I wouldn’t care. I trust my partner. If I didn’t trust him, I wouldn’t be with him.
I wouldn’t allow it 
I would not tolerate it.
Girl his banging her
Yep it’s inappropriate
I’d be pissed as hell
Go to the bar TOOOOOOOO
Fk it let her have him at that point
Ima Jest Leave That one Along And Proclaim Peace And Happiness
Everyone talking about “trust” and “can’t help where someone works”
He’s a POS for going somewhere HE KNOWS the chick works without his current girlfriend.
I am lucky me and my fiancé both agree that we will not go to bars or drink without one another.
With what you said she obviously still wants him. You can trust him all you want that’s not gonna stop her from being a wh*+% and at least trying to do something. depending on what kind of person she is if she really wants to come between you guys all she has to do is start rumors that things have happened between them while he is there 
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Do u trust him… n u choose to be together or not if no trust then get out
Your man is flirting and getting free or discounted drinks…
I’d be bothered as fuxk
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PM me her name I can fbi search- I’ve got time to be petty 
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No trust. Crap relationship.
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Oh hell noooo. End it nowwww before you get even more hurt.
hes playin head games.thats very childish.find someone else asap.head games can literally drive a person insane😥
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Do I have a right to be mad that my boyfriend went to a bar where someone he slept with is the bartender?
I wouldn’t be. I trust my man and know he wouldn’t do anything. Am I friends with any of his exes, nope; can he go somewhere without me & an ex be there, sure. And the same for me in his eyes. We have complete trust for one another. Each situation is different and only you can decide your personal feelings and how you wish to react
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I just cant even…i would do probably exactly what your thinking! That is absolutely disrespectful to you and your relationship!
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If you feel mad uncomfortable or disrespected say something about it. If you tell him that it bothers you he will know not to do it.
Well, this totally depends on the situation. If he was going out with the guys after work and everyone chose to go to bar A where his ex gf (or fwb) works, I don’t see the issue. If he went to a bar by himself and chose to go to bar A knowing his ex gf (or fwb) was working that night, it definitely gives the wrong vibe. Then again, she could mean so little to him, that he didn’t even give it a thought.
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I’m an introvert so guys that go to bars or have huge circles of friends are not for me.
If your having these feelings and thoughts then you know the answer already.
You should watch your back.
Some people talk about trust and it should be that you could trust him but doing what he did is not something that shows he even cares about you trusting him.
We earn trust. Hes pushing your trust.
I’m so sorry dear but if he truly loved you he would have never even considered going there around someone he says he had casual sex. If shes blocked you like you say shes probably hiding something.
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Oh hell yea! Not to be petty but I wouldn’t want my significant other in that situation either. Not bc I don’t trust him but bc I don’t trust other woman🤷🏻♀️
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If you have no hard feelings about their “relationship”, then it shouldn’t bother you he went there.
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There’s hundreds of bars he can go drink at.
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Let it go and trust your guy until he gives you a reason not to.
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Ya need to relax everyone has a past deal with it
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This is some BS, first off I don’t think it has anything to do with trust, but respect, alcohol can definitely influence a person’s behavior and make you vulnerable, so married couples or couples in a committed relationship should not be going to bars without each other anyway, thats just my opinion
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You shouldn’t be mad if it had nothing to do with you since you’ve been together.
If he’s going to bars without you…you’re on borrowed time anyway! No relationship survives that type of environment for very long!
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If it was any kind of relationship prior to yours with him, he was honest and told you where he was going and you trust him, there is no reason to be upset… BUT if you don’t trust him to be loyal and faithful, then your relationship is not going to work out in the long run… I don’t trust women around my man but I expect him to do the right thing, if he doesn’t, they deserve one another and did me a favor and they can play games with each other but I guarantee, he will live with the regret of losing me 
Yeah not because of him but because of her. Some women are relentless and dont respect relationships.
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If you trust him I don’t see the issue. I’m super petty and would go with him though
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I mean… my daughters dad was a bartender and I would only go the nights he was working… People can remain friends…it’s a thing… My hubby preferred it. My daughters dad kept an eye on me and made sure I always got home, and wasn’t bothered at the bar.
Yall are just that into drama I guess.
“I trust him, I don’t trust her.” Sooo you don’t trust him. If she initiated something and he doesn’t turn it down, then he’s a problem too. If he turns it down, why tf are you so salty? Be glad he’s being respectful towards you.
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Roles reversed, how would he feel? I know my husband trusts me but then we also don’t put ourselves in situations that would possibly break that trust, it’s not worth it to us.
Relationships only work if you have trust. Sounds like you don’t trust him even though it sounds like he has been upfront with you. Yes ok it isn’t a nice scenario but couldn’t you just talk to him about you being uncomfortable with him going to that particular bar.
I’d get all dressed up HATT and say okay baby I’m ready to go…even though I don’t drink or go to bars. Don’t let him leave you behind and when she sees you together it will solidify that he is NOT available.
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There is, in my book, no excuse for one partner to cheat on the
other, no matter what the sad excuse.
My trust in my partner would be gone forever…
.
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My bf doesnt go to a bar without me (his choice). I trust him, but he has that much respect for me.
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I would wait until he leaves…wait a few and go there…sit somewhere he won’t see you and see for yourself what’s going on.
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If this Boyfriend is serious about your relationship he wouldnt. Obviously there is a trust issue or you wouldnt be asking strangers.
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Tell him you’re going with him too , if he’s happy to take you along then 
if not hmmm 
Some women really don’t care if a man is in a relationship and will do anything to destroy it But if your man truly values what you have then he’ll prove it in more ways then 1
He’s playing both sides. Move on, it’s never worth the stay.
Did you let him know your feelings about it? Or….are you just now airing it on FB. 
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Say something to him. May be he feels safe there. Are you jealous or insecure?
Red flag! He wants to see her…
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I don’t trust other women and he used to sleep with her there other bars
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If you don’t trust him, he’s not the one.
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My man isn’t going anywhere without his woman. He isnt going to want to.
Everybody has a past that you need to learn to deal. Really you sound jealous and insecure.
For the ones saying trust goes a long way, blah, blah, blah. Y’all can keep the ones that cheat on you and disrespect you then, stay in denial 
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If you trust him then yes, you are being unreasonable.
I went to the bar my ex fwb worked at cause we were still on decent terms and he didn’t care much about his job but made amazing drinks and always always gave me free drinks. Didn’t pay for a single drink for a year there unless his boss was in that day then I had to but idk. if he still worked there, I’d still go for the free drinks even tho I am in a happy relationship and I have absolutely nonsexual or emotional ties to that guy anymore. Call me selfish but free drinks are always better. 
and he also knows he has no chance with me cause once taken I am that persons only baby and they are mine. but your feelings are always valid. So. Idk man. Talk it out with him, that’s all you can do.
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The writing is on the wall…
Maybe it’s just me but I trust my bf… So I wouldn’t care. I know at the end of the night he’s coming home to me.
If u don’t trust him, then maybe u shouldn’t be with him.
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He told you where he went. If there was more he wouldn’t say anything.
I’d find a sitter and doll my ass up and go down there. “Heeeeeeey baby, 
”
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If he can’t respect you and your feelings, then LEAVE.
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By the way my diphead actually took me with him
I hid in his vehicle
Go to the dam bar yourself after he goes.
Fund out yourself.
Just dont let them see u
Would you be angry if he went to Walmart where someone he slept with works? Or the park? A job? A restaurant? If the dudes shady he is shady. But, simply the existence of a prior relationship or bang buddy in a location isn’t enough to have problems over. Should he chose a different location? Yes. Probably. But is it a small town with limited places to drink? Is it a spot he has local friends who frequent the place? Is it in bad taste? Yes. Do you have right to be angry? Of course. Is enough to have relationship problems over? That I don’t know.
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Free drinks from his side lady🤷
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Hell no I wouldn’t trust him that sounds dodgy n she sounds sneaky xx
Girl. You can get even or get out. Go somewhere you know your ex going to be or send him packing !!!
Karina Burzynski agree with what you are saying.
I’d be f*****g pissed honestly 
Just me, but, id may be mad
Lady.
Yall.
None of you are ready to be in serious relationships. Jesus christ.
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Naw. Follow Your Gut Sis
If he had any respect for you he would go somewhere else. Of course that will worry you.
There’s too much information missing to make a fair determination. Why did he go to the bar? We’ll never know…
As soon as I found out the boyfriend would be an ex and blocked on all social media there is to many fine men out here to be acting stupid
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Move on … trust is crucial…
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he should be going too another bar
As a bartender who is now married but has had her fun in my prime, there are plenty of ex lovers that come into my bar. I also live in a place where there are lots of bars but is she the only bartender working are there other bars in the same place that have other employees working? I wouldnt worry unless hes going there exclusively to see her
Sit down with him and communicate. Tell him that his choice to go there on the night she works was just asking for trouble. Trouble from the ex hookup girl who still wants more, and trouble from you as it made you feel uncomfortable. Sounds to me like he’s looking to stir up a little drama, even if he’s not sleeping with his ex anymore. He knows exactly what he was doing, and that it would get some kind of emotional reaction from BOTH women at the same time. Maybe he finds excitement in feeling that two different women get hot and bothered by him! While you can’t control his every move or ask him to avoid people from his past, you’d think he would have taken into consideration that going to that bar on the night she worked might bother you. Basically you either trust him or you don’t. There’s always going to be someone who tries to get between you both, so he’s either committed to you or not. You’ll find out soon enough if he’s the type to stray or not, or one who gets kicks from stirring up some drama.
I’ve been cheated on in EVERY relationship… emotionally, physically and sexually abused… you name it, I’ve dealt with it and I dont trust easily but even I can see how crazy this is…
You are being unreasonable. Just breathe. Understand that your man doesn’t have to go to a bar where his ex is to cheat… he can cheat at work, the supermarket, any other bar where there are always attractive women. There is NOTHING you can do to prevent that. If you think he is that type of guy, who would disrespect you, lie to you, sneak around and sleep with another person… why are you with him? You can’t control what another person chooses to do.
And…he might want more by the way he acts. He is wrong & let me yell it to you…YOU DESERVE BETTER.
I dont have an opinion on your situation… but my own experience to share…
My boyfriend, his father took Grandpa out for what was his 75th and last birthday. He wanted to see boobies. So they went to a strip club. All of my boyfriends siblings SO threw fits and didnt allow them to go. My husband was the ONLY one who went… I knew where they were going and that a few of my boyfriends previous gfs/flings worked there. Turns out one specific one was there and my boyfriends father even paid her $20 to private dance for him (not my bf). He tried to tell me about the night when he got home and I didnt want to know. Lol. I was glad they had fun, his grandpa died less than a yr later. He doesn’t go out often so I was happy he had gotten out of the house without me!
Fast forward 2 years… I see this girl. She tries to throw my now husband under the bus with some smart remark about the last time she saw him was w his dad at the strip club and shoots a look at me to see my reaction.
I laughed and reminded him about his Grandpas birthday at the few local strip clubs. She was shocked I knew and was ok with it.
Sooooo moral of my story… I married that man. Some times it feels good to flaunt “happy, secure” relationships in front of toxic exes. Ladies know this!! But it is the same for men too I imagine. To show off what a good loyal man he can be for another woman who offers the things he was looking for in her but she failed to be.
Just my thoughts.
Your situation may not pertain.
I wouldn’t care. I trust him. My husband still talks to his ex. I trust him 100000 percent.
My ex used to go to the gay bar to get free drinks and his ex “fling” who also worked as a bartender. He would go there for free drinks and his ex thing would give him free drinks and weed anytime he showed up. A few months into dating my ex stopped going there as a respectful gesture to me. He knew it bothered me so he stopped.
He is where he wants to sweetheart. If he’s coming home to you, I wouldn’t worry. If there is no trust, you don’t have anything.
That’s a hell no from me. Trust your instinct, 9x outta 10 it’s right. I’d go strolling in there, all dolled up, sit at that bar and go what’s up to her? See what she says.
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