Not ok! My son is his son and our sons are treated the exact same. There is no my kids and his kids they are ours
I’d leave him like the trash he is. If my husband started treating my older kiddos like that, I’d be gone. No matter how well he treats our younger children or how he treats me. When he married me, he married them. Either step up or step out.
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WALK. That man is disrespectful af. It’s disgusting that he treats your children that way. DO NOT allow that to continue because your kids will see it and they will hate you for it later down the road.
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I would leave over that honestly. Every child should be treated the same. You’re son should never feel left out or like he is going to get less beacuse of you’re husband. If he isn’t willing to be there for all kids, you should leave. Being a stay at home mom means you stay home, he works, it both of you’re money, house, family, ect. You shouldn’t even have to ask, he needs to step up and take the responsibility for the family, not just the kids he fathered.
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When he married you, he married your child too. Yes, you have every right to be upset and if that were me I would’ve left at that very moment. My stepmother, bless her, after the way I was taught to treat her by someone who didn’t want me to like her, went above and beyond for my brother and I and was there for me during some of the darkest days of my life when my own mom wasn’t. To this day she refers to me as her daughter and my kids as her grandchildren. Your husband needs to grow up or get out.
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Don’t be a rug! Orrr you will get walked on!
Oh heck no! My kids from a previous marriage are my husbands daughters also. There isn’t even talk of “step” anything here. No way I’d be able to be with someone who disregards my children.
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The question would be, not what he did for the children… But why did he lie to you about it? Trust issues are a big deal.
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Absolutely… He married you and that includes your son. I would be pist
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My boyfriend buys my daughter clothes all the time and I’ve never asked him to and we’ve only been dating for 8 months. Sit down and talk to him about it.
I wouldn’t stay in a marriage like that. Your son is going to grow up and feel like he isn’t wanted.
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Yes that’s not cool.
Hell yeah! You guys are married he works you dont he should be providing everything you and ALL the kids need no matter what.
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Those are divorce words to me. The end.
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I’d leave and sock it to him with child support for the two you had together.
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He lied then there’s No trust …Divorce him you deserve better.
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My kids and I would of been gone that day! No way in hell!!!
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You and your children should always come as a package! If he can’t love and accept your children equally the way you do his than you have bigger issues! I would be furious!! I would tell him what needs to change and immediately and if it doesn’t than you need to walk away! At the end of the day… you can do bad all by yourself! I’m sure the preferential treatment is happening in more ways than you are seeing at this point and you have to ask yourself what message you are sending to your children by allowing it to continue!! Good luck to you!!
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We would have left him about 2 seconds after that statement
I think if this upsets you you have every right to say so! Spell it out calmly and in a place that’s comfortable. You need to make your concerns known in a way they can appreciate… You have valid worried and don.T be shy about it.
They are your kids so the simple fact that he married you implies that hes taking on the responsibility of loving and caring for your children as well as you. They are a part of the package. If he cant love and care for your children too then he doesnt deserve to be married to you. He cant have one without the other.
Sounds like you need to get a job and start saving to move. Once they treat your kids like that it doesn’t get any better.
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You have every right to be upset. This makes me so sad.
Your husband is a dick! You and your kids deserve better!
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I was treated like this (as well as my children vs his children) and stuck it out for 22 years…hoping, believing for change…guess what HE did? Had 2 affairs and left me for the 2nd one! What did I get out of hoping and believing? NOTHING but heartbreak 
That’s my story. Either compromise now and see a change NOW or live with misery.
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That sucks kids are innocent that’s not the way to treat them. Kids need love and a healthy relationship with their parents.
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I think you should be pissed if you stay home to take care of the family then he should provide for you all if he don’t like it tell him you need to get a job so you can provide for your kids since he don’t want too and he will have to find childcare for your children and his
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You’re a package deal …leave him .
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When he married you he took the responsibility of your son. Someone needs to point out to him he’s ha dad now
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Divorce. Thats bullshit. Tell him to send HIS kids to daycare they’re not YOUR responsibility. OR HE can pay you to watch them.
You need to leave. This is wrong. Get a job and take care of yourself and your kids.
He needs to treat your child like his you have every right to be upset
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You can’t teach an adult to be responsible. This situation is untenable, unfair to you and your son. Break up now. It cannot work. You deserve better.
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I see 2 wrongs in this 1. He lied 2. All kids are equal
If you don’t stand up for yourself and your son things will never change/get better
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He needs to stop making kids.
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Find a job and leave. Seriously. What a joke of a spouse. You take care of his kids but he won’t do the same for yours just because of blood differences? Gross.
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one this where does she working that much!? But seriously if you’re a stay at home mom how does he expect your son to get school clothes!! i wouldn’t be happy one bit.
Yeah personally I’d get a job asap and make his ass pay for child care too. I honestly couldn’t be with someone who wanted me to accept their kid but won’t accept mine… handle that asap because it’ll become a huge problem in the long run. Especially if you’re going to be a stay at home mom.
Fuck him leave his ass
I would be upset when you got in a relationship it became yall kids. Parents are always blood its who chooses to be in your family. I have a step son and from day one rather he or my biological kid needed something we get it. I would say have a heart to heart with him but its messed up for him to treat your son different
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Send him a bill for your daycare services.
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Um… excuse the hell out of me but marrying you made your kids his responsibility too. Y’all are a family it doesn’t matter who spermed or birthed each child they’re all yours equally. That’s what being married to somebody with kids means. You don’t just marry your spouse you also adopt those kids as your own too. If he can’t handle that then y’all probably shouldn’t be married. I don’t even treat my nieces, nephews or friends kids any differently than I do my own. I could not imagine treating my SO’s kids differently.
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I’d be beyond pissed. Totally not ok for him to do or say!
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He’s gotta go, Momma. You have every right to be livid and I hope you run for the hills.
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Wtf!!! I would be enraged because I am with someone who treats my son like he is his flesh and blood! That is not okay!
WTF, I would be livid about that comment. I would let him know that they are not my children you take care of them. See how he likes it. Bye bye jackass.
Sorry to add my own story into this mix but it was the best way to put in my two cents. My stepmom came into the picture when I was six years old and always treated me like her own. She even paid a fortune to have professional pictures taken of just me and my brother in the expensive dress clothes she bought for us for her and my dads wedding. She faced rejection multiple times because I was made to feel like I was betraying my mom if I had a relationship with her at all. Even then, she all but bent over backwards for us and gave us everything we could possibly ask for. I was kicked out of my mom’s when I was 17 and likely wouldn’t have been able to finish high school without everything she did. This picture was taken on my graduation day. She took the day off work and took me out for lunch and to get my hair and nails done and to buy my outfit to wear with my cap and gown. Your husband sounds like a childish POS and if he doesn’t accept your son then he doesn’t deserve either of you.
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This is how your marriage should be
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Wow. Just by being with you he took on the responsibility of your child as his, in my opinion. You have every right to be upset. And he’s even lying to you about money. Imagine what else he lies about just because he doesn’t want to stir the pot! He needs to be treated thr same and if he gives his baby mama extra money outside of the child support, that’s fine but since you’re in a partnership he should at least run it by you. I don’t care if you’re a sahm and don’t make a dime but your sevices at home are priceless and he’s not just treating your son like crap but I feel like he’s treating you like crap.
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Find a job and leave in the meantime send him a. Weekly bill for your in home services
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Oooh girl he’d get his ass chewed if I were you.
I wouldn’t be upset,I would be pissed and heads would roll.My kids wouldn’t be treated different,its disrespect of an adult to do that to a child.No excuses.
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By marrying you and knowing you had children he accepted that responsibility just as you to helping with his kids. Leaving isn’t always the Answer but who is more important your child or him? You could always get a job and put up with that behavior the rest of your marriage if you don’t want to leave. You deserve better tho.
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Sounds like a jackass to me. I wonder why his previous relationships with the other mothers didn’t work out? 
That’s shocking behaviour!!! My partner and I aren’t married , and we have a daughter together, I have 2 children from a previous marriage and he has a son. There is no difference between any of them. The only timeanyine gets treated differently, is our daughter . She gets some extra presents at xmas and birthdays etc as she only has us , where as the other kids have double lots of parents and grandparents. Sorry but I’d be going in strike or giving him an ultimatum, depending on how strongly you feel about it. He knew the situation when he got with you. X
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No respect for you… They will continue to treat you like that if you let them
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F that guy. You have every right to be upset!
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Yes you have a right to be upset you are the one too make a choice in this situation.
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That’s why I chose to not get involved with someone with children I didn’t want the responsibility of someone else’s kids. He had a choice just like I did and anyone else that dates. He chose to be with you but it’s not just being your husband he is kind of obligated to provide for your son to. It’s a package deal and I’d be extremely concerned as to why he’s telling lies about money that he’s giving to his ex?
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My son isnt my husbands biological son… with that being said I just read this to my husband and he said divorce his sorry ass
Leave now! My Ex step father did the same to me and my brother and my mom always took care of his daughters… it was a nightmare
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Send him a bill for your daycare services for HIS kids if he wants to play that game.
I think any parent would be upset in those circumstances. Nobody will make my child feel any less than their worth. That’s atrocious that he would even think that way.
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Let me speak from experience because this exact thing happened to me when I was younger and it is something I will never forget. I’d be informing him how that made you feel. And if your son was in ear shot, I’m sure it broke his heart… if your husband is still an asshole about it, I’d be having a big heart to heart.
No you are not wrong. He would have to go.
Personally, I would leave. My boyfriend never leaves out my son. (My son lives with his dad and comes to visit us whenever he wants, he only lives 2 blocks from us but regardless of him not being here full time he would never leave him out) if he ever made my child feel less than, he would be gone.
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This is fucking disgusting! That man is a piece of shit. Do whatever the fuck you have to do to get out.
NO, NOPE AND NADA!! He knew going into it that you both had other kids. They are now ALL both of yours! If he seriously doesn’t accept that, you need to leave. You and your son deserve way better!!
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Do not let that man treat your kids differently he married you he took on your baggage like you took on his, and if that’s the case tell him the mess your kids made isn’t my responsibility just because you two are married. He’s a fucking joke
No no no leave what a narcissist
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Yeah, that’s a no go for me. Lies alone would do it, but telling me that marriage don’t make my kids his and his mine would clinch it.
Over and out. No freaking way. Blended Family of 10 here. My husband had 4 when we got together. I had 2 and we have 2 together. If our children didn’t get all the same from each of us I couldn’t imagine living that life. I would not deal with that. Tell him how you feel and if he isn’t understanding of how wrong what he did is he isn’t worth staying with. They aren’t “required” to love our children as we do but they dang well better treat them the same. Good luck!
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You two are MARRIED! All kids become shared responsibility between both of you. Honestly I wouldnt continue that relationship especially if there is already deception and favoritism between the kids. That’s bull!
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The second he married you he took on that responsibility…leave!!
You guys are supposed to be a team! Not right at all
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He knew what he was getting himself into and if he can’t man up and take care of business he’s just gonna bring you and your kids down!
Leave him he’s a control freak
That’s grounds for a divorce
Drop him like he’s hot…right into the garbage
I would be! When you’re with someone with kids it’s a package deal. Either accept the kids or get the fuck out. There shouldn’t be a your kid/my kid situation. If you’ve been married that long, he knew what he was getting. For him to pull this shit now? Nah. If he wants to play at that game, he can bring his ass home from work and take care of “his kids” when their mom can’t. I’d tell him the same thing. His kids with her aren’t you’re responsibility just because you’re married. Judging by this, he sounds like a prick. Go file some separation papers and kick him to the curb. Either the kids are all treated equally or it’s not going to work🤷🏻♀️.
Wait til he falls asleep then beat his ass.
That’s total bs he’s not accepting your boy nor does he love him right or none of this would be happening… I’d be gone
That would be a sticking point for me. I have 3 children from previous relationships, he has 2, and we have a 16 year old who biologically doesn’t belong to either of us, he moved in earlier this year. If my husband or myself treated any of the children any differently, the other would be done.
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Omg kick him out you both got together with package so he should treat yours as his own
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Abusive manipulative selfish arrogant disrespectful petty lame childish unworthy…
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I sure wouldnt do for his, after all, like he said your kids arent his responsibility, like wise. It would be better to take yours and leave his ass, its not gonna get any better
If you are a SAHM, he is responsible for ALL your children AND their needs. He wants you home, that is his assigned responsibility. Honestly, the lying and asshole attitude would have me getting a job and leaving asap.
I would be gone in a heartbeat!
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I would have rocked his shit right then and there. That would be a divorce PERIOD
Yea I’d be livid! My husband knew marrying me meant gaining a daughter. We’ve been together 9 years. My daughter is now 17. He goes above and beyond for my daughter. We have 2 kids together also. I’m a stay at home mom and he NEVER even thinks about leaving my oldest out even though she’s not biologically his. He claims her has his own. In all honesty I think he does more for her than our 2 together. He bought her, her first car. Didn’t even ask just sent me a picture and said he was buying it for her. And he surprised her with the exact car she wanted. They don’t see eye to eye hardly at all. But that does not stop him from caring for her and protecting her like his own. If he once said to me that she’s not his and he’s not going to do for her, I would leave. I know it’s hard to do being a stay at home mom with no income but that would be all the more reason I would find a babysitter and get a job. You could reach out for help. But your son will eventually catch on and do you really want him to feel any kind of way living with a man who won’t do for him knowing what he was marrying into and resenting you for it?
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I am a bonus mom
And I would NEVER EVER — NOT EVEN JOKING— say something like that! And WE aren’t even married! Her mom is VERY well off and has remarried and had other children with her husband… I still spoil my bonus daughter as much as I do my biological 2 and we aren’t very well off. I would never consider doing for one and not the other! She IS my responsibility because I love her as if she’s my own. Period! That’s what you do when you’re with someone who has kids! If you can’t love all— don’t get involved. My heart aches for you!
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Time to start looking for a divorce attorney.
I would be walking away! No way in hell I would let him not treat my kid differently.
You have the right to be mad in my opinion. A step father is just as much a dad as he is to his blood kids. Y’all are married to! Any of my friends who have step kids don’t treat them any worse or better than the blood kids. typically a stepfather is supposed to fill the shoes of the father! so if your son is not his responsibility then that means his kids are not your responsibility right???!!!?! (I mean I’m just the type of red headed woman to play that game lol. ) anyhow I don’t know you do have every right to be mad at my opinion because when you marry somebody that already has kids you’re basically you know also stating that you are going to take care of their kids as they are yours. that would be like my friend Tanya and her husband telling her that Emily is not his responsibility even though they’ve been married all these years and they have a kid together their selves. No he is always treated that child as his own child as a matter of fact he treat any kid like that. If you have any good in your house you should be responsible for them like that. I used to buy my daughter’s friends toys and stuff at the store McDonald’s I mean I’m not going to do it in front of them because my kid wants it I mean if my kid wants it the other kids need it too. Why would I go to shipwreck and buy my daughter a chicken tender meal in front of other kids rather than buying for everybody or at least making sure their parents gave them the money to get it. No matter what they are children no matter whose children they are.
When he met you he knew you had children. I would never let someone be so thoughtless with my son
Tell. Him to take care of his children because they are not your. Responsibility just because you are his wife
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When he married you and you both decided together that you would be a stay at home mom he at that point accepted responsibility for your son and should treat him as his own … if he does not. take your kids and leave.
Ahhhh I would be like “are you high?” He is his responsibility especially since your married and staying home not having an income.
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He married you so your children became his responsibility, all kids need to be treated equally.
Wow. That is so hurtful. I could definitely understand being upset. Deal breaker.
Leave him. Take his shit in the divorce