Daycare isn't listening to me, help!

Dropping my 2 year old off at daycare today and I explained that he has a very sore bumbum and I just gave him Tylenol and would like him given it again at 1( when he would be due). They know he gets diaper rashes and have had to deal with epically bad diaper changes with hysterically cries, him saying it hurts, thashing, etc . She said she can't just give it to him and she will call me. I will be at work ( I am a rn w covid patients ) if I miss the call will she not dose him? I just told her to and there is a note on file from peds w his dose and it says for pain or fever. What am I missing bc I'm about to drop kick the lady for questioning my parenting choices.
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Daycares can not give otc meds. Only prescriptions but you are more then welcome to go up there and give it to him. Doesnt matter if doctor filled a form out, if its otc then it’s a no. Only prescriptions. I work at one

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Working in a preschool myself, our DCF won’t allow us to thanks to other centers and negligent parents that overdose children. My center agrees with the aggravation but legally have to follow or get shut down. EMERGENCY situations like epipens we’re allowed to administer but :woman_shrugging:t3: you might want to research your local DCF rules as well. It’s important to remember it’s not her fault UNLESS their center can legally, then by all means drop kick her lol

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I work in a daycare and for that we would need a form filled out by the doctor and times of dosages. We are not allowed to just give it out to him per state regulations. Make sure you have a medication form filled by your doctor out with dosage times and how much.

With the risk of sounding judgemental. Tylenol for a diaper rash? And this happens often??? Perhaps solve that problem first. Pain medication shouldn’t be a go to. Treat the problems not just the symptoms. There is a greater issue here if your child is constantly getting rashes and its so bad you have to give them pain meds for it.

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If it’s not prescription it has to be written on a drug chart by doctor

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Destin and cornstarch is amazing…

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As a daycare employee in our state we can not give OTC meds even with a doctors note . It needs to be a prescription medicine with a doctors note and medication log filled in . This is state regulation, so ur threat of drop kicking this lady for following what most likely is a state regulation is absurd. Also I have been in the child care field for almost 20 years and I have never heard of giving a child Tylenol for a diaper rash , this is a case for a strong ointment

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need a better doctor who will help you find the cause of the frequent diaper rashes–tylenol does not help. Difficult to treat, painful rashes are usually yeast related adn for some reason some doctors do not recognize this.

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If it’s like most daycares it’s in their policies they cannot give Tylenol to children. But there are strong diaper rash creams to better help treat the rash better than Tylenol would as I have found. There’s also Vaseline. I use Vaseline and zincofax for bad bum rashes.

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Stop giving him juice. Mine gets diaper rash every time he has applesauce or juice. Even if the juice is mostly water. I just don’t give it to him any more. Pedialyte is a better option for us. A&D is fastest at making the rash better for us also.

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My daughter’s daycare would not give pain meds, fever reducers, or allergy meds no more due to covid! So maybe its that!

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This really helps with my grandchildren. And it helps heal it faster. And no need to touch there sensitive area

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Why is a 2y.o. in diapers?

Use cornstarch, not creams. Let him air out. Solve the problem, stop putting a bandaid on it.

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We don’t allow Tylenol at our school. Even with a doctor’s note. The child must be given the meds before they arrive. I worked wt a center where the parent just gave the child Motrin right before she brought them to the classroom. She told the infant teacher that he needed to be given the meds immediately. I told the teacher she just gave it to him right before she brought him to the room. I was making the breakfast and delivering it to the classrooms and I saw her give it to him as I walked by. She handed me the medicine so I could put it in the kitchen to give it to him later. I notified the director when she came in and she said absolutely not. We could only give it to them at noon and the parent got pissed. After that she made the policy no OTC meds allowed even with a Dr. Note. Also sometimes it’s a licensing policy as well depending on the state.

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How is she questing tour parenting choices?

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This is why I’m afraid to put my child in daycare. She has CAH and requires 3 doses of hydrocortisone daily (prescribed) and there’s an emergency injection if she ever breaks a bone or has a high fever or vomits her med up. But if she spikes a fever she then needs a stress dose with is a full pill versus a quarter her normal dose. I just feel like she will get a fever and goes unnoticed and she needs a stress dose or they’ll forget to give her meds in the afternoon, which can cause her to go into adrenal insufficiency shock. I’m just paranoid and terrified once she begins school. But by then she’ll be old enough to voice to people she needs her medication. But her condition CAH a fever can put her in the hospital or worse death. So this kinda screws people like us. She needs her stress dose and Tylenol to bring down the fever ASAP when she gets one.

As long as there is a doctor’s note and mine makes you sign a paper for permission for them to do it, I don’t see why there should be a problem.

You know what completely eliminates Diaper rash In a 2 year old? Potty training them! Problems SOLVED

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Maybe he needs to start potty training to prevent this!

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If this is a foster child they legally can not until they are 3 no matter what.

An RN who calls diaper rash a " sore bumbum"? A medical professional when told the company’s OTC meds policy considered it to be “questioning her parenting” and wants to assault her?

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Cornstarch is a life saver.

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Dr and parents need to figure out source of diaper rash it could be yeast in which case would require prescription medicine.

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I’ve been a daycare worker. Over the counter meds were legally not allowed to be given, even with a doctor’s note. Only prescription meds and only with instructions and medicine chart to track doses.

Also…I’ve been a Mom for 6 1/2 years now, an aunt for 16, and working with children for 18. I have NEVER heard of Tylenol being used to treat diaper rash. He needs a topical medicine to both treat and numb the area, and if this is a repeated problem, it’s likely due to something like prolonged exposure to something he’s allergic to, or eating something he’s allergic to. If his pediatrician hasn’t done something about it by now, I would switch doctors and get to the bottom of it.

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Try changing the diaper brand. Expensive brands caused my daughter to have the same issues. Oddly enough, Walmart brand diapers and nystatin fixed it.

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She might legally not be allowed to. My sons daycare needed prescription meds only. Otherwise they open themselves up to lawsuit.

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Tylenol is not going to help him with the pain from a diaper rash. I suggest taking him to the doctor if this is happening often. If powder and diaper rash creams are not working than something more serious is going on! If u have took him to the doc already and they haven’t gave u something stronger for his diaper rashes than find a diff doc. Your son should not have to suffer.

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As a previous daycare provider I can tell you, even if we want to give the kiddo Tylenol for that, we can’t without having a specific doctors note stating you can give it for that reason. If you have one, then no problemo, and you can give it with your written agreement (I used text messages because it time stamps them with the parent giving permission).
But if you don’t then it has to be done the way your provider is doing it.
I hate to say it but the laws of each state are serious on that and you can lose your license or be fined for doing that. It is that serious and one of the things they check on every inspection.
For reference I’m in Nebraska.

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Get the baby some corn starch and diaper rash cream, he doesn’t need Tylenol for a diaper rash. Shes not questioning your parenting so relax, it’s probably daycare policy.

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Most daycares aren’t allowed. No need to drop kick her. I’m sure she isn’t questioning your parenting choice. She could lose her daycare license if she gave it to him

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I’ve never heard of a day care or school not giving kids their medicine as long as Dr note is given. Weird. Also about the rash, I know u didn’t ask, but is it maybe from teething? Or the diapers being used?

My daycare does not give over the counter medicine either. They can’t. It is against the guidelines. Currently my daughter has pneumonia and has to get breathing treatments every four hours. So guess what… im staying home to give her breathing treatments. It is tough and im blessed to have a job that will accommodate her needs. But they just can’t.

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Why is the cause if the Diaper rash not being treated? I may have overlooked it, but creams or powders do wonders. Maybe he needs to see a new dr because a never ending diaper rash is NOT normal. Try adding yogurt into their diet also. Could be yeast for all we know.

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There’s so many things wrong with this post… you wanna drop kick a day care provider yet you’re a rn working with patients…:thinking: um… let him run free at home even if he’s not potty trained… if you can clean up after animals, you can clean up after the baby. Minimize the rash in all areas.

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As a recent daycare owner…I was not allowed to give over the counter medication.

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She isn’t allowed to, it’s not about questioning your parenting she is trying to keep her license.

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Our daycare can’t give medication without a doctor’s note and prescription. They have rules they have to follow.

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A lot of daycares are not able to give any kind of prescriptions or medications to children at all! If you have to give your child Tylenol then perhaps you should keep them at home until they are well enough for daycare without being uncomfortable. Maybe you as the parent should be treating the diaper rash yourself and looking into the cause of it instead of making the daycare providers responsible.

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Sounds like your child has a yeast infection. I would treat the rash so it stops happening.

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Corn starch helped anytime my kids got a rash . My grandmother used it on her 7 kids my mom on me and my 3 kids .

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My daycare will only give it if it’s prescribed.

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Butt paste works amazing!!!

Daycares can not give medicine to you child not even a vitamin. If he is having bad troubles with that give caldesene powder or aquaphore or something to help with the rash. If it is that bad go to the doctor. Also diaper rash can be fro. The foods he is eating. Such as food with high acidity.

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Butt paste worked great for my kids, desitin wasn’t bad either. Maybe he’s having an allergic reaction to the diapers, or soaps. Definitely get back with the doctor for tests if it’s recurring as you’ve stated

Coming from a child care provider she has to have your written permission before giving it to him. When my parents tell me to give their child any type of medicine I always let them know that I will call or message them in our app first.

I have gone through almost the same exact issue with my youngest child. It turned out to be an enzyme issue. No matter what was used, nothing helped. Get your child an appointment with a pediatric G.I. Dr. Also try yogurt once a day with live active cultures in it, not the fruity sugar filled kinds.

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By law they are not allowed to give meds. I had to have a doctors note for my sons home made organic diaper rash salve.

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My grandaughter has to have medicine when she’s at daycare and we just fill in a form with all details on and they’ve been brilliant always gave it her not sure if it’s because she has to have everyday since she was born but we’ve seen other parents staying there child needs Calpol or other remedies at certain times and they’ve been fine

One word…MONOSTAT

it’s a yeast infection

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My daycare wouldn’t give Tylenol without a doctor’s note.

Sounds like someone needs to get off their high fucking horse and use their pea sized brain for a minute. Legally a day care CANT. So be a parent. Take time off work and take care of your own damn child

Daycare teachers aren’t allowed to give out medicine only nurses and a Dr. notes has to be on file for the nurse to distribute it.

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Why are you treating diaper rash with Tylenol? Why not get him a prescription cream to treat the rash if OTC aren’t working?

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Seriously? In most states we legally cannot give medication. I would have told a parent the same. If your child is that bad off either be there to dose them or keep them home. Im not a nurse or that child’s mother. It is not part of my job to give your child drugs :woman_shrugging: You sound like a nightmare for that poor teacher to have to deal with.

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Tylenol for diaper rash is crazy u need to figure out what is causing it and day cares can’t give out meds

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I don’t know how to report but you Valerie are WAY out of line!! Read the rules. NO BASHING. Get outa here! Can someone please report!!!

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Make it into a paste with water. At will be cleared up by the morning.

Plus let him air out. Let him run around with out a diaper on. If he peed so what just clean it up. He will feel so much better.

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As a daycare teacher, we are not allowed to give medicine to any student unless there is a doctors note and it is prescribed. If there is a doctors note, we still have to call the parent prior to administering medication.

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Have you tired figuring out the root problem of his diaper rashes? Tylenol might help with pain for a short time but won’t cure his rash.

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Baking soda baths will clear it right up this has been my go to and advice for 30+ years. Sprinkle a little in the tub and let them soak for a good 5-10 mins no soap on the rash. You can follow up with a zinc diaper rash cream. Within a day or two it should be gone. I hope this helps… as for the day care I’d punt her across the room… lol no just kidding but I definitely would speak to her in my best Karen tone to express that these are doctors instructions just as any child with a food allergy has doctors instructions that you must follow for the health and safety of the child. Just a mom/Nana’s two cents… but I promise baking soda soaks are a miracle! Never put it directly on the skin though like in a diaper because it will burn the skin… but when it’s diluted in the tub water it’s fine. :heart::pray:

She’s not questioning your parenting choices :roll_eyes: She told you she CAN’T give it.

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Your son probably needs Nystatin ointment from his pediatrician.

I know the frustration. But you will have to have someone that’s on his emergency list to come give him tylenol.

If he’s old enough to tell you it hurts he’s old enough to be potty trained or at least start to potty train. This whole letting the child decide to train is dumb. If he’s that sensitive to diapers sounds like he needs to be changed more often

Try Resinol. You can get it over the counter at the grocery store. It works wonders.

Why the hell are you treating a diaper rash with tylenol? There are a dozen better options that don’t include drugs.

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Just get a new daycare they don’t respect you and I doubt it will change.

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They give meds to my daughter here in Texas

Pennsylvania also will give meds without phone call. Example: had cold/sore throat teacher gave motrin and tylenol 4hrs apart like her orders were written in her little medicine card. They did text me at the end of the day saying how she was. I’m also a nurse that can’t always answer calls and grandma did pick up. She is also 2. I think they gave it before for her falling and busting her lip open, but that involved an incident report so they did call me for that. As long as she has a medicine card signed by myself stating they were shown how to administer it they can give it.

Day care is not allowed to dispense any medication

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Tylenol isn’t the best choice a Cream or corn starch would be better. Tylenol may help with pain but doesn’t clear the rash up the rash still continues Tylenol would just mask it. Most daycares will not give medication without a medical not or they ask that you give the medication.

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Perhaps he’s allergic to the type of diaper that he wears my son couldn’t wear a certain brand and he also had extremely sensitive skin so right after I would change his diaper I would let him run around and get some air knowing that he had just went number two or that he had just went number one in a fresh diaper I would clean him up and take it off but I would definitely try some of the home remedies perhaps change a brand of diaper and try to get to the root of the problem if for some reason it just doesn’t want to clear up for you I would go see a skin specialist for children he may have a specific type of allergy some children even have food allergies that can create issues for them when they have a bowel movement because something in the bowel movement has now caused an irritation in the skin

Brown flour in a skillet and apply it once it cools. My son had bad rashes growing up. His was from to many acidic foods.

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Am I the only one that caught that she’s treating DIAPER RASH with TYLENOL? yes Tylenol will help for pain, but that baby needs an ointment or cream. Probably some lotrimin and a thick diaper rash cream over will help. Oat baths work too.

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I’ve worked in a daycare for 6 years and I can tell you that any licensed daycare is not allowed to administer any medication that is not prescribed by a doctor. If I’m at work and I think my son needs Tylenol I have to leave my class and go give it to him. We have polices too and not following them will get you fired real quick. Especially when it comes to medication. If you filled out a medication sheet that simply mean it’s not prescribed and you administer it as to ensure you are fully responsible for any mishaps. And even if it’s a non prescription medication you still have to have a doctor’s approval on the medication, even in Pennsylvania section 3270.133

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Daycares cannot give your children medicine and if they do they aren’t supposed to. Daycare worker of 7 years in Texas here…

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Idk bout daycare but in most schools u need a form filled out with doctor & parent signatures

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Honestly petroleum jelly helps my kiddo unless it is a yeast based. It helps make a barrier as well as the moisture helping it heal more quickly.

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What?! If they need medicene they shohld just have a form you fill out explaining and giving them permission to?! Thats what my daycare does!

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:rofl::rofl::rofl:its the drop kick for me :rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:
I love this :woman:

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Tylenol won’t help clearing up the rashes. You need a prescription or a better butt cream

Calmoseptine is absolutely amazing! And they can definitely give him his medicine. Sounds like she’s being lazy and doesn’t want to fill out the paperwork it takes in order to administer the dose. I honestly would look for a new daycare, it doesn’t sound like they’re doing things with your sons best interest at heart.

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I would never give my kid Tylenol for a diaper rash. That just doesn’t sound right to me. I see people giving it to kids all the time for anything and it’s all was a WTF moment for me. Good diaper rash cream and changing diaper often is a much better way to deal with it. Just my opinion.

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It’s a legal thing. They can’t

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Sit him in a bath and put baking soda in it…you will be amazed how fast it clears up

If that’s some type of policy or legal thing she isn’t questioning your parenting choice so I would try to relax. They probably aren’t allowed to do it or aren’t allowed to do it at a specific time without your ok at the specific time.

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Most daycare won’t administer meds at all, for any reason. If they need to be medicated, they need to stay home :woman_shrugging:

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Daycares and schools are not legally allowed to give children any type of medicine. Not even lotion unfortunately. I don’t think they’re questioning your parenting skills. They’re just trying to keep their job :slight_smile: I hope your little one feels better soon!

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A child care facility isn’t able to give children meds.

Cornstarch works wonder and olive oil I have use it with my kids it works

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Hey, op! My kid got horrible rashes. Blisters, cracked and bleeding bum. The only thing that helped was gold bond medicated baby powder.
Also, if you are giving him whole milk, change to 1% or skim. It has all the vitamins of whole milk but you will need to supplement the fat because their brains need the fat (avocado, cheese, 4% cottage cheese). My son was allergic to milk fat. As soon as he pooped after having whole milk, his bum would be red and blister. Tylenol did help.
Also, if he’s gotten whole milk today, give him plenty of other fluids (Pedialyte, Gatorade, etc …) to flush it out of his system.
Good luck!!

Drop kick her indeed. :woman_shrugging::joy:

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Is everyone missing the part in her post where she says she is an RN and there is a note on file from the child’s doctor with the dosing instructions? I am not understanding why the daycare can not administer it with a doctors order given.

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Diaper rash and just as a regular during diaper changes we used stuff called Bag balm it’s for like dry cracked hands and stuff for milking cows and it was awesome stuff

Drop kicking someone for not being able to do something due to their job rules is a bit ridiculous. Some daycares can medicate and some won’t to protect themselves and your children JUST INCASE anything got mixed up. Load him up on diaper cream for daycare and let him run around nakey at home so he can air out. :roll_eyes::roll_eyes::roll_eyes::roll_eyes:

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We use a balm called Butt Cream. It really works wonders.

It has nothing to do will your skills as a parent…We as daycare providers have to follow a guide line…The Parent. Have to fill out a medical form for any and all medicine …including diaper cream…its a DCF policy…

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I mean c’mon yall, it’s like saying you can’t administer my kid insulin and that said child should be kept home.
Get real!
They absolutely can administer at specified times etc… this is what all those forms in the health room/school nurse are for.!
Why do parents pick up left over medication st the end of the school year? Why do the SAME kids leave class at the SAME time EACH & EVERY day (like clockwork​:upside_down_face::expressionless::woozy_face:) to head to the health room for their daily doses.
Schools and daycares can absolutely administer meds.
Even Tylenol and Advil have to go through the health room if you want your kid to take it.
:100:
What my kid can’t go to school ‘cause they need life or death medication DAILY?:pill: get out :weary::sweat_smile:

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