I let my parents discipline my son but that’s different. If my bfs parents did I would be mad too.
She will hate him in time. You should not expose her to him. He is harming her central nervous system. That is no joke and not to be taken lightly.
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that is not discipline … that is abuse.
Omg people are actually saying to call the cops over this??? Maybe you should get out of HIS house if you cannot control your child. I’m sure he wants peace and quiet and your child is running around and yelling and he obviously cannot handle that. Either remove your child from the situation by allowing him quiet time where you either get your toddler out of the house or in one specific room away from him or get your own place. Did you allow your child to continue doing something after he asked her not to? Were you not disciplining her so he took it upon himself to do it? Or did he just lash out and slap her out of nowhere? It sounds to me like you need to either respect his house and allow him peace and solitude when he wants to relax or get your own house and pay your own bills.
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I suggest you move out and get a place of your own so your child can feel comfortable
You live with him. Get your own home. Steep one.
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It may be his father’s house, but that is YOUR child! You have every right to step in and speak up. He’s treating your child, his grandchild, like complete crap. Don’t let him yell at her for nonsense, or smack her! Its one thing if he was actually disciplining her appropriately, like when she’s doing something wrong or unsafe, but that’s not the case here.
To a degree yes, but in the end they are not their parent so they can’t just discipline whenever they want to however they want to anytime they want. They need to have respect for their grandchildren’s parents and respect their parenting styles and discipline styles. They had their turn to make their own discipline rules when their children were growing up and their grandparents had to respect that and now it’s your parents turn to respect your parenting and discipline styles. As for what happened in your case yes I would be very upset he has no right to do that she is your child not his and she’s only one-year-old one-year-olds are very energetic he should know that after raising his child/ren. She doesn’t fully understand at that age.
I would be pissed if someone treated my kid like that,she’s little,kids are noisy,she’s playing,she’s excited.But I don’t believe in yelling at kids.Im a gramma now,kids playing ,and the noise does not bother me
I have always dispensed my grandchildren but not like that shoot I have a 4 year old she comes an stay days at a time an she has her stuff her toys if it pretty take her out to a park an stuff thier got to be a room she can play in an get ya own place I loved my grandkids coming out but all mine but one is teens now I have a friend lives with me she has a 17 mon old boy he wild I laugh at him he come in my room crawl on my bed an give me love an tell me night an stuff come in when he now I am a wake I always had kids in my house I belive in making a child mind but not like that becuse it make the child not love grandpa
Yes if you give them the ok I did and parents did and my in lawa
Kids shouldn’t be running and jumping around in the house that’s for outside. If you were doing your job teaching your child how to behave he wouldn’t be yelling at her. He should not have raised a hand to her, that’s wrong. It’s his house and he doesn’t want things broken by your child being out of control. Take her out and burn up the energy so shes calmer in the house. Do your job .
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It is obvious that you can’t live there and that he doesn’t want you ( and her) to be living there. Not matter how hard it is, it is time to make different living arrangements
In my culture yes. But they still should tread lightly!
I have relocated so my mother could live with my family to be cared for. We have very different views on parenting. She is not to discipline or raise our children at all in any way. If the kids misbehave then she is to come and get one of their PARENTS to deal with the situation.
She is nanna simple and plain. Arts and craft and baking and things not smacking, hitting, name calling, labelling swearing, negetive, insulting abusive ect…
Just nice ol grand parents.
Hellz no is it OK for anyone to lay a hand on your child but you and only in a discipline loving manner not out if control physical abuse. He had his day. Now he is simply grandpa and has no parental rights over YOUR children.
DO NOT ALLOW IT. But Make Sure You Are Actually Parenting Too.
I do know some who whinge but then I see how they raise their kids and think we’ll… You reap what you sow.
There is always someone supervising my kids… Obvs we sleep though. So don’t expose your child to anyone who is a toxic person or shows mostly toxic behaviours. Children are easily influenced… Be your babies advocate and stand up for her.
I discipline my grandchildren when they need it. My children allow me to cos Im transparent in what Im doing and its purpose, but most of all, Im respectful and loving so my mokopuna understand what is actually happening and still feel empowered. I also support my kids with different ways of disciplining their children without being so stressed over the process. Discipline is a big thing and very sensitive to the child and parent. Not saying I was the best parent cos I wasnt, many times I had to ring my mum on my kids! lol. But as a Nan, its like a second chance and the opportunity to support my kids being parents cos its not an easy job and can take its toll on both parents and grandchildren.
you will have to move out, and stuff that, I would of punched the mongrel straight back in the mouth before leaving. Mongrel teaching her its ok for males to hit girls. My daughters father was never allowed to hit our girls, ever! Thats domestic violence in training, have that mofo up and get out of there. Sounds like my in-law, doesnt like kids around or his own in that matter. Now hes with us cos hes old and not too well, he has no choice but to put up with our mokopuna and younger children. HE was never allowed to physically discipline any of our children or I would let him have it and their father as well. Yea, get out of there or get staunch on him girl.
Unfortunately you need to get out of that house. Talking to him may lead to him saying my house get out if you dint like it. Heard it so many times. But he sounds like a grouch all around. My fiancé’s family and my parents do not put hands on my kids but will discipline them in a manner for their age and thing they are doing wrong but grandparents and great grand parents know kids are loud and energetic.
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And I usually tell mom 1st but not if it is causing them harm or the other children harm. This grandpa is not a kind man and probably doesnt like his house being over run with kids. He probably wants his house to stay spotless and childless. He is a different kind of grandpa. My husband adores when the kids scream “papa!” But he doesnt like mess either but would never hit them for being children. You need to move out cause he wants his space back. He might react differently to her during visits,but bbn is not a babysitting kind of papa. He grew up in a time children were probably seen but not heard.
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I’ve be throwing these hands!! No not okay I defended myself and my daughter (1month) an got kicked out idgaf i had a place to live shortly after an been here since she’s 8months now.
Get out. You are the voice of your daughter. Sounds like abuse not discipline.
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He, I don’t care Grandpa or not, has NO RIGHT HITTING HER!!! I WOULD HAVE SLAPPED HIM BACK. HOMELESS ME OR NOT.
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Grandparents can discipline but hitting is not discipline. You need to find your place
Move out now went to far all ready
Move out, that’s your Daughter, it’s only going to get worse as she gets older…Grandparents are suppose to be loving this man doesn’t have any right to put his hands on your child…My mom used to babysit while I worked, If my child got out of hand she would tell me, and I dealt with her…
He has no rights to smack her at all! You can always find a place to live, take care of your baby first and foremost!
I’d say yes grandparents have a right to discipline but not put their hand on them, what you’ve explained is not discipline, it’s abuse… especially the line about smacking her for trying to PLAY! Get tf out.
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Smack him on Christmas day around the tree
I agree with all above 
most importantly I think you all should move out if at all possible because I am sure the “disciplining” is only going to get worse 
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Get your own place. You know, grow up.
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That’s not discipline that’s abuse
Yes grandparents can, but that’s just straight up abuse. You her and her dad need to get out asap.
Would be best to move. If that is not possible then it is time for a father son talk.
Yes absolutely. However it would be beneficial to discuss what types of discipline you agree with. I by no way condone anyone hitting my child especially in the face.
No , as a grandparent if the mother or father is around they do the correcting , you just need move out
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I think you should start looking for a new place, so that your child can do and run like she want without getting in trouble for nothing, and for him smacking her on her mouth is not right, this shows clearly he can’t be around kids
I’m a grandma and we don’t yell
I agree with Judy Hunsucker…get out of there now…before he starts abusing her.
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If you live in his house you follow his rules. Your daughter must love him if she gets excited to see him so, I hope, he’s not as bad as you say. If you don’t want him to discipline your daughter, you need to move out. Then you can set the rules.
Yes a grandparent does have the right to discipline discipline my grandchildren but I dont slap or yell or punish for normal child behavior. I usually just have to yell and tell them stop and give them that look or do the stare till they look away. They are 3 and 2 one yr olds. But I also spoil the hell outta them so some of it is my fault. But I hate to see them get yelled at. I only spank if they are biting. But I wouldn’t allow anyone else even my mother to do the discipline except yelling no or putting on time out. I correct them when wrong and also am their constant comfort place.
When we are all together, it is the parents job, but if I am in charge / babysitting, I will if needed for bad behavior.
I would have swinged on him right then and there who cares whose house it is that is your daughter you make the decisions not anyone else besides your babies dad stand your grounds don’t stay quiet
Older ppl definitely come from a different era and some are grumpy and don’t like the noise. Is he newly acting out? How old is he? Your boyfriend should have a talk with him for sure. If he is having personality changes he could be having medical issues or even mental health issues. I would also say this is not a great environment for children though either. May be time to move
I would have smacked him across his face !!!
That is YOUR child take a stand! Nobody has a right to put their hand on your child.
U need to move out.
You and baby daddy shouldn’t be living in his house with your child. Move into your own house and establish your own rules of disciplining your child.
And you NEVER Smack a child in the face!! NEVER!