Do boy’s attitudes just get worse the older they get? Does it get any better? What are some good ideas for correcting this? I’m going to lose my marbles with all this attitude!!
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Breathe mama! Eventually they will stop
No, no they don’t lol
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I think from 13 to 16 it’s a headache but girls were defiantly worse 
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Mine were horrible when they were little, but the older the got the better they became
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I have 2 boys. 18 and 16. My oldest is an asshole and his attitude definitely got worse. My 16 year old is chill though (I know I know I’m sorry. 35 using teen words) would rather stay to himself but don’t let that fool u he can b an ass too
It’s my 3 daughters (13, 11 and 2) I’m worried about
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Both of my boys were horrible. My oldest turned into a really good man when he turned 20. He had a baby on the way and grew up overnight. My middle is now almost 22 and still an asshole.
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I’m just terrified of my daughter one day “hating” me. I hear about a that a lot. I think that would break my heart
Nope n mine is 13 
I swear their attitude is way worse then a teen girls lol
Oh thank goodness I thought it was just me
My son is 12 and I’m going to have to say no it hasn’t gotten better yet. He does have ODD so that might have something to do with it but he’s also hitting puberty and let me tell you those mood swings are bad
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I sprinkle guacamole seasoning packet on avocados.
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My son was the best child you could ever ask for he’s 45 now and has never had caused a minute’s trouble thank you Lord
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My son is 9. Will be 10 this year…he is a sweetie pie with a dash of back talk and attitude haha
My son, who’s almost 4, has an attitude but I believe he’s learning it from his sisters
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my son is 14 1/2 and in year 9 at school.
He developed an attitude at the beginning of year 8 and god i hope he loses it soon 
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My girl is my problem lol
I put my son work hard manual labor makes them to tired back talk me
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Ask me in a few years. I have an almost 13 year old that I wanna throat punch multiple times daily! 
He only comes out of his bedroom to ask for money and talk shit!
I mean you’ve dated a man so you already know that their attitudes never get better.
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Honey, your not alone. I got a 13 1/2 (boy) 11 1/2 (girl) and a girl and boy. And since the covid hit their attitude suchs
Boys easier than girls communication you didn’t say age he may be going thru something you don’t know
It gets better. I thought I was gonna pull my hair out through my sons teen years. We made it and he is a wonderful man.
12-13 was rough because he got teased a lot for being short in middle school. He’s still shorter than other kids, but 15-16 has returned his sweet, loving personality. His sister just finished middle school and I thought I wouldn’t make it. Hoping that turning 15 helps her be less impatient with the world.
Setting expectations for behavior and consistency in both discipline and overall parenting helps. (Barring any behavioral disorder or other issue that may make it more difficult)
However there are times 3, 7, 10, 12-13 that there seems to be additional challenging behavior. It’s important to continue to be consistent and set expectations.
If you don’t do it young, it is much harder when they are older.
I asked my granddaughter one day why she talked to her Mother like that. She replied “ Because I can”! Hmmmm!
My son has a bad attitude at 6 years old! I’m hoping the younger, the more likely he’ll lose it sooner in his teenage years 
From a mom of 3 boys…if you let it go and blame it on the age, you will be very sorry…stop it now !!!
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Does not get better. He gets exercise now, knocks the attitude out of him.
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As a mother of 3 sons… they SUCK once they hit middle school… darn near unbearable with all the testosterone and attitude… but once they hit about 15, they start coming out of it. I remind myself that as much as it sucks to be the parent of a teenager, it is a hard and confusing time for them and a lot of the outbursts are things they don’t know how to control at first.
It’ll get better.
Mines 13… won’t even talk to me 
My boys are 17 & 14. I won’t say they’re not dicks… I won’t say I’m not a dick… but I do think this approach has helped deal with our emotions & attitudes over the years, as well as strengthened our relationships…
- It’s okay to be mad at me. It is NOT okay to be disrespectful.
- TALK to me. Tell me how you feel.
I have always made sure that they know I am not perfect and I know that. If they feel as though I have done something wrong or treated them unfairly, I encourage them to tell me. I have anger issues my damn self. So, if you need a minute to bitch & yell to woo-sah yourself, excuse yourself & do so. Just say “I need a minute.”… do what you gotta do, vent, whatever. Gather your thoughts, compose yourself & then tell me what’s really bothering you. We’ll discuss it and almost always come to an understanding. I will be the first to admit, though… more often than not, their point was valid even if their initial delivery was off.
P.S.
We’re all def still dicks tho 
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I’m a mother of one daughter, 2 sons. I have 8 grandsons. ( No granddaughters). I believe boys are a lot easier than girls… to answer your question, yes, as they get older it will improve. You can also improve it by busting that ass.
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My 14 year old has gotten significantly more reasonable and loving and interactive since he got a girlfriend. I think she is whipping him into shape, lol!
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My son got better at 17. I have rules and he knows there are consequences. He tested me and I took the door off the hinges. He knows better. He is 18 and leaving for college in a couple months and is more respectful and nice than any of his friends
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It’s life. It’s boys. There is so much they are forced to suppress. They definitely do not get the outlets needed that match a boy/ young man/ man’s nature. There is a price to pay to “civilize” natural instincts and behaviors. Your kids do not need medication or counseling. They are attempting to the best of their abilities to fit in a well behaved box.
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I have 3 teen boys and they don’t have attitude until I show mine. I see in my household that men need respect just as women need love and communication.
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I have 3 boys and they’ve all had phases of attitudes. For me they seem to subside for a bit and then come back full swing . About 17 is when they start being a bit more reasonable.
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My sons 8 I’ve tried all sorts of things to fix his attitude the only thing that works is an ass whooping
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My oldest son is 17 and it’s a fight almost daily lol but he’s also severely ADHD and OCD personality type A so when he forgets to take his meds it’s like world war III
My 11 yr old was the sweetest child till 9 then he become an a hole. My 15 yr old was a holy terror from the get go. He’s mellowed out the older he gets. Unless it has to do with his siblings…then it’s hell lol. My daughter on the other hand 
she test me more than the boys.
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My son was an angel when he was little… idk what his problem is anymore but he is a ball of anger!
Teenage girls were/are harder in my case. Try picturing them in a prison…dont say this out loud. Is their current problem going to land them in prison? Then it will be ok. No matter what anything beats your kids in prison. Just my opinion. Whatever works.
Once that you realize that every male longs to be 12 years old. Before the hormones kick in and before females try to remake them. Men are very simple creatures longing for very simple lives. They will rise to whatever challenge they must but understand that they are not driven by emotion as women are. Learn to appreciate their simplicity and live them gor it instead of trying to change it into something else. I love boys and I love men who are still boys.
Can I ask age? My boy was always the sweetest and gentlest. Once he was about 16 he got really short and grumpy and said he felt a lot of rage. I agree with CBD and counseling.
Hormones and increased testosterone are hard enough to handle. Plus they are navigating a crazy world just like we are.
I own my own CBD company and 100% stand by the results. All of my teenagers use it from time to time. If they are struggling with anxiety to a headache.
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My son is a gem now at 26. A friend told me aliens come take boys around the age of 13 and replace them with moody, rude lookalikes. She says they are switched back during college years. She was right.
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When my son was younger he was well behaved. When he was about 17 I started noticing an attitude change and now he is 22 and he can be a dick sometimes. I get into with him about his attitude and how disrespectful he can be at times but all we do is argue so now we barely talk. It really sucks b/c we used to be close 
I had 2 boys 22 mths apart. And a daughter. They are now 21 19 16. Boys always got along. But man my daughter has caused grey hairs. Her and oldest argue all the time though and both of them have adhd… Oldest also aspergers. Moms =referee 
My second born son,I would say was born with his attitude lol,until he was 16 and now he is so sweet.he can even smile,laugh,and make jokes.i can even send him into town to get me a few things and he even buys me chocolates.unlike before he used to fight his brother and everything and everyone around him.So it does get better.actually very bettt
Have a 15 year old boy… its got slightly better but it’s been hell this past year and he also went on a real hate Mom kick and super rebellious. He’s had a couple wake up calls from his own stupidity so I’m starting to see change and hoping it keeps up.
My almost 15 yr old was like that back when he was 10-11…I warned him for the last time before I took a paddle to his ass. I told him “if u wanna call the cops go right ahead and I’ll beat ur ass right in front of them and give them a reason” he’s been good ever since (besides fighting with his 8 yr old sister every damn day )
Tbh I think it ever gets better. Some days are good some days are bad…look at some adults; male or female…I think just certain “phases” are tougher. My mom claims my attitude was rough probably still is (I’ve learned to control it better now) but baby my brothers was out her doing some wild shit kinda still are even though 1 has calm down quite a bit but my oldest brother whose in his 40s ehhhhhhhhhhhh
Mines almost 10 and woo. I swear he hit 8 and his whole attitude changed over night. Lol
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I have 2 boys. Between 15 and 18 they go threw this awful stage. But it gets better.
I raised two boys and yes. The attitudes get better, what helped us was basically the respect …them learning that yes I was their friend but I was mom first and they knew that and learned the consequences of crossing that line, they always knew that they could tell me about anything without judgment, and they are now 21 and 24 and we have the best relationship ever, I’m now single and they have turned into my own bodyguards 
As crazy and repetitive as it sounds, pick your battles carefully.
Rules, enforce them , equal the positive with the negative, communication without judgment
Welcome to parenting 201…it is a part of their growing up and them going from needing mom to finding their independence. I had a neighbor that said, “Hang in there mom. If you raised them right they will come back around.” She was right.
My son was an angel as a baby and toddler, he was hell on wheels between the ages of 10-16, but after that he started to mellow out. Testosterone is no joke lol
Mine is almost 17 and its some better than it was. At 13 thru almost 16 was a terrible.
My 2 boys ate 12 & 13 are extremely disrespectful… they have also been taught from a young age (by their dad, a traditional macho Hispanic man) that men are greater than women & that they don’t have to listen, obey, or respect me. He was also extremely abusive & manipulative…we left him in October of last year. I am actively trying to undue years of his “teachings” they are in therapy, but it’s not easy.
The thing I was most sad about was when my sweet boy sort of stopped talking to me.
Never really had a problem with my boys but my redheaded girls are a whole other story
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Coming from someone with 5 girls And 1 boy count your blessings. My son can be a terd with attitude but nothing in comparison to girls. Most the tim r when he sees im legitimately upset, he’ll stop and apologize
Just boys? Dang my daughter is going to test every nerve in my body daily!
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Also look at who they are hanging out with, my youngest son would never have attitude until he hung out with one particular person. So, that issue got handled
I have 4 all ten and younger and boy do the push those limits 
the yrs to come are gonna be a challenge as if they haven’t been already lol
Yes!
My son is now 24 and those difficult years are all in the past!
21 yr old never had an attitude. Then again, the girls really haven’t either. So IDK.
14, almost 15… He totally sucks attitude wise
I have 3 boys and boy do i wanna go rounds with them sometimes lmao
I’ve raised 2 boys & i would definitely agree with Julie Fruge Bushong . Me & My 2 boys are thw same way Now. I was their friend but always their mother 1st & once they got older, it got better. Just give it time
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My 25 year old son is my best friend
I have a Sophomore in college and Junior in high school. I will say at least with mine they go through phases. I learned early on frustration clues though and allow them to remove themselves from the situation. Most situations that is. They have to sit and listen to me but then will go outside for a breather. Also got a punching bag in the garage just to vent on if needed but honestly it’s never been used.
Tell me about it. My son loses his favorite privileges when he has an attitude problem. Solves the problem really quick.
Well see I established dominance the second my son was born:wink:
Change your approach, it worked for me. Get on his level and explain things level headed and if not… Be firm in disciplining.
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Are you married to a boy? Did his attitude get better?
No at least mine hasn’t hes gotten worse
All depends on dads attitude
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I think boys are easy to raise
It doesn’t get better im currently dealing with a 36 year old man child:roll_eyes:
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And also… I don’t think it gets better until adulthood. My oldest is a mirror image of me, best kid there could be with a heart of gold but that mooouuutttthhhhh. I love when my friends wo sons lose their shit over the way we talk to each other that’s who we are and how we communicate and most importantly. we communicate! There’s trauma we have worked through together and now we have a pretty easy going relationship although sometimes he doesn’t pick up on my mood and I don’t pick up on his that’s when we have major conflicts.
Ohhh, my oldest was an ass from 14 to 24. He’s better now at 28. I’m loosing my mind regularly with my 16 yr old and my 11 yr old is generally sweet
My sons dnt have an attitude just my daughters & i have 5 sons lol
i have a3 year old son. these comments scare me:unamused:
Following…I have 4 boys🤦
Take everything away, worked when mine were smaller. Now they are very respectful
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Never knew little boys to naturally have attitudes. I have six children and believe though they have different personalities, they only have the "attitude " you allow them to have, from the time that they’re little
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I had all girls they got along great and still do …they are grown now…I work at a school during lunch and recess and boy I’m glad I didn’t have boys lol
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Have twin girls…boy attitude is nothing…lol
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I have a 3 year old, a 7 year old, and a 35 year old husband… I’m going with no. 
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My teenage son is full of sarcasm and attitude but at the end of the day he would do anything to make me smile.it gets easier then harder then easier lol.
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I have three boys and 2 girls ages 22-11 and my girls were way more difficult than the boys. That being said, all kids have attitudes at the tween-teen stage it’s a normal part of development. Try not taking it personally, but rather being respectful and allowing them to have certain boundaries. Be objective
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Try to focus more on your relationship with him than his behavior. My son is 5 and a half and he is mostly pleasant
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