I live with my boyfriend and his father. We have an almost two-year daughter. My bf’s dad is continuously yelling at my daughter for ANYTHING that she does. She gets excited about seeing him? He yells at her to calm down, and she doesn’t need to act like that. She plays and runs around, and he gets really mean and tells her to settle down. She can’t do anything if he’s around with him screaming at her. Last night he went as far as smacking my daughter in her mouth bc she was trying to play with him! My blood was boiling, but her dad handled it. Since we live with him, I feel like I cannot say anything, but I’m at my breaking point after he smacked her. What should I do? As a parent, I feel like me or her dad should be doing the disciplining, and if the grandparent has an issue, he needs to tell one of us and let us handle it.
There’s a difference between discipline & just being an asshole. He’s just being an asshole in my opinion 
but if anyone ever laid a hand on my daughter it’d be the last time it happened.
Move out immediately
Move out. Get 3 jobs if you have to, save your money, and get the eff out. Your daughter is being abused.
I understand his house his rules and if he doesn’t want her running around then maybe take her outside to play more during the day so he isn’t a jerk about her running around. As for smacking her in the mouth, she is TWO and I would be livid and smack him in his mouth!!
Discipline, yes, hit, no!
I feel like they do but not to discipline like that an never do it when the parents are around it should be the parents job unless grandparents are babysitting but I don’t ever think someone should pop any kid in the mouth!
I feel they can discipline if reason is appropriate (but doesn’t seem to be in this post) however they shouldn’t be getting physical. Can you guys move out?
I will always protect my kid no matter who it is. If you feel he is overboard step up just because he lives with you doesnt mean he can treat her poorly and definitely not put his hands on her
Uh nope. Time to move out.
No one ever has the right to lay their hands on your child.
Move.
Obviously living with him is not working.
Fix the situation for your child and move.
I would have raised hell… no one hits my kid!!! He wouldn’t have anything to do with my child ever again.
Are y’all living in his dad’s house? Or his dad is living with your boyfriend in your boyfriend’s house?
His house his rules. But Boundaries should be discussed and agreed upon. I wouldn’t let someone else hit my child.
Ohhh hheeecckkk noooo. You lay hands on my child? Smack him right back. How do you like it?!
Move out. I would’ve been talking MAD SHIT especially my father in law. Makes me mad just thinking about it that’s crossing the line. Y’all should look into getting your own place. Kids are gonna be kids… I have my moments but they’re KIDS
There’s a difference between discipline and abuse. My dad LOVES his grandkids and gives them every chance in the world, but there’s times they get popped in the butt. He always tells me he did it and why… your FIL is excessive and getting hit for wanting to play is gross.
His house. His rules. Though I don’t condone the hitting on the mouth. You need to get your own place.
That’s not right, it’s your child you can stand up for her
Oh fuck that. You touch my kid I’m throwing hands. A two year old should never be smacked in the mouth. Grandparents are allowed to do what you want. So you want to allow discipline awesome or not also okay if they don’t do it right. But physical abuse is never okay.
If you dont like it. Move out.
I would hit him in the mouth if he popped my 2 year old for just playing. His house or not. But y’all need to get out and get your own place cause that’s only gonna get worse.
Move. His generation and his personality seems to make him think it’s ok. If it’s not ok with you as a mom you need to remove your child from a toxic household.
He sounds like my grandfather…he was a child molester. Make sure he doesn’t “discipline” her alone or is alone with her.
He’d never lift a hand again if he did that to mine that’s completely over the line
No one has the right to smack any child in the mouth I’m a babysitting grandma for my 2 and half yr old granddaughter. Only discipline I give is a two finger smack on hand for throwing toys. If you live in his house start looking for a place for you and daughter. Don’t let anyone abuse your children
Yes when my kids go to grandmas house my parents have every right to discipline my kids. Or when they are watching them in my home for me.
Sounds like y’all need your own place. The grandparent doesnt need to be like that, but if you live with him, not sure if there is much you can do about it. I’d put my foot down and tell the grandfather to cut the shit… but then you risk getting kicked out. Goodluck in your situation but bottom line is that is your child and nobody should be parenting them except you and their father.
Ask your bf if he thinks it’s ok, then you’ll know what you can do after that.
Your child comes first move
I believe in spankens and time outs. But what that man is doing aint right, the constant yelling aint healthy
Oh Hell No! No one has the right to hit your children! Oh I would have lost it! I be in a hotel tonight!
This should not even be a question… Teach your daughter young that no one touches her in a disrespectful way. Move out and don’t let her around people that are full of anger.
Although, I do not like how your daughter is being treated, if you live in someone else’s house, you live by their rules. Sorry. That’s the way it works.
Nope that wouldnt fly. My child my discipline simple as that. No one will be hitting my child as a form of disicpline. Time out or a simple no we dont do that or no thank you will do.
Smacking a kid in the mouth isn’t discipline. Ever. Even in his house, that’s abuse. She should be your first priority. And you should be protecting her, no matter where you live.
Ain’t nobody hitting my kid!!! Not even my mother who babysits for me. I made that clear and I double anyone to try it! Hello Rikers!!!
Almost 2 year olds are excitable and inquisitive. They don’t do calm. A physical smack to the face is abuse. Get out with your daughter.
This is simple, tell the him what you think, have a sit-down talk, move out. Toddlers are loud, they play loud, they run, they get excited. What I don’t understand is why this is a question, you are a mother and her protector. Your bags along with your husband and toddler should already be packed. Things at this age are imprinted and long-lasting.
Move out. It’s obvious he is too grumpy and mean to have a two year old around. It’s not fair to her to not be able to be a kid . It is not fair to you to feel uncomfortable saying anything to him about how he treats your child. It is not fair to his son to have to reprimand him for how he treats her. The situation is fair to no one. Move out as quickly as you can. Even if its just a studio apt. It would be better than everyone suffering
Smack his ass 
Idc WHO YOU ARE nobody will ever physically discipline my kid but ME & MY CHILD’S FATHER which I dont really believe in smacking a 2 year old as punishment anyways . Plenty of other ways to teach and redirect your child without putting your hands on them .
Fuckkkk outta hereeee… I woulda knocked him out
Get the fuck out of there
Yes grandparents have the right to discipline grandkids!!! Yelling at her for being a 2 year old and smacking her face is NOT DISCIPLINE!!! This is ABUSE! Sit down with him and tell him that is unacceptable!!! If she is acting up sit her in time out etc. Do not let this continue!!!
MOVE! Before he destroys her little spirit and steals her confidence.
Be a cold day in hell when someone lays a hand on my child!
“His house his rules” but really, your child your rules. I could see if she was being obnoxious telling her to settle down but he’s obviously out of line here.
Yeah, none of thats okay and going to do her damage, but to smack a baby in the mouth!? Seriously? You should’ve punched him.
I’m absolutely fine with my parents disciplining my children, but they dont lay a hand on them bc they respect that we do not use any type of physical punishment.
You all need to move, and in the meantime you need to tell dad he isnt to touch or yell at your child ever again.
I would just say that a child should never associate their grandparent with discipline. It’s a special relationship and a child should only get discipline from parents, that’s their role, whereas if they receive discipline from somebody else, it could make the relationship more fragile
Move. He smacked your daughter IN THE MOUTH. Id have been out that day.
Omg. That is not okay. I would definitely say something to him.
Hitting a child in the mouth is abuse, not discipline. He should not yell at her. Move. You’re adults and need a place of your own.
Sounds like it’s time to move.
That’s not discipline
Discipline is when child misbehaves
He is abusing her mentally, verbally, emotionally, AND now physically
You shouldn’t be living there and he shouldn’t be hitting her in the mouth. You need to get out of there.
That’s not discipline.
Sounds like he doesn’t have the patience for her… that’s sad time to move
Helllll no. Idc if You’re living with him or not. I don’t think anyone but you or your boyfriend should be doing the discipline for your child. I don’t let anyone spank my child. We rarely even spank our own.
OMG
Seriously I’m so sick of these posts
YOU ARE THE PARENT
FRIKKIN ACT LIKE IT
stop letting people parent (ABUSE) your child.
MOVE OUT!!! Its his house you might not agree with it but dont like it leave
Yet you continue to stay there and make excuses… take your kid and leave… thats abuse physical and emotional!!’
Anyone that’s a caregiver to your child should be able to follow through with YOUR rules and consequences. Not fly off the hinge and smack a baby in the mouth. No freaking way.
Yes a grandparent can discipline a child but…
smacking her in the mouth! NO WAY!! He has to know that kids are all energy. Shes going to grow up despising him!
Best of luck with grandpa! 
Sounds like he. Needs a smack down Himself! I spank w grandsons when needed! You are not married to his son therefore no he has no right to spank ur daughter and for no reason! Put ur foot down. Now!! Or leave becuz it will only get worse!
My kids’ grandparents discipline them when necessary. It doesn’t affect their relationship at all, but lets them know that they aren’t going to get away with acting like little a-holes when they’re around. If my ex husband (their son) or I am around, we do the discipline, but if not, they do. Kids need boundaries. I do think this is going too far. If a kid can’t be a kid around a certain person, that’s something that will affect the relationship, but if the kid is legit acting out and the grandparent disciplines him or her, I don’t see an issue. I am the kind of parent that I tell anyone who I’m trusting to care for my kids to discipline them if it’s necessary. If I’m not around, my kids still need to show respect to adults.
You’re not talking about a back-talking teen who provokes him intentionally (though, even then, hitting ANY child in the face is not okay!); This is a BABY. Not even two?! The child doesn’t even understand boundaries yet. Stay in that environment and allow this to continue, and your child will suffer serious emotional damage that will linger far longer than the completely inappropriate physical contact.
This isn’t a situation where you’re in his house so you have to follow his rules and not wear shoes in the house or touch the thermostat, for example. You are raising a human being who is in one of the most impressionable stages of her life. It’s your job to step up to protect your child from growing up in any abusive environment whatsoever. Her future literally depends on you making sure they are in a situation where they can thrive, not live in fear of abuse from the very start.
It’s time to grow up and move out. I don’t even know how you don’t already know the answer… move🤦♀️
What you should do is get your own place!
You need to get your own place ASAP
She is ALMOST 2 and he smacked her in the mouth! Does that even register with you?
She is a baby. He smacked your baby in the mouth and you’re still there?
Smacking any age child in the mouth or face is abuse but and ALMOST 2 year old. OMG! You’re insane for still being there.
Um he would be a dead motherfuckwr if he EVER laid a hand on my child like that. That’s ur BABY defend her fuck if its his house or not
Your kid - your rules
He isn’t going to change. You’re not going to be able to convince him too. But no he’s not disciplining, he is mentally and physically abusing a normal 2 year old. Gotta find a cheap apartment or something. Maybe something where the first months rent is free with a cheap deposit. Gosh anything. You got to get out of there.
Nope!
And as her mother you should have picked her up and left the house for good.
I would have stabbed him first, but that’s just how I’d handle it.
The moves have it. And Id have it out with him.
She’s 2 years old for Christ’s sake. It doesn’t matter if the father handled it, you need to speak up as well and also move! He sounds like a mean old man, she’s a child. Your child. Why even ask? Speak up and leave.
Also, should you allow this to continue, you are teaching your daughter that this is an acceptable way for a man to treat her. You’re setting her up for a future of allowing herself to be abused. You need to set an example for her RIGHT NOW that NO man has any right to EVER put his hands on her.
I don’t understand posts like this. That is your child! If there is something going on you don’t like,speak up! No one else but you carried that baby for 9 months and gave birth to them. You are your childs voice for now…if you don’t feel like its in your babies best interest speak up!
He’s breaking your child’s spirit at a most critical time of her life when her little brain is forming connections of trust, security, etc that will be permanently wired into adulthood. Now he’s resorted to physical tactics. I know if you’re living there it feels like you’re stuck but please start making a plan to leave before more damage is done to her. Mental abuse follows long after you’re away from it. That’s a guilt you don’t want to have to live with. Please leave.
move the hell out !! smacking a 2 year old in the mouth ??
So why are you allowing this?
go to a shelter if needed but get you and your daughter away from the toxic nasy bastart !!
That’s your kid, speak the hell up and if he gets mad…he gets mad 
do NOT let him keep treating her that way. She will suffer later from it.
Stand up for your child!
Move out. Get your shit together and move out that’s what I would do
Move the fuck out and tell him to keep his hands off your kid! Grow up.
Personally I would flip my lid. Tell him if he ever puts his hands on your kid again you’ll be taking it further and going to the cops. That is not okay, make your boundaries clear. I don’t let anyone discipline my child. And at that age? There is no appropriate discipline. They don’t even understand why they are in trouble at that age.
Wow! I would have flipped my shit!..
Time to get your own place.
I see so many people sticking up for you know I do not think you should have hit her in the mouth but also you are in his house you need to hurry up and find a place this is too much on him you keep going on how you should have the right to discipline them that’s true but you need to do it in your own house you need to leave your father-in-law or boyfriend’s father you can’t have it both ways you’re in his house his rules if you wanted to be your rules move to your own house
Well he doesn’t need to smack her mouth. But you live in HIS house so either control your own or he obviously will. Get your own place and do as you please until then you really don’t have much say…
I mean, your in his house. But the hitting her was to far. If you domt like how he wants her acting in his house you need to move out 
You shouldn’t be living there but you are and I’m sure you will continue for at least a few more months until you can find a place of your own. With that being said you need to make it “crystal clear” NO ONE is allowed to touch her again! You’re her mother, her protector… get a backbone and stand up for your child.
If you don’t discipline your child then yes, others need to step up and do it. Smacking isn’t discipline, no one but the parents should be able to spank
Tell him he is not to hit your child ever again. You will take car of your child’s discipline not him. And get a place of your own as soon as possible.
Perhaps as grownups you should have your own housing. Two year olds have a lot of energy. Grandfather must’ve forgotten, and he should NEVER lay hands on your child in anger.
Smacking a two year old in the mouth? The fuck you still doing there?! Take your daughter and leave!
She’s two! They’re gonna run around, get excited, play loudly etc. they don’t understand that people don’t like it or think it’s wrong! She should be able to play, be active and be a TODDLER/CHILD without being yelled at and especially without being hit in the face!
Touch my kid and die
It is called a job and support you’re self
First off let me say that he was WRONG for hitting her in the mouth. With that being said, why does he have to discipline her when you are there? See I’ve seen a LOT of parents that let their kids do what the hell they want. While they are preoccupied on their phones, their kids do whatever they want. Some people like to let their kids run freely and explore if that’s the case you really should be in your own place. If he’s so mean and cantankerous why are you still there. I mean if it was me and I didn’t like the way someone was treating my kid, I would be out of there. Maybe you should go live with your parents if that’s an option or better yet you and your boyfriend should have your own place.
As many have already said, move out. That man is toxic and will leave a negative lasting impression on her. What I don’t agree with, is the people saying “his house his rules”, because if you moved in with a boyfriend and he hit you, that would not be acceptable. So while you’re looking for a new place tell grandpa if he lays a hand on your child again you’re pressing charges.