- Why don’t you have a job that allows you to pay for your own place?
- Why doesn’t your BF have a job that allows you to pay for your own place?
- If you can’t afford an apartment, why weren’t you using reliable birth control, and why did you have a baby you couldn’t afford?
- Didn’t you know what kind of person Grandpa was before you agreed to move in?
Perhaps you have your reasons; I would like to know the answers.
NOW:
- Be sure you are on reliable birth control (maybe two types, even).
- Figure out how much you & BF need for an apt. together and separately. (have a Plan B if you split up).
- Set milestones for getting jobs or better jobs & execute your plan.
- If it’s bad enough now & you can’t get through to Grandpa by asking nicely, see if there’s a friend or other family member who could take in you and the baby for a few months until you can get on your feet.
- Contact a women’s shelter and a social worker to clarify what you need to do to get out ASAP, with or without BF.
- Assume BF does not have his dad’s violent tendencies, or you’d need to leave him too.
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That qualifies as child abuse. If any grandparents of my sons ever thought to even lay a hand on him in such a way they would be removed from my son’s life immediately and cut off communication permanently. She needs to be out of that situation because if she stays it will only get worse for both you and her. Do whatever you can to take your things and leave before she ends up scared of anyone who goes near her…
Get out now. Always protect your kids
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The question you should be asking is,…is it ok that 2 adults cant find the means to support themselves and their child?
You, the parents, have put your child in this position! I bet you’ve lived with his dad since you had this child! You’ve had sufficient time to get a home of your own, do it!
I cant believe you’re still living there when your child is being mistreated!
Shes 2, old enough for the both of you to work. Get off your lazy asses and quit sponging off his dad! Hes made it obvious that he’s tired of you living there!
Grandparents should have every right to correct behaviour in their grandchild, your want them to be able to still learn how to be a good human when not in your company.
But this doesnt seem like discipline, however. And the moment another human being lays a hand on my child. I’m laying mine on them.
He had no right to hit her nobody should ever be hitting her…but u 3 should have ur own place problem solved
I agree move an get your own place. Amen
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That’s not behavioral discipline, that’s straight up abuse. Move out and keep your little one in a SAFE environment.
Trying to make her into a submissive woman
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Don’t let anyone hit your baby
First off the BD Dad probably has the parenting of Children should be seen & not heard. Or he just can’t do small children. Which is fine. That’s how he is. (My parents are the same way). Now that we got that covered. He shouldn’t of smacked your little girl. That you should of addressed.
My suggestion. Move out. Grandpa can’t do kids 24/7. Maybe during a visit but not 24/7.
He’s done raising kids. Time for you, his son & granddaughter to move out.
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I could not have sat there and watched him hit my child in the mouth. Toddlers a packed full of energy she cannot help it. I’d pop him in the mouth.
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Get your own place! Your daughter should come before a boyfriend! Why should she have to suffer for the choice you make?
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Move before she’s no longer a happy little kid anymore.
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She isn’t even 2 an she gets smacked in the mouth instead of standing there letting your blood boil tell him straight keep your hands of my child if my dad ever hit my kids I would flip my shit at him your her mother stand up to him ffs I would rather live in a hostel or get temp accommodation that live with a man like that she’s still a baby no’s no different wrong on so many levels I would have gone as soon has he started shouting at her told him to shut up an leave her alone an if my bf choose to stay with him then see you later your bf should have told his dad to leave her alone be a man an stand up for your daugther my boy had just turned to an he gets a lil tap on his hand not even enought to make him cry kids are kids let them be them
I dont care who you are, if you hit my child, I will end you. He had no place whatsoever touching your daughter and If i were you, theres no way in hell i wouldnt have blown up. YOU need to step up and say something. It is your child, whether you live with this man or not, it’s your child and no one is to discipline her other than you and her father. My god i would be outraged if someone hit my child. I would packing my things and moving out immediately your poor baby.
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Wow. I would have absolutely flipped and got out of there in a instant!! can you not move to your parents whilst you save for a place?? There is no way I could live around someone like that let alone someone who has hit your baby whilst you was there imagine if you wasn’t there?!! No words!!! I’d be raging!!
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I’d be giving gramps a piece of my mind. He has no right to put his hands on your kid, doesn’t matter if you’re under his roof. Also, get tf out of his house.
Never ever should he smack her in the mouth!! I would have jabbed him right in the throat and told him to not ever touch my child again or cps will be notified.
Sure its his house. But its your house and her house too!
What do you mean you feel you can not say anything to him because you live with him? Stand up for your daughter! You let him know that his behavior is not okay. If he continues, call social services on him. How dare he slap a two year old across the mouth?! Social services will more than likely help you, and direct you to the people, and resources you need to move out. Don’t allow anyone to mistreat your child because you feel you have no where to go. There’s help out there if you don’t have family or friends.
Oh hell no! I would have attacked if he hit my child!
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My husband’s grandad was like that to him. And his mom was not.
Guess who rubbed off on him? And everyday is a battle over to discipline or not to discipline over small things.
I’d say move. Noone needs that in their life.
Move out!!! Or kick him out! Dont care if it makes him homeless, hes trash. You need to whoop his ass 
no one should be touching your child, she is just being exactly what she is, a child!! Smack his ass in the mouth and see how he likes it
He shouldn’t be disciplining her. Now my son stays with my parents but will be 11 this week. But even then back when he was little we had to live with them when he was first born and then again when he was 5 because the house we bought had to have some work done, if they had an issue they would bring it up to me and let me decide if it was even worth him getting in trouble. But if one of his grandparents were to ever even think about laying a hand on my child it would be the last time they ever saw him. Especially if it were my in laws they didn’t even raise their own kids and by damned would they be trying to raise mine. My husband knows I would go off ( he has seen my crazy before! 
) but definitely move out as soon as possible I dont know what state your in but I know where I live they have apartments you can get based on your income, so your rent and utilities are more then affordable. We had to do this when we first got married our rent was under $20 a month and the utensils were super cheap as well… then as we got more financially better off we were able to rent a house then buy our own… but please get out of that place!! Its unhealthy for your daughter and for your relationship!!
Pack your shit and get out. That’s what you need to do.
No Hitting, pERIOD!!! He’s not EVEN deserving of the Love She has shown Him!! She’s destroyed ALL Her trust,Y D/F and You are the ones that are going to pay for it!!!
He doesn’t like you so he doesn’t like your child. Please remove her from this situation
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Smack him round the mouth and leave
i couldn’t be there knowing he did that, wouldn’t last one more second in that house.
Get out of that house. Anyways… some oldies are like that around kids. They’re super irritated, they curse and all. You’ll hear them shout at their grandkids because of different reasons. They do love them tho (I think 
). But yeah… saw a lot of grandads like that.
Nobody hits my kid but me.I would be out of there immediately!!!with or without the boyfriend!!!
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You should have went to the police department filed a restraining order and got your stuff and got out of there you should seriously thinking about doing that… your children should always come first… if you don’t make your children first someone else will and you will be left with visitation… you should never let anyone put their hands on your child
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Tu as parfaitement raison .de plus ça ne se fait pas de taper les enfants
For one thing grandpa probably doesn’t have the patience for a two-year-old every day you and her father need to get your own place. He definitely needs to be told and when she gets excited when she sees him that’s all you need to do is explain to him she’s just excited to see you no reason to yell at her I know how you feel though my daughters 12 she talks loud and she gets very excited.
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I believe no one has the right to spank or tell someone else child anything unless parents left you babysitting them. I cant stand when someone steps in to tell my child or grandchild to behave when im telling them myself. Everyone should discipline their own.
Is he just that way or has something happened to change him? After my mom passed away last June my dad was a totally different person. He’d yell at them to calm down when they were just excited to see him. He and I got into it after he yelled at all 3 girls and swatted my 3 yr old with a switch. We didn’t speak for 2 mos. My girls love him to pieces and vise versa. But going through losing my mom has changed him big time, he’s lost. It’s no excuse by any means, he don’t need to take his pain out on my kids, we all miss her.
Sounds like you need your own place.
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Nobody ever has the right to strike a child and a two year old that man has problems get your own place
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I’m guessing all the people suggesting lawsuits, leaving, restraining orders and the like never got an ass whooping when they were younger? How did you all turn out??
Are you living in his house??
It wasn’t right for him to yell or hit your child. I don’t believe in either.
If you moved in his house and living off him either move or keep your daughter away from him it’s going to damage her. It sounds as if she is making him nervous and irrational
To prevent killing that bastard, you need to leave asap. Get a place, or even go so far as to stay with a friend or something. But you and your baby need to leave
If someone I don’t care who it is hit my child in the mouth they would not ever hit another child I would have him put in jail
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If you are present that’s ridiculous. But if I’m not around or don’t see it I absolutely expect my parents to discipline her. This just sounds like he’s an inpatient asshole though 
I believe all adults living with children should all be able to discipline the children, but it should be discussed before it’s problem, talk about what is and what isn’t acceptable.
Personally I’d move asap…
I’m not okay with anyone putting hands on my kids. 
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Get out of his house now.
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Maybe get out of his house so he can’t abuse your daughter? It would take one time for me not to allow someone around my children who verbally or physically abused them.
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I dont let anyone spank my son but I have a uncle who tries and I straight up tell him get away from my son when I see him going near him to yell at him or try to discipline and I pick my son up and walk out of the room he gets the point now
i told my dad that he was allowed to spank our kids if the acted up and didnt listen…but only when we werent home.
I’m okay with most people getting on to my kids IF they deserve it. It sounds like he flips out over anything and everything though and I’d probably flip out on him.
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Personally I would have flipped and then would move out ASAP
You set the rules for physical discipline. He can yell in his own house though. As long as your husband told him he has no right to put his hands on your child, then it’s done. Hope you’re looking for a new place to live, because if you aren’t on the same page with the people you live with, then you gotta go.
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My question would be why you live with him? Are you all living in his house? If that’s the case, it’s his rules and the option to leave is always there. You can find your own place and not worry about it. If this is the case and he put hands on your child MOVE. It’s very easy to forget the kindness of those around you in these moments. If he’s welcomed you in his home, that’s a gift. You are a parent and even if young, an adult because of that. If you can’t stand on your own in your own place things won’t be your way. Every adult I know who has a child and lives at home has struggled with discipline with their parents and their kid. For the parents it’s their need to step in because they’d do it differently, luckily that’s an easy fix… moving.
If he’s staying with you I’d let him know YOU make the rules and it’s not acceptable. If he touches her again, he’s out.
Staying with family is hard because of difference in parenting styles. A smack in the mouth is not a big deal to older generations, my grandparents always checked me. My mom allowed it… we’ve had a clear conversation that’s not the way I raise my girls. It’s understood.
Why don’t you pop him in the mouth and see how he likes it. Don’t ever let someone put a hand on your child. It’s your job to protect her. Theres no reason a kid should get in trouble for being a kid. Fuck him and his feelings. Protect your baby!!! && MOVE.
Get your own place… simple as that. His house his rules. You should understand that when. You move in with someone else.
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I grew up in an era where spankings were used to reinforce what you taught your child and they learned quickly.Spankings were a tool. In this generation there are people who use children to blame there failures on. With all thats going on in this era,drugs,and lazy people doing nothing and hoping for the best is stupid
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&& for all the Aholes still spanking your kids. It’s barbaric & pure laziness. Figure out how to actually parent and not just hurt your child so they fear you enough to listen. Just because your parents did it to you doesn’t make it right. Your child shouldn’t have to fear the only people they have in this world. Your all fucked.
I wasn’t finished.My rule of thumb was if a child is doing something to hurt themselves or others a spanking was used. If they were old enough to lie on purpose like a teenager would they got a spanking or an equivelant of one.Respect was taught at an early age.This is gust my opinion. It wouldn’t work now
God, no one should be hitting a two year old period.
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Grandpa don’t have the patience…get your own place…
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Smack him in the mouth next time he annoys you, see how he feels
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No other person would never be allowed to hit my 2 yr. Old baby.this is just wrong.thats your baby.
You have to leave ,I’m a grandad and for your child’s safety see your council and they’ll help, the place they give you won’t be very good but your child is safe from abuse.
get out of there right now., no child needs too see madness., get out of there pls
I would say move out and find your own place , yes I agree with you he shouldn’t be slapping her when person gets to certain age they like their peace and quiet… instead of yelling at her if he doesn’t,t like the noise he should be telling you guys to move out bc he can,t stand the noise or ,ECT,ECT.
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If it’s needed, parents should do it. Sounds to me he’s not doing that, he gets too irritated and yelling for no reason. You have to let children be children. Sounds she just gets on his nerves. I’d keep her away from him if you can’t stop his meanness. Me, he’d never lay a hand on her or make her feel like she’s in the way. I think it’s terrible to treat her that way. If possible, I’d get out and he’d never see her.
I would say to the boyfriend “either we move or I and my children move without you, I have had enought”
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the grandfather obiously dosn’t want her their so do anything you have to do to get out of their
I’d smack him in his damn mouth wtf!!
Stick up for your child. tell pappy to quit acting like a spoiled brat. The grand daughter may grow up and have to care for him when he can’t do it himself!
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I’ve lived with my mom before and honestly I have no problems with her or my brother and sister giving him spankings. I know that they’ll try timeout or whatever else before it comes to that. And if they do spank him right away I know it’s because he did something really bad.
Yell back and stand up for her. No one should smack her in the face like that. She deserves respect
You need to get out of his house.
You’re the parent, if you can I’d talk to him. Ask him to talk to you before he does. Maybe he feels he’s helping. I’d be livid if anyone laid hands. I think often times grandparents feel they’re helping when they’re really not. It can be frustrating as a parent when this happens. I’d pull him aside and laid down the expectations. Reaffirm you’re the parent. He should not be laying a hand on her whatsoever.
I wouldve smacked the shit outta papaws old ass, my parents live with us and they are allow to spank my kids but that’s it, absolutely no hitting my kids in the face, I would literally jump on one of my parents if they did that.
I believe in the theory “it takes a village to raise a child” which includes discipline. That being said, physical discipline/punishment is not okay for someone other than parent. It sounds to me like the bfs father isn’t used to little kids, cuz most of your explanation sounds like she’s just being 2, and he needs his space. I’d start looking for and working towards your own home. In the meantime, make it clear that he is not allowed to put his hands on your daughter.
I would say get your own place. It’s his house if you don’t like it move. Is he in the right absolutely not but you can’t ask him to do anything in his house you need to get out.
Ooooooooh girl I would flip shit. Ain’t no one but me or my husband putting their hands on, or disciplining my child. Fuck all that. You have every right to be mad! YOU are your child’s voice!!! It’s your responsibility to advocate for her! Don’t shy away from that because your scared it will jeopardize your relationship with his father.
You need to say something and leave. That’s not how grandparents or anyone should discipline a child. Please leave so your child is safe.
He sounds just beyond annoyed with her, but she’s freaking 2!! My son only gets spankings on the thigh or butt, the grandparents can discipline him but they would never do it just for my son being a kid and playing.
Maybe start making strides to get your own place. Unfortunately when your in another persons home your subject to their behavior !
That’s not disciplining but abuse to me, he’d definitely get that smack back.
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Stand up…if what you tell us is true. That man has no right to smack her for that reason or yell at her for anything else from what you listed. Was he this way with your bf as a kid?
Yea if he can’t enjoy his granddaughter then he can F off… jeez I wonder how he treated you boyfriend at that age 
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I might not say to much if she need to be punished but not in the mouth. I would had more than likely be in jail
Mom my grandkid lives with me shes 26 and has a 5 6 and 9 year old and i watch them a lot whil she works both her and her husband work noghts so most of the time they are asleep but i watch them while they sleep to so i do a lot of the punishments in the house but if i think they need it theyll get it when i say i cant watch them and not be the boss i pay the bills and buy whats needed its my house and i will say what goes on in it
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But i also dont believe in smacking them in the face theres always a wall they can look at
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I have nothing to say to you,yes I do your crazy, I would e never let someone hit my child, I would be all over them!
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You need to get out of there. I would’ve lost my shit on that mf
Telling her to calm down, chill out, be quiet, yes I can see it, as your in HIS house. Parents aren’t meant to raise their children and their grandchildren. As far as smacking in the mouth, I wouldn’t be making a Facebook post about it as I would packing my things up and moving out…if I wasn’t in jail. That’s just me though. If you can’t move, then you BOTH need to sit down with dad and lay some rules out and find out what would make his life easier as again you’re living in his home.
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Smacked a 2 year old in the mouth!? No, no a thousand times no! I would not tolerate that for one second.
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He has the right to correct her the right way! I would have decked him if he slapped my child in the mouth. Is he an alcoholic?
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Discipline yes. Abuse??? Hell no!!! Find somewhere else to raise your child ASAP
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He is abusing your child. Make him stop. Move out.
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and it sounds like he’s disciplining her bc you don’t 
