The grandfather surely treated his own children the same way. Not anyone I would want my children around. Be the last time for me. Hope you can get out into your own place. At the same rate, grandpa needs to be told HANDS OFF!!! Don’t let ANYONE BULLY YOU OR YOUR CHILD!!!
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Hes probably very old and very irritable you guys need to move so he can have space some people arent built to handle small children, i would leave fast before he snaps on her and breaks her arm or something
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Move out. Take responsibility
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Kids are gonna run around yelling and screaming. It’s what they do!
My mother threatened to spank my child (not even a year old) because she was reaching for my mom’s phone.
Now, my daughter, for the most part, knows she isn’t supposed to have phones. She is very smart. But she is a very very curious kid. And well, a kid. She gets into everything!
I gotta be honest. When my mother even threatened to smack my kid I about smacked her.
If she laid a hand on my kid i would have smacked her back. No hesitation.
No one should be putting hands on your child. Bottom line.
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Move…it’s not your house
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Okay, no. The kid doesn’t sound like she need to be disciplined. She just getz excited when she sees him or plays. The ones saying that that is behavior for disciplining need to have your heads checked. Holy fuck.
Move… It’s his house. Don’t get me wrong he is definitely in the wrong but y’all are in his house
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Next time he gets excited slap the shit our of him and tell him he needs to calm down. His brain has developed completely, she is a toddler. Stand up for your child. You are her biggest advocate.
I was going to say yes they can discipline until I read further and saw “in the mouth”
That’s unacceptable to me. Sounds like a cranky old bully who needs to be left entirely alone.
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You are in his house. Let’s just leave that there.
BUT girl, I would have smacked him in his mouth! Hitting children in the face is NEVER and I repeat NEVER okay!
I would definitely address this with your boyfriend. And he can either take it up with his father OR you can take it up with his father.
But as for yelling at her for every little thing. Yes it’s his house. But what he needs to understand is that she’s a small child.
Children are loud. They get excited. They are tiny tornadoes from the time they wake up until the time they go to bed.
There needs to be a family meeting ASAP.
I would never. Girl when I read that I was fucking SHOOK.
No.
Yelling and raising your voice at my child is one thing IF they are doing something wrong.
MAYBE and I say MAYBE a light smack on the butt if the bad behavior keeps up.
BUT to the mouth.
Girl. You have more strength than I do. 
This isn’t discipline ,But of course grandparents should beable to discipline
OH HELL NO SPEAK YOUR MIND DO NOT LET ANONE GRANDPARENT OR NOT HIT YOUR CHILD! I live with my parents and I will straight up fight them for touching my child that is the parents job not theirs period you will not hit my child ever
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I would definitely get me and my child away from that monster. I would probably even leave my man for allowing it to happen. And definitely never leave this man alone with your child ever. Maybe go talk to a shelter and see if you and your daughter can stay.
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It doesn’t sound like grandpa needs around the clock care… So, maybe get a place of your own? Perhaps having 3 extra people in his house is just getting to be too much for him? 
Move out or put the baby into care. What’s wrong with you? How much child abuse do you think should be tolerated if you’re under someone’s roof?
He, a grown man hit your one year old baby in the face. Is her head and neck ok?
I’d leave the boyfriend too to be honest because you say he handled it but he let it get to this point and he’s happy for you to live there still, and you seem to have no confidence and are failing to protect your child. Just take your child and go to a shelter or to family before she gets killed. He was able to sock her in the face in front of you and you couldn’t stop him and felt unable to even challenge him on it. Would you be able to stop him hitting her a bit harder next time? It only takes a split second and a little more force and she wouldn’t be here now.
This sounds harsh but you need to realise this isn’t normal and I think you need to find some support. If not for you, do it for her.
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Doesn’t really matter if it’s his house or not. He should have never hit her in the mouth and him being mean to her is complete bs. You and your boyfriend need to move out then cut ties with him.
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Ask that old man if he cares if his grandchildren hate him or not. If he doesn’t really care then I say find a new place ASAP and do t ha e a tight relationship with him. We are only the memories we leave behind. People remember how we made them feel.
Why does her father let this continue? Why cant you move?
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That is not discipline. That is aggressive behavior. He needs to back the eff off.
Nobody has a right to smack a baby in the face…
Hopefully you can find your own place soon…
I would definitely be sitting grandpa down and telling him even though you appreciate letting us stay here under NO circumstance does that give him the right to hit your baby…
Now with that said…most old people do not like having young noisy children around…even there own grand children…you never said how old grandpa is???
If he is 60…unless he has dementia then just being a asshole…if 80 then could be just that age…work with seniors…even though they love their grand kids they can only take in small doses…
You may have to limit time together
My children’s grandparents do not discipline them. It is up to me and their father to discipline them, and only us. If they are babysitting them (which doesnt happen) time out is all that’s allowed. They definitely DO NOT strike my children, I would have slapped him back tbh.
Shes your daughter STICK UP FOR HER.!!
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Nope! Discipline is for parents to do NOT grandparents!
But what your boyfriends dad is doing isn’t discipline it’s abuse!
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I love how many people on here are saying it’s his house it’s his rules!!
that’s super awesome except for abuse and neglect are illegal and CPS would feel a different way about it.
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Protect your baby and get away from him! If somebody smacked my little in front of me I’d be in jail. You are your babies protection, you can’t allow anybody to mistreat her period.
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Sounds like a hateful old man who doesn’t want you two there. I’d be getting out of there asap!
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Move out as soon as possible. And that’s not discipline that’s physical abuse 
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Never!!! The only people who have the right to discipline are you and your partner although that is not discipline its abuse!! Id be damned if my parents or husbands parents did something like that.You choose who is fortunate enough to be in your childrens life and he does not deserve to be in her life by any means. Also shes a baby barely almost two and KIDS WILL BE KIDS! Dont let that man ruin her sweet little spirit! Praying for you mama! 
I’m sorry I’m the only one to discpline my son I don’t care who it is my son being a shit tell me I’ll handle It
He seems like a bitter ass man lol
I’ve always said to my MIL. She can discipline if I’m not there, no not in a different room, but physically not in the house. If there’s an issue she walks away and comes to me.
She taps his hands sometimes when he starts hitting but if I ever see her smack him on the mouth, his butt, or anything…I’m going to smack her see how she likes it.
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Miserable old shit he should have lots of time for her not yell at her,lots of grand parents would love that little granddaughter.
I would completely lose my 
if my mom or my in laws hit my kids… I don’t even like my MIL telling my kids what to do… 
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Save up and move out.
I don’t care who it is, if someone hurts my baby I’m coming for them. There’s ways to get out, just the three of you, so she’s not subjugated to this treatment. Trust me, that shit leaves emotional scars forever
My parents leave the disciplining up to me or her father. They don’t yell at her or anything (they don’t babysit I’m always right there) but if my child is doing something they ask me to get her or I do it on my own. Grandparents shouldn’t be the bad guy. Time outs are ok but keep your hands to yourself. Don’t be afraid to set the boundaries with the grandfather. Stick up for the baby and yourself. Most of these women on here are being so harsh. Definitely plan to move if you can but in the mean time take no shit from him when it comes to your daughter.
I feel like no one should discipline the child except the parents. And if they try to disciple it’s a back stab at you as a parent.
First off she’s 2, she doesn’t fully understand what she’s doing that’s pissing him off. If you do not want him to discipline her, then tell him. Yes it is his house but that is your daughter. If someone had smacked my child in the mouth, they’d be going away in an ambulance!!
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Shes still a baby 2 years old. My God hell no. I would of punched that old man right in his nose if he smacked my daughter’s mouth! Wtf. Move out!
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Move out girl!
Obviously he doesn’t want the attention of an little girl being excited to see a grumpy old man.
One day, he will miss her excited eyes and laughter.
Take your little family and go start on your own with your own rules under your own roof.
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Be grown ,get your own place . That way you never have to deal with bs
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You’re invading with a child in someone’s home. He thought it’s ok it isn’t…move
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He is so wrong ,You are so wrong and your husband is wrong . You need a talk to the old man and tell him that you are there to discipline her .Talk to your husband and tell him to talk to his father and tell him that just because you are staying there doesn’t mean that he could abuse his granddaughter. The sooner that you move the better. I am a grandma to my only grandson. I watch him ever since he was born and I don’t do a thing with out calling his mom or my son.They say that I spoil him and that I have to spank him but I do a lot of talking to him. Very, very seldom that I give him a little spank. I give him a lot of kisses.
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That is abuse not discipline trust me I was physically and mentally abused from 6-16 (physical abuse stopped when i was 8 and left till I was 13 I went back to protect my sister but the mental was non stop) by my mum’s ex partner (mum tried to leave). Now all my in laws are allowed to do are time outs or taking things away or sometimes a little tap on the back of the hand with your finger for doing big dangerous things i.e climbing on tables, couches/chairs, playing with the oven, touching power points, throwing things then yes but nothing more and only because they sometimes watch them and they are 6,4 and 2 yrs they push boundaries and need to have respect for things and people
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Grandpa needs to be kicked in the face! Dirty old piece of shit man! And your boyfriend needs to man up and get you and his child out! So his daughter doesn’t have to grow up with a abusive old man!
Move out! Protect your children at all costs. That is your responsibility as a parent.
Children learn what they live.
I know it’s hard but you can do it.
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Yes they do you have a right to discipline their grandchildren there in their house they’re in their home but poor babies you can’t keep them locked up I’m so sorry he smacked her should have never smacked that baby in the mouth ever I probably would’ve beat the shit out of them if that was mine but as I know you still need a roof over your head to i’ll save your money and Get out of there so you can live in your own life with your baby girl
That is toxic for your daughter. Move ASAP.
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Your daughter must feel so scared, restless and helpless in this situation. Imagine being abused and imagine the two people you love in the world watching and allowing it.
Been there done that. It’s torture. She relies on you. She only has you to rely on. What other people think, or do, or how they act in retaliation, does not matter. Your baby comes first in every circumstance. This is abuse.
She needs her parents to protect her, not teach her it’s ok for people to abuse her.
Report him for child abuse. Beat him if be ever touches your baby again, and yelling at her is beyond damaging to her spirit and self esteem.
Do this for her, she needs a protector. That’s you.
The father should also be ashamed. He should be dealing with this as well. The grandfather should be reported and no contact should be established for your daughters wellbeing, safety and happiness.
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Don’t let anyone smack your child.
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No one should hit a child in the face but in saying that your in his house you know what he is like so how about protecting your child before he gets to her like remove her from that particular room and stuff save your money and move
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First off, that is not discipline.
Second, she is just a toddler. She does not understand why he is getting mad at her. He does not need to be getting mad at her like that.
I would have slapped the sh*t outta him for slapping my child’s mouth. Better yet, I would have punched him in the mouth for doing so. Definitely move out. Even if it is just you and your girl going to a women’s shelter. Dont let your poor baby stay around that. He has some issues and it is not your daughter’s fault.
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I would of hit him. More fool you letting a grown man hit your child in the face you’ve allowed it to happen and won’t say nothing do how do you expect it to change??
Move out he’s clearly irritated by you guys being there
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Leave right now before it gets worse, please!
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It sounds like he just can’t handle being around a child her age. How was he when your husband was little?
He should not be smacking her on the mouth! As long as you are living with him though… he will probably do it again. I doubt he will change his ways now. You really should get your own place.
Move out of his house take little family with you.
You little baby girl dose not need to be treated that way, poor little baby girl.
Tell him to keep his hands to himself.
You and your little family move out right away
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Move out. Grandparents discipline children that libe with them. Sojnds.like.he can’t handle a small one running around all the time. It is his home sounds like he likes peace and quite at home and that isn’t possible with a child there.
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I would probably be in jail if someone, ANYone hit my child in front of me like that!! Idgaf who owns the house. It’s a wrap.
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No they don’t. Unless you say it’s ok. They have no right to put their hands on your child. That pisses me off when grandparents think just because they are the grandparents they have a right to put their hands on your child. But FYI THEY DON’T HAVE THE RIGHT TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD UNLESS THEY HAVE YOUR PERMISSION ITS NOT THEIR CHILD ITS YOURS. Get out before he breaks her lil spirit plz.
Why would you live there? Do you have family to help provide a room for you and daughter? Do either of you work? If so could contribute to household expenses where you stay. He probably doesn’t tolerate little kids and he will smack her again and you might not see it next time. Keep her away from him!!
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Oh bad enough his yelling at your daughter but to touch is a real no no i think you should stand up to this bully boyfriends dad or not and inform him you dont need his help that she is your daughter and you will correct her if needed and that if he every touches her again you will ring the police and have him charged with child abuse and just after you say this pack you bags and leave you shouldnt allow you daughter to be abuse by this man just teaches her thats its ok for men in her life to treat her this way and it isnt so up to you but i wouldnt stay a minute longer than i had to no one touches your child ever
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A smack in the face is NOT discipline. That is abuse. This is your child you are in charge. She is 2, you need to protect her. Talk to bf’s dad if he continues you need to leave.
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MOVE ASAP. Thats emotional, mental AND physical ABUSE. No need to have you or her walking around on egg shells because he is there. Your to protect her. Also what if the neighbours contacted docs because they hear him consistently yelling at her:, you would be seen as failing your duty of care to protect and provide a safe environment for your child…
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NO-ONE REALATED OR NOT HAS THE RIGHT TO HIT A TODDLER IN THE FACE! You and your childs father need to protect your daughter. Either get out of of there or put your foot down and tell him whats what because THAT is entirely unacceptable!
If anyone hit my kid, not only would I hit them them back, but I’d be calling the police and moving out as soon as I could
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Slap the shit out of grandpa for doing her that way and tell him if he ever does it again u will be worse than u were that time
He smacked your ALMOST 2 year old in the mouth. There is no reason for a baby that age to be smacked in the mouth. If someone did that to my baby at that age not even God himself could help them. Id move out or put grandpa in his place.
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I grant NO ONE permission to physically discipline my child… not even her father.
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Move out! The grandparents should respectfully talk to you and your daughter and Express their feelings and concern but they should never lay a hand on your children. I’d smack him right back across the face and tell him it was WRONG of him to do that and HE needs DISCIPLINE.
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You need to move, ASAP. This is toxic and and verbal abuse slowly working it ways to physical. I child should be able to be a child. Find somewhere else to stay but get out
You really need to ask, get out and stay out
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You need to MOVE!!! Hitting a child for playing isn’t ok. If he keeps doing it she is never going to be the same. She is going to think playing and being a kid is wrong.
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My kids grandparents are allowed to discipline or spank her but I DARE someone to pop her in her face for ANY reason. We don’t live with our grandparents and our rather spoil than spank but they are allowed anytime they watch her.
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If you’re old enough to play house you’re old enough to move out and pay for your own place 
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Oh hell no. I would have called the cops and reported that old man for child abuse. That’s NOT discipline… hitting a baby in the mouth like that…that’s child abuse
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Get Out. Go for domestic housing. That’s child abuse.
First person to smack my child in the face will be getting their arm ripped off and shoved somewhere uncomfortable. Not on.
She is still a baby …not even two!? CHILD ABUSE
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I agree with everyone too. Move out. Shes this small and he hit her in the mouth? Wow. Imagine the future when shes bigger and able to really misbehave! Find your own place, and move as soon as possible!!
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Grandparents should discipline but IMO minimally. That being said, he’s way overstepping and needs to stop. Have you actually talked to him about it? Without your bf in the conversation? I would sit the grandfather down and CALMLY talk to him bout it and ask why he’s so hard on her. Explain why he needs to stop as nicely and respectfully as you can. See what happens. If he doesn’t stop then I would raise hell honestly
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That’s not discipline, that’s abuse.
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Yes if your living at his house he has a right to discipline her. But no right at all to smack her. If a child is at someone else’s house , they have a right to expect certain things and discipline, by this I mean asking or telling a child what is appropriate
I’d punch him in the mouth
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I would have already put my foot up his ass, but that’s just me.
I feel sorry for your daughter, honestly. Get your own place. Poor child.
That’s child abuse right there!!!
Get her away from this toxic abusive man, he will break her spirit and she will never be the same again.
What he done there was not discipline, it was him losing control with anger.
What a nasty horrible arsehole!!!
She’s YOUR CHILD. You have every right to be concerned. You are her advocate. If you don’t stand up for her, who will? She needs to know that her parents are going to defend her to the ends of the earth. I’d move as soon as possible. She is what’s important. You guys can get out of that situation. There’s always a way. It may not be Easy or the most pleasant at the moment, but you have to do what you have to do. Also, you guys could apply for assistance to get into lower income housing and things like that.
Hes a toxic grandpa all negatives
Yes MOVE he does not need you all there so takes it out on you dear little girl
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If u child is doing something wrong u should take care of it, but if u dont i guess it would be ok for the granddad to handle it, but in thos case i think he over acted. I dont think he should of smat the not two yet in the mouth, that is to young.
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I would have smacked him in the mouth and walked out with my daughter , u don’t allow someone else to smack your child and especially not in the fkn mouth that’s disgusting and he should be ashamed of himself , but you have to leave and take your child with u cause if she can’t trust u to protect her from the big bully the. Who can she trust
I’d have smacked him in the mouth if he’d have hit my two year old
Get your own place he will only treat her worse as she gets older anyone laid a hand on my child I would be in Jail
Move. That’s the shit part about living with someone. My brother recently moved in with me with his 8 year old daughter. It’s my house. My rules and they know it. No, he should have hit her. And yes I’d be livid if it was my kid. But if you feel like it’s an environment your kid doesn’t need to be in, you have the power to move out.
There’s nothing wrong with him talking to her for disciplining her but smacking a 2 year old in the mouth to much.
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If someone hit my child I would not be held responsible for my actions. You need to do your best to leave that situation and have no contact with that asshole. How dare he lay his hands on your child. Until you manage to leave try keep your daughter out of his way and don’t leave him alone with her. If he’s going to hit her in front of you he will definitely do it when you’re not there.
Sounds like you don’t discipline her if you did he would not have to
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Move I don’t see no reason to live with parents that treat your child bad I wouldn’t put up with it. Even if I had to get a job and pay more I would always make sure my child is happy and safe
I would be gone asap.
There’s a fine line between discipline and abuse! That my sweet, is down right abuse. No child deserves any of that.
You need to leave ! Clearly he can’t cope with the kids ! This is a no brainer