You should just give us his number, girl. We’ll set him straight for you. 
He’ll absolutely never treat anyone that way again
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No you aren’t wrong. In my opinion all the kids should be treated the same. If he buys clothes for his he should help buy some for yours. Especially if you are a stay at home mom. I might disagree on the clothes if you were making an income. But if you aren’t then it’s a joint income and you should have equal access. And the part that I would honestly be as upset if not more upset is the fact he lied to you about your money and was happy to share his money with his ex (the extra money) but yet you have to beg for it.
That’s insane. Once you’re married, they take your children as theirs. How sad
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Fuck that mate. Disrespecting YOUR CHILD he would be getting fucking divorce papers for breaky that bloke.
There is no excuse for that. The man is TRASH 
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Marriage, what’s yours is mine. He better treat your son like he’s his or get the hell out of that marriage. I would never let someone treat my child like that.
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Oh no. If he’s lying, that’s a huge red flag! You don’t lie in a marriage, no matter how extreme!
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Absolutely get the fuck out. I would leave. Period. fuck that. Absolutely FUCK THAT.
Your kid is part of you. How can he not accept him like one of his? If he hasn’t accepted him yet, odds are he won’t later on. I would leave. No kid deserves to feel like that.
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Ohhh heck no, he’s a jerk, regardless of you taking f care of his kids your son is his responsibility because you are his wife and he is his step son. My husband paid for everything that my daughter needed and wanted I didn’t get any help from her dad and he never refused because he knew he was her stepdad. He needs to fulfill his word and but your son everything he bought his
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You should be hurt. You have a selfish husband. I feel bad for your kids!
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Start working have him pay child care for his own children and the ones you have together or charge to take care of his children see how he likes it and tell him I have to provide for my son what you don’t so no more free sitter
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Wow… thats not much of a marriage… we treat each others kids as if they were our own… you have every right to be upset.
He’s actually right. Your son isn’t his responsibility. Thats how he feels. Thats fine. Leave his sorry ass he can pay you child support!!! Get a job and take care of your kids! He lied, probably more than you know. He has ALOT of kids…and all baby mommas gone RED FLAG!! Good men don’t get dumped. Screw him move on. He’ll find someone else to cook clean and babysit.
Ide be taking my kids and be gone
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I’d leave him over that. If you don’t love my kids right then they’re not worth it AT ALL.
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I would leave tbh… My kids come first.
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Wow. Your son must feel awful seeing the other kids get stuff and not him. This is how your son will loose respect for you if you let this go on. Set your husband straight or move on.
Leave him! This is unacceptable. You are married. That’s his kid too, and it’s all both of your responsibility!
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Leave the husband. You will be a lot happier.
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If you let people treat you like a doormat, things won’t change. Boss up and tell him you expect to be paid for watching others kids.
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Girl please not what.
That’s beyond bullshit. U better put him in his damn place. Even if the dad’s were in the picture you still need to put in your part to make sure they’re clothed and if you’re a stay at home mom how much is that SAVING your husband in daycare cost plus extra child support he will have to pay if you weren’t watching his kids while they’re… child support is adjusted to the amount of time they are in fathers home.
I’ve been with my fiance for a year and a half. My daughter goes to her dad’s every second weekend and we have his daughter 50/50. I’m a stay at home mom and watch my friends son and have my step daughter while he is at work and am doing pure romance. He still buys my daughter whatever she needs and will even just come home with stuff that he has remembered I had been talking about that they needed, both of them. I would be so upset if he did that and I’m so glad he goes above and beyond for both of our girls just as I do, we are a family.
Well…if their dad isn’t in the picture how did you support your children before new husband came along? If you’re not getting some child support how do you support 8 kids on one salary? What he said was hurtful but figure out how to support your first kids before adding more to the mix 
You are right to be mad. I would explain to him that he knew what he was getting when he married you. I would explain that when his children are there that you tend to them (clean, cook/feed, watch and care). What would you do if you had the same crappy attitude as him.
Wow, shows who he truly is as a human being, a shit one!
I was treated like this, and 15 years later it is still fresh in my mind. I’ll make damn sure my kids never have to experience it like I did. Walk away.
I got lost at trying to figure out how many kids are in the picture and from how many different baby mamas and baby daddies are involved
Leave. When you marry someone with children, you need to be prepared to love and care for those children exactly the same way you do your own.
If he can’t do that, he has no business being a step parent. If he loves you, he should love your child. If he can’t love your child, he doesn’t REALLY love you. Because love implies respect. Without respect there is not love.
I’m not even sure which is the most disrespectful thing here, the part where he washed his hands of caring for a CHILD, or the part where you have to ask permission to spend money.
Withholding money is a type of abuse.
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Time to get your ducks in a row. Get a job, a place to live, childcare… and in the future if you do meet another person go too counseling beforehand to get everything on the table so you can blend your family together.
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I would leave! Thats crazy to me your married! What she said…time to get your ducks in a row!
There is a reason he isn’t with the other baby mama’s. What a jerk! Put your foot down get equality or leave and collect child support. He may come around but why would you want someone who couldn’t love your child.
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Get rid of the bum you are being used!!!
Then I wouldn’t watch his sons since you are a baby sitter since like he told you They arent your responsibility
Stop cleaning up after his two when they are there. Don’t necessarily treat them different since that’s not fair to them and I’m sure you love them and get that. But the messes… Um… Not your responsibility.
LEAVE. THAT IS Disgusting BEHAVIOR ON HIS PART. Excuse the caps lock but girl… He doesn’t give a shit about you because if he did he would care about how ur children looked, felt, etc. Im also a sahm and my husband runs his own company and two of my three sons are not biologically his. My husband buys them everything they need and want without a question. It is his duty as being married to love you and your children as much as his self and his own. Leave now before 10 years passes and you finally realized he’s a jerk. Prayers for you girl i hope everything works out
i wd go… i know for sure 100% that my kids would not be another man’s responsability, but if my partner ever said that to me its very clear he doesn’t see them as his own. he’d be gone before he’s done talking. please leave! don’t expose your child to that bias. he already expressed his feelings, exactly how he sees ur son, that to me would be like him saying with that action “its me or ur child” please choose ur baby, tbat man isn’t worth it
So when he decided he wanted to marry you he at that point took on the father role for your kids. You are a package deal and he married you so even though he is not their biological father that was very rude and in bad taste what he did. The children are innocent in all of this and have no fault. I myself would be livid if I was put in this situation and frankly would of put him in his place. Don’t be afraid to speak your feelings just because he is the bread winner. You being a stay at home mom hold your own and we all know how hard that job must be. Regardless of what his children’s mother makes a month those kids are still his responsibility so it’s a good thing he’s handling his responsibility. I would bring up how you are feeling and let him know he is wrong for what he said and he must not treat your kids any differently.
To began with when people marry and have children with others …that child becomes their own, to care for.
You’re son was there when he took on you and you’re son.
Now his lie about money. If he lies about that
Ask him to shape up are ship outwhat else does he lie about? ? He’s broken the trust bond two people should have to have a marrage.
Tell him to shape up are ship out, apply for assistance and they will help you hell also pay you support on the two you have together
Nope you’d not wrong leave him when he married you your sons became his my kids over any man any day
Oh hell no! I would be pissed…I am pissed and it’s not even my child. How dare he??? I would start preparing myself to leave. Get a job, save some money and leave his ass. Your child and you deserve better.
Leave his selfish ass. Your boy deserves better.
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See now if I was you I probably burn all husband’s shit and hand him divorce papers ,and anything of value that’s his i would sell before hand while still married cars include, and leave he knew you had children he knew the second he made you a stay at home mom he would be providing for you and your children
For one thing you have every right to feel however you feel.
But the main thing here is yes that’s disturbing on a few levels…that little boy doesnt deserve to be treated any different. I dont want to be rude but he sounds like he is just being mean.to be mean.
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First if all I would not have asked. I would start to wonder how he treats my child when I’m not in the room. I would look him straight in the eye and tell him if that how he wants to be then that’s just fine. He needs to take care of his children’s need because they are not your responsibility. If their mother can’t take care of them for whatever reason then he needs to have her pay for a babysitter because again, they are not your responsibility. If that’s how he’s going to play it that’s how it’s going to be. Things will be equal. If he spent $700 on his two then you expect to get $350 for the one you have together and then you can split that amongst your two kids. Honestly I would not be with a man who that disgusting.
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There’s more to the story… how did you end up being a stay at home mom? What was the agreement?
At the end your son is your responsibility not his. And his children aren’t your responsibility!
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He has 4 kids by 2 other women and now he has 2 with you. Do you see a pattern? Grow some balls and get out of the relationship before you screw up ALL of your kids! Harsh reality!
I’d be out!! How he gonna feel paying child support and day care when you up and leave! My daughters father walked out of her life 4 years ago… my boyfriend has treated her like his own since day 1 and even adopted her. Things are different with my almost 17yo (1) she’s not nice to him (2) her father is involved. They were great in the beginning and she hit the mid teens years and now likes no one!! When my ex married me … he married me and my daughter when he started treating her bad and didn’t work !! I tossed him like a hot sack of potatoes!! No one treats my kid poorly!
I think if your asking this then ya probably already know the answer. You should never have to question your husbands love for your son. And if he loved him as he should, then ya wouldnt even of had to ask him, he would have just done it! Dont stick around one day your son will realize he being treated differently and a child should never feel that! Save your self and your son the future heartache and leave now!
Uh that’s not a man u want to be with. I’m sorry even if u r a stay at home mom NO ONE should expect u to clean ur husbands ex wife’s house that is ttly unacceptable. Also if he is lying he isn’t a good person and needs to be kicked to the curb. I know it may be difficult to go from being a stay at home mom to a full time working mom with 2 kids but it’s possible. There are lots of programs out there that assist single moms.
Weather or not he is father by blood or step this is awkful and so low and wrong hunny my heart goes out to you… Am going out with my fella now two and half year’s we got engaged they not so long ago too I have a child to previous relionshop and so does he also but my son has nothing to do with his real father … But omg my fiancé has massively step up to my son father he can’t do enough for him it’s so amazing too see it just melts my heart the bound they have … He has a daughter who is 9 him and his ex do 50/50 with his daughter and no difference is made between my son and his daughter … I just adore and love his daughter like my own …I can’t believe your fella would do this for u that so unfair and hard on u dollie … he married you after all love your children now our part his life too now u need seat him down and give him a good long chat hunny… I hate lairs hopefully you get this all sorted out xx
So my first reaction after reading this is wtf. Now that I’m kinda processing this, have you spoken to him about how this makes you feel? If you’ve tried and have gotten no where, I am saying this from experience. LEAVE
If he can say one thing but those actions are now not matching those words thats a red flag hun. I lost my kids to the system cause I didn’t catch the red flags or well better yet I ignored them cause why would a man I love and who loves my kids not provide for them, right?
The small stuff adds up.
Leave. No child deserves that. Period. It shouldn’t even be a discussion. File for child support and spousal support until you get on your feet. There are also many beneficial programs to assist you.
Guys don’t feel the same obligation of fairness as women do, most the time. I would also place a bet that his ex is the one putting it in his head and changing his mind about money. I’ve been on both sides and there is no winning. I do what I can for my kids and my husbands kids but you cannot be perfectly fair. With that being said, if your an at home mom, he needs to support all people on the house and children outside of the house.
If you are married, it should go both ways, you take care of his, vice versa, if it wasn’t going to be that way, it should have been written down as an exception before you married lol. You work, just at home tending the house, and you tend to his kids. You guys should have an open honest discussion about this, if not, itll only get worse from this point on.
Apparently, you married the representative. You’re now seeing who he is. He won’t change unless he wants to. You have a tough road ahead you. Time so draw some serious line or get ready to let go.
I agree 100% with Courtney. At this point sweetie don’t worry that you made a mistake make it right to those wonderful children of yours and MoveOn. Really you did not make a mistake at the time because he did lie to you and tell you they would be treated equal. Good luck and make your children your top priority.
Eewww girl don’t think so BYE sounds like it’s time to get ur self together figure out child care and go to work and support those kids on ur own time to leave his dam ass, I know people stay due to financial support and he obviously knows that so he can say and do what he wants
What ever you decide to do, remember that it’s not the children fault for their fathers behavior. I would bring all these discrepancies up without any children around.
The moment he stepped into your life your kids became his and his became yours and if he is not treating yours the way you treat his then you need to have a serious conversation with him
When you married you both accepted extended family, you inherit them. Very disappointing. You take care of family equally.
Honey… open that front door and shove him out. Maybe he needs to pay for daycare for his other kids
No. There is a reason your husband’s previous relationships didn’t work. It sounds like he is using you. There is no telling what else he might be doing. He’s proven he can’t keep his word. Think about that. He’s got you in a pickle sister. You are so focused on his and your kids, along with the house he can do whatever he wants. Not good. I think it’s time for you to have a come to Jesus with this dude.
Kids should be treated equally regardless
How did she find out about the money? Has she been suspicious or talking to this other woman? There’s a lot that’s NOT being said here.
That is a hard get the f#%$ out of that! You already know you should be BEYOND pissed.
This is a private matter does not need to be aired on Facebook.
All them kids ,Id think castration is in order…Id be pissed and no way, hes useing you for his kids babysetter? charge him 40 bucks a day when they come…wa -laa…5 times you got clothes money
It shows what kind of a person he is:confounded:You have every reason to be 
You are absolutely correct in being upset!
Hes an ass an you have every right to b mad an hurt sounds to me hes using you
Tell him to hire a baby sitter then if it’s like that.
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Um no sorry he needs to treat your son the same as his kids
Love all the same or none at all.
He is a jerk that’s financial abuse you need to leave him
May be pregnancy hormones, but I’d be stabbing someone in the testicles 
None of this is okay. Period.
Those problems are solved BEFORE MARRIAGE…You’re 5 years late.
Leave it won’t change
I would get a job and let him deal with the extra
Your husband sounds like a dick, pack his and his kid’s crap and tell him to leave. No child should be treated like a outcast and you shouldn’t be treated like a maid just for a lousy man to think your kid isn’t his responsibility when he knew before y’all got married you had kid’s.
If you can’t leave now tell him plainly that he needs to hire a babysitter since his kid’s isn’t your responsibility either, see how fast he will be singing a different tune. Most importantly have a sit down talk with the douch and explain to him that your son shouldn’t be treated different and if he thinks he should tell him your done with his sry ass.
but is she really going to leave him? four years in I doubt this is the first time he’s mistreated her children…
sad that people want to be with someone soooooo bad they’ll let them mistreat THIER own flesh and blood
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Hes definitely the asshole here.
I’m not even married and my boyfriend takes care of my 6 and 12 year old like he’s their dad, even though he and the 6 year old dont really get along.
If he married you, he signed up to be dad to your kids too. That’s fucked up.
Get rid of his selfish butt!
What the actual f*ck? Not to be hateful, but that man is an abuser. He does not deserve you, your kids or any other family. When you marry someone with children, they are now your children completely. My ex pays child support when he works, but my husband is the one who works his butt off to make sure they have everything they need and some of what they want. I get to stay at home for the first time ever because of how hard he works. When we buy things for the kids, we buy for all the kids. There is no excuse for your husband to disrespect you and your kids that way. I know you must love him, but GET OUT NOW! If you see a difference in how he treats them, believe me, they feel it… Your children deserve to be loved unconditionally by the adults in their life. Get a divorce and find someone who will love you AND your kids.
Tell him hit the road
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Straight up, pack yours and your kids shit and go. That man is an asshole and doesn’t deserve you.
Do not tolerate that 
If he was on child support he would pay way more than $400.
Also, put your children’s father on child support or get a job!
Don’t be a stay at home mom unless you can financially help, otherwise you really have no room to bitch!
He’s paying all the bills for kids that aren’t even his? You taking care of his kids on the weekends is what you should do if he’s paying for kids that aren’t his.
Stupid.
Sounds like you’re jealous of his ex, who makes money and you don’t.
Oh hell no when you get with a person who has kids, their kids become your kids. Your husband is an asshole and needs to be told he’s an asshole.
G O O D G R I E F !!!
Take your kid and GET OUT!
Aint no man gonna treat my child like THAT!
If he treats his ex so well, then be an EX!