn’t think it’s that obscure if you named your child it lol… but you’ve answered your question because if you thought anything of him you wouldn’t care.
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My step daughters dad is named Justin. Her BF is also Justin.
We both think it’s weird
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I dated guy with same last name
I’m trying to think how many times I actually call my SO by their first name and it’s like never lol maybe use a little nickname
My ex and my new man have the same name it just happened that way
Just don’t call out the name during sex
Wtf. Really… this is just a reason your coming up with not to date them. Do the guy a favor and move on.
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My dad’s name is Brian my husband’s name is Brian and so is my sons
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It’s about the person, if you like him what does it matter??? Maybe you just don’t like him that much and that’s why you are hesitant???
Yes I could!!!
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Uhm my son is a Jr. So obviously
Plenty of people give their son their fathers names and add a Jr at the end.it would not be weird for me but if it did bother me I’d probably give him a nickname I’d use more often then his real name
My son’s dad and step-grandpa has the same name. So my son’s grandma married a man with the same name as her son. It’s no big deal. Family just calls them Big ___ and Little ____
Geeshhh, calm down everyone! I can see why she would ask the question.
I would definitely date him. If things get serious…come up with a knick name for him.
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Kids are named after spouses all the time so I don’t see how it would be weird.
I would just ask the guy if you could call him a nickname he already has or you make one for him
I have to same name as my husband’s sister and and my middle name is her daughters name…
It’s just a name…
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Wtf
It’s only a name
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Kendra Beaty🤣 Jackson and Jackson! It’s a little different, but still funny🤣
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Jaxxon and Jackson* lmao
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Honestly idk. There was once a teacher’s assistant at my high-school that all my friends were crushing on and they couldn’t understand why I wasn’t. He looked exactly like my brother Justin if he’d walked the straight and narrow all his life lol. Now I think my brother is one of the most handsome guys but idk.
Or you could look at it as destiny but you’ll probably want to call him something different during adult time
Yup,I’ve dated a Tyler and married a john…my 2 oldest boys r Jonathan and tyler
I think it will be fine …My maiden name is linda ware my sister in laws married name is linda ware she married my brother and we worked together at same place same hours we just used are initials to fill out receipts …It worked out just fine …
A lot of people’s kids are named after their spouse or family??
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I can understand the question…but just try it and see how it goeS!!!
I did. Had to say “Boyfriend Name” or “Son Name” to avoid really weird looks though! My daughter had the same name as my mom, so she was “Baby Name” vs. “Grandma Name” when she was little. You could also give one of them a nickname. Or go with “Big Name” and “Little Name.” I know a musician who still goes by “Little Paul” on his albums. Check him out! Little Paul - Album by Little Paul - Apple Music