Glad my kids grew up before all the sex and nudity on TV, newspapers and movies. Hard to shield kids when you are not with them 24 seven. Teach them at home to respect themselves and others.
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you can’t control your teenager, personal experience the stricter you are the more they rebel, my parents were extremely strict on me and so I just did everything I wanted behind their back anyway, including having sex at 13/14, there’s no stopping it the best you can do is sit your son down and teach him safe sex and protection etc , because would you rather he have sex with his gf at a party unsupervised with no knowledge and he knocks his gf up, or would you rather give him the safe option of letting him have her over and also to go hers so there’s at least a parent available if anything bad happens. I’d choose the latter
If you treat him like you cant trust him, then he’s gonna do stuff behind your back. Give him some trust the kid might surprise you. If you teach him how to protect himself and teach him about respecting a girl, then you’ve done your job. Information is the key here, not locking him away. He’s just gonna do it behind your back anyways, atleast he’ll know how to not bring home a baby or an STD.
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Maybe take the time to actually know the girl!!! My nephew started dating a girl at 14 he would stay the night at her house and she would stay the night at his. There was a spare room for them to sleep in. They were in the same grade, he proposed to her at their senior prom. They are now married, have a beautiful daughter(my great niece) and they were middle school sweethearts. The funny thing is they never did anything with each other the whole time because of how they were raised by their parents but are loved by both sides of the family because they have been together and hung out so much they all got to know each other on both sides
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Sounds like a recipe for forcing your kid to sneak around.
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As a teenager who got pregnant at 17. Protect your kids. They should not be alone and you are not a helicopter mom. You are a mom doing a damn good job.
He will go behind your back if you continue to respond that way. At least he’s telling you where he is. Teach him about safe sex, hopefully the girl is on birth control seeing how comfortable the parents are letting them be alone together. Definitely let them know your concerns.
Stick to your rules, wait for her parents to call, then call them out, or just say no and hang up.
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Instead of avoiding the fact they teenagers will have sex and find anyway to do it if They want to, teach them how to be safe and responsible amd show them that actions have consequences. If you don’t have trust in your son or his girlfriend for basically no valid reason then he will see that and he will keep secrets from you and lie to you because he knows you’ll get mad and believe me you don’t want that. Totally understand you want to protect your son but hovering over him and watching his every move is bad for both of you.
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If you don’t give him a little freedom he is going go do it behind your back and become rebellious. You need to trust him. Calm down just a little and maybe let the girl come to your house where you can watch them. It might make you feel better if you have more control
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I would have not allowed it from the start if it was going to end up making you feel like this.
I also feel there needs to be some self healing done here because the projection that is put on your son is not ok
However… I currently have a 14 y/o son who is yet to bless me with these years too 
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You have every right to be mad
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Jesus!! You need to relax. Unless you want him becoming a teenage daddy in a backlane some day.
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I would he pissed too if the mom lied…but dont call youll drive a wedge you dont want. You do need to teach him to stay out of situations like that but chances are he wont listen. I would play it quietly and just say no to going over anymore unless chaperoned by you. And only say something about her lie once pushed by her for reasoning for not allowing him back. Tell your son he isnt allowed back because he knows he isnt supposed to be alone and used bad judgement.
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Youre definitely doing the most and thats all i got to say like literally lady he’s 14 and two more years he can drive and go to prom RE F*ckn lax
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I see your concerns 
call it strict but it’s your child your rules . My daughters 13 and she’s starting to want to go out with fronds and me it’s so hard 
. We can’t always watch our kids please jaut talk to your son we never know what life throws at us
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Oh my gosh. Are you batsh*t crazy 
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If you keep controlling him this way I guarantee you when he is 18 he won’t call or visit. Get to know her. Or they will do more than just watch TV.
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I got pregnant at 14 and my oldest will be 14! She is being a responsible parent! Huge fear of mine is history repeating its self if the parents had cared enough etc I most likely would not have got access to drugs alcohol and sex with a 19 year old! I would definitely call and ask🤷♀️
Stop being a helicopter mom Jesus he’s 14
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Just let them be kids!!! Lmao!
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I understand the being accused of inappropriate touching thing. The rest sounds stupid as hell. You can’t tell a 14 year old he can’t go to a friends house due to their genitalia.
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You’re too damn controlling. Kids are gonna do what they are gonna do regardless of what you say. I’d rather my kids be safe and do that shit at home instead of sneak around, which is exactly what your son is gonna be doing unless you loosen your reins on him.
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You need to settle down lady. As he always been honest with you and if you raised him right you can trust him. You acting like this way is he’s going to turn on you as he gets older.
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Get him some protection because you are definitely pushing him away and we know what happens then
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What has happened in your past? Have you had the “talk” with your son? Everybody ways of raising their child may differ from the next - you strict, guarded, untrusting etc. her parents relaxed and know that they raised a daughter who wouldn’t cry wolf. Just let your son know NO YOU CANT GO OVER TO HER HOUSE NO MORE AND TELL THE GIRLTO NOT HAVE HERE MOM TO CALL AS YOUR SON CAN NOT BE AT YOUR HOUSE NOR YOU AT HIS. He’ll be upset but he’ll get over it right.
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I mean I get why you’re upset but the son told the truth. Chill out. Take a step back, and reevaluate. Don’t be angry towards him, or the gf. He’s 14. The tighter the grip you have on him the sneakier he might end up being. Right now he’s being open and honest with you so I’m gonna say nothing has happened. If he wants to see the “gf” again tell him she has to come to your house. That’s what I always did. That way you do know what’s going on. The cards are in your hand.
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I think you are over reacting. Why would you be so worried about your son getting blamed for inapprpriately touching another girl unless you are worried he might. He’s been over there before and the parents seem to like him and trust him with their daughter. I’m not sure why they lied but keep in mind they wouldn’t want anything happening to their daughter either.
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I’m pretty sure this is a recipe for your son to think you don’t trust him and he’ll start sneaking and lying to you because of it. They’re kids. If he hadn’t told you they were “dating” would it have been a big deal? Probably not. Giving a little goes a long way.
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I’d be livid and fear for the same reasons you do. That he upsets her one day and she makes claims. Sadly, it happens all the time. I have a 14 year old daughter and trust me when I say, I’d be watching them like a hawk and that movie with em 
If your child wants to do something they will. Open the lines of communication so you do know what IS happening
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We trusted the other parents and found out much more than we bargained for. Don’t let other people make you feel like your feelings are wrong.
Our experience with our young daughter was horrible and we were lied to, just to add…cops ended up needing to be called. Good luck.
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Oooofff. Bet you this kid is going to run far and fast the first chance he gets.
Mama, you need to relax. Teach him right from wrong and how to be respectful to women. You can’t control every little thing.
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Shoot! My strict parents saved me a lot of bad decisions! Girl stand your ground!! You don’t want a 14 year old son with a baby on the way! Y’all should be ashamed for condemning this lady for having valid feelings! The kid is 14!! Parents these days are way to laid back. My babies are 2, 6, 8, 10 best believe in this screwed up world I’m going to be a strict mama! Got to be! You got this mama!
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I’m not sure why you won’t even let them go to eachothers houses at all. I mean a play date is fine for my son (10) and his girl friend (friend that is a girl) but no sleep overs and doors stay open. But she’s more than welcome to come over and play for a while.
Wow… u need therapy.
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You have every right to be upset I would be too because I have the exact same rules for my boys!!!
**The people that doesn’t have boys should not have any comment on this post! You do not understand this situation!
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Calm down Karen let the boy grow up
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Yikes…. You sound nuts… I wouldn’t blame your kid for taking off the day he turns 18…. Get some help momma… seriously.
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So im not proud if this but i lost my virginity at 14 in my boyfriends basement… you aren’t wrong for wanting them to be supervised and i dont think you are over reacting because you were flat out lied too. Honestly id try to always have her come over so you know they are supervised and a conversation with mom about lying. Thats not okay.
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Def not cool that they lied. But if you don’t make your house the safe and approved place for them to hang out, they will find a way. You gotta be the one watching and teaching. If you forbid it, he will rebel with all he has. Be careful how you proceed. It will impact how open he is with you for the rest of his life. You want them to come to you for help and advice. He will never trust you again if you destroy his relationship because he trusted you with the details of where they watches TV. He shared something he was excited about. If it blows up, he will never share again. Take a breath.
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Im reading this thinking to myself… Where the hell is my 14 year old!!! Meh… He will call eventually 
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I hung out with my male best mate from 11 years old all the time alone. We ended up dating when we were 17, never did anything before then. I don’t see a problem with it.
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Whoever you are you’re ridiculous. Trust him or you’ll have worse consequences other than him watching a movie in a basement
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I have a daughter who is now 18 be 19 July I have a son who is now 16 won’t be 17 until end Aug daughter who is 12 another who is 9 an baby boy 2 I told my kids to focus on school 1st my son is almost going into gr 12 my daughter she graduated last year I became a young mom pregnant @ age 15 turned 16 Feb had her July I would just explain things letting him know you don’t allow that an there will be consequences if not listen
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I get it, you don’t want them alone, but by being so strick you will make them sneak around. And you know bad things happen when you have kids sneak around. Why not become friends with the gf. You are making it worse …
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Definitely overreacting
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You need to be open and trust them. They might be alone but when my son was 14 sex and anything never crossed his mind and there were plenty of check-ins. Yes every kids is different but keep acting the way you are and he will sneak around and you will have an unplanned grandchild…
Your son bouta be sneaking out behind your back and lying if this is how you behave I feel bad for you girl cause you are RIDICULOUS.
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Honestly, I can’t believe you’re like this and your son hasn’t learned to be a better liar. He threw his own ass under the bus lol.
You need some periods. The lack of grammar makes it too hard to read this.
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If you trust him…give him some Lee way. But I agree about the parent lieing.
Also dont pressure your son to the point he makes your fears reality.
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Look, the kid is 14. He’s at the age where he’s going to have girlfriends now. If you keep micromanaging his life, he’s going to start lying to you to be able to do anything. If you don’t trust this girl’s parents to be adequate chaperones, then allow the girl to come to your house. Let them watch movies, pop popcorn for them… let them have pop… stay out of their faces, but you know where they are and what they’re doing. You have to let your son grow up, mom. And yes, you’re going to get old. Get over yourself.
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If your so worried about them not being supervised then let her come over, maybe your family andher family get to know each other. You’re only gonna hurt your kids feelings
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I mean you set the rules and the girls parents didn’t respect that. At the same time why can’t you trust your son ? Your almost treating him like a criminal 
has he done something befor that you lost all trust in him ?
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Omg if I was your son I would run… He’s a boy… Let him be… At least he was honest with you and didn’t lie. He could’ve lie to you…
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If you keep treating him like he can’t be open with you, he will not be and will do it anyway behind your back. Start giving him some trust, some freedom, and teach him how to protect and respect both himself and the girl.
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My mom worked with my first loves mother along with my grandma we went to each other’s house at 12!!! We stayed together from 6th grade to 10th grade!
You have some trust and control issues yourself to work on. You will push your son away.
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One hand you have a right to be mad that you were lied to but what options are you giving your son to have a social life? You stated that she can’t come over to your house where you could chaperone. 
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You clearly don’t trust your son. That’s the real issue you have. Sad 
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My wife was 14 and I was 16 when we met we been together 59 years one son 55
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Lol. U would faint if you came to my house🤣 I allow my kids to make their own choices and yes even at 14. We do a lot of honest talking and I hope they make the right decisions. They need to live and if you forbid it, they will do it anyway. Isn’t it better to have an open and honest relationship with them? Anyone can accuse another of something but you can’t live in fear of it or live in a bubble. That’s my opinion. And yes I have two teens …a boy and a girl.
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You need to stop!!! You are going to make him do something more then just talk. Back off, he can’t go over there and she can’t come to your house??? This boy is going to start lying and sneaking, just to be able to have friends. Start with trust, and have a good talk about the birds and bees with him. ( he probably all ready knows more then you think) Just let him be. No don’t call her , they probably checked on them regularly any way. If your son is going to have sex , he will find away , one way or another.
I’d stop them from seeing each other all together and when her mother asks I’d lay it out. Also if anything comes up he touched her or some off the wall crap. I’d being up that it happened on her watch and bad parenting. This relationship would end and her mother’s fault
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Reading that was too much 
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Overly strict parents make sneaky kids. (Speaking from experience) He’s being honest with you. Obviously voice your concerns and let him know you’re disappointed and why. But don’t make it a bigger deal than it is.
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Mate 14 years old 
you have to be kidding me
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You about to be a young grandmother because where there is a will there is a way!!! He will sneak around and he’s going to lie to you and Everything in between!
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This isn’t about whether commenters agree with mom’s rules. He is her son so her rules go. She made an agreement with someone to respect the boundaries she has for her son and they didn’t follow through. That is absolutely unacceptable.
OP my child wouldn’t be going back to the girls house because you will never be able to trust anything they say. She could visit our home and they could interact in public group settings. I don’t prescribe to kids that young “dating” either.
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Quit being a helicopter parent. You can’t control your child forever. Get over yourself.
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Maake her your friend…let her come to your house and you can then stand guard in your own p lace!!!
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I get where you’re coming from bc you’re right, if something happens it’s his word against hers… maybe talk to the girl’s mom when she reaches out again and express your concerns calmly
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You should allow the “girlfriend” over to your house so you can supervise them!!
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Looks like you are having a hard time with him growing up. Or maybe you have a control issue. Or maybe you have an issue with other stuff. I am a strong believer of making sure that my son isn’t being stupid with a future gf when he gets older but there’s only so much I can do. Plus if you don’t allow him to learn to be in relationships he’ll never learn how to be a man and a lover. And if you don’t let them out the door they will go out the window. You don’t need to watch them at the movies. They are in a public setting but they definitely shouldn’t be in a room alone together.
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OMG YOUR POOR SON!! you’re a stage 5 psycho 
Buy him a bubble lady 
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It’s not okay that the lied, but we were all teenagers once. If they are restricted in one way, they will always find another way without you knowing. Now is the perfect time to establish boundaries and trust with him and give him a little freedom to create healthy relationships outside of your home.
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Wow, you have serious control issues. You better open your eyes and realize you’re going to push your child to sneak around behind your back because they won’t be able to talk to you or trust you with anything personal.
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Oh goodness, no offense but you’re child will end up like I did. My mother put sooo many restrictions on me and I was a hellion. I still apologize to my father for all those years. My mother though made my life a living heck and it made me completely rebel. Have an open conversation with him, without judgment or what you are going come back with next which results in fighting, let him tell you how he feels and come to an agreement. Be open, accepting (within an age appropriate limit) and just talk to him. Just my words of advice.
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Cut the cord a little bit. I understand being upset with the other parent for lying. Totally justifiable. But… you’re doin to much. That boy is gonna lie and rebel so hard and then what. Let the girl come to your house. Have her over for dinner. Get to know her
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I think ppl are just seeing that she doesn’t want them to be alone but not understanding the fact THAT SHE WAS LIED TOO. Just because some of y’all don’t care what your kids do, or allow them to do whatever doesn’t mean another mother who has set rules has too. Just like y’all tell ppl to mind their own children and now she’s doing that and you guys are bashing her for it 
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The mil’s lieing definitely sucks an not cool. But you son told the truth didn’t he? Atleast he told you maybe need to trust him more so he can keep trusting to talk to you an tell the truth otherwise he will start being sneaky an lieing if you try to stop him an all that.
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This reaction will push them to do whatever you think they’re doing. Try being that fun tell me any and everything mom, but they NEED to also respect you and your boundaries….start doing date nights with them, have her over your house and also have that conversation with your son and even the gf with the parents consent. This is such a sticky situation that I’m not looking forward to, but it’s right around the corner. FYI my parents have been together since my mom was 14 and my dad 16🙃
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If you want that much supervision let her come to your house and you watch them 
don’t be the parent that completely takes away their significant other. I know to you it’s just some young dumb crush but right now to him it probably means a LOT. And you should be thankful your child was honest, he could’ve lied. Have some trust in your kid to do the right thing.
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No sense in confronting her. She knows what she did and she didn’t have a problem with it. I just wouldn’t let my son hang out anymore. If you want him to be chaperoned then you go and chaperone him.
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Fact of the matter is, she didn’t follow through with what she told you. I agree with you. Stick to your guns and your rules. I promise you, in this world we live in? Most people won’t agree (obviously by the comments) in strict parenting. However, I am a madea, strict mom. My kids know I’ll pull up and I’m all in their business and they know not to ask to even go to a girls house etc. They’re also 14. Boys. My house. My rules. My kids. And they’re good kids. (I also have 3 older boys 16,18, almost 20).
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This is a recipe for disaster. Your son is 14, not 4! He’s at the age when most teenagers get their first girlfriend/boyfriend. If you keep treating him like a toddler and forbid him to see his girlfriend, or even have one he will sneak around, lie and start sneaking out of the house. He seems like an honest kid so you need to cut him some slack and let him go on dates solo. Also some parents ideas of chaperones is different than others. You need to chill out though.
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Oh you are over reacting. He is 14. You need to chill out and start talking to your son. You are going to turn him into a sneaky kid that will always lie to you.
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I thought my mom was too strict with me and I was a hellion and rebel bc of it. You’re worse than my mom ever was though. I am going to call my mom right now and thank her.
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Is it that he’s “dating” or is it you’re no longer the only female in his life situation. Cus lady you’re sounding more and more like a crazy mil story waiting to happen
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The more restrictions you put, the more sneaky and lying there will be. Have a conversation with your son
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Being a helicopter mom won’t stop 14 yr olds from fooling around. Their hormones are raging and they’ll find a place if they want to make out or more. Time for the condom talk and purchase if you haven’t already.
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I don’t mean to sound rude, as a mother I understand how you feel and why you feel that way but your child was honest with you. If you continue this behavior you will break his trust and he won’t be truthful… further more we were all teenagers at one point and if there’s a will there’s a way! You won’t stop it
You are completely right in your feelings. We were 14 once and we know things CAN happen and parents need to chaperone. You have every right to be mad.
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I have a 14yr old son. I personally would be more comfortable having them come hang out at my house. I would never not allow him and his “gf”spend time together. Granted I’d be upset with her parents that the hang out went down like it did but please don’t be that sheltering mother. They’re growing up regardless if you want them to or not. Relax a bit!!!
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Dammmmnnnn… first chance he gets he’s outta there!!!
I was 14 hanging in basement with bf. My folks would keep sending my sister down to sit with us you have to trust you raised your son right and let him go to his gf house. Although sounds like you might of already broke them up. So advice for next time.
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Wtf is wrong with you? If you’re worried about him having sex, have a talk with him about babies and STDs. He’s going to be mentally stunted in that department if you keep babying him.
Do you know what the word “Trust” is because it sure doesn’t sound like you have an ounce of trust in your son. Better let up a little before he gets fed up & takes off. Why can’t she come to your house??? You are definitely overreacting.
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If you trust your son but not the girlfriend. Bottom line is your house is the place to be because you know YOU and your child. If they don’t like it then clearly they had other plans 
also I’d have a chat with the parent who blatantly lied to you. What exactly are they teaching their daughter to lie about.
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