Not his responsibility just bc you guys are married? I’m so sorry! 
I would not accept that, ever.
Kick him out. That’s disrespectful to you but also to your son. Just imagine how that would make him feel, that the father he thought he could look up to and have as a role model doesn’t think that that child deserves the same as his other kids. No child should be left out, If he can’t handle it then the father should leave!!
From my own experience leave now while you can darl because it’s only going to get worse
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Absolutely you should be upset! He not only married you, but he married your kids! I would leave. That is so incredibly selfish of him.
Red lights should be flashing all around you!!! Why do you want to be with him if he won’t treat your son with the love and respect he treats his?
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If that’s the case ide say he owes you quite a bit in daycare fees 
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I would tell him well your kids arent my responsibility and I aint a babysitter my fees are ect ect to take care of them and cook for them amd clean for them.I wish a man would tell me that it would be see you .Smh
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No offense, but F*#% that guy. 
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RUN, run now!!! that man is not a good person!
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He sounds like an asshole
Why are you still with him?
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You’ve been together for four years he’s wrong about your son and lying about giving baby mama extra money? Hell no that’s grounds for breaking up in my book. What else has he lifted about. How does he treat your son when you’re not there? Plus he said he would and then he didn’t. He sounds like an absolute ashhole
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You’re a package when he married you so it’s wrong for him to say that he won’t take any responsibility just because he is not the bio dad. That’s being so selfish & not healthy for your marriage. Leave him.
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You stay home and take care of his home and his kids. The deal with that is he takes care of you and yours. This honestly sounds like financial abuse.
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I would be extremely upset about that. My opinion is that if you choose to be with someone who already has kids you are choosing to love and provide for those kids. I have 1 son from a precious relationship and if my son was to be treated differently than our child we have together I wouldn’t tolerate it.
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Yeah fuck that… I would be pissed!!! If i were to treat my step daughter different than my own kids i would expect him to leave me. Good luck girl… Keep your head up 
Dose he treat your boy different I was in an abusive relationship with the father of my son (mentally and emotional) my son was never treated with the love and support a father should give he has suffered a lot of hurt and has a lot of issues i now blame on my x depression and social anxiety i will always blame myself for not leaving sooner
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Did you not know this before you married him.
Not married. And I work. But I’ve already told my boyfriend if he ever treats mine any differently than ours, I’m gone. I’ve been the kid on the receiving end, I’d rather be a single mother than ever let my daughter be made to feel like she’s not good enough.
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I would leave. Your children come before him as a matter of fact your children come before you.
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I would write down on paper the prices that daycare charger an tell him what he owes you. An i wouldn’t even think about cooking for him or his kids either.
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You marry one, you marry all! He is dead wrong. You should be able to go out and buy what you need for all of these kids the same. I would tell him you aren’t a free sitter so if he is gonna be playing unfair your rate is 12 bucks an hour for his kids when he expects you to keep them and tell him that money is needed to get things for your kids since he wants a divide in the house. I BET he would say you’re crazy, even tho its exactly how he is acting with you.
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I would leave him.My son comes first before a men or other kids.
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he is so wrong dont allow this to continue 
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I would no longer be a sahm!! If he said my children were not his responsibility but I are raising his like my own, nope. Your relationship is not equal. He is a shitty person!
I’m sorry you’re going through that. My sons father has never been in the picture either. My boyfriend (we don’t live together yet) loves him and treats him like his own. I would have a serious talk with him and if it doesn’t go anywhere I would re-evaluate your relationship
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Its really hard to decide. In your situation you have two other little ones that need their dad. You will end up with 3 kids from a broken home if you leave him. But on the other hand kids don’t ask to come to this world and is our responsability as a mother to seek the best for them. I would really talk to him. Tell him how he made you feel and how impotent it is to need something and not be able to provide. Tell him if that is really how he feels then look for a job so you can provide for your son and stop helping him with his other kids. And if that is not an option then you are better without him.
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Don’t let the door hit him as his lying ass leaves with his children and his ex. Let them raise and clean up after their own.
Your child deserves as much attention. It looks like you’re the one doing it anyway.
Very wrong and he just showed you where his priorities are
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What the fuck fuxk yes you have a right to be mad that’s bitch shit
Boy bye! My husband treats my children as if they were his own, and vice versa (I have 3 from a previous marriage and he has 2 from a previous marriage, we have none together). They are OUR kids and OUR responsibility. I wouldn’t have married him if he acted any other way!
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Get out hes a selfish ass
thats kind of grounds for me to tell someone to take a friggin hike.
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you do for yours, you do for mine, you do for ours, or you don’t do shit and go live with your ex. Byeeee
Hell yeah. If he doesn’t want your kids or treat them like his own. Run like fire. Never choose a man over your kids. Take your 4 kids and raise them. You can do it.
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They are not your responsibility either.
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I would leave. What behavior is permitted, will continue. Im sorry but hes doing this because he can.
No you are not wrong at all I have 2 kids (9 and 7 almost) from a previous marriage and a a baby (5 months old)with the man I’m with now (my husband and he every time he buys for one he buys for the other I am also a stay at home mom. If he buys a toy for our 5 month old or outfit he buys a toy or outfit for my 9 and 7 yr old they call him daddy and think of him as daddy. I told my husband when we got together it’s but one get 2 free. Lol and he’s always provided for them he’s been in their lives since they were 2 yrs and the other was 3 months. He’s never let them go without before we got married if I told him I need diapers or I needed clothes for kids without anything her either give me money or take me shopping for them! I believe when he married you he married your child! And he needs to treat them all the same!
Then quit doing everything for his kids, when you marry someone with kids then you treat them like your own. What he did was extremely wrong, your kids come before any man. I would leave him for that, you are strong enough.
Thats awful. Tell him to pay you when you have to keep his kids so you can buy your sons clothes. Better yet… LEAVE
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He is so wrong.uxtreat his like your own he should do the same otherwise charge him for baby sitting to buy your son clothes. Shouldn’t be giving x wife money if don’t have to
Sounds like she makes enough
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I’m sorry but I would leave, ima tell you why… because I’m sure your son can see that he is obviously pushed to the side and that every kid in that home comes before he does! Don’t do that to your baby please, you are strong, you can support your kids and show them unconditional love equally! My hubby has 2 kiddos that aren’t biologically mine, and I have one that isn’t his and every kid is treated equally in my home, I wouldn’t want any of our kids to feel like one is more important than the other because that isn’t how it works:woman_shrugging:t2:
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Ummm, just no!
I’m a package deal ! Simple! Just has he is ! Treat my kids right or I’m out. Simple.
Imo id have a hard honest talk - use I statements and tell your truth and if he can’t handle or gets angry with your feels … imo its already time to leave.
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Hit the road jack and don’t come back no more. That’s what I would do. But everyone thinks differently. Red light all the way…
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That’s an asshole thing to do. My partner has 3 sons from previous relationships, 2 of them live with us and they get the exact same amount of things that our 2 kids get. They all get treated equally, I treat them the same as my 2
Wow, I think you are being extremely nice. I would have raised hell and not talked to him until he figured it out. And if the behavior continues just one more time I would leave. Fuck that
That is aweful when you marry the mother you marry the child period. I’m so sorry hun:disappointed_relieved:
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What a total dick… then from now on… I would make him take care of his kids… how dare he say that… do not do a thing for his kids when they come over… they are not ur responsibility…
Tell that div its a two way street.
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I’d leave his ass. For him to love you, he has to also love your children and he obviously does not. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for less than a year and I have no doubt in my mind that if I were to ever ask him to help with my son he would without a doubt.
there’s no way my husband would ever say that to me but, I also don’t need his permission if it’s something they need… Like clothes. I would however STOP doing the laundry, dishes and cleaning up their mess and when asked about it I’d just repeat his word " your kids aren’t my responsibility".
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That’s absolutely awful!!! My husband and I have 3 girls… a mine, a yours, and ours. All 3 of them live with us and I’m a stay at home mom as well. Even with my daughters dad in the picture my husband still helps me with stuff for her and treats her just the same as the other 2, as I do for his daughter. I couldn’t be with someone that was like that…that’s just wrong I’m so sorry that you have to go through this!
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What is wrong with him it’s a package deal!
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Y’all are married. Your kids are his kids and vice versa! It is both of yalls responsibility to take care of all the kids not pick and choose which ones you want to love. Kick his ass to the curb and find someone who will love you and all your babies equally! Boy bye!!
I never recommend divorce, but I your case…fuck that bastard! You can find another man but a sinus irreplaceable! I don’t know if you qualify for alimony yet, but I believe it’s half the time you are married and after 10 years married its forever.
Yeah id leave his dumb ass
Oh no… id be gone. That is bullshit.
Wtf your married your kids are his kids and vise versa. They should be treated the same!
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I left my first marriage over the way my husband treated my oldest
Either you love ALL of us equally or you get NONE of us
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Nope there would be no further discussion. Leave and hit him with child support. Get your job and take of your business. He sounds like one of those men who try to control and manipulate a woman while she has empty pockets. Get out now
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Your husband is a liar and you are going to very manipulated until you establish boundaries. No man who didn’t love my children like his would be my husband…period
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Hes no man! Leave now…your kids deserve much better
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I have a grandson in law who married my granddaughter who in my opinion is one of the finest men on earth. She had a young son when they married, he has been the only father he knows and they both are inseparable. This man IS the father of my great grandson!
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He still messing with the ex…my ex did the saaaame thing. Might not be physically but emotionally he is still hers.
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I would leave. No way would I be with a man who treated my children badly. Your kids will feel the difference then what? That is freaking sad 
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Id be gone he wouldn’t treat my son like that NEVER
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Tell him to kick rocks.
Yeaaaa. I wouldn’t tolerate that shit. My baby is my worlddd. Idgaf who you are to me, you hurt him you’re gone 
It’s not fair that you take care of his kids, and he doesn’t do the same for yours. Being lied to isn’t right. He would have to change his attitude toward your children to avoid future conflicts. Children suffer the most when they are not treated fairly.
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I think you both need to set down and figure your shit out. You obviously resent his kids as does he yours. If you didn’t you would have never mentioned having to “clean up” after them. Get a grip, they are children. You both sound selfish IMO. The fact that you are saying his kids, his kids. Those should be your kids by now as well. Your both in the wrong.
That’s super disrespectful. Since that is how he feels, then so be it. You no longer watch or take care of his children. And you will need to get a job so you can provide for your children.
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If you’re questioning it then you already know something’s not right
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I would be upset. When you marry a single mother, you are taking on the responsibility of the child as well as if he/she is their own. I personally wouldn’t stay with a man who didn’t love and treat my child like their own.
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Something very wrong about this. You may be a stay at home mom but you are not a slave. You should be treated with respect. Your son deserves to be loved and cared for.
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You have every reason to be hurt an upset. Since he told you your kids are not his responsibility, his kids are not your responsibility either. So that being said, you can charge him to babysit his kids and that way you can provide for yours.
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Im sorry your going thru that. I don’t know what it is to be the one with a package but I am a step mom. I just want to say it’s hard as hell and I don’t think anyone should ever expect you to do anything for them or theirs. As long as kids aren’t being mistreated you shouldn’t be demanding something that isn’t your responsibility. I say this with being an involved step parent who always went above and beyond and took care of my step child more than the actual parents at the beginning and when people don’t appreciate that shit or when kids take advantage too if your kindness and parents and child use you at their convenience but tell you to butt out in other situations that hurts. I think I’m your situation give what you recieve in return. Stop helping with his kids the parents can figure that out. Get a job and make sure your son is taken care of by you and make sure the other two get exactly what his other kids get. Don’t let them take advantage and also don’t take it personal if he doesn’t want to help. In the end it’s not his child you as much as you love or accept a child they aren’t yours. If people won’t do for you what you’d do for them. Don’t do it. It will just torment you knowing your being walked all over. It’s not kids fault what we choose to do as adults but it’s life and it won’t be perfect. It’s just shit they have to live thru. But always keeping in mind your guild isn’t being mistreated or purposely made to feel like shit. Teach him not to expect anything and rather be appreciative of what someone who isn’t related to them does for him.
Huge fear of mine cause I’d be out of that relationship in a heartbeat doesn’t matter how much I love a partner I’ll never love anyone more then my kids
And also I do not tolerate lies in a relationship truth up front and honesty… lies or untold things you and they know you should’ve been told is nothing but poison in a relationship there isn’t many relationships that’s can come back from distrust.
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Be mad be very mad. You are watching his kids and have to stay home to do it.
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Hand him a bill for childcare meal prep etc and tell him they are not my kids to be watching…
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It has to be all or nothing. You are a family he knew your situation ahead of marrying you. If he can’t treat your kids like his own I would walk away. You would not believe the emotional damage that does. I know first hand.
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I mean your wording to me makes it sounds like taking care of “his kids” is a job for you… so it sounds like taking care of “your kid” to him he does the same in return… I think if you have an honest conversation about blending your family more and you both are willing and able and most of all WANTING to do that then I think this can be mended, but in my house they’re not “his” or “her” kids, they’re our kids… and they are both treated the exact same… so if that mentality and treatment can happen in your home this wouldn’t / shouldn’t be an issue again. But like I said it sounds like you both are doing the same thing to each other by the way you’re speaking… so it would be expected of him to act that way back honestly…
Why would you to be with someone with that many kids you are his baby sitter for free
You are with an immature selfish child!! No one would treat my child like that. Or make me feel unimportant because i don’t bring $ in. It’s ok for you to take care of the house and kids because “that’s your job” no thanks. I’m not a maid.
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Nah, I’d be pissed and it’s ultimatum time.
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Package deal. He is being cruel and insensitive towards your son and he knew what he was walking into same as you. I would find a job, arrange for someone to watch Your children if need be and move on, leaving him to figure out something else for the previous children since you won’t be available to be nanny with benefits. In my opinion he is a poor example for your children.
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Oh no. I’d Leave over that. You sacrifice by being a stay at home mom so it is his obligation since he’s with you. It should be equal on the amount he spends on school clothes between all no kids. I’d demand this and let him know I’m leaving if he doesn’t do it.
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Get rid of him he is never going to change 
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Leave your older kids will have issues thinking they are not good enough
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Fuck Him.
Leave his ungratefull ass.
Your child comes first!!
Let him take care of his kids then.
Are you getting child support for this child if so use that money
My answer would be well my son is my responsibility and my First priority, your either part of my world or your not it’s a package deal .
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You are married!!! He’s obviously keeping his ex in his back pocket as a rebound… He could have bought your kiddo stuff too… It’s just love. It’s what has to be done for a child.
Wow if my husband told me my son isn’t his responsibility I would leave him immediatey! I would never let a man treat my child that way and lying over giving his ex money boy bye!!!
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I would tell him you’re either a family or you’re not. How can he expect you to watch his children and treat them as your own while he works then treat your son like he’s not part of the family? 
I’d be fuming.
Get your own job & after throw the whole man way! He sounds like a POS! Your kids deserve better!
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That’s not good at all he knew you had him when he got involved with you and if he doesn’t want to help you out with your son that’s just being mean and disrespectful
Wow wow wow he is an arse! If he wanted to be with you that includes your kids to become a family! He needs a reality check.
This is crazy! I hve been withy bf for the same amount of time and its almost exactly the same situation. His boys are 13 and 14 and mine is 4. I do have a job. So i buy my sons stuff. My problem with him is discipline. He expects better behavior out of my 4yr then he does his own boys. Last night i flipped out on him because he screamed at my son and sent him to his room after he accidentally spilled his drink. Which was totally my bf fault cuz he got him all whined up. I flipped my lid because his son did the exact same thing yesterday and his dad was all like clean it up Andrew. Oh god i was instantly mad when he yelled at zeek. I tore into him telling him my boy is 4 urs is 10 times his age. If u cant be fair then dont say anything if im there. I felt bad for what i said and could have adressed it better butcwtf man. Even he agrees my son is a much better behaved child then his boys are on their best days and he knows its because he spils his boys rotten.
If he is not prepared to treat your son the same as all the other children, then I would leave. I agree with the other comments, find your self a job, get your own money, take your children and leave him. If you stay and he carrys on treating your son this way, you will cause so much damage to your son. It’s not his fault you married an asshole and his dad is not around, why must he be punished for adult stupidity!?
THROW. The. Whole. Husband. Away. He a insecure B… for that.
On a real note, I think you guys need to reevaluate your marriage and what roles ALL these kids play. Do not stoop to his level and start distancing yourself from his kids. We don’t punish children for adult problems. Those children will not understand why you have distanced yourself and started treating yours better than his. That can be a petty mentality and you can really damage children by that. You and him need to work that out behind closed doors.
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You have every right to be upset! My boyfriend whom i’ve only been with for a little over a year has an 8 year old. Both parents have 50/50 and I spend on her as if she’s my own regardless of her already having her own mom and i’m not even married to him! Children shouldn’t be punished he’s selfish and doesn’t deserve you. I understand this is your marriage but that’s also your child he made a commitment to you and your child is apart of you. I pray that you find the strength to stand up for what’s right 
Goodluck mama
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