I don’t think ur being insensitive. You guys made a commitment to each other and now he doesn’t want to keep up his end of the deal. SAHM is a full-time job regardless of what any man thinks.
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I think you both want different things. If you can look for couple’s therapy. Otherwise, I don’t see too much future on that relationship.
If you can continue studying online while the kids are asleep, or, try online classes. You can always do manual jobs but it would be hard to get a proper job without secondary school education. Don’t give up on you and your future just because you have kids. However, he is feeling the pressure of maintaining the home on a lower income and wasn’t happy about losing happy moments with the kids. It’s hard to give an opinion, as you both need to work it out either together or separately.
Your not being unreasonable. You have been a homemaker and this is a situation a lot of women have been in. Being a homemaker is valid work. Also you probably save your family a lot of money. He is inconsistent with his feelings, only wanting to do things when they are easy. If I were you I would get self sufficient so if you have to support your kids alone, you can.
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Get your GED and get out in the work force where you can build your self esteem and not have to depend on a man. As long as a car gets you from point A to point B who cares what it cost. You can do this!
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Definitely support your husband in finding LOCAL work, the school districts are BEGGING for bus drivers and competitive wages. UPS, FED EX, AMAZON, if he could be Home nights and weekends You could get a GED and vocational training
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You are most definitely in a fantasy world & need to wake up. First off its horrible youd say that what if one day you dont want to be a mom. You are the only mother those kids know & do you know how many women wish they could be moms but cant? Just because you have no respect that your husband came to you & said hes unhappy at his job doesnt mean you get to say screw it I dont wanna be a mom anymore. Plenty of states offer GED or even high school diploma programs. Look into it. No job except fast food is going to hand you a job without a high school equivalent. You come off VERY self centered in this whole post. You need to support him he has supported you for this long in being a stay at home mom, making sure you & the kids have what you need as well as buying a 35K car. Some of us WISH we could live like that. My husband let me stay home to go to college when we had our first. He never tells me I cant work nor do I ever tell him I cant work. We literally cant afford daycare or Id be working. With baby #2 on the way we penny pinch where ever we can. Try therapy & see how that goes. Otherwise I cant think of what else to say.
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Watch MAID ON Netflix.
Sounds like you like the benefits of the relationship life style and of him being away but don’t actually want to be around him and do what it takes to keep the relationship going
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Wow 
Your husband deserves to be home with his family just as much as you!!!
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Life is unpredictable and plans can change years later. People can get burned out, stressed and mentally tired from working a draining job. With that being said, y’all should have planned better with his truck driving career. It seems like he could have bought his own truck over the years and became his own operator. That way he could have controlled every aspect of his driving career, including how much time is spent on driving. Or even employed other drivers on his behalf…But it’s not unreasonable for both to work in a household. It’s just too stressful in these times for a household’s financial responsibility to be all on one person. Get your GED and a trade. That would be the quickest way to make a decent salary. My husband and I work opposite shifts so we don’t need childcare. He works overnight and loves that it’s not as stressful. Some people keep thinking you won’t spend time together, but that’s not true. We spend time everyday together after he gets some rest. And we have the same off weekends.
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Sounds like the husband wants more of a family life and IMO he deserves that as well. Why shouldn’t things be 50/50?
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I think you need to stop for a second and really think about what you want. Do you want your relationship with this person ? If so, it may make more sense too have a 2 income household. I have lived the stay at home wife life and lived off one income we had a serious budget and as hard as it was at times there were certain luxuries we had to do without… including expensive vehicle’s, campers etc. It really comes down too how far your willing to go to maintain the lifestyle you want. I wish you the best. 
Things change, he wants to be at home more. Get some studying done and get out there and get a job. It will do you good
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Start with getting your GED
Hes your husband not your ATM. Shit happens in life unexpectedly so try and support him in finding something he loves to do. I understand being a stay at home mom is important and a lot of work too but im sure he’s feeling the pressure of trying to provide for his family and trying to be happy and keep you happy as well. Men’s feelings often get overlooked. Talk to him, work something out. Good luck girly.
Your husband is asking for your help, so start by getting your GED and then get out there and work. Even packing shelves at night.
Breaking his agreement for what supporting you and your children. As for him being impatient you really haven’t given him much praise he works all the time as is probably tired and have you given thought he wants to change job to be at home more for his children?
As for not wanting to be a mum anymore you should have thought about that before you had children as they are a life long commitment regardless of age. Wake up before you lose everything
Ignore all the hate! I can’t believe all the hateful undertones of these messages. 
What you are experiencing is called burnout! Happens to all of us if we are honest!
Trust your inner voice you are their mom for a REASON!
Only you know what’s best for them. Certainly sounds like Dad is full of empty promises and a risk taker. Talk to him! Tell him how you REALLY feel - be calm & let him talk too. Approach it delicately because men are sensitive about not being able to be sole provider even if they believe in total equality of the sexes. Make time to communicate & compromise.
Start budgeting now - if it’s cheaper to get another car get one! But if you get a lesser vehicle he does too! Really evaluate your situation first to see payment/insurance wise how much you could be saving!!!
Struggle bus a little now to have the life you want a little later!
Sell the Camper!
Get GED!
If there’s anyone that can watch the kids while you are working let them & pick up side jobs until you get GED!
I clean houses on the side and earn an extra $600/month (but I’ve just started)
Or you could babysit some kids too! Maybe offer Friday & Saturday night care?
And if your not on birth control get it STAT!
Look up a company called retail data llc they are in multiple states and you make your own hours to fit around your schedule. Its a company that does pricing at the stores very easy to do.
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Get over yourselves and you both go work to provide for them babies. Sell the vehicles if you need the money. It isnt about you once you have kids. Do what is best for them.
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I’m just gonna throw this out there you need to be able to take care of yourself and those kids. so Yes the pressures on get a job get your ged If you want to kick him to the curb kick him to the curb
You’re fragile? No you’re childish af!
How did he break ANY commitment. We are allowed to change careers. And yes YOU SHOULD BE WORKING!! Sounds like you’re with him because he made good money.
Try supporting him in his decisions and not acting like an entitled juvenile brat.
And you separated over this? Lmao .welcome to adulthood and parenting.
She is being very unreasonable. She’s a mother time She grows up