He said he was gonna make me dinner. When I got off work and got home the pork chops weren’t thawed. I cleaned the kitchen, then had dinner ready by 10…
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I dont know about everyone else but my wife went above and beyond. Chocolates, a card, cute outfit and extra stuff. She and I act like we are still trying to win eachother we celebrate everything about our relationship and family. If you didnt get something im so sorry.
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I didn’t get anything. Honestly to be loved a little extra on one day is meh to me. I wanna always be loved that way. Valentines day isn’t about presents. For me. But if thats your tradition, I get it.
Im sorry . i buy sentimental gifts with thought in them too or make something. He will get a card and stuffed animal candy. Im thankful… But i want somethings with alot of planning and thought sometimes.nthey miss the mark sometimes… And not mean to at times. Love languages are so important to know…
He let me sleep in and kept the toddler quiet. He also cleaned up a bunch. Acts of service are my love language
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He didn’t even say happy Valentine’s Day to you? 
This makes me really sad…my husband and I have been together 9 years and we always do our best to make each other feel special on days like Valentine’s Day, birthdays, etc…we may not get each other a bunch of gifts but I always make us special food, he will get me my coffee, we find time to spend together alone when the kids are preoccupied, and just try to make the day about being sweet to each other.
I didn’t get anything. I cooked him dinner, made a cake with chocolate dipped strawberries and bought chocolates for him. I also bought chocolates for my kids (previous relationship). I don’t celebrate due to personal reasons but that doesn’t mean the kids and him don’t.
My husband and I have been together for 21yrs. We don’t celebrate vday bc it is not a big deal for us. Anniversaries are more important or random days where he wants to be thoughtful but to go crazy on a day where the real story behind it is kind of twisted, we decided to not indulge in the hype. Now, our couples anniversary we always do a lunch…no need to get gifts unless one or the other wants too. Our wedding Anniversary is where we splurge and take a trip away.
Now, though we do not celebrate vday we decorate and get candies for the kids and tell them or cute and special they are but I also let them know why we don’t celebrate and a lil of the crazy story behind it but that they are young and to do something sweet for them I’d ok not to be expected.
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I think she is looking for something more than just a gift… its an awful feeling when you don’t feel appreciated and sometimes you tell them and it becomes an argument instead of them just listening.
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Look my ex and i just split up before Christmas and he still went out of his way to make me chocolate covered strawberries and hes never done that. So ya id be pissed af and take it to heart of his unappreciative ass. Especially if you did something personal like you did and he didnt even like it. Smh.
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My husband won me a rubber hawaiian pizza (pizza with a ukulele) out of the duck machine at a restaurant. It’s the best.
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My husband of 40 years went back to when we were young and bought me flowers and a stuffed animal. Good to feel young again
Mine went over and above but It’s not about money it’s about thought. I’m sorry he did that to you, that’s awful 
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People may not have much money, but there are things you can do special. Everyone needs to feel special. Just remember one day the two of you will be alone and will have needed those special memories of something, or anything that was done all those years. Please remember that it’s one day a year you need to show someone they are special.
I got ring and card and chocolate. I got him stuff to and our son . Sad when I see other dont get crap I can see if cant afford it cause even tho things cheap ppl poor but when someone hurts the person’ they with feelings is wrong .
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I dont really see what the big deal is. It was my first with my SO and we did nothing, mostly because we got tickets for a comedy show already that’s at the end of the month
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I didn’t do anything for Valentines we were supposed to but he decided to sit on his as and let his car tags expire so we couldn’t go anywhere, not to mention i do everything pay the bills work from home take care of the kids and get nothing in return
We usually just get each other a card for any holiday/birthday. We pretty much get whatever we want, whenever we want it…within reason. 
And, we have been together for 29 years.
If the dude couldn’t even tell you happy Valentine’s day and even went to the extreme of not being greatful that you put work into something for HIM, wether he got you something or not… Some seems off. Just by past relationships I’ve had. Those are red flags that he probably has lost interest or maybe just doesn’t care for the relationship anymore
I got my husband an Nitendo switch and a Colombia cold gear shirt. He didn’t get me a present, but he did order me a pizza after I asked him to.
No we don’t really do Valentine’s. Receive gifts is not my love language. We celebrate our anniversary the most. But really it’s about making sure each of you know how to make the other feel appreciated. My husband and I do not have the same love language so it was a big miscommunication for awhile until we learned what each other needed.
Been with my husband 12 years. He’s never missed a Valentine’s. Most years I get flowers and chocolates. Sometimes I also get jewelry or something I’ve asked for. This year I got Rose’s, chocolates and he put a deposit down on a Conure (bird) that we go pick up in a week. Our 1st date anniversary is in March (St Patrick’s Day) and we celebrate that, our anniversary in April. My birthday in May, we already have a trip booked and his in September we celebrate too.
My husband and I decided not to get each other anything and we just got our kids stuff!
Sometimes they tell us they appreciate us, but not the way we expect them to. Sometimes we have to listen a little differently 
Every yr but it’s also my husband’s birthday so I dont expect a thing. Physical things are not as important as saying or help helping you out.
I dident but its ok. We have been toghter 9 years he buys me shit all the time so im not bothered by that
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Men sometimes you really do have to remind them .hey Valentine’s day is coming up they can be clueless
I didn’t even get a happy Valentine’s day, we couldn’t afford anything. But the comment would have been nice when I said something, he just shrugged hsi shoulders and made a face and then said but you still love me. Even though 3 months ago he cheated the first week of December, while I’m pregnant with our 2nd son. So you’d think he’d done something to show he’s trying. 
Sweating this stuff is just let go. The weather is more important to me, along with lives. Valentine’s day does not matter to me, I not getting offended.
My husband and I were house hunting on Valentine’s Day. It was us and our realtor lol
Nope my partner and I don’t bother with presents or cards and the same goes for our birthdays and Christmas
But I am sorry to hear you were made to feel like that, maybe talk to your partner about it?
He didn’t get me anything at first. But then we went shopping for my daughter some candy and he grabbed me some cheap $10 flowers. 
And I know it’s the thought that counts, but when we seperated a few years ago for 8 months, he bought his girlfriend a Tiffany’s rings for valentines day, and he had only been dating her for a few months. 
I’ve been with him for 17 years. So yeah the $10 flowers were an insult. Not to mention my wedding ring is from Walmart, and I bought it myself. 
I have never gotten anything for Valentine’s Day .
Valentines day aside, you need to talk. Communicate with eachother about issues.
No. But we don’t usually get each other gifts.
My husband and I don’t do Valentine’s Day 
He does get something small for our daughter (and in the future our newest daughter)
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My husband did this year but not every year. We mostly buy stuff for our babies and that makes us happy . We lost our pregnancy a few days before and are both feeling pretty sad about it so …
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It’s a marketing scheme. Love your man every day.
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Im with no one i felt bad but i just keep loving myself
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Nope. He didn’t for any of the kids either.
Well I think u need to show us this painting 
Ill be your (Belated) Galentine
My man woke me up Saturday morning said he had a surprise for me and told me to pack our bags. We went to gatlinburg for the night. That shit hardly happens with him
I didn’t get anything.
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I didn’t get anything but wasn’t expecting it. But i am thankful for what he does for me every day…
He could have gotten you a card at least he needs to be fired no excuses
Mine hasn’t ever gotten me anything either.
Been togheter for 10 Years, we did not get anything for each other, I bought a cake with minions on it, it was cheap😅 and we ate cake and had wine the next day because he had to work. We don’t get each other presents, we gift ourselves time. That’s the only thing no one can buy.
Awww honey I have been getting my own valentines for years, flowers,candy and lottery tickets , I get them and thank him . My husband works I stay home. I get him a box of chocolates and I get my daughter candy and flowers as well. Just go out and your own and t
Shoot a pic and say ty
I have a standard I hold everyone in my life to. He doesn’t meet that to me. This is not about a holiday he ignored. This is about an unbalanced relationship that you are fed up with. But, you allowed it to begin. I doubt he changes.
- I want to see the painting because I’m sure it’s amazing.
- He’s a douche canoe.
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Nope, I just appreciate the fact he pays the bills, insurance, vehicles, phone/cable, and is handy to fix broken items.
We both work, and split housework and kids 50/50.
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Damn. Women have seriously lowered the bar for their expectations of their alleged ‘partner’. Wow.
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Even when money was tight years ago my husband got me a kit kat and single rose. It’s the gesture and you deserve that. You went out of your way to show love and he didn’t return that feeling, what a jerk.
I dont let mine get me anything until the day after Valentines but i was a little annoyed that I had to remind to get me some candy. I am also mad at Walmart for hiding their leftover V Day stuff. I know it wasn’t all sold out because hardly anyone got out in the snow and ice.
We have been together for 19 years, I dont really care anymore about V Day. I think its more for dating couples or newlyweds. If it means something to you then you should let him know.
I didn’t get anything either.
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I didn’t get anything either
My valentines day gift
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i’m sorry you’re going through that! super sad! i hope things get better for you
Time to get rid of him
If it’s important to you than you have every right to be upset. Just because some women don’t care or say they don’t doesn’t mean it’s ok for you.
Why do u feel he needs to go all out on valentines day? Its just a day on the calendar that shops make money out of. We are 15 years together and don’t celebrate it at all - I accept gifts any day of the year!!
You know DAMN WELL that the answer for this will always be FUCK HIS DAD
Our anniversary is a week before so we get all the mushy stuff out of the way then. Me and my boyfriend have a mutal agreement its just another hallmark day.
Get a grip how sad my other half never got me anything for valentines day AND YOUR POINT IS build a bridge and get over it its a waste of time money and effort for 1 day out a year
Dump that zero and get you a hero.
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Ok so see for me . This is why I do not put Valentine’s Day on a pedal stool . It’s just another day. But for those that do enjoy it this really sucks . But the expectations are to high . For everyone in general . Hopefully you can come up with a solution. Like once a week do something together that’s fun or romantic or whatever it may be. This is clearly not just a Valentine’s Day issue . You deserve to be noticed and appreciated . But don’t pin it on one day . For your own mental health.
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Valentine’s day is just another day for businesses to make money we tell each other happy valentine’s day but nothing more our anniversary is a different story though lol
I feel your frustration. He used to make an effort but lately I feel like I’m just non exist 
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Everyone has their own idea of what is acceptable for them . Where as this is totally unacceptable for me . And it sounds like it is for her too . Just because your fine with it doesn’t make it right or wrong for her. I think she was looking for some validation that it is wrong . When for most it certainly is . He couldn’t even say Happy Valentines Day to her . She has his food ready for him every night , she takes care of the household and feels completely unappreciated. What a total douche !
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Valentine’s day is supposed to be for single people to send to someone they fancy not for husband’s or wives its now a money making con
My wife and I don’t even buy gifts for each other for Valentine’s Day or Christmas or any other day, and we’ve been married for 26 years, we don’t need a special day to show our love for each other and if we need or want something we go out and get it
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Mine tells me to buy what I want. He will tell me he isn’t romantic. And just say get something you’ve been wanting. It’s how we do things. But like last night he knew I was tired and cold and ran me a bath while I finished up with the dishes. He asked if I wanted bubbles. That’s how he shows me appreciation.
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We went to dinner, but we didn’t do gifts, cards, flowers, any of that. He isn’t a very romantic type person lol
My husband is a good guy, but the postal system has failed us both. His gift still isn’t here and neither is mine.
Valentines is a two way street for me and my spouse. We both get each other something.
Guys don’t get Valentines Day, and sometimes don’t get celebrating any holiday or romance. It generally doesn’t bother them to not get anything or be recognized. You have to train them to do what you need, just like telling him what pleases you in the bedroom.
Just be blunt. Guys almost never get hints. Tell him exactly what you want to have happen and why, and how it makes you feel. “It makes me feel loved and appreciated if you do something for Valentines Day, like buy me flowers, candy, a card, dinner out. It makes me feel sad, unappreciated and unloved when you don’t do anything special for me on this one day.”
It even helps to be specific with where to go, what to buy and when to shop. Guys won’t understand they may have to order roses (or another favorite flower) in advance if they’ve not been burned before. With one boyfriend I just told him to get me something I’d circled in a catalog for Christmas. He usually just got everyone poinsettias because he was clueless. Less romantic and no surprise, but you get what you want/need and everyone is happy.
And read about love languages. He may show his love in other ways you may not recognize and he may not recognize what you do for him as a way of demonstrating your love for him. Marriage counseling is always helpful as people tend to assume we all think and react the same way, but our life experiences may give us very different perspectives. Neither viewpoint is wrong, but we need to understand where the other person is coming from. What was Valentines Day like when you were each growing up?
BTW, what is a body painting? I’m so sorry he was ungrateful, but get to know him better, and next year figure out what he WOULD like; probably something more prosaic like a gift certificate to the auto or hardware store, a day trip to go hiking together, car wash coupons, a night of beer & poker with the guys, or you mowing the lawn or taking out the garbage for him next time. Just ASK him directly. And if he says “nothing,” believe him and act accordingly.
It took me forever to understand my first husband was an introvert and REALLY didn’t want ANY attention on his birthday, not even a cake, and that he thought Christmas presents were a stupid waste of money. However a tree was important to him and once I told him I expected presents (boxed, wrapped and with ribbon were other, later requests), he stepped up to the plate.
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Well you can start by turning his standards back on him.
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Nope which is fine by me because Valentine’s Day is the corniest holiday ever:woman_shrugging:
Tell him how you feel, I told my husband time and time again but until I sat him down and showed him I was serious he now makes a great effort!
I got a box of chocolate ( I don’t eat chocolate) and a card. And then in the same was told how I dont do anything right. Count your blessings. We arent talking. Mind you, I made chocolate covered strawberries, a surf and turf dinner and washed and clean up everything. Even put the kids to bed. I got to eat a cold dinner (half the cat decided to throw up. So my dinner went in the trash.
He didn’t but I told him at a later date, we can do an overnight trip to visit breweries. We both had meetings that day and I didn’t mind at all
I didn’t get anything either. This was my first valentines day as a wife and was hoping to get a simple card for a wife. Thats all I really wanted. My husband has never not got me anything for vday… until this year. I definitely cried and was hurt, I still am. Our 4 year anniversary is Friday and I won’t get anything then either, probably not even a happy anniversary. We are already filling out annulment papers 
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Mine always tries to do something . I got a beautiful card and chocolates ,.
Uhh… my husband didn’t (my bad!) But in my defense I told him that I had only just realized it was coming up on Valentine’s day -I mean on 2/13, I literally thought it was 2/10- so I just said, “We don’t need to do gifts, right?” and he said he didn’t care. We usually just go out, and since we can’t right now, it just made sense. Well, he went and sent me and our daughter bouquets with a touching little message. Then my dad sent an edible arrangement and balloons. I got good men in my life, man. It is not lost on me. You gotta find you some men like that. I’ll let you borrow one. My dad is single, lol! He isn’t looking though. When my mom died he said “I didn’t date before her and I have no intention of dating after her.” But listen… before we had the money to just order flowers like that, I didn’t get much for Valentine’s day either – if anything at all. Still, we did for each other… and we do for each other now too, all these years later. The love is clearly there, flowers or no (though the flowers were a reeeal nice touch.)
If he isn’t loving you in a language that you understand, either: 1. look for the translation (find the ways he is showing you his love) and appreciate that for what it is, 2. demand he speak your language and tell him how it makes you feel when he overlooks these opportunities to appreciate you as much as you show your appreciation for him, or 3. decide he doesn’t feel the need to meet your expectations and move on. That’s it. Those are the options. Hope it works out.
He knows I love jack n Sally
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My husband is not romantic, we dont do gifts. If he wants something he gets it and tells me to get it if I say I want something.
We always get each other something even if it’s just a card or something from the dollar store. It’s the thought that counts… this year I got him a new xbox controller and a variety pack of hot sauces and he got me the massager I’ve been wanting forever…
I’m with my hubby 20 years and married 14 this year. We sont do valentines day. I know he loves me ,he knows I love him. We buy each other presents on and off all through the year.
Dont let the name of the day get in the way of your relationship.
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Not getting each other anything is okay, not every relationship does that but him making you feel weird about something nice that you did for him is very uncalled for and unappreciative. I would definitely tell him how you feel and his answer and reaction will tell you what you need to know!
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Yeah mine is a unromantic jerk! No kiss hug gift…he did cook a meal but i had to rave over it. He ate and fell asleep on the couch. He does this every night for like 3 years…my question does anyone have sex anymore??? Ive forgotten what it was like! Its been well over a year
I’m gonna leave this right here 
know your worth!
We focus on the kids for Valentine’s day. Get them gifts before we get each other a gift. He works, you take care of the house. Do you thank him everytime he pays a bill or make him feel extra special for doing it every month? Maybe he sees it as your obligation since you aren’t working to keep the house tidy and what not. As far as making you uncomfortable for doing something for him with your body, that’s definitely a no go. And I would talk to him about how it made you feel.
I would be concerned.
You have to do the unthinkable and communicate!
My husband thought Valentine’s day was on the 20th and honestly, I don’t expect him to get me anything…he did feel bad but I didn’t mean for him to. He’s an amazing husband and he bought me some chocolate at target lol
My husband doesn’t celebrate holidays, so no I didn’t get anything. I made him a metal beaded chain, it took about 4 hours. He thought it was from the dollar tree. Lol.
I didn’t get anything per say and I didn’t give him anything either. When we know a holiday is coming up we look at teach other and say either yes I want to do something or no I don’t. We have like a verbal agreement. For Christmas, we went onto Amazon and each bought a big expensive blanket that we each wanted (mine heated and his weighted) and said that’s our Christmas gifts (plus we filled stockings with fun little things). For vday, with a new baby and 2 older kids plus covid we said ok let’s just cook our favorite meal and call it a day lol we cooked steak and chicken and ribs and ate good food and hung out and just no pressure no nothing. Was great. I’m a big gift GIVER and he’s not. And he feels bad when I do huge things for him and he doesn’t have things for me. He’d rather DO things for me. It’s our love languages. So I know if I don’t get a gift, it’s not his way of showing love and that’s OK and if he gets one, he knows he doesn’t have to get me something. Either you haven’t figured out how to openly communicate your needs and languages to each other or you’re being unreasonable and expecting a silly holiday to dictate your relationship.
A lot of these comments are saying that it doesn’t matter to them so he’s “not wrong”, buttttt clearly it matters to you! So I’d say yes he’s wrong! I mean come on after 10 years he should know that and at least say Happy Valentine’s Day. He’s being an as* 
I got something a day late… He ordered it on 30th January and it came on the 15th February, but no card or no happy Valentine’s Day or anything ahaha but it doesn’t bother me tbh he tells me everyday he loves me and how much he appreciates what I do housework look after the kids clean cook etc but he also helps do all of that aswell as working everyday all day And he drives for a living and has to lug around heavy barrels of cooking oil all day xx
Been married 7 years and have only ever received a valentine our first year together…