Do I have a right to be upset? My husband and I went to the store and I realized my period was 5 days late…so I grabbed a test. We are NOT TTC or anything so it kinda made me nervous as our youngest is 10…well we get home, and we bring all the bags inside and I do not take the test out because my 10 year old daughter is in the kitchen and I didnt want anyone to know unless there was something to know…my husband went behind my back and thought it was funny to throw the test on the counter in front of my daughter so she could see it…and she got upset like “WHY DO YOU NEED THIS MOM?!”…I WAS PISSED. I was already unsure how I was feeling about having to take the test and possibly being pregnant and by him throwing it on the counter, I felt like I really couldn’t process anything…thankfully I took the test and it was negative but my husband doesn’t see an issue with his actions or see why I am upset…but my whole point was, what it was positive? I wouldn’t have time to process anythign because my daughter knew and was upset about why I needed it…I just felt like she shouldnt even have known unless there was something to know and I am kinda hurt by my husbands actions…he told me he was sorry and he was just joking aroudn with me but i truly feel like he doesnt understand why i blew up…was I over reacting?
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Did I overreact about my husband putting a pregnancy test on the kitchen counter?
Yes. You’re overreacting lol.
Yes a bit, I mean you don’t need to flip out just let it be known you didn’t like that and explain why. Men don’t think alot lol
Definitely over reacting
Yes you’re overreacting
I don’t like saying people are overreacting because your feelings are always valid but I think in this case he genuinely meant no harm in it
Your daughter was upset more than likely because we as children like to believe our parents don’t be baby making haha I think you should tell him it wasn’t funny to you but let it go.
He probably wasn’t thinking about hiding it
You’re definitely overreacting.
For 1 ur daughter shouldn’t had been upset, 2 he needs to respect boundaries bc for some women who arent wanting more kids it can be a lot to take in, and 3 kids don’t need to be involved in adult things
I suggest taking another one… you overreacted lol
Maybe he was as anxious to find out as you may have been ?
I mean, I would have been a little pissed and told him to move it and stop being a d!ck…but I wouldn’t have went as far as being actually really angry and falling out with him
I honestly would of laughed and been like “well here we go again” 
Kinda an overreaction in my opinion.
It’s a test…why does it matter if your ten year old knows you took one 
jeez.
You’re overreacting honey!
Maybe he thought he was being funny- but no I’d be pissed too - not the 10 yr olds business .
I would be pissed so I don’t think you over reacted!
Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Sorry, but yes, I think you’re overreacting hon 
Ehh i mean yeah you are. Its a simple answer to give your daughter especially since she is 10. My daughter is 5 an we have been trying since she was 3. She knows what pregnancy test are an what they are for. A simple explanation to her letting her know that mommy just missed her period so she needs to make sure there is no baby in the oven.
Did you ask him to keep it discreet?
Overreacting… first men do not think of it like that. Second - great place to explain your daughter how sex and pregnancy goes, what it is, safe sex etc. if she is ten she is starting to enter into this world already (I have 10yo Dd).
Overreacting big time.
Sounds like he was playing with you and was possibly excited about another baby. And why would your 10 year old be upset?
I think you’re overreacting. Men don’t see things the same way as we do. I think he was just poking at you in fun.
I say take another one!
I think you’re over reacting he didn’t mean any harm by it and he apologized. Yes pregnancy test can be stressful but I think he did it to lighten the mood
Definitely over reacting. Most men try to defuse the tension with comedy I think that’s what he was trying to do.
Yes you are because we have more serious issues in front of us.
Maybe he was excited about it
Ok but all I’m hearing is “what you were thinking” your husband can’t hear your thoughts… so why are you mad when YOU’RE the one who didn’t communicate that you didn’t want anyone to know…
Yeah…life goes on & on! 
Yeah I think you definitely overreacted!!
Behind your back implys that you specifically told him you didn’t want your child to know that you had a test and then did it anyway.
Did you tell him beforehand that you didn’t want her to know? If so, yes I’d be upset.
If not, then not really because you didn’t express your feelings. And if he didn’t know, then you can’t blame him.
Did you tell him beforehand you didn’t want to bring it out in front of your daughter, or did you just hide it in a bag and hope he read your mind?
Over reacting. It’s not a big deal u could have just said how did they get in there by accident. Or it was a joke or u thought it was a covid test. It’s not that big a deal to actually post ab it
Let it go. Use bc and it won’t be an issue.
I mean the kid is 10 . It is a part of life she should know ab bc her period will probably be coming soon. Ur married its not like he’s just some bf
You are way overreacting. Get a grip girl. Geez
Sounds like a perfect teaching opportunity to your kid! For numerous things
Yeah you absolutely overreacted. Who cares if your child knows if you guys could possibly be pregnant 
her reaction to being mad is a her issue, your grown good god. If you have another baby, she needs to adapt to that. You 100% are being silly
You are in fact pregnant. Hormone proven 
I’m not sure that YOU know why you blew up. It would have been a different story if he tossed it in the middle of the table during Easter dinner with both families sitting around the table.
Honestly, I think your emotions were heightened because of the possibility and when we women are stressed about something, it affects everyone and everything around us.
Your daughter is 10. She’s old enough for you to have an honest conversation with her. Personally, I strongly believe that parents need to have open and honest communication with their children.
Give your husband a break.
Me, honestly…… sounds like such a small thing. So much more to be angry about. Some times making light of a situation is more helpful then playing whisper down the lane. I mean if you are you are. It is what it is.
No, you’re not. That’s NOT anyone’s business but yours and your husbands and he could’ve respected you enough to not broadcast it. “Mom missing her period” isn’t the conversation for dinner in the house. It was not your child’s business and she should not have saw that. Children do not belong in adult situations.
Did u mention to him before at the store u didn’t want her to know yet ? If not you are over reacting . Also wait a few days and take another one
yes… you overreacted…
He can’t read your mind… mens brains dont wirk like ours… forgive him
Your feelings are genuine & you have every right to feel that way. I wouldn’t have reacted that way, but that’s me. Just try and look from each other’s point of views.
This would have been a good teaching moment. Not to be embarrassed.
Unless he knew how you felt beforehand, yes you overreacted.
ALSOOOOOO ……BUT I mean……I’m sorry ……I gotta ask are you expecting? Lol
Maybe do another test in a few days…
Definitely over reacting…SMH
Yes you were overreacting
Yeah, I’d say you overreacted. He can’t read your mind.
Hate to see how you handle real problems. Lol
It’s not that serious
Yes. Men do not think like we do and we can NOT expect them to just know how we think and feel 24/7. It would be so easy to laugh it off with the 10 year old and be like “oh its for a friend or a joke” or whatever and then calmly explain to him what’s up. That’s communication. I would not make a big argument out of something so small. That’s what causes resentment and issues in marriages.
You are over reacting
Well, I think he’s got an odd sense of humor. But I really don’t think he meant to cause a problem. I think your 10 year old over reacted. What if it had been positive? She would have had to get over it. But I would let it go. It’s over now.
Why is it women are the only ones that can feel any type of way when it comes to pregnancy smh… Def over reacted he is a MAN he will NEVER understand those parts of you and if you don’t want a kid I suggest getting your tubes tied him a vasectomy or doubling up the birth control!
Naw, I’d be pissed, too.
If he apologized and you’re still on it and it was negative anyway, let that shit go. Now he knows, but he didn’t before, and expecting him to know how it feels to be pregnant or what a personal time that is , is a bit much because men cannot conceive nor are they mind readers. Now that he knows, if he were to do this sort of thing again should the situation ever arise again, then yes, be mad. But if he apologized and you’re still on Facebook big mad, then yes, you’re way overreacting.
Well you said it in your own post
(he doesn’t understand why I blew up)
Talk to your daughter about periods and pregnancy? Her being upset is kind of overstepping
I literally bought a box of 50 pregnancy tests. But also it wasn’t really a secret that we were trying.
Did you tell him you were hosting it or just expect him to know? You could have stuck out in the bathroom.
Maybe take another test… your upset over something so small
Honestly - so inconsiderate & immature. I’m so sorry. Not all people realize what is a “joke” and what is emotional torture
Over reacting in my opinion
It’s life! You didn’t traumatize your kid. It’s just an emotional time, it’s okay for you wanting to keep it private so just tell him how you made it feel so he won’t do it again. 
Life is too short to be angry over something as trivia as this. Plus it’s about you both!
I agree with you. Kids shouldn’t know those things unless we’re actually having a conversation with them about it.
As a woman, I understand completely. Men just don’t think like that. You gotta spell it out for them.
Wow! Definitely not that serious If you don’t want to get pregnant take the proper precautions, hopefully nothing too serious happens in your life
Did you have a reason to be upset, yes. Is it worth a long drawn out fight, that could be harmful for your marriage, no. You’ll need to work through it and let it go…I’m a private person so I get being upset about it…
Why do you feel the need to hide this from your 10 year old child or explain it?
Definitely over reacting. Not sure why that would upset your 10 year old unless something is missing 
Definitely over reacting.
Overreacted maybe. He did say sorry.
Is your daughter upset that her PARENTS are having sex? My 10 year old boy doesn’t know how babies are made yet so I cant give advice but this isnt real life problems😂
You should have communicated with him on how you felt , hes not a mind reader. You completely over reacted.
Over-reacting. It’s not a big deal unless you make it one. This shouldn’t have qualified as anything more than a mild annoyance. File it, and move on.
No! You had your privacy disrespected. He was crude.
Your daughter shouldn’t have a say so in her mothers sex life or be upset about it
Honestly yes, I feel like you are over reacting a bit. Not horribly but enough. Men just don’t think about those little things when they joke. I understand why you got upset though, kids don’t need to know those things unless ya know it’s a thing. It sounds harmless enough, just not well thought out. I would let this one go. Pick your battles wisely.
If that’s how you feel, that’s how you feel about the situation. None of us knows if it’s sensitive to you, I think he could have thought it out what his actions are by doing that. You can be upset if you want to, not overreacting.
Yes, I agree. I feel it was an over reaction, but if it truly bothered you, you have a right to express your feelings of course, but I would see no way of him knowing his actions would affect you in this situation.
He’s bogus af for that!
I would have laughed…
Yes way over reacting. Life is tough already, no need to add to it.
Way overreacting. Lord have mercy.
I thinking your pregnant hahaha its your daughter not a streanger
Overactive!! It is life and if you haven’t had discussion on or about sex or babies then you making your child live under a tree. He is a man. He didn’t know what it was about come in give him a break.
I seen this same post in another mom group a coupe of days ago…but yes over reacting
Obviously u guys haven’t discussed having more or not…it seams u are 2 different pages on this matter it seams he was excited and wanted to share in the excitement of the moment with the fam buuuut u were not so excited u realize how hard having a baby after 10 yrs would be …now ur realived hes disappointed and ur daughter is confused …I think u 2 should talk about it get on the same page and talk to the kid…u way over reacted and now u have an issue u didnt know u had
Yes. You’re husband is pretty much ready haha don’t be upset. If you are just let it go.
It’s not about being embarrassed. It’s about processing another kid, and another pregnancy
Pregnancy tests are the first thing to do when your period is being f#cky, definitely something your daughter should know about tbh.
Explain that lots of things can cause a missed period and that a pregnancy test is the first step see what going on
You cant control how ppl act, only how you react. it comes down to what “you wanted” so the issue is you didnt “get what you wanted” than you should have made it crystal clear it was to remain hidden before even entering your home
U not overreacting. Men are just like that. They don’t think before they act. Like kids